For days I've listed to tapes and watched videos that Roger had given to me for safe keeping. It hurts my heart that he lived the way he did.
When he first met Glenda, I remember how happy he was. Then things got bad. In fact, I remember one night sitting at their diningroom table many years ago when Jerry was a little boy. Jerry had hit Roger upside the head with a toy truck and he was bleeding. Glenda wouldn't discipline him and was yelling at Roger because Roger got upset that Jerry hit him and Glenda did nothing about it. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. Maybe that is the reason that Jerry is like he is today.. disrespectful because he has been allowed to get away with it all these years and nejxt, what grown man never moves out of the house and has a life of their own and what mother would live off the sweat of their child instead of going and getting a job. Glenda even had the nerve to tell Roger to go and get money from his sister or elderly mother because he was her son. Everything was "hers" even though she wouldn't work and told Roger so. Lets not forget when Glenda told Roger she hoped his mother would get really sick, be in a lot of pain and that she hoped that he had to watch his mother die a long slow painful death. Oh, and how they (Glenda/Jerry/Kandi) were trying to leave Roger for years and how Jerry stated that he punched Roger in the nose once. Yes, this is all on a recording.. pathetic..
These videos are horrible. I knew it was bad because I had over heard conversations when she would throw him out of the house and then talk to him like he was crap on the phone. Glenda even accused Roger of having sex with me because he came to see me. Who thinks like that? I couldn't belive the things she was saying, but most of all, I couldn't ever understand why Roger lived with such a horrible person.. and then throw in the son that wouldn't go get a life and a daughter who kept interfering in things that were none of her business, but most of all, they all talked about things that they didn't know what the hell they were even talking about. In the videos, almost everytime Roger walked in the door, they were on him like a pack of wolves. He was so broken that he went to a counselor for help due to the verbal/mental abuse. I spoke with the counselor the other day. She told me how Glenda would call and Roger would put it on speaker for her to hear the way Glenda talked to him. She said it was a horrible thing to have to listen to and that it was mean and abusive. I think tthat so called "family" he had, had just become a habit. There would be no way that I would ever tolerate that kiind of bad behavior. My heart ached for him everytime he would go through one of those episodes with that so called "family".
Then, when Roger passed away, my mother and I called the sheriff's office to get a deputy to escort us to that "family's" house so we could tell them he had passed away. This was done because I had a feeling that they would try to throw me in jail. I wouldn't put anything past those.. people.. and I use the term lightly. The deputy knocked on the door ad Glenda and Jerry wouldn't even answer the door. I told the deputy to go back and yell through the door that Roger had passed away. When they came out, the total lack of emotion to his passing was unbelievable. As my daughter said, what little there was exhibited was fake. Then, of all things, Glenda's daughter comes screaming across the yard that we killed him. Pathetic... I do believe that the misery he was dealt contributed to his ddeath. He was so upset because of the hateful thingsf that were said to him and AGAIN, told not to come home. I've never seen someone who got thrown out of the house as many times as he did.
To top it all off, then listening to all the hateful things that were said to him.. calling him names, telling him to sleep on the floor like the dirty dog he was.. and it goes on and on. Who talks to someone they love like that? THEY did.. then they wanted to act all pathetic that I excluded them from seeing his body and say goodbye because they loved him soooo much. REALLY? I excluded them because of the hateful way he was treated. I was not going to give them a chance to go in there and act all pathetic when really, he didn't mean crap to them but a paycheck. And, lets not forget that Glenda and Kandi got what they asked for, they left him a voicem message telling him not to come home. That was the day he died. Well, you got your wish. Now lil ole Jerry can just support Glenda. Wonder how long he will accept his mother living off the sweat of his back? And Jerry, welcome to Roger's life..
Roger had all he could take the day he passed away. He was working on finally getting out of that bad situation and moving on with his life. I just know that he had things to work out.. end one BAD relationship and move on to a bettter one. I know, tthat regardless of how bad things got, Roger never wanted to hurt anyone, but the good thing was, he was done. Caroline made him laugh. I heard a happiness in his voice I've not heard in years. The ring was from my grandmother that my mom gave him because she was happy Roger was finally getting out of that bad situation before they did something to him. I just wished he had more time so that he could have experiienced what true happiness is. I kept his ring, mainly because I knew of the dedication he had at one time and what it meant to him once upon a time, and I have the ring he was going to give to Caroline because of the life he oould have had.
Soon I will be posting some of the videos that prove everyting I've said here. That way "anonymous" can't dispute anything that is said because it is all true. Besides, the "family" shouldn't mind. If you can say horrible things to someone and treat them badly, then you shouldn't have any problem with it being shared with everyone so they know exactly what was done to Roger.
