ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Ramalingam Manivasagam. We will remember him forever.

Ramalingam Manivasagam, 47, of Pondicherry, India or Ram or Ramy, as he was known to his family and friends… passed away on February 17 of 2021 at his residence as he was surrounded by those who loved him the most.

Ram was a kindhearted, loving and caring soul with a huge radiant smile. He will be dearly missed.

Ram's funeral will be held on Wednesday, February 24, 2021 from 9:30 AM – 11:30 AM Eastern Time (New York time) at Franklin Memorial Park. 

Burial will follow at the same location.

Franklin Memorial Park
1800 Route 27
North Brunswick, NJ 08902


A memorial service will be held at Ramona Park, San Ramon, CA 94582 on Sunday Feb 28th 2021 between 10 AM - 2 PM pacific

Direction to the venue: Ramona Park, CA

Posted by Sekar Muthusamy on February 28, 2021
From Sekar, Sivakami and family:

We came to know Ram and his family through Mohan & Selvi and met with them on a few more occasions before he moved to East Coast. We were always captivated by his friendly nature and vibrant smile. Ram was a gentle, nice, and cool person. It was a huge shock for us to hear about his demise. May his soul rest in peace. We pray God to give courage and strength to his family. 
Posted by Holly Schulberger on February 25, 2021
Our deepest sympathies to Ram’s family. You were a true gentleman. We will miss your smile on our video calls. May the memories bring peace and comfort. 

Holly and BerkOne Team
Posted by Jaya S on February 24, 2021
Ram,

  I met you and Sankitha when I played Volleyball with you guys in San Ramon.  Remember you were there to help us practice and enjoyed playing yourself. Thanks for bringing your enjoyment of the game to us and thanks for making it fun.
Posted by Sathish Duraiswamy on February 24, 2021
Ram, you were truly a very humble person. We only met a few times but it always felt like talking to a close friend. You will be missed by many including us.

Latha & Sathish
Posted by Pallavi Bamzai on February 24, 2021
Ram - your energy, ease with which you connected to everyone around you and your positivity will be greatly missed.
Heartfelt condolences to your family. I pray that god gives strength to your family to bear this huge void you have left behind. Rest in peace. Om Shanti.
Posted by Alison Chapin on February 24, 2021
Dear Ram,
It was a pleasure working with you and sharing stories about Hoboken and Jersey City and talking about our families. Your bright smile and willingness to partner to make things better will be truly missed. To your family, I send my deepest condolences and prayers for strength for you to get through this difficult time.
Alison (BLP)
Posted by Tim Park on February 24, 2021
I am truly grateful to have known Ram as a colleague through the years. His humor, positive leadership style, and overall inclusive nature should serve as an example and inspiration to all of us. Rest in peace and we will miss you. My prayers to his family during this difficult time.
Posted by Su Kwon on February 24, 2021
Ram,

I will remember forever your energy and big smile at work. Rest in peace.

My deepest condolences to Ram's family.

Su (BLP)
Posted by Charlie Johnson on February 24, 2021
Ram, a beautiful spirit and person! An absolute delight to work with. He will be missed!
Posted by Ramesh Chandramouli on February 24, 2021
I know Ram through Bloomberg... He is one of the nicest guy I have met, we used to meet almost everyday for Breakfast at office and chat about various different topics. I am deeply shocked to hear his demise and we will miss you Ram !

My deepest condolences to the family !! - Ramesh Chandramouli (BLP)
Posted by Shweta Pandey on February 24, 2021
Ram,

I'll miss your morning greetings and your smile. May God give courage to your family to through this tough time and years ahead for them. You have created a huge void in everyone's life and we'll miss your contagious smile. May your soul rest in peace. 

Shweta
Posted by yongchun wu on February 24, 2021
Dear Ram, You will be missed. May good memories of you bring comfort to your family. My sincere condolences go out to your family.

-Yongchun (BLP)
Posted by Hariprasad Shroff on February 24, 2021
Dear Ram,
 Your smile and daily greeting will be missed, May God bless your Soul the liberation.
 Wishing the god to provide all the strength to your family to overcome the loss.
Posted by Nancy Henning on February 24, 2021
Ram you will truly be missed at Bloomberg. You had a contagious smile and always a twinkle in your eye. It was an absolute pleasure to work with you, sharing great ideas and solving problems. You were one of a kind!
Nancy
Posted by Clare Leonard on February 24, 2021
I worked closely with Ram at Bloomberg and he was known for his humor, positivity, and for genuinely caring about his team. I will miss him. To his wife, son, and family I am so very sorry for your loss.
Posted by Hildalina Santana on February 24, 2021
I was lucky enough to work closely with Ram. I will always remember his calm and collected ways, his teachings and most importantly his genuine friendship. His passing is a true loss to us all. 
Posted by Jeff Terosky on February 24, 2021
Ram, you were a shining light on the team. You had a positive attitude and a can-do spirit that I admire. I will miss our good times together, from searching to meet you at the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade, to our chats during or after work. You will be sorely missed in the group at Bloomberg, and always remembered.
Posted by Prem Janardhan on February 24, 2021
Huge shock - Ram was my smiling colleague and drinking buddy of the last few years. An unimaginable tragedy. May his soul rest in peace.
Posted by Lydia Andrews on February 24, 2021
I will remember Ram as a kindhearted and genuine man with a radiant smile. Deepest condolences to the many friends and family who were graced by his presence and now grieve his loss. I'm so sorry.

Lydia (BLP)
Posted by Kavitha Rajavelu on February 24, 2021
Ram, your contagious smile and warm demeanor always comes to our mind. We had a sit down family meal in New Hampshire several years ago and we remember spending a few good hours.. your simplistic lifestyle moved me. You fought a tough battle and you will be terribly missed .
Rest in Peace Ram
Posted by Esther Ramos on February 24, 2021
You will definitely be missed Ram! May fond memories of you bring comfort to your family during this hard time. My sincere condolences and prayers go out to your family.

Esther (BLP)
Posted by Sith Anand on February 24, 2021
I met Mr.Ram just couple of times in Pondicherry. Despite me being a stranger to him, he was so humble, jolly & invited me to sit beside him, chatted casually, made me felt at ease.

Studied from a humble Government school background in Bahour rural area in Pondicherry, he has made it to the top league in United States of America. Yet being a humble man.

I heard that he was a philanthropist and a gentleman both at heart and attitude. God is so cruel that a loving personality has left us early in sorrow. I salute his grit to fight the life challenge till the fullest potential.

May he bless his family unlimited love & flourishing memories. You always live with us, dear Ram brother.
Posted by Yonhe Cho on February 24, 2021
Dear Ram, very sad to learn your passing. While we were more than 3000 miles away, you always gave helpful hands to us, APAC colleagues. It was great pleasure and honor to have worked with you. Your smile made it all easy even when you were explaining complex issues. You'll be forever missed.
Deepest condolences to your family.
Yonhe (BLP Tokyo)
Posted by Rajesh Krishnamurthy on February 23, 2021
I came across Ram in one of the Volley Ball courts during 2014 at Tamil school in San Ramon. I always remember him with a vibrant smile on his face and ever helping attitude. He was a clearly a big hitter of the ball and best player in our team. Ram always provides us with the nuances and techniques of how to approach the opposition based on the situation of the game. He always welcomes even a novice player with open arms to play the game, which made every player comfortable. It is still fresh in my memory during the Spring of 2014, in one of the tournaments in south bay, during the finals game, while we were trailing, Ram got into the huddle spoke to the team calmly to play our natural game without thinking it is a championship game, from there on we were able to rally up to eventually win the finals. I still remember jovial conversation that we had in the post-celebration party that night following the game in his house. Ram will be definitely missed by the San Ramon volley ball community dearly. Ram i am pretty sure that you will form a formidable team in heaven to play Volley Ball-the game that you love the most. Rest in peace Ram!
Posted by Gosia Kielbowicz on February 23, 2021
A great friend and awesome colleague with the most contagious smile! You will be so missed, Ram. Extending warm hugs to your family!

-Gosia (BLP)
Posted by Sridhar Adurti on February 23, 2021
Om Shanti

Ram, I will never forget your cheerful smile. You will be missed at Bloomberg.

My heartfelt condolences to family and friends.

Om Shanti
Posted by Lorraine Chiu on February 23, 2021
Ram, you will be deeply missed by your Bloomberg family! You are genuine, bright and kind. Will never forget that smile. 

Sending my deepest condolences to your loved ones.
Posted by Elizabeth Espinal on February 23, 2021
Ram we will miss you!! Thank you for always being a pleasure to work with. I will always remember your bright and contagious smile.  My condolences to the family. 

Liz (BLP)
Posted by Chandrasekhara Azad Arama... on February 23, 2021
It came as a shock to all Ram's friends here in San Ramon. Ram is a good friend for last 10 years and we thoroughly enjoyed playing volleyball with him. Great player, spiker and always encouraged others to play well giving tips! Always cheerful, sported nice smile just happy to know and talk to him. Just not able to digest that he was taken away from all of us at such an young age. I cannot even imagine the tough time his family is going though! Please stay strong and wishing you all the courage to cope with loss! Om, sadgathi to your soul Ram!
Posted by Gopi Reddy on February 23, 2021
We miss you Ram !!

I always remember your bright and radiant Smile ....and good times at office.

Miss you friend !! You are in a better place than ever before.

GopiReddy(BLP)
Posted by Amanda Singh on February 23, 2021
My sincerest condolences to the family, too young , too soon, may you always have that smile on your face. Sincerest Condolences Amanda Singh (BLP)
Posted by Prasad Mangina on February 23, 2021
Very sad to hear & Shocking news.
He was a very humble and friendly person.
My deepest condolences to the family.
Om Shanti..
Posted by Nitin Miranda on February 23, 2021
It was so sad and shocking to to hear about Ram passing away at such a young age.

Ram was my ex colleague from Levis and he was always joyful and positive. He always had a way out of rough situations and handled everything with a smile. I remember the time when he could not fly out of SFO just as he was about to board the flight on our way to Turkey due to his visa status back then. He took it all in his stride like he always did and flew in via the east coast and made it in time to be with us there. One of the last memories with him was the time we spent in Brussels as we got to see his personal side outside of work.

My deepest heartfelt condolences to his family and his friends.

Rest in peace Ram

Nitin
Posted by Thilak Satish on February 23, 2021
To dear Mama(Brother-in-law) from Machinichi(Sister-in-law):

Mama, I still cannot process the thought that you're no longer with us. Your passing has left a deep void in our lives. All the memories we spent as a family are still fresh in my mind and they will remain that way forever.

You're a sweet, simple, humble person with a big heart. You made everyone around you so comfortable that I could ask you anything without hesitation from Day 1 of knowing you. You've been a huge support to me since the time you stepped into our family. You helped me to settle in when I moved to Bangalore for work and then later to the US. Though you're the first mapillai(Son-in-law) to the family, you stayed cool and gained respect and gratitude of everyone in the family. I love the way you called me as machinichi and you did not mind me calling you as mottai(bald) mama. You're my mottai mama and you will always be in my heart.

I admire the way you stay calm and composed no matter what life throws at you and you have been that way since the day I met you. You're someone who have mastered what life is all about and how to live a fulfilling life and you managed to do that from a young age while many of us still struggle at it. I love that you enjoy simple things in life. I admire your early morning routine, your disciplined nature and your love for work. Your fondness for South Indian filter coffee, a good meal served on vazhail ellai(banana leaf), a good tiffin at temple canteen will live with us.

Mama, though our bond is different than the one you shared with Arul, I share an inexplicable connection and affection for you. Just calling you as Mama even after months of seeing or talking to you, filled my heart with joy. Though you're not physically with us anymore, you will live with us in everything we do and talk. You'll be with us in our visits to temple, when we have a South Indian meal, in our Costco trip and when we go for a long drive and this list is endless. You'll also be with us when we do things that you are not fond of like skiing. Though my journey with you came to an abrupt end, I'll cherish the honor of knowing you and being your machinichi.

I'll always love you to the core my dear mottai Mama!

In tears,
Thilak Subramanian
Posted by Sankitha S on February 23, 2021
Thank you all for writing tributes to Ram. Your words means a lot to us and little Ram will have fond memories of his dad's journey thru life.

Born to a humble family and raised to where he is today, gaining lots of friends and memories along the way, makes me cherish his complete life.

Everyone knows his simplicity, infectious smile, down to earth person, 'how do I help you' attitude, love of volleyball, and many more, there is one thing so unique about him that makes me love him always and forever - A true Man of Action. Ram surprises me with outcomes, be it an offer letter or any achievements, he'd playfully present it and ask 'what do you want to do with this now'. He made me stronger than I knew I could. He will continue to live with us in our memories and I have no doubt that he'd be reborn to fulfill his unfinished business on earth.

Thank you all!
Beloved wife,
Sankitha

Posted by Saravana Ramaratnam on February 22, 2021
I don’t know where to begin. It was shocking for me to hear the news about Ram. The Ram I remember was - Some one who is always quirky with his famous Tamil quotes, someone who always took care of my health and urging me to walk to the Bart station from office, someone who has big heart with an infectious laughter, will give his support for a social cause wholeheartedly..... and someone who will help and support you no matter what! I have fond memories of my 10 years knowing him and working with him. May his soul Rest In Peace.
Posted by valli Balu on February 22, 2021
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M-Man
RAM, you are the one who formed the Sanramon family and friends group and brought everyone of us together. You are the one who brought smiles in each one of us in every get together with your questions and answer sessions and made us well connected. You always ensured to bring happiness among us. You are such a humble man and there are no words to express that. You will be greatly missed by us. Your loss is irreplaceable.But your smiling face and memories will remain with us forever.
Posted by Rajan Munuswamy on February 22, 2021
With our love and deepest sympathy as we remember dear "Mottai Ram". Though our association was thin during volley ball tournaments and practices. I still remember your kindness and love towards to the team mates and composed character.

Our thoughts, prayers, condolences to your family. May your soul rest in peace
Posted by Zhaoliang Wang on February 22, 2021
In the end, it is not the years in a life, it is the life in the years. Really hard to see Ram is gone so soon, but he will be forever remembered by us: a true gentleman, kind, humble, humorous, positive, and always with a big shinning smile, great on and off the VB court.

My deepest sympathies to him and his family.

Posted by Deepa Vivek on February 22, 2021
I still remember the day Ram joined our SAP team at Levi’s and walked into my office for an introduction back in Spring 2008. Our families met shortly thereafter, and we are very proud of the friendship and bonding we share to date. We have known him for about 13 years as a wonderful friend, an awesome colleague, and a great person.

I’m sure all of his friends and family would fondly remember his phrases – “vazhkkai oru vengayam pola” [philosophy of life], “kalakittada kaapi” [poetry], “pullu mulaikkathu naanga volleyball adicha” [VB pride], “avanukku bajji venum, ivanukku bonda venum” [frustration at work].

His admiration for Volleyball, Crazy Mohan, Kamal, Vasool Raja, vazha elai saapadu, amma’s killi potta sambar, dosa - thenga chutney, and simplest of things. Even though we all know him as a simple, honest, and humble individual, Ram had big dreams and great ideas for the community, one of his favorites is “Home for everyone, nobody sleeps hungry” which he called FETNA.

Ram will be dearly missed and fondly remembered forever.
Posted by Smitha Kumar on February 22, 2021
My little brother mottai.... you are gone too soon....your infectious smile that lit up the surrounding, your simplicity that kept everyone around you comfortable & approachable, your humbleness that spread the positivity, your love & respect for each and every one, your sense of humor, your mischievous comments, your knowledge of wisdom.....your admiration for truthful thoughts........your understanding..... the list is endless.....which will all be missed........ we always patronize that life is short.... but it was never meant for you mottai.... because we needed you here... around....wherever you were......to keep us all grounded & loved............ you were a wholesome of goodness..... I salute the parents, who brought such a precious gem in the name of RAM into this world..... who passed on nothing but love, care & happiness ........
YOU WILL BE MISSED DEARLY RAM!!! BUT YOU WILL LIVE WITH US FOREVER IN OUR THOUGHTS & EVERY DAY CONVERSATIONS........REST IN ETERNAL PEACE MY LITTLE BROTHER ..... I will always have this question lingering in my heart, why & how could this happen to our RAM???
Posted by diping che on February 22, 2021
So sad to hear his passing. My deepest condolences to his famliy and his friends. I will forever remember Ram as a perfect gentleman, always joyful, posititive, friendly, passionate and graceful. It was always a joy to play with him on the volleyball court or chatting with him. 

Ram, rest in peace .......

- Diping a.k.a Sanjay
Posted by VIVEK SUNDHAR on February 22, 2021
Dear anna,

My heart filled with sorrow on hearing the  
news that you were physically no more. You are one of the role model within our family as we try to become a respectable person in the society. You will always inspire us and your soul will always be with us.
Posted by karthik eyan on February 22, 2021
Dear Ram , I miss you so much Chellam I believe that you are always with us, No one in the world like you so humble , patience, knowledge, you are a god gifted person . A big lost to our family ,, I always love you pa . Rest in Peace by Maha Athai pondicherry
Posted by Venkatesh Ramachandran on February 22, 2021
Ram........my junior.... same branch Mech... You will always be remembered for your smile, cool attitude and strong determination. You did help me in so many ways and am thankful for the same. It is hard to come to terms that you are gone so soon. I pray God to give enough strength to grieving family members, relatives and friends. We miss you man !
Posted by Nandakumar Pramod on February 22, 2021
Rams will be missed. I studied with him during the 4 years at RIT, Jamshedpur. He was a quiet young man then when in college always with a smile and ever ready leap up to block at the net during volleyball games. Will remember him for his ready smile and flying blocks.
Posted by Kumar Sambath on February 21, 2021
Ram Uncle - Pure Happiness

From Krithik:

Happiness, when it comes as a person, the people around it are lucky. That happiness is Ram Uncle. I always see him with a smile, joking, and never angry. He really is pure happiness as a person. When the message came that Happiness was no more, I couldn’t process it. The more I thought the more I realized. Ram's uncle is not dead. He will never be dead. He and his happiness will always exists in our memories, lives and in our hearts forever. He is never gone.

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Recent Tributes
Posted by Sekar Muthusamy on February 28, 2021
From Sekar, Sivakami and family:

We came to know Ram and his family through Mohan & Selvi and met with them on a few more occasions before he moved to East Coast. We were always captivated by his friendly nature and vibrant smile. Ram was a gentle, nice, and cool person. It was a huge shock for us to hear about his demise. May his soul rest in peace. We pray God to give courage and strength to his family. 
Posted by Holly Schulberger on February 25, 2021
Our deepest sympathies to Ram’s family. You were a true gentleman. We will miss your smile on our video calls. May the memories bring peace and comfort. 

Holly and BerkOne Team
Posted by Jaya S on February 24, 2021
Ram,

  I met you and Sankitha when I played Volleyball with you guys in San Ramon.  Remember you were there to help us practice and enjoyed playing yourself. Thanks for bringing your enjoyment of the game to us and thanks for making it fun.
his Life

அன்பு மகனே !

அனைவருக்கும் வணக்கம்.  சுருக்கமாய் சொல்வேன்.
என் வாழ்வில் சுவையாக வந்தவனே !
விண்ணில் மின்னும் தாரகை வீட்டில் இறங்கி வந்தது போல் வந்து பிறந்தான் எங்கள் மகன் வளமாக எங்களை வாழ்விக்கவே !
மகிழ்ச்சியில் திளைத்தோம் மகன் பிறந்தான் என்று !
செல்வன் பிறந்தான் என்று சிரிப்பாக நின்றோம். சிரிப்பு நிறைந்தது .
நாளொரு மேனியும் பொழுதொரு வண்ணமுமாய், புன்னைகை மன்னன் பொலிவுடன் வளர்த்தான்.
சிலர் இவன் முருகனின் அம்சமாய் பொலிவுடன் உள்ளான் என்றார். சிலர் ஹரியும் ஹரனும் சேர்ந்த உருவம் தான் என்றார். இரண்டும் சேர்ந்த எடுப்பான பெயர் என்ன ? ராமலிங்கம் என பெயர் சூட்டினார் பெரியோர்.

ஐந்தாம் வகுப்பு வரை ஆங்கில கல்வி அழகுற கற்றான். ஆறாம் வகுப்பு ஆங்கில கல்வி அவ்வூரில் இல்லை என என்ன செய்வதென்று ஏங்கி நின்றோம்!  "அப்பா! கலங்காதீர் ! கடலூர் சென்று கனிவுடன் படித்து மீண்டு வருவேன் பேருந்தில்" என்றான். காலையில் அவனை கவனமாய் அனுப்பி மாலை வரும்வரை மயங்கி நிற்போம்.
மாலையில் மன்னவன் வருவான். என்னவன் வந்தவனை ஏந்தி கொள்வோம் .புத்தக பையை ஏந்தி ஒரு விரலை உரிமையுடன் பற்ற, ஊற்றெடுக்கும் உற்சாகம் என்னுள். ராஜ நடை தொடர நடந்திடுவோம் வீடு வரை!
பன்னிரெண்டாம் வகுப்பு வரை பாங்குடன் கற்றிட்டான்.

அடுத்து என்ன படிப்பது?
ஆராய்ந்த போது பொறியியல் கல்வி போவதென முடிவு இன்முகமாய் ஏற்றான். பத்தொன்பதாம் வயதில் பரிதவிக்க விட்டு வந்தேன் பீஹார் மாநிலம் ஜாம்ஷெட்ப்பூரில். "அப்பா கலங்காதீர் ! அறிவுடன் முடித்து வருவேன் . சென்று வாருங்கள்! ஜெயமுடன் வருவேனென்றான்".
விரும்பிய கல்வி கற்று வெற்றியுடன் திரும்பி வந்தான். ஒரு மாதம் கூட ஒன்றாக இல்லை அவன். வேலை தேடி செல்கின்றேன் என்றான். வேலவன் துணை இருப்பான் என்று சொன்னேன்.
எங்கோ சென்றான். எடுத்தேன் ஒரு வேலை பாண்டியில் என்றான். சில நாள் வேலை.
"மும்பை சொல்லட்டுமா" என்றான். "சென்று வா மகனே!" என்றேன். சில நாள் அப்பா ஹைதெராபாத் வந்து விடுகிறேன் என்றான் அருமை மகன். இடைப்பட்ட நாட்களில் இரண்டு பட்டங்கள் வாங்கி இருந்தான் "Master of Foreign Trade", "Master of Retail Management" என.  

அவனுக்கோ அகவை ஏறுது. அகமுடையாள் தேவை. மணமுடிக்க ஒரு வசந்தத்தை தேடி பார்த்தோம். இனிதே மணம் முடித்து பெங்களூரில் இல்லறம் புகுந்தார்கள்.
அன்றொரு நாள் என்னிடம் வந்து "அப்பா எனக்கு வேலை வந்திருக்கிறது இரண்டு நாடுகளில்  பிரிட்டன் மற்றும் USA. எங்கு செல்லட்டும்" என்றான். "பாரில் சிறந்த நாடென்று பல்லோரால் போற்றப்படுவது USA . வாழ்வில் முன்னேற வழி கிடைக்கும்" என்றேன்.சென்று வா என்றேன்.சிந்திக்கவில்லை.  சிரணியில் ஏற்றான்.
வந்தான் இங்கு வாழ்வில் உயர. அப்பாவின் சொல்லுக்கு தப்பாமல் செவி சாய்த்தான். சான் ராமோனில் சிறந்த வீடு வாங்கினோம். வாருங்கள் அப்பா வாழ்த்துங்கள் என்றான். அன்பு மகனின் ஆனந்த இல்லம் காண ஆசையுடன் ஓடி வந்தோம். மகன்,மருமகள், பேரன் கண்டு பேருவகை கண்டோம்.அவ்விடம் மகிழ்ச்சி அன்பான, ஆதரவான, அழகான நண்பர் கூட்டம் கண்டேன். நானே வியப்பு கொண்டேன்.இப்படி நண்பர் கூட்டம் இது வரை நான் கண்டதில்லை. ஒருவருக்கொருவர் விட்டு கொடுத்து உரிமையுடன் பழகும் உதாரண கூட்டம். குடும்பமாய் பழகி குதாகலிக்கும் கூட்டம்.
அன்பு மகனை ஆதரிக்க அத்துணை பேர் உள்ளார்கள் எனக்கென்ன கவலை என்று என்நாடு திரும்பி விட்டேன். கூற்றவனின் கெடு மதியை யார் அறிவார் ? New York சென்று விட்டான். சில நாட்கள் சிறு நோய் கொண்டு அவனை வாட்டியது. கண் மூடி திறப்பதற்குள் காட்டி விட்டான் காலன் அவன் வேலையை .மகனை பறித்திட்டான். பாழ் குழியில் தள்ளி விட்டான் எங்களை. தரணியாம் இவ்வுலகில் தனிமரமாய் நிற்க வைத்தான். என் மகன் எப்போதும் ஏங்குவான். வெங்காயம் இவ்வாழ்க்கை.தோலுரித்து பார்த்தால் தோன்றாது ஒன்றுமே! மேலே பார்த்து மெத்தனமாய் வாழ்த்திருப்போம் என சென்று விட்டான் எங்கள் மகன்.சென்ற இடம் தேடி செல்ல துடிக்கின்றோம் செல்ல வழியின்றி செயலின்றி நிற்கின்றோம்.இறுதியாய் கேட்கின்றோம் இறைவா ! எங்கள் மகனை தந்து விடு! தரமாட்டாய் ! யாமறிவோம் .. எடுத்ததை குடுத்து பழக்கமில்லை உமக்கு ..
எடுத்துச்செல் எங்களை .. எங்கள் மகன் இன்முகம் காண .. வணக்கம் 

- திரு.மணிவாசகம்  (ராமலிங்கத்தின் அப்பா )

My Mama!!

Lot of people know Ram as a great friend, brother, caretaker, helpful volunteer, infectious smiling face, great listener and leader, but I have the privilege to know him as my Mama (brother-in-law in Tamil). I shared some amazing memories with him over the last 17 years. There are one too many stories to share about him, I don't even know where to start. 
Ram had a very simple upbringing. He was born in Bahoor, a small suburban town outside of Pondicherry in India, and went to  public schools. He attended Regional Engineering College, Jamshedpur, and graduated in Mechanical Engineering. During college, he played volleyball at national level. He loved volleyball and he is damn good at it! After graduation, he worked at many engineering firms like Unilever, Supreme Industries and Blue Star, before moving to multi national companies and IT sphere. Ram is very sincere at work and he works very very hard. He always told me he never had big career ambitions, he wanted a simple life and live closer to home. That being said, he didn't want to move to United States at all. He was happy back home. But since moving to the US 16 years ago, he made some extraordinary career moves as opportunities presented itself to him. He had bigger roles at his previous jobs at Levi's, Infosys, Bristlecon, and most recently at Bloomberg. He is a true testament for American dream and he lived a wonderful life, but yet a simple and humble one. It is rare to find people like him, so simple and down to earth. These days we see a lot people who act as if they are privileged, but don't have even 5000 bucks in their bank account. Ram is an exception, a true genuine exception.
To me personally as my mama, he taught me a lot.  First and foremost, he taught me to drink scotch whiskey. I can devote my love of a good scotch to him. He told me to take life as it goes and not to go deep. His exacts words are - "Life is like an onion, if you start peeling it, there is nothing left inside." Ram doesn't ask for much and he never ever complains about anything, he would expect the same from me. 
Just as my finishing thoughts, I know he left the world, but he didn't leave me. I feel him very close to me and my heart. He being not with us physically is a great loss to me, and I don't think I can fill his shoes. No one in my family can fill his shoes, but I will try hard. I will see him in everything he likes and loves - Starbucks coffee, volleyball,  South Indian food, Johnny Walker, Tamil movies (Panchatanthiram, Kaathala Kaathala, Vasool Raja) and his son, Arya.
I will love you forever, Mama.... Arul

Recent stories

Friend who I will remember for my life and cherish the friendship

Shared by Shashi Kumar on February 27, 2021
Our friendship started in Arlington Park, San Ramon in 2013 as we both had same age kids coincidentally with same name. It was a kids play date, but who knew at that time our friendship would be life long even if Ram is not around us anymore. To me, Ram was gentle person with a sense of humor and wisdom that will bring friends and families together as one big SRF family. I have always wondered how this person can see the world differently where everyone is equal, share happiness only, make everyone laugh, and smile that he will be remembered forever. I appreciated his calm demeanor, presence of mind, simplistic view of life and his talents in volleyball. He tried his best to teach me volleyball :-)
I will remember get-together's with Ram and SRF which are treasures to keep in our memories. He is like big brother to all of us and caring for us and our families. He loved to travel and joined me and my extended family for Alaska cruise. The camping trips, carnival cruise, Hawaii and many other trips with Ram and SRF are memorable. I had plans to go with Ram and family on even bigger travel trips...
I am emotional as I write this... I have never seen Ram emotional until the last day I met him in his dying days where he was eager for simple wishes of life to spend time with his family and to have round table chat with friends. Tears cannot justify the emotional moment.
Sometimes, I wish I had not left San Ramon and should have stayed and spent more time with Ram and SRF families. Life always provides us events, people that gives happiness and meaning to one's life. Ram is one such person to me.
Miss you Ram but will remember you always. Rest in peace.

An inspiration ...

Shared by Ram R on February 24, 2021
It seemed like providence to come across Ram, who was unknown to me in year 2010, playing in a volleyball tournament  near Cupertino and I was awestruck with his playmaking skills and calm demeanor. The inspiration I drew from that day rekindled my volleyball nerves and we became regulars in volleyball tournaments on opposite sides of the net for couple of years and he always posessed a pleasing smile and a warm personality.

 I and my family moved to San Ramon in 2013 and he was the only known face in the new town. He embraced me with open heart and made me part of a new volleyball team. The first tournament I played with him is forever etched in my memory. We were down 5-15 in a finals decider game, playing against a ‘mediocre’ team. Ram rotated into front row and he carried our team on his shoulders and we won the game 21-19.  His thunderous volleyball ‘kill’ would uplift the spirit of the entire team whatever the circumstances be. He was special and magnanimous in everything he did, on and off the court.  

 In a new town with no acquaintances, he embraced me and my family into a wider family of friends that we cherish. He extended boundless energy and care to all of us in celebration or in desperation.  His special  “சொல்லுங்கோ..” would warmly touch many hearts that blossomed into many special moments. He carried everyone around him with elegance and humility and Ram would be missed forever by my family.  Rest In Peace,  Ram!    


பனிவிழும் மலர்வனம் பாடல்
உனக்குப் பிடிக்கும் என்றார்கள்.
பனிவிழும் மலர்வனம் ஒன்றில்
நீ மீளாத் துயிலிருப்பது
யாருக்கும் ஒப்பவில்லை என
யார் உன்னிடம் சொல்வது?
   - Bouncer Ram

You will be remembered forever Brother

Shared by Anand Sambasivam on February 23, 2021
I knew Ram for the past few years through volleyball and Kid's Tamil school. Our friendship blossomed, we started being close including families. We also became so comfortable sharing all our emotions, good and bad that we go through in life/work without any inhibitions. 

As others mentioned, Ram was always cordial, approachable and kind at heart. He always advice friends and families keeping their well being in mind. Many of his friends would vouch for it. He is the one guy who can keep his cool and smile in the middle of heated arguments, whether in get together or at volleyball games. 

I'm fortunate to have known him, however short it is. Still spent enough time to have many cherishable moments with him. Can't forget the camping trips, family get togethers and the guy's night outs roaming around bay area having good time. Ram will be living with us through all the lovely moments etched in our hearts and captured in photos.

Rest in peace Machi
- Anand