ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Ray Spinosa, 77 years old, born on October 17, 1942, and passed away on October 25, 2019. We will remember him forever.
Posted by Henk Dam on July 1, 2021
When we moved to Vienna in the house next to Ray's and Susan's, the previous owner told us that we would soon find out that the Spinosa's were the best neighbours one could ever hope for.
And so they were. They made us feel very welcome, and they sure helped us, as Dutchmen, to get used to 'the American way of life". And though Ray certainly was a bit intimidating, had a Very Loud Voice, and even though he kept addressing my home country as 'a very small country full of people with very small minds", I immediately liked him, and have ever since. He taught me a lot of vital stuff, like using the Weber bbq, and how to chop wood. and he was simply wonderful for our children.
It was hard to leave Susan and him behind when we moved back to Holland, in 1992. But fortunately we kept in touch. We were visited by Ray in Holland, we used Skype frequently, and later we visited our former neighbours and forever friends in Arizona. We even went out camping with them, for the first time in my life!
I learned later that health-wise things were not going well for Ray, but plans to visit him could not go ahead because I had some health problems of my own to take care of. And still later Covid prevented us from attending the ceremony in Arlington, much to our regret.
But Ray will always be in my mind, as a unique personality, as a friend, and as one of the most interesting and - sometimes deep down! - kindest men I have ever met!
Posted by Diane Suffredini on June 21, 2021
Ray was a handsome, well-liked classmate from his childhood hometown Somerville (MA) High School, Class of 1960. He was on the football team, had high scholarly marks throughout his high school years and was an all-around likable guy. His classmates were so proud of him when we got the appointment to West Point, along with scholarships to Harvard, Princeton and others!! We only saw Ray at 2 of our reunions (25th and 50th) but he was known instantly when he walked into the room. W were all shocked at his passing and he will be remembered again as we gather for our 60th (plus one) reunion this September. I think he will be looking down on us and enjoying the remembrances.

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Posted by Henk Dam on July 1, 2021
When we moved to Vienna in the house next to Ray's and Susan's, the previous owner told us that we would soon find out that the Spinosa's were the best neighbours one could ever hope for.
And so they were. They made us feel very welcome, and they sure helped us, as Dutchmen, to get used to 'the American way of life". And though Ray certainly was a bit intimidating, had a Very Loud Voice, and even though he kept addressing my home country as 'a very small country full of people with very small minds", I immediately liked him, and have ever since. He taught me a lot of vital stuff, like using the Weber bbq, and how to chop wood. and he was simply wonderful for our children.
It was hard to leave Susan and him behind when we moved back to Holland, in 1992. But fortunately we kept in touch. We were visited by Ray in Holland, we used Skype frequently, and later we visited our former neighbours and forever friends in Arizona. We even went out camping with them, for the first time in my life!
I learned later that health-wise things were not going well for Ray, but plans to visit him could not go ahead because I had some health problems of my own to take care of. And still later Covid prevented us from attending the ceremony in Arlington, much to our regret.
But Ray will always be in my mind, as a unique personality, as a friend, and as one of the most interesting and - sometimes deep down! - kindest men I have ever met!
Posted by Diane Suffredini on June 21, 2021
Ray was a handsome, well-liked classmate from his childhood hometown Somerville (MA) High School, Class of 1960. He was on the football team, had high scholarly marks throughout his high school years and was an all-around likable guy. His classmates were so proud of him when we got the appointment to West Point, along with scholarships to Harvard, Princeton and others!! We only saw Ray at 2 of our reunions (25th and 50th) but he was known instantly when he walked into the room. W were all shocked at his passing and he will be remembered again as we gather for our 60th (plus one) reunion this September. I think he will be looking down on us and enjoying the remembrances.
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Green pea soup

Shared by Henk Dam on June 30, 2021

We lived next to Ray and Susan from 1987 until 1992 and they were no doubt the best neighbours we ever had.  I worked from our house as a foreign correspondent for a Dutch press agency, and our wonderful neighbour Ray has been very important to my understanding of American habits and culture, and specially American food culture. I am particularly grateful to him for teaching me how to do a proper bbq. On a Weber, of course. He also was kind enough to share, after a lot of Dutch nagging, his Very Secret Recipe for a gallon of bbq-sauce...
As a thank you I wanted to treat him to a traditional Dutch dish, green pea soup. It took me a lot of trouble to find the right ingredients, I even had some of the ingredients sent from Holland, made the soup, and invited Ray and Susan over for my (ahem)  Dutch treat.
Ray finished his soup, and looked rather thoughtful afterwards. And so I asked him: 'So, what do you think, Ray? What do you think??? Do you like my soup?". He kept quiet for a few more seconds, then looked at me, and said: "Well, let me put it this way, Henk. I'll be honest with you. If you ever think of opening a chain of green pea soup restaurants in this country, don't."
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A few months later I was in California for my work, and to my enormous surprise I saw a...green pea soup restaurant. Of course I tried it. It turned out to be a Danish restaurant, part of a chain (!) of Danish green pea soup restaurants. It was a decent soup, not as good as the Dutch version, of course, but edible.
Back home again, I immediately and triumphantly told Ray. "There IS a chain of green pea soup restaurants in this country after all. So there!"
He looked at me, thought a while, and desperate to have the final word on this matter, he said: 'But it's in California, Henk. That's not real America."