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This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved parents and grandparents, Robert and Lillian Burt. Though distinctly different people they were quite the duo, spreading kindness and humor throughout their 76 year marriage.  
They passed away only six weeks apart, Bob on February 16, 2021 at age 101 and Lil on April 2, at 98.  They were adored and will be forever remembered and loved.


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May 24, 2021
May 24, 2021
Lillian was my therapist for a very long time; both at Family Services, and then when she retired and worked from her home office. She was incredibly helpful to me. My mother was a Holocaust Survivor. When I met Lillian she immediately suggested to me that I look for support and connection from other “children” of Holocaust Survivors. I reached out and found a group in the Bay Area and it changed my life. I found such camaraderie from the other members; it gave me much insight into my own family’s issues and problems. Lillian had hoped that my involvement in this group would help me understand my mother, and that would improve our difficult relationship. It definitely did. I was able to forge a deep and loving relationship with my mother until she recently died at the age of 99. Lillian was also helpful in assisting me in my evolution as an Artist. She knew a lot about Art and was incredibly supportive as I matured as an Artist. I found Lillian to be perceptive, insightful, and wise. She was extremely giving, and it was great luck that I found her and got to work with her.
May 11, 2021
May 11, 2021
This poem by Judy Krakauer was sent to Karen and Julie. She and her husband, Stew were friends of Bob and Lil for over 60 years. 

Remembering Lil, beloved Friend

Look, look ----
Lil’s Soul, looking like earth Lil, is sitting
side by side with Father Time in his golden carriage.
Yes, you heard me, first time anyone from Earth
or from the Great Beyond has inhabited his abode.

They are perusing Father’s Great Book,
Lil reminiscing about the past, happy times
Helping raise her grandchildren.
Every now and then Lil gazes at Father
adoration sheathing her.
Wipes spittle from his wrinkled mouth.
And I, sitting opposite them
am in awe at this holy communion.

Look, look ----
Father Time is tearing, moved
By this child of God, this innocent one.
He will miss her.
        Oh, Oh, he is like the father
        who barely raised his beloved daughter, 
        offering Lil this gift of fathering
        even if briefly,
And I, witness, a flood of tears.
I too will miss her.

Gratified, independent, Lil ready to move on,
settled in her own new world already.
Lil turns to Father, waves, “Goodbye, goodbye,”
And we, Father and I keep on weeping.

Judy Krakauer
April 6, 2021
May 8, 2021
May 8, 2021
Thank you, Karen, Julie and your wonderful family, for the loving zoom memorial to your dear parents/grandparents, Bob & Lil, today. Thank you for sharing this with us all. The love and warmth in everyone's voice as they spoke of the depth, caring and transformative relationships they had with Bob & Lil were palpable and glowing, even through the zoom screen.

Lil was a cherished friend and colleague of my mother's, Charlotte-- and both she and my father, Bernard, enjoyed a friendship of many years. After Bernard died, Lil & Bob remained firm friends of Charlotte's. My husband, William, and I remember going out all five of us for Chinese/Burmese dinners at the Green Elephant, stopping at their home first for a whiskey sour. And the times they visited mom at the Vi care center during her last three years. Finally, we remember both Bob & Lil joining us for Charlotte's own 100th birthday celebration, just a year before Bob's. Despite their own infirmities, their happy smiles as they chatted with her are a warm memory of ours from that special day for their old friend.

"May the long time sunshine 'pon you all love surround you"
Thank you, Karen, Julie, and your beloved family, for sharing the gifts of love & connection that have flowed so abundantly from Bob & Lil to and through you all your lives, and going forward.
May 8, 2021
May 8, 2021
I remember when we were teens, we wanted to hang out at Julie's house because the quality of the leftovers in the fridge was so astoundingly high. And if Lil was home, she'd just encourage us to eat more. She had a way of listening which tended to make folks reveal themselves without feeling threatened. And I remember Bob's gentle sarcasm, never scorning the silly ideas we teenagers came up with, but neither letting us completely get away with fuzzy thinking. There was much love in that house in those years.
May 5, 2021
May 5, 2021
From one of our Caregivers, Monique
I wanted to share that your parents showed me great kindness in the time I worked for them. I remember one time I was having a grumpy morning and Bob wanted to make sure that he didn’t do something to upset me. His kindness and emotional intuition astounded me, planting respect. Lillian had such a gentle and pure nature. On the morning of her last day she asked ME if I was okay. I was amazed that even then she had such a selfless nature. Thank you and your family for your kindness and opportunities to learn and grow.

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May 24, 2021
May 24, 2021
Lillian was my therapist for a very long time; both at Family Services, and then when she retired and worked from her home office. She was incredibly helpful to me. My mother was a Holocaust Survivor. When I met Lillian she immediately suggested to me that I look for support and connection from other “children” of Holocaust Survivors. I reached out and found a group in the Bay Area and it changed my life. I found such camaraderie from the other members; it gave me much insight into my own family’s issues and problems. Lillian had hoped that my involvement in this group would help me understand my mother, and that would improve our difficult relationship. It definitely did. I was able to forge a deep and loving relationship with my mother until she recently died at the age of 99. Lillian was also helpful in assisting me in my evolution as an Artist. She knew a lot about Art and was incredibly supportive as I matured as an Artist. I found Lillian to be perceptive, insightful, and wise. She was extremely giving, and it was great luck that I found her and got to work with her.
May 11, 2021
May 11, 2021
This poem by Judy Krakauer was sent to Karen and Julie. She and her husband, Stew were friends of Bob and Lil for over 60 years. 

Remembering Lil, beloved Friend

Look, look ----
Lil’s Soul, looking like earth Lil, is sitting
side by side with Father Time in his golden carriage.
Yes, you heard me, first time anyone from Earth
or from the Great Beyond has inhabited his abode.

They are perusing Father’s Great Book,
Lil reminiscing about the past, happy times
Helping raise her grandchildren.
Every now and then Lil gazes at Father
adoration sheathing her.
Wipes spittle from his wrinkled mouth.
And I, sitting opposite them
am in awe at this holy communion.

Look, look ----
Father Time is tearing, moved
By this child of God, this innocent one.
He will miss her.
        Oh, Oh, he is like the father
        who barely raised his beloved daughter, 
        offering Lil this gift of fathering
        even if briefly,
And I, witness, a flood of tears.
I too will miss her.

Gratified, independent, Lil ready to move on,
settled in her own new world already.
Lil turns to Father, waves, “Goodbye, goodbye,”
And we, Father and I keep on weeping.

Judy Krakauer
April 6, 2021
May 8, 2021
May 8, 2021
Thank you, Karen, Julie and your wonderful family, for the loving zoom memorial to your dear parents/grandparents, Bob & Lil, today. Thank you for sharing this with us all. The love and warmth in everyone's voice as they spoke of the depth, caring and transformative relationships they had with Bob & Lil were palpable and glowing, even through the zoom screen.

Lil was a cherished friend and colleague of my mother's, Charlotte-- and both she and my father, Bernard, enjoyed a friendship of many years. After Bernard died, Lil & Bob remained firm friends of Charlotte's. My husband, William, and I remember going out all five of us for Chinese/Burmese dinners at the Green Elephant, stopping at their home first for a whiskey sour. And the times they visited mom at the Vi care center during her last three years. Finally, we remember both Bob & Lil joining us for Charlotte's own 100th birthday celebration, just a year before Bob's. Despite their own infirmities, their happy smiles as they chatted with her are a warm memory of ours from that special day for their old friend.

"May the long time sunshine 'pon you all love surround you"
Thank you, Karen, Julie, and your beloved family, for sharing the gifts of love & connection that have flowed so abundantly from Bob & Lil to and through you all your lives, and going forward.
Her Life

Lil Burt

April 25, 2021
Lillian Anita Landsman Burt was born on January 24,1923, and she peacefully passed away on April 2, 2021 - in her sleep with her daughter,Julie, by her side. Her husband of 76 years, Robert Francis Burt, passed away only six and a half weeks prior to her passing. Lillian was beloved mother of Karen Barbara Burt-Imira and Julie B. Cassilly-Oak and devoted grandmother to Diishan Lateef Imira and Ku’ulani Janelle Imira. 

Lillian was the only child of Rae and Barnett Landsman. She grew up with extended family in an apartment building in Brooklyn, NY,owned by her grandmother, Dvora and grandfather Israel, who immigrated from the Ukraine. The apartment building was filled with her aunts and uncles, and her cousins who were like siblings to her.  She was the youngest, and known affectionately as Lulu. 

Lillian began working when she was fifteen at the bookstore in Brooklyn, owned by her parents. She later worked as a secretary for the OAS during World War II.  

She married Robert Burt in 1944 and began attending Hunter college, part time, until she graduated with a BA.Lillian had plans to become a social worker, however she had a daughter, Karen in 1949 and second daughter,Julie in 1954.  Believing in the importance of a mother being actively present for her young children, she waited until Julie was 7 and Karen 11 years oldbefore she returned to get her graduate degree.  The family had just moved to Palo Alto, California where Robert worked in the aerospace industry.  In 1963, she began attending UC Berkeley, and became a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in 1969.  

Lillian then worked at Family Service Agency in Palo Alto for 25 years, as a therapist and eventually as the senior supervisor of interns. She helped to create a close knit community of administrators, co-workers, students and their families. They became cherished long term friends. Lillian and Bob shared an active social life filled with music, laughter, and good food. Lillian being the excellent gourmet cook, they held many dinner parties.  They shared intimate dinners with stimulating conversation, cultural outings and even international travel with many friends, some whom they knew since before they were married.

Lillian was a progressive thinker, avid reader, lover of art, movies and classical music.  She will be remembered for her great loyalty to friends and family, her kindness and compassion, her love of children and her knack for finding the most perfect of presents for them. And she will forever be lovingly envisioned in her artistic and impeccably assembled, beautiful, fun, and colorful outfits. 

Bob Burt

April 25, 2021

Robert Francis Burt transitioned peacefully on February 16, 2021 at age 101 with his family surrounding him, in the bedroom of his home of 60 years, in Palo Alto, California.

Bob, or as he was affectionately called, “Big Bob Burt” was born in New York City, a second son to Frances and Abraham Jacob Burt.   His older brother was William “Bill” Burt, who passed in 1990. 

Bob grew up in Brooklyn, among many cousins, attended Boys High School and then graduated from Columbia Teacher’s College in 1948 with a MA in Music and Music Teaching and from New York University with and MS in Physics in 1955. 

Though he had an undying love for music, the burgeoning aerospace industry offered him work and eventually brought him and family to Palo Alto, California where he worked as a physicist for Lockheed Missiles and Space Corporation for the rest of his career.  He was one of the first people to utilize computers (back when one computer filled a room…) and he worked on such aerospace problems as how to bring two space ships together in space (the beginnings of GPS!).  Much of his work was “secret” so he did not share it with family, but he would say, “I can’t tell you what I do, but just read the newspaper….”  Bob was a real rocket scientist. His favorite part of his job was creating a manual on “Celestial Mechanics,” which he used while teaching both at Lockheed and at Santa Clara University. Even at age 97, he was working on a mathematical problem – a new proof of the Pythagorean theorem, which he was also tying into a proof of gravity.

Bob’s love for music was with him to the day he passed.   He listened to music everyday.  He primarily loved classical music and was a wonderful pianist.  He played mostly for himself, his family and gatherings of friends.  His daughters remember family “sings” from classic American folk song books – with him playing piano.  He developed “Transparent Notations,” a new musical notation system utilizing a visual representation of the piano, and with time running vertically on the page.  With this, he taught his grandson, Diishan, who had never played piano, to play the first movement of Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata.

Bob began and intensive study of  Shakespeare’s Hamlet, and at age 99 and 100,  despite being almost blind, he learned to use apparatus for enlarging print, and voice over on his iPad to write several chapters discussing his ideas in detail about the character Hamlet .

Bob is also remembered for his remarkable sense of humor.  He had a keen sense of comic timing, often flipping a conversation upside-down and keeping his family and friends in stitches of laughter forever.  

Bob was a beloved family man.  He is survived by his wife of 76 years, Lillian Anita Landsman Burt, and two daughters -  Karen Burt-Imira, and Julie Oak-Cassilly.    He has two adoring grandchildren (Karen’s children), Diishan and Ku’ulani Imira, for whom he he was a “larger than life hero.”  When mentioning family, we cannot leave out his famous sidekick, the family dog, Pandora, who also kept the family laughing continuously with her antics and lived to be 20 years old.


Bob and Lil had the great fortune of excellent health and vitality into their 90’s.  However in the 5 years before his passing, they both declined steadily.  Despite blindness and loss of much mobility, he still managed to perform on the piano at a grand birthday celebration for him when he turned 100.  Ninety people celebrated his life and their marriage, honoring him with many memories of his generosity, warmth, humor, intelligence, and love of music, art, good food, dancing, nature, general fun and rousing conversation.

Bob was fearless about death and opened his heart wide to everyone – in his last days saying goodbyes to family and close friends. And then was surrounded by his daughters and grandchildren when he passed – entirely peacefully and complete with a life well lived and with so much love.







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