Pappy and Merlin 2008
Robert Mckinstry Gray
  • 78 years old
  • Date of birth: Feb 5, 1931
  • Date of passing: Dec 14, 2009
Let the memory of Robert be with us forever

Robert McKinstry Gray
Robert Mckinstry Gray was born on February 5,1931 in Hudson, N.Y,  and passed away on December 14, 2009 at the age of 78. 
 We will remember him forever.

Robert Mckinstry Gray of Big Bear Lake, Ca  passed away Decmeber 14,2009 in his home  after a long illness.  Mr. Gray was born February 5th 1931  to
Justus I. Gray and Julie Coote.   Mr. Gray married the late Barbara  M. Gray of Kinderhook  in 1956.

Mr. Gray  is survived by his  three children: Justus Mitchell Gray of Oceanside, California, Barbara Jo Salden and her husband Michael of Aloha, Oregon, Robin Gray Giammarco and her husband Gregory of Kinderhook;  and predeceased by her sister Judy Gray.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Joyce Wood on 6th February 2015

"Forever missed.  What a great guy! xoxo"

This tribute was added by Jay Gray on 5th February 2015

I still love and miss you.....Every day that passes I realize just how lucky and blessed I was to have you as a Dad / Best Friend and my roommate.....Love you Dad"

This tribute was added by zoni lembeck on 19th December 2014

"Doesn't seem that long ago. Doesn't 5 years go fast? Seems like yesterday. In Feb. it will be 6 years for my Dad. Miss him like crazy. Thinking about you Jay... Love ya Friend.  Zoni"

This tribute was added by Barry Penn on 14th December 2013

"Your dad will always leave great memories in my mind.  I never thought I would enjoy hearing a "snort".....Now I miss it very much.

My love and thoughts are with you and your father."

This tribute was added by Robin Gray-Giammarco on 5th February 2013

"Happy Birthday Dad - such a unique person!  Hoping you enjoy your day in heaven.  Miss and Love you so much.......Robin"

This tribute was added by D Mitchell on 5th February 2013

"I cracked up when I learned that Bob's birthday was also "National Pancake Day" -- and imagined the fun we could have had with such a zany co-incidence.  He would get such a kick out of it!  The goofiness would be relentless, for sure. It makes me sad to miss him, and to miss this juicy opportunity to play with him.."

This tribute was added by zoni lembeck on 26th December 2012

"Jay this is really nice of you. I do remember meeting your dad when we were out in cali. He was a very nice man. My blessing are with you always..."

This tribute was added by Robert Blakeslee on 17th December 2012

"Bob was one of the nicest guys I've ever met. He answered the phone "A pleasant good morning" no matter what time of day it was, and that says a lot about him. I was with him at the end and he told me that he had a great life and was ready to move on, he went to sleep after that and never woke up. A great man who will be missed by all that knew him and loved him."

This tribute was added by Robin Gray-Giammarco on 17th December 2012

"Ohh how I miss my dad.  He was such a pleasant and funny man.  I remember he always answered the phone with " Pleasant good morning, nice to hear a cheerful"   any time of day.  Not to mention he looked like a garden gnome with his red hat.  He was unique, loveable and so good to me....Ohh how I miss you...Love you dad, Robin"

This tribute was added by Judy Lewis on 16th December 2012

"What a great tribute to your great dad.  I know how much you loved him and took such good care of him.  I loved seeing  the pictures you posted.  He did love that dog. I will light a candle in his memory at church tomorrow."

This tribute was added by George Litchfield on 14th December 2012

"I did not have the honor of knowing Mr. Gray, but he had to of been quite a Special man for his son Jay to have loved him so much. May all of us fathers be so Blessed! Love you Jay!...your friend,  George"

This tribute was added by D Mitchell on 14th December 2012

"Ah...what a funny guy was Bob.  His laughter - SNORT!//CHORTLE! - was so infectious, and his flair for the ridiculous was so quick and keen, that he could make anybody (even Uncle Roe!) crack up, and defuse any tense situation in a trice. My favorite memory of him is the first time I heard him SING REALLY ENTHUSIASTICALLY! Oh. My. God. He was so lovable."

This tribute was added by Joyce Wood on 14th December 2012

"A gentle giant!  He was so unforgettable...sweet, kind, with a quiet spirit.  He was so fun to be around and is definitely missed.  Wonderful tribute, Jay!  xoxo"

This tribute was added by Scott Harrell on 14th December 2012

"The first time I came up to you place in Big Bear, I got a double bonus - your Dad and Merlin - it was great fun.  I will always be impressed by the character of the man who would open his home to take care of family in such a selfless, generous way. You're the real deal, Jay. Nice tribute, my friend."

This tribute was added by Barry Penn on 14th December 2012

"There are some men that are just gentle and quiet, but speak without saying anything. This was one of those men.

I will always remember his quiet demeanor and loving heart."

This tribute was added by Jay Gray on 13th December 2012

"Not only was Pappy my dad, but he was my roommate and best friend.
Pappy I love you more than you know and miss you every Day….
Thanks for always being there for me and in my corner no matter what I did…
RIP my special friend….Jay"

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