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Romeo's funeral celebration was on his 87th birthday on Tuesday, August 11, 2020. 
11:00 am  Memorial Slide Presentation and Tributes
11:30 am  Celebration of Life Service


Maraming salamat sa inyong lahat
and deep gratitude for the abundant offering of condolences, prayers, and memories since our father went home to be with the Lord.  His beloved, our mom, has been so touched to hear how much our dad has impacted so many lives. These are our treasures as we dwell in this time of remembrance.

We hope you will take a moment to share your memories and stories on this memorial site. This space will serve as our dwelling, our gathering place for all of us during this pandemic when it is safer for us to be physically apart. We invite you to share your tributes here and individual notes may be mailed to Rosita Abesamis at 1115 Willow Ave. La Puente, CA 91746.


Virtual Gatherings with community/family groups:
Philippine Wesleyan College/Cabanatuan City - Sat, 8/8 - 3 pm (PT) - Zoom Link
First Fil-Am UMC of SGV members & friends
- Sun, 8/9 - 5 pm (PT) - Zoom Link
Abesamis Family - Mon, 8/10 - 5 pm (PT) - Zoom Link
Fil-Am Faith Community/Filipino Caucus/NAFAUM - Wed, 8/12 - 7 pm- Zoom Link
Apolinario/Angeles Family - Sat, 8/15 - 5 pm (PT)/Sun, 8/16 - 8 am (Phil) - Zoom Link
Mga Inaanak sa kasal at binyag (God-children) - TBD
(Want to visit virtually a different way? Let us know here on the guestbook!)
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In lieu of flowers, a memorial gift may be made to the following organization linked below in memory of Romeo M. Abesamis, Sr. and in honor and support of Noah Abesamis. Click here:
Cystic Fibrosis Foundation - Orange County Chapter

In honor of our tatay, American Center of Philippine Arts (ACPA) Rondalla has shared their beautiful music to enjoy while dwelling here. Maraming salamat ACPA pamilya!(www.philippinearts.org)

For more inquiries, email Rose Lynn at roselynn20@gmail.com or 626-695-0687
Posted by Tristan Apolinario on August 11, 2020
Uncle Romy, I know you're in the better place now with God. I haven't thank you enough for everything you and Auntie Rosie had done for me. You guided me to have a good education and a better life. I will always remember you as a father figure and I will always treasure the time I was with you. Rest well Uncle Romy! Till we meet again.
Posted by Janelle Anderson on August 11, 2020
Beautiful Filipino music! :)
Posted by Janelle Anderson on August 11, 2020
Tito Romy invited me to become a member of First Fil-Am UMC of SGV. Maraming salamat po, Tito Romy.
Posted by Kenneth Kho on August 11, 2020
When I first arrived here in the US with Carminda in Sept 1992, we were greeted by our Papa Benny and Tito Romy. This, therefore, makes Tito Romy as the first ever FRIEND I had met here in the US. I will never forget this. He picked us up at LAX and drove us home and on the way while driving along 110 N, he pointed to me downtown Los Angeles and I saw it for the very first time; and it is where my current church is at.

Tito Romy was one of the kindest and sweetest persons I have known and I count myself blessed and fortunate to be known as one of his many friends. I grieve his passing deeply but at the same time grateful for his faithful life.

Thank you Tita Rosie, Rosemarie, Romeo, and Rose Lynn, for sharing Tito Romy with all the rest of us. This world is a much beautiful and brighter place, and hopeful, too, because of Tito Romy and because God acted on his life, making him a blessing to us all.
Posted by Annie Alfonso on August 10, 2020
My uncle have been instrumental in introducing my dad and Pastor Ely in the 80's and these 2 men have been used by the Lord to build Family Christian Church, now on its 37th year. Uncle Romy and his family were the first ones to welcome us here in America and we're forever grateful for their help in getting us settled here. Will never forget uncle Romy's beautiful smile and how the joy of the Lord Is evident in his life. We'll see you again uncle, you, my dad and Tatay Ely. Heaven is so much closer as we think of all of you waiting for us there. 
Posted by Emmanuel Victoria on August 9, 2020
Isaiah 42:1-4
Here is my servant, whom I uphold, my chosen, in whom my soul delights; I have put my spirit upon him; he will bring forth justice to the nations. He will not cry or lift up his voice or make it heard in the street; a bruised reed he will not break, and a dimly burning wick he will not quench, he will faithfully bring forth justice. He will not grow faint or be crushed until he has established justice in the earth; and the coastlands wait for his teaching.
Kuya Romy was one of the first person I met when I arrived here in the US. His friendly smile and willingness to help others and going a second mile are just few of what made me closer to kuya Romy. There were times that we visit church members and pray for them. I remember when he was the lay leader of First Fil-Am UMC, he would always involve me on its many different project, just to find out that He will endorsed me to follow his footsteps. He was very instrumental in finding a home church for First IEMELIF in Duarte. Kuya Romy you have touched so many lives and God saw you were getting tired. He wants you to be home on that beautiful place He prepared for you. For now this is a goodbye. We will see each other again on that beautiful place.
Posted by Ruth Victoria on August 9, 2020
My recollection of Kuya Romy is he is good son, brother,father, husband,grandfather, and cousin. He always extend a helping hand to others and concern to other people. He is a people person. I will always miss his smile.He also dedicated his life for the work of the Lord. You fought the good fight finished the race and kept the faith. Goodbye my dear cousiin for now until we see its other again.To Kuya Romy’s family my deepest condolences
Posted by FROILAN ABESAMIS on August 9, 2020
Kuya Romy indeed was the brainchild of having my blissful life in AMERICA. I was inspired by Kuya Romy during my childhood the excitement and wonders of living a life here. It became my passion since then to reach my dreamland. It was year 1990 when i started to work overseas. During the gulf war, Kuya Romy was guiding me since i was too scared. He even offered me to send a plane ticket to come home. He was all along with me thru prayers and long distance calls until the war was over. It was year 2015 when my moment had come to be here. After 13 years of struggle to get my visa. I was too happy that i might see Kuya Romy. Playing in my thoughts the generosity of him in touring the places for a first timer like me in the US. Unfortunately, he was already
sick and barely recognized me as we met. I was so sad but i was then lucky that i met him. After a year, he was confined in the facility where we made several visits.
Thank You Kuya Romy for guiding me to
find my path. You will always be missed and rest assure your legacy will ever continue.Rest in Peace our everdearest Kuyang Romy❤️

Posted by Loreta Silvestre on August 9, 2020
I vividly remember when my brother Romeo left for the United States when he received his long awaited visa. On the day of his flight, he asked our father and mother and other relatives to wait for him in the train station in Peñaranda to see us for the last time. It was the subtlest thing to do, but it was very reassuring that he will never forget family.

It was in 1969 when he moved alone to the US with only his heart and trust in God with him, he didn't know anyone when he came there. A year after, his wife, Rosie, and his children were able to reunite with him in the US. I truly adore him for being strong and keeping his eyes on his goals for himself and his family.
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My brother would have been a great pastor if our mother, Ima as we call her, allowed him to do so. He was so committed to serving God that he opted to give his weekends to do pastoral mission in Talavera. He regularly brought me with him in those missions and those were the times that I saw him doing what God had made him for.
Posted by Ruth Rillon Freeman on August 8, 2020
Kuya Romy was the epitome of a generous, selfless and well-respected person!
Even at his afterlife, he is doing what he did best: brought us together from near and far, not to mourn but to celebrate what he stood for in life!
We will miss you, Kuya Romy! Rest in Eternal Peace!
Posted by Eleanor Serrano on August 8, 2020
He was my high school principal when I was in high school at Philippine Wesleyan College, now Wesleyan University Philippines. All my class pictures has him in it and all my extra-curricular activities as president of Y-Teens, Wesleyan Playhouse always include him. I was in awe of him. He was not stern or strict but he commanded our respect and reverence. The next time I met him was here in Los Angeles attending the events of the Wesleyan Alumni Assoc he founded of which he became its first president. Then he became Kuya Romy to me. I will always remember him as this well-groomed always debonair gentleman with a ready smile and for his great work as a true follower of Christ. He worked tirelessly for his beloved UM church at Hacienda Heights. Him and Ate Rosie are my role model of the perfect Christian couple. I will never forget him and all the virtues and values he taught me as a teacher and as a Methodist elder. To Ate Rosie, your patience and steadfast love to Kuya Romy until the end is an inspiration. May God’s comforting presence be with you and your children and grandchildren always❣️
Posted by James Bell on August 8, 2020
Dear Naomi Querubin Abesamis,
The story you just posted about writing Romy's obituary and your feelings for him brought me to tears. Thank you opening your heart. When my beloved Bonnie was dying last November, our niece, Lauren Flanagan wrote this to her, which is so relevant to our experience of Romy:
"Bonnie, you will be missed. My heart mourns that death need be a step in our  journey. And yet, God has ordained that somehow your legacy will be even stronger in your absence. I don't know why it must be so, and yet the mystery calls to us, asks us to surrender, accept and believe. I will cling to that promise and that mystery. I love you all so much." God bless you Romy and your extended family who loves you so much.
Posted by Diomy Alexander on August 7, 2020
Kuya Romy, words are not enough to describe what a wonderful person you were. Truly you were a precious gift to the world. Your leadership, freindship, generosity, kindness and that magnetic smile will always stay in my
mind and heart. Your faith in God reflected the life you lived, you raised a beautful family and you helped many people in so many ways. We will miss you terribly but the sweet memories you left us are precious to remember. May God comforts ate Rosie and the rest of your family. 
Posted by Larraine Abesamis - Lumab... on August 5, 2020
My Kuyang (Uncle) Romy is one of a kind. Very kind and accommodating to the needs of others. I remembered, He was very joyful and always grateful every time me and my family visited him. We really loved spending time with him and with Tita Rosie even for short time only . ❤️We talked so many things, like our family in Penaranda, my children , the church and others. I will going to miss that moment Kuyang. Your words of wisdom, your faith, your generous heart and love of reaching out others is really an inspiration to everyone. You’ve touched so many lives. You’re really a faithful servant of God. I thank God for your well live life here on earth. Your legacy will live forever and you will always be in our hearts. We love you Kuyang( Uncle) Romy❤️
Posted by Art Buensuceso on August 5, 2020
In a nutshell, Kuya Romy was my big brother who helped and guided me through a life that put more value in the goodness of people. We first met back in the early 1966 when he and Ate Rosie, my cousin, graciously welcomed me to live and stayed with them while I was attending my education at the Philippine Wesleyan College. In five years of being together, I’ve known Kuya Romy for his kindness and patience. He never gets angry and keeps his cool most of the time. A very good role model. I will truly miss him. 
Posted by Aurora Garcia on July 31, 2020
Numerous memories flood my mind as I sit and ponder how Kuya Romy and I met at Wesleyan University -Philippines aka Philippine Wesleyan College. I was a newly graduate sixth-grader when with my friend and classmate, Leonora Penetrante, Kuya Romy came following us in a “kalesa”, horse driven carriage . He wanted to treat us for snacks but we were not sure if it was proper to ride with him , culture taboo in mind. So Leonora and I ran to our rented house and hid there until he left , frustrated or disappointed , I guess!
 Then he became our Literature teacher in first year high school. He was the most romantic, poetic, jolly, and vibrant teacher! Down to earth teaching, he was not shy of letting us know of his relationship with then sweetheart, Rosita Apolinario of Orion, Bataan. He even showed us her picture which we all admired ! Her beauty undeniably captured Kuya Romy’ s heart! 
  So they got married and started a family! He continued to be my teacher in third year high school in Economics. Oh , how we “hated “ him for requiring us an assimilation two weeks before closing school! But we got through it! He passed everyone anyway! 
   When I finished college, he was principal of the High School department. Immediately, he hired me without requiring any resume and in my part I did not have to submit an application to be employed. First I taught Literature to Freshmen students. Then Pilipino to Sophomore students.  What’ s funny was I taught Physical Education while I was pregnant with Erna on my third year. I guess because that was the need of the year! 
   Then there was a strike in the college. I joined the strike but unknown to some . It was very timely because I gave birth to Erna that year. Kuya Romy was part of the administration so he was sort of caught in the middle. To make the story short, Ely and he collaborated on applying for a visa to the US. He left a year before we did and ended in Iowa with the Martins. When we came in 1970 he moved from Iowa to LA to join us. 
  That started a new kind of relationship between us...one that God made and arranged for us so we can be partners in the ministry for Jesus! How he wanted for me not to work in the secular world and just concentrate in church work! But I wanted to fly! No regrets! 
  All I know is he modeled a giving, loving, generous, dedicated and committed life for the Lord! Thank you, Lord , for the eternal friendship you bestowed to us : Garcias and
Abesamises through Kuya Romy! Halleluia! You are now in the bossom of God Almighty, Kuya Romy!
Ate Rosie, Rosemarie, Boy, and Roselynn together with your spouses and children, I pray for your comfort and joy : Comfort that gives peace and joy that gives hope for tomorrow!
Posted by Rosemarie Pangilinan on July 30, 2020
One of dad’s favorite things to do is take family road trips. During the summer we would travel, sometimes for weeks at a time. He would go to AAA so he could plan out our adventures on what was called a Trip Tik. Basically a map that outlined our path.  We would go across the country visiting different national parks and sites along the way. Dad had this natural way of engaging with the park ranger, gatekeeper, attendants... soon after he would gather us to take a picture with someone he just met. Sometimes as kids we were embarrassed but now I realize what a gift it is to be able to look at someone’s eyes and make a connection. Making them feel that they are the most important person in that moment. I cherish those road trips with all my heart.  Dad, your road trip to eternity is complete. Thank you for teaching me to see each person as if I am looking into the eyes of Jesus. 
Posted by N. Adiel DePano on July 30, 2020
It is said that the two most important dates in a person’s life are the date one was born, and the date of one’s death. Separating the two dates is a dash—what does that dash stand for? If two dates are the bookends of one’s life, then the book itself, or the content of the pages of the book are what gives significance to the book itself. It’s what determines whether a book becomes a bestseller or not.

To write a book about kuya Romy’s life is a daunting task even for the best of authors. Kuya Romy was the epitome of James 2:18—Someone might say, “You have faith, but I have deeds.” Show me your faith without doing anything, and I will show you my faith by what I do.

Looking back, God knew what he was doing when I was sent to First Filipino-American United Methodist Church as my first appointment back in 1986. What a distinct privilege it was to work closely with kuya Romy—a layperson that every local church ought to have! I may have been the younger person, but he had the fire, the ideas, and the stamina to get things done. He had the charisma; he had a way with people that brought them together to collaborate, which was no easy thing in a congregation that had some real strong personalities.

Kuya Romy kept it simple. The Bible says in James 2:8-9, This royal law is found in the Scriptures: “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” If you obey this law, you are doing right. But if you treat one person as being more important than another, you are sinning. You are guilty of breaking God’s law.

Kuya Romy organized our elderly members for fellowship, for outings, for road trips. I remember borrowing a 15-seat van owned by First UMC Los Angeles from the Rev. Fink. We used it to take the seniors on a road trip to Santa Barbara.

Kuya Romy, a social worker by training, was a walking resource center. He helped new immigrants secure their social security card, first job, first car, first dwelling, etc. He took them to the public clinic, connected them with Filipino doctors. He showed them how to use public transportation. He was the public transportation majority of the time. He and ate Rosie opened their home as a temporary shelter, as a feeding center, and when Pabling used to live with them, even as an auto repair shop helping countless folks who otherwise could not afford to have the necessary repairs done to their vehicles.

Kuya Romy and ate Rosie were part of an all-church effort that orchestrated the wedding of Brenda and I on June 25, 1988 at Covina UMC. In fact, he was one of our ninongs. This union produced three children—Katerina, Julian, and Pauline, and two grandkids—Caden Joel (3) and Malia Angeline (9 months), by Katerina and our son-in-law Jape Cadlaon. Rosemarie is one of Katerina’s ninangs. Rose Lynn is one of Julian’s ninangs.

I can go on and on. But I cannot possibly capture the full significance of kuya Romy’s life. It is too much a task to place upon one person. The author of the epistle of James writes in chapter 2, verse 23—"Abraham believed God, and God accepted Abraham’s faith, and that faith made him right with God.” And Abraham was called God’s friend. (James 2:23)

No higher honor can be accorded to anyone than to be called a friend of God. Kuya Romy was a friend of God.

In closing, I’d like to share a poem by Linda Ellis entitled, “The Dash.”

I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on the tombstone from the beginning… to the end.

He noted that first came the date of birth and spoke of the following date with tears, but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time they spent alive on earth and now only those who loved them know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own, the cars… the house… the cash. What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard; are there things you’d like to change? For you never know how much time is left that still can be rearranged.

To be less quick to anger and show appreciation more and love the people in our lives like we’ve never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile… remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.

So when your eulogy is being read, with your life’s actions to rehash, would you be proud of the things they say about how you lived your dash?

Kuya Romy, you have all the reasons to be proud! We love you!
Posted by Kathleen Bell on July 30, 2020
I wish I could have known this wonderful man. His light and grace shine through in Rose Lynn and his beautiful grandchildren. We thank God for their presence in Oakland
Posted by Norman Hazzard on July 29, 2020
From the first time I met Romeo, he grabbed my hand, wouldn't let go, when he saw that I loved Pinoy food, he told me when I come to Los Angeles, his wife would cook whatever I liked. The one thing that stayed with me, from the first time that I met Romeo, with that smile of his, I just felt like his son. It's safe to say Heaven will be a happier place with his presence! My meeting Romeo is one of the high points of my life!
Posted by James Bell on July 28, 2020
Dear Abesamis Family and your beloved Filipine Community and Church,
This is Opa Jim, father to Forrest, Rose Lynn's husband, and Opa to Sofia and Nora, the angels with dark hair and with the beauty, grace and wisdom from their Filipine Ancestry. Romy and Rosita raised three wonderful children with faith and courage coming to America from the Philippines. We celebrate now that they took this big step which brought the Abesamis family to Southern California with such great impact and faith leadership. Romy was always a forward thinker, and, in his presence, I always felt his great love, faith, wisdom and dignity. Now he is smiling back at us with Jesus who received him with these words: "Well done, my good and faithful servant in whom I am well pleased."
Posted by Belen Apolinario on July 28, 2020
Kuya (Uncle) Romy, thank you so much for the love and support you had extended to us, along with Eting Rosie and your immediate family.
Like what Jonathan said, "My family is forever grateful & indebted to this generous & loving man, our(kuya) Romy. Along with Eting Rosie & your immediate family, we wouldn't be where we are today without your outpouring support and love. Imagine for a period of one year, we were able to live with you since our family of seven immigrated here in the US. Because of your loving kindness & generosity, we as recipients also learned how to love & be generous to others.
It's hard to say goodbye though we are happy to realize that you are now happy with Jesus...no more pain...no more hurting of any kind. Rest assured we'll take good care of your loved ones, especially your loving wife, Eting Rosie. May you continue to rest in peace with our Lord Almighty.
Posted by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on July 28, 2020
Sa lahat ng naging kaibigan kong lalaki buhat noong kami ay mga teenagers pa, siya ang pinakamabait at maka Dios. Naging para kaming magkakapatid lalo na nuung kararating niya dito sa USA. Tumira siya sa amin ng 11 months bago lumipat sa California. Daig pa niya ang tunay kong mga kapatid. I am glad that you are now with the Lord and all your loved ones who have gone before you. Laarni, special was so special to you. She is your inaanak sa binyag at sa kasal. My family will miss you a lot, but we will be assured that you are happy now in Paradise. We all love you and your whole family in the USA and in Penaranda. Rest in Peace, my brother!

FB Posted by Naomi Martin
Posted by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on July 28, 2020
Our kuyang (uncle) Romy was one of the kindest people I ever met. He always make sure that her whole family is happy specially when the balikbayan box is comingsayang Di pa uso Ang video that timeand when they are on holiday in his beloved town (Penaranda) he likes to sit and take a nap in our silyang pare. He loves to chat with our kamag anak (relatives) mga pamangkin,apo,lapit bahay and kwento about his child hood in our Penaranda..You love and cherished our town with the story you shared to us ..❤️ Now you are with Tatang and Ima You can hug and kiss them together with dikong and Tangko... We will never forget you our Kuyang❤️Please guide you’re two sister...You are now at peace, no more pain... Our Budang bait and gwapo n kuyang Romy is signing off❤️We love you

Posted by Sarah A. Silvestre (niece)
Posted by Carminda Kho on July 27, 2020
I am saddened to have to say goodbye to uncle Romy. However, I am happy that he is now with our Lord Jesus. He is celebrating with God, where he is now free from pain. I will always remember uncle Romy as a jolly man who was a father figure to all of us. Growing up, uncle Romy and auntie Rosie would always be there for our youth group; feeding us, driving us around, they’re our cheerleaders, and greatest supporters in everything. He’s a great uncle, friend, and most especially, an awesome father. I love you uncle Romy. Please give my mama and papa a hug for me. Don’t worry po, we’ll take care of Auntie Rosie ❤️ Rosemarie, Romeo, Rose Lynn, me, and everyone, will be here for Auntie Rosie. We’ll be here for each other ❤️❤️❤️

love,
Carminda ❤️
Posted by Alfredo Agtarap on July 28, 2020
Friends and family in Christ:

Kuya Romy, was a gifted leader. He helped gave birth to Fil-Am ministry among United Methodists in the greater Los Angeles county that left behind a lasting impression: community development, church-start, and a steady support for those who were new arrivals like my family back in 1983., 

In him exemplifies the best partnership between clergy and laity. Salamat Kuya Romy and to her family especially his loving wife, Ate Rosie.

Dr. Fred Agtarap and Naomi Agtarap, with children Sophie, Sarah, and Shalom.
Posted by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on July 27, 2020
We lost a man, a brother with a vision for church growth and evangelism. While in Rosewood, he noticed the migration of Filipinos from the Los Angeles City vicinities towards the West Covina area. In justifying his foresight of following the movement of Filipinos to the suburbs, just like the Methodist Circuit Riders of old, he said of the sacrifice required: “We need to die a little death so another congregation could live.” Bro. Romy, we salute you and commend you to the Lord to receive your reward! As the Scripture says, “Those who are wise shall shine like the brightness of the firmament, and those who lead many to righteousness will shine like the stars forever” (Daniel 12:3). Bro. Romy, the stars in the heavens will always be a reminder of your witness!
Our condolences to the Abesamis Family.

FB posted by Rev. Miguel De Guzman
Posted by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on July 27, 2020
I join Ate Rosie and family in this time of change for the family! Kuya Romy has long suffered physically but won the battle spiritually ! I thank God for his dedicated life to the Lord! God used him in my early years of social, educational, and spiritual development! As principal he hired me as a trusted teacher in Physical Education and Pilipino!
I can say more! For now, let me say .... I ❤️Kuya Romy!

FB Posted by Auring Piedad Garcia
Posted by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on July 27, 2020
Bro. Romeo Abesamis was a jolly type High School Principal at Philippine Wesleyan College and a Santa Claus look alike fellow to me. With his 86 years life span, I believe, many would have been inspired by his presence. His happy mode still lingers in my memory to this time. Which made me recall a good invitation from our Lord Jesus Christ when he said: "... I am telling you the truth; the Father will give you whatever you ask of him in my name. Until now you have not asked for anything in my name; ask and you will receive, so that your happiness may be complete."
John 16:23-24.
"... I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me will live even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die..."
John 11:25-26.
A very nice offer which no one could equate or much more surpass. I hope such an offer would never find reluctance or delay in response from anyone knowing the brevity of life.
CHRIST'S PEACE be to everyone!
My heartfelt condolences to the bereaved family.

Posted by Renato Capule
on FB page for Philippine Wesleyan College community
Posted by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on July 27, 2020

He personally wrote me a piece of advice when I was in high school because He saw my life had no purpose. I kept that letter and showed him when my best friend Eleanor Pascual Serrano and I visited him in their home in California. Kuya Romy has been a dad to so many. He left a legacy of his contaminating passion of serving God and others.

Posted by Marlene Espinosa Ona
on FB page for Philippine Wesleyan College community
Posted by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on July 27, 2020
Beautiful smile. He was our teacher in ECONOMICS. He was one of my favorites along with Mr. Martin. I never got bored when Mr. Abesamis was teaching us. He was very lively and full of life. May the Holy Spirit comfort all of his loved ones.

Posted by Deo Bartolome
on FB page for Philippine Wesleyan College community
Posted by Zeni Casimiro on July 26, 2020
During those times when I just began my life here in California, I prayed fervently to God to provide my needs: supportive friends and a job to help my finances. One Sunday, in 1980, my Uncle, Pastor Amor Oribello and Auntie Delfina introduced my friend Edna (who came with me from the Philippines) and I to FFAUMC members. We found them friendly and warm that made us felt comfortable. One of them, was the late Ninong Romy with his smiling face and vibrant personality. His constant calls and visits to our apartment, assured us we can count on him for support. I found him as kind, compassionate, receptive Christian, ready to help. Through his connection with the owner of a travel agency, I got my first job which helped me pay bills. Also, I attended events where he was invited to speak, I was a fan and listened attentively as I found his speech uplifting and relevant.

His better half, Ate Rosie, became my Ninang during my wedding ceremony, thus I called them from Ate and Kuya to Ninang and Ninong and I became closer to them.

I praised and thanked God for these answered prayers!

I’d like to say from the bottom of my heart “thank you Ninong Romy for all your kind deeds you’ve done for me, I am forever grateful!”

To Ninang Rosie, Rosemarie, Rose Lynne, Romy Jr. and families,
Our heartfelt condolence to you all! May God brings you comfort and blessed assurance that Ninong Romy is now pain free and in His Kingdom will give you strength to move on. God bless you all!
Posted by Sylvia Bell-Tull on July 26, 2020
Dear Romy -- You lived a good, generous, loving life. Thank you for being a part of mine. Thank you for sharing your wonderful daughter, Rose Lynn, with us. Now you are at peace. You are missed; I miss you. You are greatly loved by so many. Keep you heavenly eyes on Sofia and Nora ... they are amazing and wonderful! You are in my heart and I send you, Rosie, and your family loving prayers. God bless you.
Lola Sylvia Bell-Tull
Posted by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on July 26, 2020
Contributed by Nowella Aguilar Reyes:
Romy is the 2nd oldest cousin in his generation, my mother (Gloria T(rinidad) Abesamis-Agular being the oldest. They are first cousins. ... My recollection of him dates back to the time when our old house in Burgos Street was several houses away from where they lived years ago. (I was then in elementary). He and his wife Ate Rosie were both teachers(@ Phil. Wesleyan College (now Wesleyan University-Philippines). Kuya Romy, I learned later that he became Principal of said school. My mother would ask me to go to their house and bring her marketed meat to them for preservation because we didn’t have a refrigerator then.

Fast forward.... I later on learned that he left his job and relocated and permanently settled in the United States where they settled permanently...Fast forward again... i got the chance to visit the U.S. and had the chance to visit him So we reconnected.

In our short stay there, we almost forgot to sleep. We talked about our relatives, how their lives were changed by American culture and system, church matters, his old friends and many more. He seemed to have been entertained by my own tagalog vocabulary and intonation, I guess, which he rarely heard since he migrated.

He talked about his life in America and the joy of reconnecting with loved ones in Pinas.

Kuya Romy is a VERY JOLLY person. He loved his family and he was well
Loved and respected by his churchmates. He was fortunate enough to have been given a partner who Loved him so dearly. He and Ate Rosie were present at sister Clarafe and Manong Rufino's wedding in 1990 as wedding sponsors.

I am thankful I had the privilege of bonding with him when he was still strong, and when his health was deteriorating. But one thing is certain. Good souls never die. And Kuya Romy is one of those. He just relocated to a place where we believers would want to permanently settle when it’s call time in God’s own time.

Until we meet again, Kuya Romy. We love you (from your Ditse Goning and family).
John 14:2
Posted by Elizabeth Verniere on July 26, 2020
Kuya Romy was a special uncle-in law to me. I never had a dull moment with him. We always made each other smile and laugh. He was just a wonderful man. An angel has been added in Heaven. A faithful servant - well done , kuya Romy . We will surely miss you and only and always good thoughts for you. Have fun in the Lord’s mansion. R.I.P.

Sending our sincere condolences to my dearest Abesames family and relatives. Sharing in your sadness. Peace and comfort to you all with God’s loving presence. Hope I can visit u guys and b with you soon. Big warm hugs!❤️❤️❤️The Joco -Verniere family.
Posted by Nenita Naldoza on July 26, 2020
To: The Family of Kuya Romy. I share your grief for the loss of Kuya Romy. Our loss here on earth is heaven's gain, for indeed, Kuya Romy was a good person through and through. Kuya Romy's family (Ate Rosie, Mary Rose, and Boy) was my second family in Cabanatuan City during my stint as a young college teacher at Phil Wesleyan College. I love them so much. When I was in the United States for my graduate studies, I had occasions to visit them in Cerritos (?) LA, California, and attended worship services in Rosewood UMC with the family.
I thank the Lord for their good hearts in accepting me when I was in Cabanatuan City. Of course, Ate Rosie's (Apolinario) family in Orion, Bataan had been long-time friends (I come from Hermosa, Bataan). God bless, Kuya Romy (you are finally home now). God bless Ate Rosie and the family!
Dr Ben Tayabas

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Posted by Tristan Apolinario on August 11, 2020
Uncle Romy, I know you're in the better place now with God. I haven't thank you enough for everything you and Auntie Rosie had done for me. You guided me to have a good education and a better life. I will always remember you as a father figure and I will always treasure the time I was with you. Rest well Uncle Romy! Till we meet again.
Posted by Janelle Anderson on August 11, 2020
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Posted by Janelle Anderson on August 11, 2020
Tito Romy invited me to become a member of First Fil-Am UMC of SGV. Maraming salamat po, Tito Romy.
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Obituary for Romeo Maniquis Abesamis, Sr.

By Naomi Querubin Abesamis (daughter-in-law)

As a faithful follower of Christ and a servant leader for his church community, Romeo M. Abesamis, Sr. passed away peacefully at the age of 86 on July 20, 2020 at 12:35 a.m., Pomona Medical Center, Pomona, California.

For six years, Romeo was battling dementia and as the disease progressed into late stages, it became necessary for him to be in around-the-clock, specialized care. The Inland Valley Care and Rehabilitation Center at Pomona, California is a skilled nursing facility which provided long-term care for the next three years for Romeo, as he struggled with the progressive decline of vascular dementia and other complications. In these last years, his family visited him often, singing to him, praying with him, and celebrating his life.

Due to the recent global pandemic, his family was not allowed to visit him at Inland Valley Care and Rehab to protect the patients and staff from Covid-19. He was brought to Pomona Valley Medical Center emergency room for sudden heart decline (not related to Covid-19). In just a span of less than 24 hours, Romeo was given medications to help his heart continue to function long enough to gather the immediate family together. It was during this time that his wife, Rosita, and his children, Rosemarie, Romy (Jr.), and Rose Lynn were finally able to see him together one last time. Just as birth into the earthly is a miracle to be witnessed, so is the way in which Romeo peacefully left this earthly world and transitioned to his heavenly home. 

Romeo Maniquis Abesamis was born on August 11, 1933 at Peňaranda, Nueva Ecija, Philippines to his elated parents, Simeona Maniquis Abesamis and Narciso Bunag Abesamis. He was the oldest of five, with two brothers and two sisters. During his formative years, he went to elementary school at Peňaranda Central School, Peňaranda Provincial High School, and Gapan South High School. Romeo had a passion for education and in 1956, he graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree from Philippine Wesleyan College. One year later, he pursued another college degree and graduated with a Bachelor of Science degree in Education. As an educator, Romeo was a teacher and a high school principal at Philippine Wesleyan College. He met his future wife Rosita, at a leadership training of the United Methodist Youth Fellowship when she was the treasurer of the Bataan district and Romeo was the president of the Nueva Ecija district. Romeo and Rosita married and soon had their first two children, Rosemarie and Romeo Jr. During the early years of marriage and parenthood, Romeo enrolled in a graduate program at Philippine Wesleyan College, and completed 36 semester units in pursuit of a master of arts degree. The college where Romeo spent most of his career and tenure in education would later be known as Wesleyan University, Philippines.

In 1969, Romeo immigrated to the United States ahead of his family and first lived in Iowa, working at the Iowa Training School for Boys. He eventually settled in Los Angeles, Callifornia reconnecting with close friends that recently immigrated from the Philippines. Rosita and their two children followed in October of 1971.The Abesamis family became complete in 1975 as Romeo and Rosita welcomed their third child, Rose Lynn. With his background as an educational practitioner, Romeo naturally developed counseling skills, and established a career in social work at the Hollygrove Children’s Home in Los Angeles. And as if immigrating to the United States was not challenging enough, God had a higher purpose waiting in the wings for Romeo.

In 1972, Romeo was part of an advisory council which began developing a ministry for Filipinos in southern California. Romeo was a laity member of the Filipino Caucus and eventually became president in 1974. As part of the Filipino Caucus, Romeo established the Christmas Institute (C.I.) in the United States, which was a faith-based youth camp. This annual youth camp began in the 1930s in the Philippines and was a tradition of the United Methodist youth fellowship. Romeo’s labor of love for the community both in the United States and the Philippines continued on as the founder and president of the Wesleyan Alumni Association in 1978. He was also the founder and president for the Peňaranda Alumni Association in the U.S. and started a scholarship program for students. Romeo courageously led the efforts along with ten other founding families to give birth to the First Filipino-American United Methodist Church of San Gabriel Valley. He was the lay leader for the church for many years and provided support for United Methodist students to apply for college scholarships such as the HANA scholarship through the United Methodist Church. His home at La Puente, California became a welcome haven for many relatives, families, and friends who needed support and fellowship. Serving the ministry was a labor of love for God first, his family, the church, and its community--hence becoming Romeo’s life-long testament.

Romeo was often found sitting on a simple bench or chair outside of the Abesamis home at La Puente, reading the bible and his favorite books, writing future stories under his pseudonym “Mang Juan,” saying hello to passing neighbors, watering and nurturing his plants, admiring his roses, and enjoying special moments with his family--especially his grandchildren. Romeo is survived by his sisters, Lucila Abesamis Alejandro and Loreta Abesamis Silvestre; his wife, Rosita Apolinario Abesamis; his daughter Rosemarie Abesamis Pangilinan and son-in-law, Job Pangilinan; his son Romeo Abesamis, Jr., daughter-in-law, Naomi Querubin Abesamis, grandchildren, Rianna Juliet and Noah Ryan; and his daughter, Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell, his son-in-law, Forrest Bell and granddaughters, Sofia and Nora.


“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant!’” - Matthew 25:23

Early Philippine Wesleyan College Memories from Auring Piedad Garcia

Numerous memories flood my mind as I sit and ponder how Kuya Romy and I met at Wesleyan University-Philippines aka Philippine Wesleyan College. I was a newly graduated sixth-grader when with my friend and classmate, Leonora Penetrante, Kuya Romy came following us in a “kalesa”, horse driven carriage. He wanted to treat us for snacks but we were not sure if it was proper to ride with him, culture taboo in mind. So Leonora and I ran to our rented house and hid there until he left, frustrated or disappointed, I guess!

Then he became our Literature teacher in first year high school. He was the most romantic, poetic, jolly, and vibrant teacher! Down to earth teaching, he was not shy of letting us know of his relationship with then sweetheart, Rosita Apolinario of Orion, Bataan. He even showed us her picture which we all admired! Her beauty undeniably captured Kuya Romy’s heart! 
 
So they got married and started a family! He continued to be my teacher in third year high school in Economics. Oh, how we “hated “ him for requiring us an assimilation two weeks before closing school! But we got through it! He passed everyone anyway! 
 
When I finished college, he was principal of the High School department. Immediately, he hired me without requiring any resume and in my part I did not have to submit an application to be employed. First I taught Literature to Freshmen students. Then Pilipino to Sophomore students.  What’s funny was I taught Physical Education while I was pregnant with Erna on my third year. I guess because that was the need of the year! 
 
Then there was a strike in the college. I joined the strike but unknown to some. It was very timely because I gave birth to Erna that year. Kuya Romy was part of the administration so he was sort of caught in the middle. To make the story short, Ely and he collaborated on applying for a visa to the US. He left a year before we did and ended in Iowa with the Martins. When we came in 1970 he moved from Iowa to LA to join us. 

That started a new kind of relationship between us...one that God made and arranged for us so we can be partners in the ministry for Jesus! How he wanted for me not to work in the secular world and just concentrate in church work! But I wanted to fly! No regrets! 

All I know is he modeled a giving, loving, generous, dedicated and committed life for the Lord! Thank you, Lord, for the eternal friendship you bestowed to us: Garcias and
Abesamises through Kuya Romy! Halleluia! You are now in the bossom of God Almighty, Kuya Romy!

Ate Rosie, Rosemarie, Boy, and Roselynn together with your spouses and children, I pray for your comfort and joy: Comfort that gives peace and joy that gives hope for tomorrow!

Loving message from mahal na kapatid Mrs. Lucila Abesamis Alejandro

In behalf of my family I wish to convey our deepest sympathy and condolences to the bereaved family of Kuyang.
Isa sa malungkot na pangyayari sa buhay ng tao ay kapag may miyembro ng pamilya na sumakabilang buhay na, ngunit ang lahat ng ating kalungkutan ay mapapawi dahil sa ating pananalig at pananampalataya sa diyos, na siyang laha na may kagustuhan nito.
Si Kuyang ay nabuhay sa ibabaw ng lupa na taglay niya ang katangian ng pagiging mabait, magalang at ulirang anak. Mapagmahal sa kapatid at kapwa. Siya ay dakilang asawa at responsableng ama ng kanilang mga anak.
Kuyang hindi ko makakalimutan ang lagi mong pangaral sa amin na mamuhay sa makakristong pamamaraan at ibahagi namin ito sa aming mga kasama. “Live in a christian way of living and share it to others”.
To sum up, Kuyang is a very fine and responsible man. He is known by everybody as a man of principle, values, abiding faith, and unfaltering love for the lord. An outstanding teacher, a fiscalizer, a leader and a friend to everyone. God knows Kuyang had fulfilled his life on this earth. All of us will die and only God knows this. For Kuyang, you have left your physical body on this earth but your memories lingers on.
Let us remember that “Death is the golden key that opens the palace of eternity”. Kuyang we will never forget you. Goodbye for now.
Before I end, let me share to everybody verses from the holy scriptures found in Psalm 23.
The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.”
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A Letter to Dad by Naomi Querubin Abesamis

Shared by Naomi Querubin-Abesamis on August 7, 2020
August 7, 2020

Dearest Dad,

I just finished writing your obituary and it was the hardest thing for me to write. I think in some ways, I was avoiding having to write it because it was almost like a formal way of having to say goodbye and I don't know that I am ready for that. I kept thinking of these key moments that are memories of you that have been imprinted in my mind and in my heart. I feel very lucky to have known another side of you aside from the wondrous things you did for the church community, I came to know you as my father-in-law. Through this experience, I knew the human side of you, the less formal and poised side, and the intimate side that immediate family was privy to.

I remember when Jun and I were dating, he used to forewarn me about the many names he was given and known for: Boy, Jun, Romeo, Romy and I used to laugh and think he was exaggerating, but came to realize that his family really did know him by all of these names. When Jun and I were married, our videographer, Alvin was filming several family and members of our wedding party. After coming back from our honeymoon, we had to view the video to make sure the edits were okay. Alvin told us that you went back to his house in your tuxedo to redo your recorded video because you didn't like the first, impromptu one that was done at our wedding reception. Alvin asked us to choose which video clip to use for the final video. And I chose the impromptu one because I loved seeing the side of you that was not rehearsed or prepared. I felt like I was closer to you when I saw the side of you that not a lot of people saw. 

When we were moving out of Jun's bachelor pad at Chatsworth, CA and into a new home that was being built, we stayed half of the week with you and Mom and half of the week with my parents in Walnut. One morning, I woke up to the smell of a Filipino breakfast cooking at 4 a.m. I realized it was Mom cooking us breakfast before you took her to the bus station as she took the bus to work at downtown L.A. This was before Mom retired. Then when you came back, I was getting ready for work, which at the time I worked at Cal Poly Pomona. Jun was getting ready to drop me off at Cal Poly Pomona and you greeted me, "Good morning Anak!" (which means "my child" in Tagalog) and you gave me a fresh-cut rose from your rose garden. I will never forget that moment--my heart dropped. It was so sweet and so loving and I thank you for welcoming me into your family and into your life. When we moved into our new house, you and Mom were waiting with a bag of rice and salt for good luck at our new home. How is it that time really does fly by? Had I known that moments like these come in as quickly as they leave, I would have held on a little while longer.

I know that as a young professional at the time, overwhelmed with marriage, career, having my first child, Rianna, and then four years later my second child, Noah--who was then diagnosed with cystic fibrosis, I was in my own world a lot trying to navigate Life. In my overwhelm and sometimes a lot of depression Dad, I may not have had the opportunity to express all of these moments that I appreciated. I loved that Jun and I were able to give you and Mom the first grandchildren on the Abesamis side and the Querubin side of the families -- the first granddaughter, Rianna Juliet and the first and only grandson, Noah Ryan. Thank you for driving to our house early in the morning before I left for work so that you and Mom could spend the entire day taking care of Rianna and Noah while Jun and I were working, so that we could provide for our family. I'm so thankful that my kids spent many, many meaningful moments and years with you because those are the moments they will always remember.

At my sister's wedding years later, you and Mom stayed in our hotel room instead of leaving late at night and watched Rianna and Noah for us so that Jun and I could spend more time with family and cousins. When we went back to the hotel room, I found you sleeping upside down on the bed (meaning you weren't sleeping in the normal direction that people sleep on beds). I silently chuckled to myself and thought, "Oh this is why Jun sleeps like that!" And now to this day, Jun still sleeps like that, Noah sleeps like that and most of the time, I sleep like that! ;) 

When Rianna, Noah and I took that long drive to pick up Ate Rose from the airport in your last moments, Jun sent us a text  with a video of Mom and him telling you, "We love you, we love you, we love you..." It was a short video, but I realized that was the last time I would see you because we are in a pandemic and only immediate family was allowed to see you. I looked to my right and Rianna was silently wiping the tears from her eyes, and in the backseat of the car, Noah was crying quietly. And I had to stay strong so I could make sure that I drove to LAX and immediately to Pomona Medical Center so Ate Rose would make it on time to see you.  And somehow, I just knew inside that you were not going to leave this earth until you had seen Mom, Ate Rose, Jun, and Rose Lynn together at the same time--the family you loved, cherished, and cared for all the days of your life.

Thank you for all of these funny and loving moments Dad and there are so many more that I have. But for now I will keep them locked in my heart, and when I think of you, it will be a little glimpse of Heaven for you will always be with us. I love you Dad!

Love,
Naomi



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Shared by Rosemarie Pangilinan on August 7, 2020
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A Message from Ate Joy to Uncle Romy

Shared by Rose Lynn Abesamis-Bell on August 3, 2020
Thank you Uncle Romy for your love, care and kindness, and for the fond memories... We will miss your joke, laughter and your beautiful smile. Your love and faith in God shine through your family and those around you. I still remember when you went to Bataan Phils. in early 80's, I was in high school that time and you handed me the U.S student visa form that my parents needed to sign when you and Auntie Rosie filed a student visa petition for me here in the States, unfortunately, it didn't go through coz of incomplete docs on my part and for personal reason. You and Auntie Rosie have always been there for me. You will never be forgotten. Rest in peace Uncle Heaven gained another angel. God bless. We love you (Romeo Abesamis 8/11/33-7/20/20)