Robert Usher, Mr. Chow, Ush, Usher, The Ushhh was like a ray of sunshine everywhere he went.  When he walked through the door, everyone knew he was there.  They would get a fist bump, big smile, or huge hug.  And if the music was playing, he would start dancing, even if no one else was.  He always said, "well someone's got to get the dancing started."  And when he danced, all eyes were on him, just the way he liked it.
The word stranger was not in his vocabulary. If he talked to you for just five minutes, you were considered a friend.  And if you ever needed anything, all you had to do was ask.  And most times he stepped in to help without you even asking.
His heart was full of compassion, care, generosity and love.  And he gave it away every day working in the Cape Fear Valley Emergency Department.  With one ear bud in, he was constantly singing, dancing in the hallways, smiling and speaking words of encouragement to his coworkers and patients. 
And he poured out that care, love and devotion to his mother.  From handling her finances, taking her to medical appointments, or just going to pick up a special request she had for dinner, he was always there for his mom. His love for her showed in the dedication he had to make sure she was always taken care of. And mama sure did love her boy. She loved showing her pictures of him and telling stories about him...being such a good baby that never cried, in high school he could give a speech without ever having to look at his paper, and now she was so proud of him for being so close to finishing school. He also loved his sister Mary and her family and hated that he didn't get to see them as often since they lived so far away in Montana. He was so excited when they moved back to Georgia in 2020 and it was close enough for us to visit. I am sad that we only made it there once, we had plans of being there much more in the future. He loved showing pictures of his niece Kayla doing her competitive cheer and never missed sending her a gift card for her birthday and Christmas.
Robert had a goal of becoming a RN. His determination and work ethic was unlike any other. He was just beginning his last semester and was so excited that his goal was within reach. God obviously felt he was needed more in heaven so that he can protect and care for more people from there than he could while on earth. Obviously Robert was so awesome here on earth that god had a job in heaven that only he can do.
Robert liked to be on the go as much as possible he liked to visit new places, visit a friend that had moved away, or family living out of town but his favorite destination was anywhere with a beach.....where he had to see at least one sunrise over the water, sit for hours listening to music with his feet in the sand, or floating on his back way out in the ocean.
And if he wasn't traveling,working, or in school, he was spending time with his friends. Enjoying a Wolfpack football game, slinging on a disc golf course, singing some karaoke, sitting around a bonfire, tubing down the cape fear river, floating in a friends pool, or shooting a game of pool. He especially enjoyed his family dinner nights, concerts, and beach trips with the Villans.
The last couple of years he had dedicated a large part of his time to Cynthia, Mallory, Madeline, and Garrett. Although he wasn't a husband and step dad quite yet, he sure did play the part well. From family road trips, picking up the girls at school, celebrating birthdays and holidays together, and dinner together every evening, they were a family.  He was a great son, friend, employee, co-worker.......but as a family man, he was more than amazing.
He was a romantic; sending Cynthia dozens of sweet love songs, celebrating their anniversary every month, planning weekend getaways for the two of them, and holding her hand as they were riding in the car or just sitting at home watching tv.  And he was a true gentlemen: opening the car door for Cynthia 99.9% of the time, always walking on the street side of the sidewalk, and holding the umbrella for her in the rain.  Robert was thoughtful, caring, loving, respectful, helpful, loyal, and compassionate.  His dad and mama did a fine job raising him.  "My children and I were very blessed to have him in our lives and he will be in our hearts forever,"  Cynthia said. 
When things would get stressful or weren't going the way planned, Robert would burst out singing, "One day at a time, sweet Jesus."  That is what Robert would want us to do as we grieve his absence in our lives, just take it one day at a time and remember, "me love you long time."
If Robert had a motto, it would have been "Live life to the fullest, don't sweat the small stuff, do your best, travel as much as you can, and never stop dancing."