I've been wanting to write something on here for a while...just didnt know what to share. I have so many memories of my big cousin Ralphie! But I finally have something perfect to share! Im a little hesitant to share because some may think that what I am about to say is crazy, and it is, but I feel compelled to share this because I believe it has a strong message behind it. I apologize in advance for the length of this.
Not too long ago, I had a dream. But it didnt feel like I dream, I was more aware, I could actually feel! It took place at my house in Toronto. Ralph had survived the accident. He was resting in the room Doris and my aunt sleep in. Our whole family was waiting at his door, just waiting for him to come out so we may greet him, feel him, see him, and make sure hes okay. He finally came out! Smiling of course! Everyone rushed to him hugging and kissing him. I was at the back of the crowd. It was finally my turn and I embraced him the hardest I could. I felt his warmth once again! I looked up at him and said "Ralphie! What happened to you man! You okay! You're hungry! Lets go eat! My treat!" He was tired but he accepted my offer. So I took him out to eat! I told him to order what ever he wanted. It was about time he had a good meal. But looking into his eyes I could tell that he knew something that we all didnt. It felt like he only survived to say goodbyes, to make sure things were okay before he left us. He knew he was going. I asked him " tell me the truth, are you okay Ralph?" He said. chuckling "Im good Vanessa! Dont worry!" Then he got serious. He asked me "How my mom? She okay? and Doris, how she doin? Shes alright?" I couldnt understand why he kept asking about everyone but himself. He was the injured one, he was the one that just had the accident. I mean it wasnt all that surprising, Ralph was selfless, but this sincereity in his voice, I couldnt shake off. The questions of 'is everyone okay' continued... I havent shared this with many...
Couldnt help but think, is Ralph really okay...he's really is more worried about those he left behind! I was truly blessed to have this dream. An overwhelming sense of peace! I believe Ralph is still amoungst us. When my cousin Moussa and I went to see him one last time at the funeral home in Canada to say our last goodbyes because we couldnt make it to New York...we were obviously crying, because the thought of saying goodbye was unbearable. When we went back downstairs, as we were wiping our tears away, Moussa said "We're crying but Ralphies probably laughing at us right now thinking that we're crazy." Now I know, he's always with us! I dont understan why this dream came to me, there are others who needed him more than me, but I guess I was just the messanger.
Ralph and Doris; My New Yorkers! My cousins! As a kid, when they came to Canada and left, it was the worst. I cried for days because I didnt know when I was going to see them next.
Ralph I missed you long before you were gone. You'd always ask me if I was going to miss you, or if I missed you! The song I attached takes me back to when you drove me to airport, you sang every word, and emphasized that "I hope that you miss me a little when Im gone" ...and we all do <3
Love, your little cousin, Vanessa
(Miss Me- Drake)