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Leave a tributeSo difficult to say goodbye, to let go...but he didn't part until he brought one more into our CHS family, you are ours forever now April. God bless you.
Paraphrasing from the musical Annie:
“How lucky I am to have had something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”
I'm sure he had many other skills. But the way I'll remember Randy,
he was always there to help others. With these great memories of a person, what more can you say. God Bless His Family. Ray Hess
How wonderful of you to put this together not just as an honor to a wonderful man but also to share with friends and family. You and Randy both were such a god send after Jims accident. I could always count on a FB message from one or both of you to give strength and for that I will be forever greatful. (((hugz)))
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Clovis, NM & Bovina, TX
Keeping my promise, I made my way to Clovis, NM, to bring Randy's ashes back to his homeland. It was a long trip, but it was worth every mile.
Doug Estep and his wife ( Navy buddies) were so kind to have me stay with them in Clovis. We reminised and had a great visit.
The next morning I made my way to Clovis High School and paid some respects there, as I know Randy loved that place so much!
Stopped in at Randy's Aunt Doris' home and gave her an old photo album ( that he had been keeping for all these years of his family in Clovis) and a letter from his cousin Sheri (Doris's daughter, that she wrote to Randy in 1983. Randy had many many many! Photo albums. His children have them now to enjoy.
Chuu'na and I were then...off to Bovina, TX to bring the remains of Randy's ashes. He wanted to have his ashes with his family. As I drove around the cemetery, then walking....a large cotton tail bunny hopped out to greet us. Surprisingly, that is where the headstones were. It was a memorable time of paying respects, wishes and sending-off. Quiet, peaceful on the Plains, windy with a rough beauty.
As I drove back home watching Clovis disappear in my rear-view mirror, I knew that I had done the right thing for him.
Rest in peace big guy! You are in my thoughts each day.
Randy Clovis, NM
It is amazing how I process, strengthen, fall to my knees in tears and howl at the moon till I loose my scenses.
Each day I think about the journey I have had with Randy. The goodtimes and the hardtimes. People say...you should only think about the good times. Well....it was through some of the worst times that I got to know Randy deeper and it was through the goodtimes that I got see Randy truly feel free!.
There are still ripples of stuff that I am taking care of. Putting in their place, things to give away, things to keep and things to vault.
Sometimes I still hear the wooden floor creak in the middle of the night, or hear a cough in a grocery store, a laugh or even a face....that makes me think of Randy. I shake my fist at him for leaving and I have open my arms to let him go.
Sometimes my dreams are nightmares and other times they are beautiful thoughts. Working their way to the surface, my emotions and feelings showing themselves. Sometimes immature, sometimes quiet and reclusive, sometimes loud and crazy and other times just simple perfection. And......it is ok. My process is my process and I am learning more about accepting myself for who I am.
April 5th I will be going to Clovis. A place that is unfamiliar to me. Sure I have visited there before a few times, but it is Randy's place. I shall Visit some family and stay with his good friends. Maybe I will get a Taquita at the Foxy Drive Inn, Maybe I will walk in the park, maybe I will visit some other areas that he cared about and get some closure done for him. Complete the circle.
I learned some valuable things from Randy and one of them was patience.
Please know that this is not a memorial that I am doing in Clovis. I am just visiting. If any of you are in the neighborhood in Clovis, please feel free to call, I would love to meet up with you.
575-430-5116
April
Christmas 2012
Randy is missed this Christmas. Thinking about him this morning, posted lots of photos I found from our vacation in Maine/Boston with Stand & Emily.
May all of his family and friends be blessed in some way, from his life and spirit.
Cheers and love to his memories.