This is our story. Oct.4,1997 our beautiful brown eyed Bobby B. was taken from us. He had a smile that would light up a room. Bobby was 19 and went to Shane's house that day. Shane was a friend of his. Sorry I'm getting ahead of myself. A week before this Shane had invited me over to see his new apartment. He had some guns there and I ask him why he thought he needed guns. He said it's to protect me from my homies. I replied Shane if you need to protect yourself against your homies you need to get new homies. He laughed and said Nancy don't trip. Now back to my story. My son Justin and I were at Michelle's house (a friend of Bobby and Justin's) and all the sudden I felt I needed to call Bobby, so I called Bobby's apartment his girlfriend's mom answered I asked for Bob and she said Bobby has been shot. I asked where is he and she said Sutter General Hospital. I hung up the phone told Justin we had to go check on Bobby. I was driving and all the sudden both Justin and I said lets go to Shane's. We were wondering why she was sending us across town when there was a hospital closer. So I drove to Shane's. When I pulled up all I remember was seeing yellow police tape. We got out and an officer asked us who we were I responded I was Bobby's mother. He told me my son had been shot and was at Sutter Roseville Medical Center and that I needed to get there quickly. He asked if Justin could drive and I said I was fine I'll drive. I sped all the way there. Ran inside and asked about my son. Was told someone would be with me soon. As I paced I noticed some of Bobby's friends getting there. I walked up to Josh a friend of Bob's and asked what happened. He told me some cock and bull story of some guy coming into Shane's apartment and trying to rob them. I didn't believe this for a minute and said now tell me what really happened. He said he couldn't but before long I would know what really happened. About that my husband pulled up and we went inside the hospital. A doctor came out from somewhere and asked us to follow him. We went into some room and he said Bobby didn't make it and asked if we would like to see him. As I stood looking at my beautiful son I remember thinking wow it's his body but Bobby's gone. At that moment I knew I would never see my boy again because he no longer needed this body and had gone elsewhere. I kissed him told him I loved him hugged him and we left. We started to drive home and instead of going home we went to a friends house who was Bobby's boss. As we all gathered there Shane walked up to me and asked me if he could talk to me. We went outside and he told me he had accidentally shot and killed Bobby. It took me a minute to understand what he had just said. He said that he had this 380 with no magazine and with 7 kids sitting around his living room he said look Bobby it fires as easy as this and pulled the trigger. He said he didn't know there was a single bullet in the chamber. That bullet went through Bobby's aorta (the main valve to your heart). I looked at him remembering what he had said to me a week ago and said Shane I'm tripping. He knew exactly what I meant and we both cried. A couple of days later my husband and I were talking and realized what a negative situation we were in and wanted to try and get a positive out of this negative. We decided to show all the teenagers that were watching us the power of forgiveness. Knowing Bobby who never held a grudge and always loved his friends I knew that was how he wanted us to handle it. So with over 300 kids in attendance we forgave Shane. It was the hardest thing I will ever do in my life but it was the most rewarding thing I have ever done in my life. If we saved one life that day it was worth it. I know it was what Bobby wanted. What is really tragic about this whole situation is we forgave Shane but Shane hasn't forgiven Shane. He has a woman who has stood by his side through it all they have 4 beautiful children and a big black cloud hanging over them and there is nothing I can do about it.
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20 years
Today you have been gone longer than you were alive. We have missed so much son without you here. Until me meet again Loving you forever,. Mom