- 47 years old
- Date of birth: Jul 17, 1967
- Place of birth:
Ft. Sill, Oklahoma, United States
- Date of passing: May 9, 2015
- Place of passing:
Atkins, Arkansas, United States
|Robert's memory is a blessing to all those who knew him. His funny southern sense of humor could warm the hardest of hearts, his sense of compassion and love for his family and friends will never be forgotten. He is loved and missed way beyond measure.|
This memorial website was created in memory of my son, Robert McCabe, 47, born on July 17, 1967 and passed away on May 9, 2015 in a tragic act of violence. We can take comfort in knowing that he did not suffer and that although Evil may have taken his life, God has taken him home.
Robert was born a country boy at heart. His love for the outdoors from childhood to his untimely death never ceased to amaze me. From the time he was a little boy and I taught him how to fish he was determined he would be able to outfish me and as he got older he felt he could pretty much outfish anyone. He had the gift of gab and always had a quick wit about him. I will miss his fast comebacks on anything I might tease him about. As he got older he learned to love to go hunting as well and always bragged that he could make the BEST deer roast and deer jerky. I'm sorry I never got to try any because he couldn't keep it that long. He loved his own cooking!
He spent four years in the USMC (Marine Corp). After that he tried different jobs but ultimately fell in love with truck driving. Always hoping that someday he would be able to have his own business and be his own boss. The day before his death, his dream was coming true. Now he is driving his Big Blue Razors Edge in Heaven instead of here on earth. So when you hear those deep rolls of thunder on a stormy night, don't fret, that's just Robert blowing his horn to say Hi.
Robert was a loving Dad to his two kids, Myria Leray and Kamren Shane. He was a single dad for many years and did the best he could with what he had and although they had their struggles his kids always knew he loved them from the bottom of his heart. I know he will be with them each and everyday as they move through life and he is so proud of them.
He was a down to earth man, kind, loving, sometimes tempered, but would give you the shirt off his back if you needed it.
If you have photos or videos of Robert, please upload them onto this site. If you have stories to tell as well please post them too. You do need to setup a free account to post anything or if you send them to me, I will post them for you - email@example.com. You can also leave a tribute for him below.
We will be having a Memorial Celebration of Life for Robert on May 30, 2015 at 12 Noon at:
Old Post Road Park Recreation Area & Campground 1598 Lock and Dam Road, Pavilion #8 Russellville, AR 72801
In lieu of flowers please donate to the Arkansas Crimes Victims Reparations Fund, Office of the Attorney General, 323 Center Ste 200, Little Rock, AR 72201. This fund assists victims and families of crimes with various expenses that they incurr when this happens.
Please pray for our family as we go through this tragic loss. We will forever remember his wonderful smile and twinkling eyes, his laughter, humor and spirit. Rest in peace Son, your children are in good hands and will be taken care of. You left us too soon, your dad (Jim) didn't get a chance to do a ride along in your big rig and you didn't get a chance to take me fishing up on the White River again but we know and feel you watching us from paradise and sending us your love.
Your are forever Missed. Forever Loved. Never Goodbye but See You Later.
"I'm sorry dad, I forgot something..
You know this, but, I need to remind you that Kamren is really missing you right now, and he needs you. Please visit him, dad.. Please help me assure him that everything is going to be okay, and that he's a fighter, just like us. He misses you so much.. and, he reminds me more and more of you every single time that I get the opportunity to talk to him. Reach out to him, please.. Help him find his next stepping stone, if you would.
"Well daddy, since you asked, I'll leave you a message..
If I'm being honest, like you'd ask me to be, it's not easy hearing that voicemail and knowing that if I leave you a message, you'll never be able to return the call.
It's almost been two years, dad; two incredibly long, and drawn-out years, without you. You're on my mind today.. just like every other day, but more so today. Why? I'm not sure.. maybe it's because I dreamt of you last night.. I dreamt of you and I wanted to thank you for visiting me. Of course, dreams never last as long as we'd like them to. I never thought I'd be so thankful for something as minuscule as a dream, but I am. I got to see your smile, and hear your laugh.. two things that I've been missing for a very long time, now. I hope this means that wherever you are, you're smiling, and you're laughing.
I wanted to give you an update on my life, dad.. so, here goes:
Dominic and I bought our first house. I know that you'd love it.. and something about the process told me that you played a hand in the result. It's beautiful, but it needs some "character". So many times, I've gotten the idea to call you, and to ask of your advice.. I'm not sure why that happens, but it does.. it does, as if you're still here, as if you're still reachable. I know that you were good at this kind of stuff, so I hate that I can't pester you about "the right way of doing things". Luckily, all of those times that you nagged me into helping you with renovations around our homes payed off.. I absorbed most of what you taught me. Thank you, dad. Thank you for everything that you taught me. You were one of the most creative people that I have ever known.. you knew how to turn a house into a home, and I regret not being more thankful for everything that you did for Kamren and I. I hope you know how much everything that you did for us means to me, now.
I'm still in school.. still learning, and still trying to love every second of it. I might be on what seems like a slow train to nowhere, but I know that I will make you proud someday. Everything that you wanted me to do, I will do.. I will. I'll do it for you.. for Kamren, and for our mother.. for our family, dad. The three of you mean more to me than anything else in this world. Our memories--the good, the bad, the ugly--I cherish them all. I promise you, I will not let you down.. But, I need you to continue to share the strength that you were famous for with me.. At least for a little while longer.
I love you, daddy. I love you so much."
"Happy Birthday in Heaven Robert!!! We didn't grow up together but I am so thankful for the times we were together. I know you're having a great birthday in heaven. I will get to see you again one of these days. Love and miss you!"
"I love you son. Happy Birthday. Thinking of you and all that I missed and will miss. Hug and kiss. Pop"
"Good morning daddy.
As I'm sure you already know; you've been on my mind pretty heavily lately. It's nearing almost a year since you were taken from this world.. But, time plays no factor in my missing you. It feels like it was just yesterday, dad. No, I can't tell you that I've accepted it; you know me.. I'm stubborn.. just as stubborn as you were.. if not more. (I can thank you for that.) I don't want to accept it. I want to wake up to the realization that this entire thing was merely a nightmare. I know.. it's silly; clinging to such an ignorant idea. But, how can I accept that you're really gone? I'm trying.. trying to face reality; it's hard. I want you to know something, dad.. I'm ready to let myself begin to heal. I know it's what you want.. and I am sorry that I have been fighting it so hard. I know that it's time..
I need your help, dad. I need your help more now than I ever have previously.. I need you to push me.. help me pull myself together.
I hear you in my dreams.. telling me, "not to worry about it, sissy." There's a comfort in that.. A comfort in knowing that even though you're gone, you still want to take everyone's worry, and make it your own. You were always like that.. You could be fighting a battle internally, and no one would know it. You were so strong, dad.. No matter the mistakes you made, I will always believe that. You wanted to believe in the best in people..
I miss you more than words.. more than any emotion I could possibly portray to the world.. but, you already know that.
Your little girl."
I can't believe your gone. I ran into you last at Pizza Pro in Atkins and it was so good to see you! I remember messing with you about your truck one snowy day asking "That thing got a HEMI" ha ha. You were such an awesome person thank you for making me feel like part of y'all's family. You will be missed"
"As I sit here today thinking about you and missing you with all my heart, fear strikes at my heart as the day gets closer for the trial to start. I am so proud of the man that you grew up to be. Your friends confirming their love for you and what a good person you were makes me beam with pride inside. Whatever happens in court is out of our hands, but it will start the beginning of moving forward in life and knowing that you are constantly by my side. I know that you are there watching over your kids just as I am. Blow them a kiss across the cheek every now and then to remind them that you are right there. I can hear in my head you and your Aunt Jean joking around and laughing in that beautiful place called Heaven. I love you Robert Paul McCabe and the day will come in the future when we will be together again. Big Hug from your Mama!"
"Son, my heart is so heavy today as I plan your Aunt Jean's services and thinking of you. I feel such a hole in my heart and soul. I miss you every single day. I felt your arms around me the other night and it gave me comfort knowing you're looking after me. I know you and Aunt Jean are kicking it up there. Love you so much; forever and a day sweetie!"
Just wanted to let you know your buddy is doing Ok but is missing you so, He can talk about you now sometimes with out crying but yesterday was really hard for him he feels he should have been there to help you protect you he loved you so or I should say we did. I am rambling I know but I guess this is the place to do that. I just love your Mom I talk to her quite often she is so sweet I even call for advice I hate that I did not meet her before. Just know we love you
"I love you son. If i could i would take your place. Every day I cry and smile. I see you in my heart. I want to feel your arms around me.and tell me I love you pop. The hole in my heart can never be filled. Why would anyone want to hurt you and cause so nuch pain in our family? I wonder what did I do for god to take two sons from me. Chan who would go out on christmas eve and leave presents on door steps for children who had none. I miss you both so very much. Chcuk and I went fishing a couple of weeks ago and I looked up and I saw two butterflies flying just over my head. Chan and Rob watching pop fish. And then I started crying because you two were not with me.. Rob take care of your brother and Chan take care of your brother. I love you both so very much. Love Dad"
"Hi Son, haven't been able to sleep all night, I have you on mind as I think about Kamren birthday yesterday. Kamren turned 21 and it's just hurts so much that you aren't here to let him know how very proud you are of him. I go through the motions of life everyday, but the hurt of losing you just continually breaks my heart. I miss you so much! I am so very proud of the wonderful loving man you grew up to be. You visited me in Hawaii, the white butterfly, but I haven't seen you since I came home, so if you can please come visit your old mom! I love you honey with all my heart forever and always!!!"
"I am thinking of you today, Dad. Your service in Arkansas was beautiful. I enjoyed getting to meet all of your friends. You were such a special man to so many people. I will never feel alone in missing you when I know how many others are missing you too. I love you."
I have waited to post because the minute the music starts the tears flow and I can't find the words...there are no words to describe how much you are missed...your buddy your chosen brother misses you so much I find him looking at the sky and talking to you...there is not a day gose by you are not talked about a story a memory !! We love you,
Berry and Charlie"
"Thank you for allowing me to "meet" Rob through this memorial. I can see why you are so proud of him. What a hard working, fun loving, gentleman. Loved your tribute Myria, you'll be surprised how many times he will show up and be with you. You are a special, special family I've enjoyed meeting, just so wish it were under different circumstances. Praying you feel God's loving arms around all of you."
Though I know you will not be reading this, I believe you are listening to my thoughts as I compose this message to you. I would be lying if I said that I have already accepted the fact that you are gone. I am stubbornly clinging tightly to the smallest idea that I will see your face again soon, or hear your vibrant laughter. The hardest part of this is knowing that though I am thinking those things, they are not realistic. You are not a phone call or plane flight away. You are unobtainable to me in this lifetime. I thought I knew what heartbreak felt like. I thought I knew what pain felt like.. But, I was wrong. On May 9th, of 2015, I felt both of those things for the first time in my short lived life. It is true what they say Dad.. You never know how much someone means to you until you lose them. Please know that I love you, and I always will. I am trying not to be regretful. I am trying not to dwell on what I could have done differently, or what I could have said when I had the opportunity. I keep reminding myself that those things do not matter. What matters now is how I choose to live through you, and for you. It is disheartening to know that you will not be there to witness me graduate college, walk me down the aisle, or hold my future children in your arms. I have to remember that you will always be in my heart, and as long as I carry you, you will always be with me. I want to say thank you. Thank you for giving me life. Thank you for always loving me. Thank you for the time that I got to spend with you, and for the memories that you gave me to keep forever. I keep telling myself that if I become half of the person that you were, I will have done something right. However, I forget that half of who I am already, is you. I will continue to be strong, and hold it together. I promise to always be there for Kamren, and remind him how much you loved him, and how proud of him you were. Daddy, I miss you. There are a million things that I want to say, but I will save them for later. We have a lot of talking to do. Goodbye for now.. Love Sissy."
"We love you Robert, & we will miss you forever. Whenever we go golfing or fishing, we know you will be with us, with your big smile and wry humor in our hearts. Thank you for some great times & memories.
Love U ~ Uncle Lee & Aunt Jan"
"Well Rob..... you're with my little girl Elizabeth and that warms my heart to know she has you. She couldn't ask for a better man then you. I guess that's why God called you both home. I love and feel you both every single day, every minute..... for I am never alone now! I love you big brother."
"Robert I didn't know you all that well but the few times we visited you made me laugh! My daddy loved you as I know all of Carl's crew did and you will be greatly missed!"
"You have always had a special place in my heart, and forever will. You will be so deeply missed. Words cannot even begin to express our loss. I'm so glad we were able to spend time in San Diego last year. Rob, I will never, ever forget you. You were such a kind hearted man but at the same time such a ruthless tease. I love you!"
"Oh my how you loved my momma's pie! ....and cakes......and cookies.....and well you know, you and I loved our sweet stuff from Miss Peggy's Kitchen, didn't we?! I loved to tease you about you donating your truck to me or letting me take your Harley for a short ride down the road. I will miss our banter back and forth but take comfort knowing that some day we will meet again to do it all again! You are loved and missed dearly."
"You was more than a nephew to me all most a son, I will miss you for ever, You could make me so mad one moment I could bite a railroad spike into and in the next second you make me bust a gut with laughter To you second place was the first loser, #1 was all that mattered to you and I will always talk as if you are still here for in Spirit you are, So until we meet again Rob Your Old Unc"
"Robert I am going to miss fishing with you! Always looking for your truck. If a motorcycle ever came by honking I knew it was you. Love you! Katie"
"Robert, we never got to grow up together since I was raised by my mom but I have always thought of you as my brother. I enjoyed what time we did get to spend together. I was hoping to get to spend more time with you and I will! It just won't be here on earth. Take care my brother and ride that heavenly ride until I get there and can ride it with you. Love and miss you! Until we meet again...."
"Hi Rob, it's your Sis Deb. I will forever miss you. I will miss the way you called me "Sis" or "Deb" in a southern draw voice of yours. I am so glad that we were able to hang out together in San Diego last year. Remember that first night? Dad, Johnny, you and I were drinking Jack and trying to play a game? Tracy said I was swearing like a truck driver...I blamed it on you. :) I love you and will always have a special place in my heart for you. I will keep in contact with Myria and Kamren and will be there for them if they need anything. xoxo"
"I will always love you Robert Paul.I remember when I got out of the hospital you still lived in calif.you call and I asked u did u want to talk to chuck and u said no hacksaw I called to talke to u.i am thankful u trusted me to help to take care of myriad and kamren when u moved back.i have known u befor I became your auntbut I have known u as my friend.u will be remembered.when u and Ronnie meet again tell him how much I love u both..later"
"Razor, we went around the country together, talked almost daily. I miss knowing that you would be on the other end of the line whenever I needed to talk. I miss having you call grumbling when you needed to. I just miss you, buddy. You were one of the few true friends I've known."
"I will never forget you Robert. I have so many
memories of you but I expected many more
years of them. I will forever remember the hours
we spent as kids tearing up granny and papa
birge's backyard building a house and playing for
hours. I will never forget you and your smile.
You always knew how to put one on my face.This
is s temporary goodbye and will see you again."
"When I close my eyes the only thing I see is your smiling face and then I feel your arms around my shoulders, you look at me and say: I Love You Pop. Son, I love you. Thank you for the wonderful gift of two wonderful grandchildren. Your mother and I will take care of them. You are in my heart and no one can take that away. Forever and a day.I love you."
"Rob I never got the chance to say I love you enough, I think you knew without words that I loved you. One afternoon you stopped in to see your grandpa McCabe you pulled a $100.00 bill and gave that to him, he asked why was you giving him money and you said grandpa I feel you could use that more than me, I've got everything I need. After you left and daddy told you he loved you his eyes filled with tears and said Bless him Lord and he never told you that you helped make ends met that week. Because you touched an old mans heart I loved you even more. I saw you go from a young man to an awesome man, father and husband. Your walk on earth ended to soon, but I know God welcomed you home. Your loved ones who have went on welcomed you with open arms. Grandparents, uncles, aunts. I love you kiddo. For ever missed. Aunt Trudy"
"I love you son, I need you to stay by my side so I can make it through and be here for your kids and future grandkids. You are my heart!"
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