ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Ralph Church Jr., 65 years old, born on December 31, 1950, and passed away on February 15, 2016. We will remember him forever.
Posted by Ben istor Ndiwe on March 3, 2021
Continue to rest in peace
Posted by paulette reid on February 15, 2021
5 years and passing. I miss you and I will forever love ❤️ you Mr lifetime friend and Father to my 4 children. I love you forever! Til I see you again.
Posted by Paula Lay on February 15, 2021
Hello daddy!
Today is the 5th year you left this world and my life shattered. Although days has gotten better, l still misses you.
I can't help but to wonder what you are doing, are you around us, are you protecting us. Until we meet again. I love you.
Posted by paulette reid on December 31, 2020
Happy 70th! I love you ❤️
Posted by paulette reid on December 24, 2020
It’s not quite Christmas but You loved Christmas with your Children. In 50 more minutes it will be Christmas Day!
Posted by paulette reid on December 24, 2020
Hold me to I die meet you on the other side.
I love ❤️ you. Ralph Church Jr. The father of my kids.
Posted by paulette reid on December 18, 2020
Five years ago today you had the surgery that would take you from me. I miss you every single day. I will never forget our relationship that produces 4 children in our lives. I love you always! One day Erlanger will pay.
Posted by paulette reid on July 28, 2020
Yesterday would have been our 52 wedding anniversary. We got together with our 1month old baby. I said I wanted to give him your last name. He still calls himself Maurice Ware. Ralph I still love you always!
Posted by paulette reid on June 23, 2020
ON THIS DAY 52 YEARS AGO, I GAVE BIRTH. I GAVE YOU YOUR FIRST SON. YOU WERE SO VERY PROUD. YOU STOOD IN THAT DOOR, THE BIGGEST SMILE I HAVE EVER SEEN. I KNOW YOU WERE SO PROUD. WE ONLY JUST BEGAN THE ROMANCE IS NOT OVER. PLEASE BELIEVE. I MISS YOU SO SO MUCH. MAURICE CAME BY TO SEE ME. I TOLD HIM I HAD BE CRYING THINKING ABOUT YOU AND HOW IT ALL BEGAN. HE HAD A DENT IN HIS CAR. THANK YOU FOR MY CHILDREN.
Posted by Paula Lay on January 1, 2020
Merry Christmas to you daddy ❤
Posted by Paula Lay on January 1, 2020
Happy Birthday daddy! I meant to put this up yesterday but at least l didn't forget your birthday.
I love you so much. I will see you again and l know you'll be waiting. ❤
Posted by paulette reid on December 31, 2019
TODAY WOULD HAVE BEEN YOUR 70TH BIRTHDAY! I WANT TO TELL YOU I LOVE YOU FOREVER AND A DAY! I MISS YOU WITH ALL MY HEART!
Posted by paulette reid on December 26, 2019
MERRY CHRISTMAS MY LIFETIME FRIEND AND MOTHER OF YOUR 4 CHILDREN
Posted by paulette reid on October 26, 2019
You are here. You come through with your children. You will never leave us.
Posted by Paula Lay on September 20, 2019
Your great grandbaby is here as you already know. He looks just like you right now. It's so ironic how l put on your shirt, that l hadn't wore in quite some time and the baby was born the same day.
Thank you for being there.
I love you so much!♥️
Posted by paulette reid on September 1, 2019
Love you always!!! You were a Huge Part of my life...You also put life in me 4 times. How can a woman forget that.
Posted by Paula Lay on June 17, 2019
Happy Father's Day daddy. Love n always misses you.
Posted by paulette reid on June 6, 2019
Today at around 12:00 I was crying about you feeling that I could not go on. I said to myself you might come through some kinda way to let me know you were still there. Approximately 5 minutes later your daughter Kimberly call me and said I quote(Hello the love of my life) i know you are still with me and will never leave me. Mind you now, she has never, ever said that to me before in her life. Through her you came, and I was kinda waiting on it...It happen!!!
(Hello the love of my life). I will make myself a bracelet are something out of that phrase. (Hello the love of my life. and when she said it, I automatically knew it was you! You Once told me, ( You would love me til the end of time. I love you Ralph Church Jr...The Love of my life, forever, and evermore. Your Childhood sweetheart and Mother to your 4 children. Paulette...
Posted by Paula Lay on May 12, 2019
Did you knock my fan down 3 weeks ago?
Posted by Paula Lay on May 12, 2019
Ask me if you can give me a Billion dollars for my mother, And I'll tell you go straight to . There's no price you can give me for this woman. I can't even remember a time l was upset with this woman, and if there's ever a time, it was something so small, you wouldn't be able to detect it. I was her last, her baby girl. She had gotten pregnant with me, so fast, even the nurses couldn't believe it. She had my sister and I in the same year. Yes!!! THE SAME YEAR!!!. She was so upset, she didn't even want me. Thank God for my daddy, he said l wasn't going nowhere Everyone wanted me, My aunt Gail, Normal Jean, Everyone!. She didn't even want to look at me. (But) when you took one look at me, she said to herself, "WOW"! She such a beautiful doll! (But) she was still mad, . Even though, you were upset, you knew deep down in your heart, we were a Bond! Something no one could touch. I still remember the cloth doll you made for me. You made your own little sound effects with your voice, something that became so real to me. You have a very distinguish voice that draws so much attention, that everyone loves and loved.
You are not only a mother to your four children, you are a mother to everyone, and you would go through hell just letting everyone know. You are my friend, my counselor, my hero, but most of all, you are (MY MOTHER)!
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MOM!
WITH ALL OF MY SOUL!
LOVE YOU FOREVER!
your baby girl!♥️
Posted by paulette reid on March 30, 2019
Our son came to me yesterday and told me he had a dream of you. A strange dream but a continuing dream about him getting into a altocation with you however he does not know why. Maybe one day he will understand. March 29th 2019. was yesterday. I love you forever Ralph and miss you so very much. It has been 3 years and the pain will not go away.
Posted by Paula Lay on February 16, 2019
I love you so much
Posted by Paula Lay on February 16, 2019
So it goes like this! I'm going to try to keep it nice and simple. This is my Father's 3rd year Heaven Anniversary. I politely went out my way, yes out my way (because l am in a lot of pain), to find some pretty flowers and balloons. Well l tried to budget it right and went to Food City and purchased some cheap pretty white balloons, with mint green strings. Ohhhh!!! They were So pretty!!! With the helium in them.
My awesome husband met me at the grave site, wrap the balloons on an artificial rose, stuck it deep in the ground. While we were putting the flowers in the ground, Snap!!!!!!! Yes!!!!! Only a person, or spirit can make a clothes pin snap and undo like that. that BIG ! HUGE CLOTHES PIN! YES HE DID IT! My poor husband tried to catch them but he couldn't .
Daddy! It was funny but not that funny!. Do you have any idea what l been through today!
But it was good knowing you're still with me and will never will leave my side.
Posted by paulette reid on February 15, 2019
Three Years has passed but it seems like Yesterday...I miss you calling me, I miss your voice, I miss your funny ways...I miss everything about you. Most of all I miss your love...Never will I forget you My children father. Ralph Church Jr. you will always live on in me.
Posted by Paula Lay on January 29, 2019
You're always on my mind. Sometimes l wish you come visit. I love you daddy
Posted by paula lay on December 31, 2018
Happy Birthday daddy! You know l still cry for you. I don't think I'll ever stop. Until we meet again, l love you dearly❤
Posted by paulette reid on December 27, 2018
Father of my Children... I have not forgotten you. Just did not have the photo to acknowledge that day. I went to put my love down for you with flowers of ponsettia and white little ponsettia and to my surprise I could not found your resting place...I finally remember I was in the wrong place when i call our baby girl Paula to ask and I finally came to me. I then went to the right area to lay down my love and honor for you. In doing so I lost my favorite glasses... I don't know weather you took them are Gail I went to her sight too. It was if as though you wanted to say I am looking down on you and this is what I can do... take your glasses. Anyway, i did not find them....return them when you can....I have a flash drive of info I want so dearly to put in your honor and I hope i get this thing right...right now I am afraid to download. I will get back to you when it is done. Remember...i love you always...My longtime friend i met when i was 11 and you were 12 and father to my 4 children...Paulette. I found my glasses. Thank you!
Posted by paulette reid on December 8, 2018
You came to your Daughter today singing Silent Night in your Deep voice. She recognized your voice. The way you use to sing it to them.
Posted by paulette reid on October 24, 2018
MISSING YOU SO VERY MUCH!!! I AM 67 AND AND I GOT YOU BY 2 YEARS... I LOVE YOU AND TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY AND I KNOW YOU WOULD CALL.. I MISS THAT SO MUCH...
Posted by paulette reid on July 28, 2018
Your song just came on that i heard to see you for the last time. Came home home and this song still played...Adorn. So I will let this song be our song forever. I know it was meant for me and you.....When I hear it I know you are near.....My kisses and hugs to you embrace you forever and ever more!!!! Ironic It came on as I was leaving your tribute...now I know you are talking to me in this song. Yes you did adore me and I adore you!!!!!
Posted by paulette reid on July 28, 2018
Yesterday was a very significant day for You and I. I became your Bride. You became my husband...It would have Marked 50 years. I miss you so very much although I parted with you I sometimes wonder.... I don't wonder about this though, Your departure was a very unhappy one for me, one that I will never forget. Thinking you would be coming home only not too. Descending into the Heavenly father holy arm. I cry every single day thinking about you how we meet and the children 4 of them I bear for you. I know you love us so much. Yes July 27th was looked upon as a Holy day for which I broke my vows. I hope one day to know what it will all mean for me. God does not like Divorce. I thought about you intensely yesterday, even though about walking down to your gravesite I would have been empty handed but I know you would have not care. Please know for as long as I live, I will not ever forget Ralph Church Jr. The father of my children, and life long friend. I 'm thinking we were in the 5th grade...You from 3rd and I from Central Avenue. Just a hop skip and a jump to see me....From that day You never left. I say that because i know even though i left you never left me in mind and now in spirit. I will alway love you. HAPPPY 5OTH!!!! Love you sooooo soooo much!!!!!!!! Your Paulette!!!!
Posted by paulette reid on March 25, 2018
Was looking at a commercial and saw a Black and white rabbit that remained me of you bringing me a rabbit when I was pregnant with Maurice my momma told you to come get that rabbit before I killed it I was so mean carrying our first baby I just broke down crying just missing you so much...
Posted by paulette reid on January 21, 2018
My son Your son sent me something yesterday a song by Luther Vandross Long Ago. I was wondering were you alright! I just kept asking myself the other day on the couch this week, I just wanted to know if you were alright and I cried wanting to know this. Your son the want I bore for you for you to name Ralph Church for you sent this song and now I am just now putting it together. Paula had to resend it making sure I got it. It said EVERYTHING! It said It's alright, it alright. ooo Baby, it's alright, it's alright, it alright, it's alright now. I know this message is from you telling me that's its aright!!! Thank You Jesus. Your Children, you are living through your children and they are coming to me to let me know. I love you Ralph Church Jr. That message from to me on the 20th of January!!!! I will still long for you but please keep sending me these messages.
Posted by paulette reid on November 23, 2017
I remember when you use to take me to the Martin Theater, You would go and get me an Orange drink, Nestles Crunch and Raisenettes. My favorite. We went for the first time to watch the Ten Commandments. That's was so much fun. Today is Thanksgiving and I miss you with all my heart. I will never let you go!!! Love you always!!!
Posted by paulette reid on September 8, 2017
The storms are here and I know you and your daughter share that special bond! Keep her posted!
Posted by paulette reid on September 8, 2017
The most important times in my life was through you, you are the father of my children and I celebrated many important memories through you! I love you and I miss you and t think about all the moments we shared! Love you Ralph church Jr
Posted by paulette reid on August 5, 2017
While on her bus training your baby Paula said you use to use the term HeHaw, I really can't remember it but Kimberly
Remember it too!
Posted by paulette reid on August 5, 2017
It is time for children to start school I thought about the time you would get your children progress report and take them to brag how smart your children were.
Posted by paulette reid on July 5, 2017
Your Children tell me things i never really knew like you calling them in our bedroom just for a little talk with them. I know you loved them, and they love you. My Darling My love! Your lifetime friend.
Posted by paula lay on July 2, 2017
I LOVE YOU MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY. UNTIL I SEE YOU AGAIN
Posted by paula lay on July 2, 2017
I LOVE YOU DADDY
Posted by paulette reid on April 24, 2017
want to say I love you more forever and a day!!!
Posted by paulette reid on April 24, 2017
Hello my love, just got some news today from your son, he said he was at work a one of Maurice Friends ask him did he want a drink and he said were good but he decided to take one anyway.The guy had two kinds a Orange Drink and an a RC Cola, the guy ended up giving him the RC. I know you are still around and will never ever leave us.
Posted by paulette reid on March 21, 2017
Was just thinking about some times you have with your daughters
like the time Kim was need 500 dollars to get out of you jail, you told me you had it I know you needed that money because you were on a fixed income, and that time My baby girl had to have surgery and you caught the bus to be up there with her you got there just to tell her everything was gonna be alright when she told you she was scared, you told her don't be, because you were there. I love you Ralph Church Jr.
Posted by paulette reid on March 13, 2017
This is a long narrative. One i regret I did not do at the hospital.
we should have check up on the hospital before you were admitted to such a serious Surgery, Erlanger is a torrible hospital to take anybody to especially a older Black person, did not know that would be a death sentence for you. Should have stood by you more never left your side but that is Monday morning quarterbacking ironically the day you died was on a Monday. if we would have stayed up there more I know we did stay quite a bit but even more to let them know we were guarding you. We should have kept a record on what they were doing to you, I had no idea that they were so indeed very negligent. Should have kept more notes for the things that they did like not flushing your line out properly, several times I saw them not flush your line out that is why you go so many infections while you were there. Should have question them more about the drugs they were giving you and why. We did take many pictures of the errors they made like not elevating your bed when they were feeding you through your mouth, they let the tube over flowed Sometimes they would come in without washing their hands and the room was not clean we had to sanitized it ourselves, they may have got angry over that. They did not cover your wound properly to the point it more than likely set up an infection. The reason I know now is that i am reading what they did not do. inquiring about the catheter was still needed. they let you Aspirate and that itself was negligence.
Testing for Mrsa which I sure they did not do, they let your bowels lock up and would not attempt to unlock them as though there was nothing they could do. Your brain became herniated do to their negligence and they could have corrected that too by a simple surgery they refused to do. They had your hand lacked to the bed leaving you defenseless. I know you were up to the surgery because you caught the bus to the hospital and don't know why you left and came back, but you did. I cry everytime I think about it saying you never should have went back. They had you in one icu room only to remove you because of something they did over the weekend that further made you ill. They mess up your kidneys and you had to be put on a kidney machine. They up the breathing machine knowing that it was up to high for you to adjust. The Klu Klux Klan Respirtory Man refuse to turn the machine down and you were literally Hyper-ventorlating. They had your wound open without the proper covering, you always reclined no matter how many times we told them to elevate you. when we came back you were in a decliniging position again. The list goes on and on. Every Monday there were issues, I will say this again every Monday until My Heavenly Father decided to take you away, for you had suffer far to long, trying so hard to stay with your family as long as you could. I PRAY EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR THEM TO PAY FOR THE WAY THEY TREATED YOU. ONE DAY I WILL GET MY WISH FOR EVERYONE UP THERE WHO MISTREATED YOU THEY WILL GET THEIRS AND I WILL KNOW IT WILL COME TO ME. THEY DEMISE WILL NOT BE A PRESENT ONE. TO EVERYONE ON THAT 6TH FLOOR AND ALL THE KLU KLUX KLANS THAT MURDERED YOU THEIR DAY IS COMING! I PRAY EVERY DAY FOR YOU. YOUR LIFE TAKE WILL NOT BE IN VEIN. I PROMISE YOU THAT, JUSTICE WILL TAKE PLACE AND THEY WILL KNOW, I REPEAT, THEY WILL KNOW WHAT HIT THEM. THEY WILL KNOW WHY!!!
Posted by paulette reid on March 13, 2017
I LOVE YOU RALPH CHURCH JR!!! I LOVE YOU UNTIL THE END OF MY TIME!!!
Posted by paulette reid on March 13, 2017
I AM GIVING YOUR CHILDREN KEEPSAKES, PICTURES I WANT THEM TO KEEP IN MEMORY OF YOU MY LOVE. I AM SO GLAD I WAS THE ONE THAT YOU GAVE ALL YOUR CHILDREN TOO. I BORE EVERYONE OF THEM AND I AM PROUD YOU WERE THEIR FATHER!
Posted by paulette reid on March 13, 2017
I CAN'T TELL YOU ENOUGH HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU!!!
Posted by paulette reid on March 8, 2017
I must tell you I don't remember having our 3 baby but I do know she look more like you than any of them. Your Kimberly, that is the name I wanted to give my first but I had 2 Boys. Finally She came crying and all. wanting to be up under us in bed and everywhere. You did help me when she cried through the night, we took turns. You were a dedicated father. You weren't perfect neither was I but we had our little family. I wish I could have ask you what happen when I had Kimberly, as you would call her, but I never got the chance although she was the last conversation we had together. Speaking about her Baby Pic. She is so much like you...You are the Father of my children, and I am so proud of that. I love you Ralph Church Jr. Til the end of my time.
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Posted by Ben istor Ndiwe on March 3, 2021
Continue to rest in peace
Posted by paulette reid on February 15, 2021
5 years and passing. I miss you and I will forever love ❤️ you Mr lifetime friend and Father to my 4 children. I love you forever! Til I see you again.
Posted by Paula Lay on February 15, 2021
Hello daddy!
Today is the 5th year you left this world and my life shattered. Although days has gotten better, l still misses you.
I can't help but to wonder what you are doing, are you around us, are you protecting us. Until we meet again. I love you.
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I love you a miss you so much. My sister Cynthia asked me why I love you so much, I told her because you loved me

Had a dream of you for the first time

You came into my room, and I was so extremely happy. I told you not to leave because I wanted to be with you way  you use to be so long along. I wanted that so bad. I told you you had to go because Joe was on his way, just as  you were getting ready to go, you turn around and came back and told me Joe was on his way. I told you to hurry and get out you went out a sliding glass door, I was in the bed  the door remain open I could see you leaving and I tried to close the door and Joe came in and ask me what was going on. I pretended I did not know what he was talking about. He continue to ask me and I continue to deny. I wanted you so bad.

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Shared by paulette reid on October 13, 2020
Your daughter call me and told me she was having a surprise birthday party and was going to work and wanted you to call in for her for work. She said you would, before she knew it, she realized that she was talking to her dad. I had just looked at your drivers license missing you terribly. I guess was you comforting me knowing how much you loved me and I you

Thanks for helping me find my keys

Shared by Paula Lay on August 24, 2020
How many of you think our love ones visits us from heaven?
Well! my daddy proved me right.
I have been looking for my keys for five days now, and finally l gave up and said, " Daddy help me find my car keys". Five minutes later,
I walked upstairs looked and AGAIN I looked in a  pocketbook that l dont often use,
And BAM!  THERE THEY WERE.
I hurried up and called my mom because she  loves hearing things like that. So we started talking and we got on the subject about a  hat he used to wear, that she had gotten after he passed. Somehow the hat came up missing. She said, he probably came back and got it, and as she was saying it, l turned around and looked at his picture of him wearing the hat. . I hadn't looked at that picture for a minute now and it was right there in my faceYes! Mother he got it