ForeverMissed

In loving memory of Ralph DeFilippo. He lived hard, and loved wisely. We will remember you forever! 

"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

"What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others."


Posted by Frank Schiller on December 19, 2021
We love you and Ralph, and enjoyed our times together, playing cards:, just talking, just being together, liking each other's company.
 Love from Toots & Frank
Posted by Mary Cook on December 19, 2021
As I look through the photos the word abundance comes to mind. Ralph added SO much to everyone s life. His love for you Kathy grew everyday! Love poured out of Ralph and his life was a lesson for all!
MB
Posted by Elaine Stamper on December 17, 2021
Dear Kathy, My eyes are filled with tears as I viewed all the pictures of Ralph and you. I miss Ralph with all my heart. He was a very special part of our family and will always be remembered for his kind and gentle nature but his love for you was one like no other. Happy Heavenly Birthday Cuz.
Love Elaine
Posted by Kathleen DeFilippo on December 17, 2021
My dear Ralph,
   Your birthday has come again, and I remember you with tears because I miss you so. But, I also remember you on December 17 with a sense of wonder about the way my life changed when you loved me. I have all the Christmas decorations up and my little tree that you bought for me at Kraynak's lighted, ornamented and trimmed with garland. I wanted it all done for you by the 17th because that's what we did, as a way to celebrate your birthday.  So, Happy Birthday, sweetheart. I love you.

                 Kathy
Posted by Joan Harris on December 17, 2021
I’m so glad that my family and I got to celebrate Ralph’s last Birthday with him.  My prayers are with him and his family. A great guy, we will never forget. Happy Birthday in heaven Ralph!
Posted by Kathleen DeFilippo on March 16, 2021
Dear Ralph,
  Happy Wedding Anniversary. I hope you are remembering that beautiful, sunny and unusually warm March day that was made especially for us. I miss you so, and I was remembering our anniversary all day and how we shared that wedding day with family and friends.  I just wanted to say "Good NIght, my love.  I will always love you so.
Posted by Karen Schrecengost on March 4, 2021
Kathy, I went through memory Lane with you & Ralph. I cried though the whole 59 Pictures. You & Ralph were the perfect couple. So much in LOVE! We always saw Ralph at the Train shows, he'd update us on how you were. He always had a big smile greeting. You were his Pride & Joy! We miss you both. We were good neighbors, there wasn't a problem you and I couldn't solve. Love Karen & Bill        
Posted by William Watson on March 3, 2021
As a distant relative, I never spent much time with Ralph. Long before our first meeting the story of his visiting Kathy’s Nationwide Insurance office was well know by our entire extended family. It was a Cinderella story you only read about or see in movies. I knew I would like him, and our first meeting bore that out. You didn’t need much time with Ralph to know exactly who he was. He was never hesitant to state his opinion, and I call still recall the look on his face when doing so. And he made me feel free to state mine. How refreshing that was. We had a lot in common, our age, our military service, our interest in model trains (his continued in later life). I think of him as an old fashioned man, in a good way, that believed in telling the truth, being loyal, and showing respect for woman. Hard working and proud of his common sense, those qualities ran like a river throughout his life. The world needs more men like Ralph. I regret his early passing, speaking selfishly, and in bigger way, for the gaping hole it left in Kathy’s life. I salute you Ralph and aspire to be the man you were.
Posted by ANN BUECHLI on March 3, 2021
Ralph I still miss your laugh, stories, and beautiful gardens. Also your Salads!!
You were a great guy!

Kathy you are in my thoughts and prayers today. 

Love you both!
Ann
Posted by Christine Green on March 3, 2021
Sometimes our light goes out -
but it is blown again into flame by
an encounter with
another human being.
Each of us owes the deepest thanks
to those who have rekindled
this inner light. 
          Albert Schweitzer

Can I find words to express the joy I felt when I saw my sister so deeply in love and so deeply loved. And it was and still is a powerful love that shook the earth a bit, penetrating layers that had been dormant for some time. Thank you Ralph for trudging up those steps that one afternoon in Oakmont, curious to see if the name on the sign outside could possibly be the same Kathy you had fallen in love with as a youth. And so it was. 
I owe you the deepest thanks for rekindling my sister's inner light! 

In memory of a real Stand Up kinda guy!  Christine Green
Posted by Amanda ZENUH on December 22, 2020
This time of year is always the time I think of Ralph often. As I unpack the Christmas decorations, I think of how much decorating Ralph and Kathy did to get all the trains, trees and lights up. This makes me smile, because I realized I don't have near as much work to do, then I think what else can I do this year to honor Ralph's memory. I always find a Christmas item that Ralph gave to us and place it on the corner table he and Kathy gave to us. It always sits so well there! I also live with a train nut, so Mike sets up the trains we have, and we always talk about Ralph's display. Mike threatens one day he will create his own railroad display. I hope to show Kathy someday when it is complete. This was Ralph's season, I think even before gardening season started! We miss him everyday!
Posted by Jeanne Watson on December 17, 2020
Ralph was one of the best humans I’ve ever known. Listening to others’ views was a constant for him. If he disagreed, he might do so fiercely, but no harm was ever intended. He was an old fashioned gentleman, considerate in all ways possible. And every day I want him back!

He loved my sister as no one ever had. They enjoyed every day of their life together. His enthusiasm was contagious. His heart was huge!

For me, he will always be across the dinner table holding forth—laughing.
Posted by Kathleen DeFilippo on December 17, 2020
Today, December 17, 2020, would have been Ralph's 81st birthday.
Posted by Frank Schiller on September 23, 2019
We loved Ralph!...His sense of humor, good heart, all-around friendliness and sincerity. Not another guy we enjoyed so much, especially playing cards with Him and Kathy!
Posted by Randy and Jan Davis on August 2, 2019
We were so sorry to hear that Ralph had passed away...he will forever be missed in our hearts! We will always remember him for his beautiful garden and making our kids eyes light up both the youngest to the oldest with his trains. We loved his contagious smile and laughter and the sweet example he was of loving his wife well❤️
Posted by Herb Phelan on July 26, 2019
Ralph and I were shipmates aboard the USS Miller back in the 1950's. He and I traveled all over the world in that great old "tin can" and came back home safely. He was a good shipmate and a good friend. I'll always cherish the memories of our adventures together.
Posted by Elaine Stamper on July 22, 2019
Ralph was my cousin and I miss him so very much.
He was such a hard working man who loved his garden and his trains.
He also loved Kathy with his whole heart ❤️.
They were the perfect couple.
Ralph could be so funny, we always enjoyed spending time together.
Oh lest I forget Ralph, made the best salad you ever wanted to eat.
Love and Miss You Always, Dear Cuz.
Posted by Joe Cutler on July 22, 2019
Dear Kathy, relatives, and friends of Ralph. I had no idea that Ralph had passed. I'm so sorry to hear of His passing, and extend to You My sincerest condolences and heartfelt prayers in this, a most difficult time for You. Although I didn't get the opportunity to get to know Ralph very well, You and He seemed like a member of My Family. Take care. Sincerely, Joe Cutler
Posted by Kathleen DeFilippo on July 22, 2019
Ralph gave me joy every day of our days together.
Posted by Kathleen DeFilippo on March 19, 2019
I loved him!

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Posted by Frank Schiller on December 19, 2021
We love you and Ralph, and enjoyed our times together, playing cards:, just talking, just being together, liking each other's company.
 Love from Toots & Frank
Posted by Mary Cook on December 19, 2021
As I look through the photos the word abundance comes to mind. Ralph added SO much to everyone s life. His love for you Kathy grew everyday! Love poured out of Ralph and his life was a lesson for all!
MB
Posted by Elaine Stamper on December 17, 2021
Dear Kathy, My eyes are filled with tears as I viewed all the pictures of Ralph and you. I miss Ralph with all my heart. He was a very special part of our family and will always be remembered for his kind and gentle nature but his love for you was one like no other. Happy Heavenly Birthday Cuz.
Love Elaine
his Life

The final move

In October 2018 Kathy and Ralph decided to move to St. Barnabas in Gibsonia. Mike and I went to help with moving all the Christmas decorations, and what Ralph had in the garage. You can't imagine what someone collects over a lifetime until your the one moving it. 8 truck runs later and it didn't even make a dent. We worked three whole weekends to get it done. On the last night before the closing, we rushed to empty out the sheds, and dig up some plants Ralph wanted to keep. It was 10pm and too much work still to do. We called in reinforcements to get it done. After three car loads over to my mothers garage a few streets away we finished up. My truck was loaded down and hit it's weight capacity. Driving home I could hear how much stress was on the shocks. I got home and crashed. I don't know how he could work so hard and not need sleep for days to recover. For 79, he was in better shape than me in my 30's. I woke up the next day at 5am to go to work. When I got home, I realized I still had to unpack the truck and find a place for all the decorations he had given us. It took us three work parties of our own to organize and find places for everything. The best part was the things Ralph said to throw out, magically ended up in one of our boxes. It is hard to part with anything no matter how old it was, because Ralph could always see the beauty in it, and what purpose it could still serve. That is just how he lived his life. No matter what the ailment, or illness he could still do something to get work done!

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Shared by Elaine Stamper on March 3, 2021
I can't believe it is 2 years since the passing of my beloved cousin. We as cousins had a wonderful relationship, Ralph loved me as I loved him. He was such a hard working man, but it wasn't work to Ralph it was his passion to plant his vegetable garden and enjouy and share the fruits of his labor. If he called on the phone for something at the end of the call he always said thanks for calling Elaine!! He was always a jokester which is why I loved him, he found humor in everything. I can't say that life was a joke because it wasn't, he just made the best of life. Ralph could whip up the best salad you ever ate, I don't believe anyone can duplicate his wonderful salad!
You are always in my prayers, in my thoughts and always with love in my heart
Love Elaine 

MARCH 3, 2021

Shared by Kathleen DeFilippo on March 3, 2021
This is the second anniversary of Ralph's death.  I didn't sleep much at all last night thinking about him --- all wonderful memories.  I hadn't seen Ralph since 1961, and we met again 40 years later.  We found that we had moved separately in the same direction over that 40-year span.  We both loved gardening and cooking and shared the same ideas about religion and politics.  I found that we were very much alike in our vision of how we looked at our surroundings and how we loved our families and friends.  It was a mystical  and spiritual experience to be in love with Ralph for the short 17 years we had together.  We always knew we had each other to share and enjoy everything --- from traveling, to planting our flowers, to planning and executing our design for the backyard with its waterfall and pool and the patio surround.  Ralph pretty much knew how to do all things and to do them well.  He knew how to love me.  We were always laughing together and he brought me great joy.   Ours was an amazing love story, and it still isn't over.  I don't think that much happens that I don't think of how we once did it together.  

The car guy

Shared by Amanda ZENUH on March 4, 2019

I had been told many times that I had to meet this really cool man with a special car. The day finally came. He hugged me and said come in your welcome, but he's (my boyfriend) is tolerated. Ralphs sense of humor always made me laugh. Ralph was so welcoming and opened his life up to me right away. What pride he took in his car. Then at Christmas, I felt like it was the north pole at his house. Ralph didn't just do Christmas, Ralph was Christmas! I always loved to visit. Especially when his gardens were in bloom. I always thought he was a slave to his yard, now I know it was the other way around.  We all had many good laughs together. If he needed anything, we all jumped. What a good man with a big heart!