Maine 2007
Robert Lewis Howard Jr.
  • 42 years old
  • Date of birth: Feb 13, 1971
  • Place of birth:
    New London, Connecticut, United States
  • Date of passing: Oct 21, 2013
  • Place of passing:
    Hartford, Connecticut, United States
A beautiful life that came to an end, he died as he lived, everyone's friend. In our hearts a memory will always be kept, of one we loved, and will never forget. Let the memory of Robert be with us forever.

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Robert Lewis Howard Jr., 42, born on February 13, 1971 who passed away on October 21, 2013. We will remember him forever.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Dad and Janet Carr on 13th February 2017

"Hi rob  thanking of you on your birthday you are always in our hearts love dad and Janet"

This tribute was added by Dad and Janet Carr on 21st October 2016

"HI Rob
Hard to believe it's been 3 years. We all think of you often and share the funny stories.
Love Dad & Janet"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 15th June 2016

"Rob even though I'm sure you know I need to confirm, Ethan your only son graduated on the 10th of June. We are so proud of him. I felt your presence Rob and know you were with us on such an important day and event. I know Ethan looked up at you and said I did it dad. So proud of him as I am you my son. Off to college soon to Florida State University so next chapter heading our way my son. I miss you and love you so much Robert, something tells me you know my son. Love mom,"

This tribute was added by Heidi Howard on 13th February 2016

"Thinking of you and missing you on what would have been your 45th birthday!  Love always, Heidi, Ethan and Abby"

This tribute was added by Dad and Janet Carr on 13th February 2016

"Hi Rob
Happy Birthday  and you are always on our minds. So proud of you!!!!
love Dad & Janet"

This tribute was added by Linda Olisky on 13th February 2016

"Remembering Rob today on his birthday. I treasure the many birthday parties with all his cousins, Rob was always so excited and happy! He loved blowing out the candles on his cake or helping one of his cousins blow their's out! So many memories! Forever missed!"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 21st December 2015

"Robert my son, I know this has always been your favorite time of year and Xmas holiday. You loved the festivities the lights and family & friends. I will forever embrace this time you loved so much. I pray that you are safe and happy. I know your presence is around us and forever will be!! I love you my son, I miss you my son more than words can say. Love mom, xoxo❤️❤️"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 26th November 2015

"Happy Thanksgiving my son, love and miss you today and everyday!!! I Love You Mom ❤️❤️"

This tribute was added by Allison Cone on 21st October 2015

I think of you and miss you every day.  To quote Rose Kennedy, "It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.""

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 20th October 2015

"Letter From Heaven

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
I'm writing this from heaven, Here I dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness, here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember That I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and he said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on. I need you here badly; you're part of my plan, there is so much we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight,
God and I are closest to the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears,
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers,unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned,
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is over,
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads a head of you and many hills to climb;
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and in pain,
Then you can say to God at day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
Knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go....from that body to be free,
Remember you're not're coming home to me.

Loved and Missed Everyday, Mom and family."

This tribute was added by Dad and Janet Carr on 19th October 2015

"Rob, I see you every day in Ethan , Abby, Heidi's pictures on facebook.
I am sure you are very proud as father and husband. We are all very proud of you and keep you in our hearts.
Dad & Janet"

This tribute was added by kathy cone on 19th October 2015

"Rob thinking of you today and everyday."

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 23rd August 2015

"My son Rob, a day doesn't pass by where you aren't in my thoughts, every single day I think of you. Every day I miss you more!!! I love you my son more and more each day!!! Love mom, xoxo"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 21st June 2015

"Happy Fathers Day to my only son, a wonderful son and father!!! I miss you so much!!! Love mom,"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 31st May 2015

"Rob my son Gram and I have visited you a lot since warmer weather is here. We place fresh flowers and water the rest. Gram always puts her hand on top of your head stone and replies: hi Rob, I love you. At 86 years old
she helps me bath you (your stone) last visit we both acknowledged how we bathed you as a baby and we're still bathing you!! We love and miss you so much my son!!! Mom,"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 5th April 2015

"Happy Easter my son, I love and miss you forever!!!!

Love mom, x0"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 4th March 2015

"Robert my son, as I sit here and look at the sky above so many stars and Mom knows you're one. The star that twinkles is you my son, this I know comes with so much love. You know how much I love and miss you my son, keep twinkling from up above. My heart is here always with so much love!!  I miss and love you my son more than words can say. Love mom, xoxo"

This tribute was added by Allison Cone on 13th February 2015

I think of you every day. You and Heidi were always the first people I would call during a crisis and you always knew what to do or say. I know you are watching over us. We miss you and we love you."

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 13th February 2015

"A Birthday Wish
Birthday wishes to my only son, sent up above with so much love. Forty four years ago today you made me a mom in the happiest way. Losing you was the worst day of my life but the memories I hold will never keep us a part. I think of you everyday especially on your special Birthday. I love you so much Rob my son, I miss you so much my son,,,,, Happy Birthday to you above with hugs and kisses and so much love!!! Mom, xoxo"

This tribute was added by Linda Olisky on 13th February 2015

"Thinking of Rob today on his Birthday, forever in our hearts!"

This tribute was added by Dad and Janet Carr on 13th February 2015

"Hi Rob
You are always in our thoughts and hearts.
Love Dad & Janet"

This tribute was added by Heidi Howard on 13th February 2015

"Today you would have turned 44.  You always said that you were "almost a sweetheart" because your birthday was so close to Valentine's Day.  You were always a sweetheart for the kids and I.  Love and miss you everyday, Heidi"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 31st December 2014

"Rob my son Happy Holidays to you!!! Happy New Year!! As we begin another year without you it certainly isn't any easier and will never be.Being one of god's angels gives me strength to move forward, I feel your presence everyday my son. I love and miss you with all my heart!! Happy New Year Rob!!! Love Mom xoxo"

This tribute was added by Dad and Janet Carr on 22nd October 2014

"Dear Rob
Although it has been a year, not a day goes by that I don't think of  you.
At night I remember the fun times of you growing up and how I used to brag to my coworkers of how good you were at work, and more importantly how you raised your family. All the family keeps you in our hearts and during get togethers it is your humor that always comes out. I love you always and am so proud of you and your family.'
Love Dad"

This tribute was added by Allison Cone on 21st October 2014

I miss you and think of you every day. You will be in my heart forever."

This tribute was added by Brooklyn LaHaie on 21st October 2014

"I can't believe it's already been a year. Heidi, Abby, Ethan and all of Roberts family, are hands down the strongest people I know. It's amazing to see how far Abby has come with her riding, as a fellow team mate of cub hunt farm. I'll share this memory that I have of Robert.....I remember we were going to a horse show, and we pulled in, all of a sudden the trailer with two horses in it popped off the hitch of the truck. Robert literally lifted the trailer with two horses in it, just enough to put a block underneathe it....I was in awe for the rest of the day. Forever in our hearts ❤️"

This tribute was added by LauraLee Rubino on 21st October 2014

"It's been one year ago today and a thousand words won't bring you back, I know because I tried, neither will a thousand tears, I know because I cried.  Remembering you is easy, I do it everyday.  Missing you is the heartache that never goes away.  Treasured in my heart you'll stay until we meet again someday.  With all my love, LauraLee"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 21st October 2014

"My Son on his one year anniversary October 21, 2013
An only son is very special to a mom who makes her so proud to have him
A special son is someone who puts forth all traits without hesitation
A son is a loving kind caring person who loves and adores his family
My son entered eternal life one year ago today, Robert you are still making mom proud. I love you, you will never leave mom's heart!!!

Love, missed forever and always, Mom"

This tribute was added by kathy cone on 21st October 2014

"Rob It's hard to believe you left us a year ago but you will live forever in our hearts. We miss you and always will."

This tribute was added by Linda Olisky on 21st October 2014

"Forever Missed - Forever Loved

Rob's spirit lives on in those who knew and loved him, today marks one year since Rob was called home, today is the day to celebrate Rob's amazing life and the joy he brought to all his family and friends.

Aunt Linda"

This tribute was added by Heidi Howard on 21st October 2014

"It is hard to believe that a year has passed since we said goodbye.  Although we think of you and miss you every day, we will forever carry you with us in our hearts."

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 18th October 2014

"To my only son,

One year is quickly approaching since god called you home. For mom me Rob it still feels like moments ago.

There is not a soul on this earth who I am more proud of than you. The things you accomplished in such a short time while here has touched many,through and through. Your memory my son will never part nor will I ever let you go from my heart.

I think of you every minute of the day, I laugh I cry and hold every memory ever so dear. I love you so so much Rob, I miss you so very very much Rob.

Love Mom, x0x0"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 22nd June 2014

"Rob my son my only son,
It has been 8 month's,  the tears don't get any lighter just much harder, each passing day feels the same, thoughts of you don't go away. My heart is broken beyond repair I miss and love you more each day. Until we meet again my son you're in my thoughts every second of every day."

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 21st April 2014

"Robert my son, I was thinking of you today and wanted you to know that miles may be between us, but you are never far from my thoughts and are always in my heart.

Today marks 6 months Rob since you were called home and taking away from us.

I miss you so much.

Love mom,"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 20th April 2014

"Robert my son, I miss you every moment of every day!! Remembering you as a little boy the excitement you showed on Easter morning when you awakened to learn the Easter Bunny left you a basket full of goodies. Mom being the Easter Bunny loved and enjoyed every moment of filling the baskets with sweet treats!! Happy Easter my son, love mom,"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 10th April 2014

"Robert my son my only son, the days only seem longer; missing you and loving you my son!! Love forever mom, xoxo"

This tribute was added by Dad and Janet Carr on 28th March 2014

"hi rob
back from aruba and wanted to let you know we love and miss you. you are always in our hearts"

This tribute was added by Morgan Crawford on 28th February 2014

"I always knew you were a great man that when every time I came over you would always say hi even if you didn't have time for it. I will always respect you...."

This tribute was added by kristina gregory on 14th February 2014

"Praying for all Robert's family and friends. May his light continue to shine in each of you!"

This tribute was added by Karen Rodas on 13th February 2014

"Dearest Rob, even though I did not get to see you very much, I got to hear how wonderful you were from my mom, dad, and sisters. My first memory of you is when you called Heidi at my house out in Washington State. The romancing of my sister had just begun. :) The next memory for me is when I got to see your rescue kitty Ginger play rough with you in your first apartment. You gave less than you got. Then before I knew it, there was a wedding, house and sweet little baby boy for me to meet. My sister made me laugh as she told me of you picking on us for always standing in front of what we wanted to show we visited. (Big Red Lobster in Maine for example) You then gave my sister a beautiful baby girl and gave her the dream that a lot of girls have of owning a horse. You were truly one of a kind. You even fulfilled one of my dad's dreams and helped him to own a John Deere. My mom always told me how great you were to share your hunting experiences with my dad because you were truly a great Son-in-law better thought of as the son he never got to have. The last time I saw you was at my parent's wedding anniversary and you were your wonderful smiling happy self. My heart hurts for all those who miss being in your company. I feel the loss and I saw you the least. You will be forever missed!"

This tribute was added by Allison Cone on 13th February 2014

"Growing up with five sisters I always wondered what it would be like to have a brother.  I considered Rob my brother.  He was everything I thought a brother should be and more. I knew I could call him for help or advice any time. He always knew what to do or someone to call. Rob taught me to take some risk but to also do your research.  He also proved to me that you can work hard but also have fun. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of Rob and his friendly smile."

This tribute was added by Crystal Arlia on 13th February 2014

"Robert had a second family at the Central Cycle Club and loved spending time with fellow members.  They have also set up a memorial page at  Please feel free to check it out."

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 13th February 2014

"Happy Birthday Robert my son my only son!!

Love mom,"

This tribute was added by Karen Carchidi on 13th February 2014

"A Mothers Love

On February 13, 1971 at 7:36 in the morning I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy Robert Lewis Howard Jr, at 8:17 in the morning my sons twin sister Crystal joined him. From that moment on a special bond between them began.

Robert was a sweet baby who rarely cried, loved being held in my arms and made many silly faces. Time seemed to go by so quickly, before I knew Rob was a toddler, he loved watching Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers not to mention cartoons. He enjoyed playing with his Tonka trucks and entertaining his sister.

Robert was sharp as a whip as he began reading books, and practicing writing his letters. He showed signs at an early age of his interest to learn. I knew my first born and my only son was going to grow up and be someone very special. Robert had many hobbies in his teen years, he enjoyed shooting his Beebe gun, hanging out with his friends in the pool but most of all he loved to ride his first bike. This became an everlasting hobby for the next 30 years. Riding his dirt bikes gave him a sense of freedom; he had a love for the sport.

Robert graduated from high school with high honors not to mention many awards. He graduated from UConn college received a bachelor’s degree as a Certified Public Account, got his first job with a CPA firm and became a partner with the firm, anything Rob did he strived for more.

He married his beautiful wife Heidi and brought a wonderful son Ethan and a beautiful daughter Abigail into the world.  He cherished his family and loved them very much Rob was a hands on dad who spent time traveling and enjoying time with them.

My son was the most intellectual person whose smile and laughter would light up a room. I have never been more proud of him for his accomplishments and hard work. He had a love for others who were in need. Rob always looked at others with an open heart and mentored many in his field and enjoyed doing so.

This is a very sad day, so many memories and heartache, the day god called him home. I miss and love my only son more than words can explain. I love him so much that I'm not afraid of anything; there is nothing in this world that will ever be as painful as losing Robert my son my only son.

I cannot wait my son for us to be together again, I miss and love you with all my heart my son.

Love your Mom"

This tribute was added by kathy cone on 13th February 2014

"Dear Rob.  Thinking of you today on your birthday and wanted to say that you were the best brother in law anyone could have wished  I only wish I told you that when you were here with us. I and my family miss you very much and you will forever be in out hearts and thoughts. Love you always Kathy"

This tribute was added by Julie DiScuillo on 13th February 2014

"I will never forget you my dear friend / cousin. For 42 years we were a part of each others  lives in one way or another. I think of you often but today especially on your 43rd b-day!!Remembering all the great times we shared from riding mini bikes and swimming in the River as children at grams and gramps, x-mas eve celebrations with the ENTIRE family- playing ping pong,visiting at Nichols college- I won’t go into the details!:) Our most recent face book chats about upcoming life events and complaining about to little sleep to much work and over eating before going to bed, these I hold precious in my heart. These conversations made it evident the bond our parents help create in our childhood clearly remains. Thank you for your patience with Jake and his numerous phone calls to you and answering his million and one questions about riding and equipment after somehow he obtained your cell number. You were right he is a hot shit and just lays it out there. I am thankful he had the opportunity to get to know you even just a little bit. You were blessed with an amazing wife and two incredible children, I look forward to continue watching them grow-up knowing without a doubt they will achieve great success in their lives because of the strong foundation you and Heidi provided  and the boundless love you both have for them.  You were an amazing man, son, brother, husband, father, friend and cousin. We are all better for knowing you. Today we celebrate you and your life, cheers to you, HAPPY BIRTHDAY CUZ!!Love you, Julie"

This tribute was added by Vicki Borden on 13th February 2014

"I love you!"

This tribute was added by LauraLee Rubino on 12th February 2014

"You taught me so much in life and continue to teach me even though you're gone.  I've learned so much since your passing.  I have a different perspective on life. I no longer sweat the small stuff and try to live as though today could be my last. I believe that everything happens for a reason.  You truly lived your life with no regrets and were an amazing person.There is not an hour that goes by that I don't think of you and hear your laughter and see your big smile  We all miss you so much. Until we meet again, with all my heart, your little sister LauraLee"

This tribute was added by Heidi Howard on 20th January 2014

"It is so hard to write a tribute to Rob, and cover everything that needs to be said, so I will share what I said at the cemetery the day that we said goodbye.

Things that Rob taught me:
Work hard for what you want, get out there and make it happen
Go out of your way for your family and friends
Focus on the big picture, and not the little details
Do what you love as much as possible
Stand up and speak up for what you want, need, and believe in
It doesn't matter how many scars you have on the outside or what you are wearing, it is what is on the inside that counts
Always retell stories of "things gone wrong" and laugh
Love your family in your day to day actions and tell them that you do

And lastly, although losing Rob has been the hardest thing that I have ever had to face, I also feel extremely lucky because I had Rob to stand beside me for 22 years, and now I have the best of him in both Ethan and Abby.  

I can't imagine having had a better partner or father for my children.  We love and miss you everyday.  My only regret is that we didn't have more time together."

This tribute was added by Crystal Arlia on 17th January 2014

"Dear Robert, This memorial is to celebrate your life and keep your memory alive. It's purpose is also to continue to acknowledge the amazing person you were & the tremendous impact you had on others.  Your life was not measured in years but in your impressive accomplishments and what you offered to others.  You were known for your good natured personality as you had an amazing skill to lighten the mood, offer humor and kindness to everyone that crossed your path.  Your intelligence was greatly admired by many however, you remained humbled and grounded always.  You are missed more than imaginable and will never be forgotten and will remain forever in my heart.  With all my love possible, Crystal"

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Crystal Arlia
Heidi Howard
Eric Arlia
LauraLee Rubino
Dad and Janet Carr


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