Met Rich 30 years ago. Didn’t know it, but looking back, turns out we, pretty much, grew up together.
Over those 30 years, he always looked the same. Didn’t know he got old til saw all the pictures. Guess that happens.
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Remember first time I met Rich. Smoking like a chimney, leaned over a typewriter – yep typewriter, didn’t have those computers quite yet.
He looked up. Growled at me, he always kinda had a growl, and his fuzzy hair, thick back then before it mostly fell out, he really was bear like.
And aggressive, and loud. Oh, and opinionated. Man, he had an opinion about everything. Course so did I. Why we got along -- our bond.
Fortunately I was always right and he was necessarily wrong. He wouldn’t agree with that, but I have the last word, here, so -- there it is.
Frankly, he reminded me of a real journalist -- he’d probably like that. I mean here we were working for the man, a big corporation, but Rich still fashioned himself a muckraking journalist, and he was too, a real Jimmy Breslin like character. Loud, brusque, opinionated, and always right. And a great writer.
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Yep, a bear… but a teddy bear… because behind that rough “effin” exterior was an understanding, soft and kindly gentleman.
That’s why Monica and Rich got along. She knew him, and he was endearing, really could be endearing.
A lot of people said, “I don’t get how Rich and Monica got together”, they seem so different. But it isn’t the outside that makes the person, it’s the inside, and Rich and Monica connected deeply. She saw the real him. She knew him, inside….and out.
And, as an aside, I always found it refreshing and endearing to see them argue or disagree, but not be phased by their differences, and connect on the commonalities that really matter. He could always think he was right, and she could let him be that, knowing he was wrong. It’s a good formula for marriage.
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One of the things we all know about Rich was has affinity for the f word, and the bs word and the gd word, and any word that was on the Lenny Bruce “can’t say it list”. Man he liked those words. Me too.
But the thing was, Rich used them all the time, in the workplace, and later with clients, and they had shock value, for sure. Sometimes I thought this was OK and I used them too. But I never seemed to get away with it like Rich did. I just wasn’t him.
Frankly the best times with Rich was just him and me riffing on some political topic in the news with an effin this and a gd that and a scum sucking pig conclusion, and righteous indignation -- which made the world fine with us, even if everything else was going down the tubes…
That’s what I always like about Rich in the end, his “optimistic” and “agreeable” nature.
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When someone dies, you wonder about life, their life, your life, were they happy?
Rich was happy. He smiled on his son, and he marveled at the fact that he had grandchildren. And while he may have struggled through the daily routine of life as we all do, he was fulfilled: Monica, and his family did that for him.
I never thought of Rich as a family man. But he was. Here you all are.
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Rich and I agreed on one thing, somewhat at issue, right here, in this place where we gather.
And that was pretty much at the end of the day it was ashes to ashes and dust to dust. What mattered is what you did, and what lives on, long after you’re gone, cuz, “this is it’, man.
And Monica would argue with him on this. Again, how did those two get together! She comes from a strong religious heritage, and her spirituality was a bit beyond for Rich. And I knew, cuz Rich would look at me, roll his eyes, and I’d roll mine, cuz we were simpatico, and our girls were just being silly…
But Rich was accepting, and Monica was accepting. Yet they had different perspectives.
Sadly on this one, I’ve tended to agree with Rich. But you’ll recall from my earlier words, that Rich was always wrong, so there we go. Sure hope he’s wrong on this one too!
Clearly he lives on – Nick, his grandkids, his wife, both their families, all of you, me blathering, here we are! Thank you Rich!