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Her Life

Like a Flower in the Desert

January 1, 2021
Sometimes, the most Extraordinary lives begin in the humblest and most obscure of places....Like a rare flower, growing undisturbed and tucked away in a most unassuming location....Roopa's was such a Life, a little life that began in a village in Punjab called Amritsar. Family life revolved around farming, cattle and crops, and Roopa learning to make mud pancakes out of dirt and chicken eggs.....eggs that the family needed for Breakfast, but oh well, ya gotta learn pancake making Somehow. But, Roopa was the baby of the family, so it was mostly overlooked, since farm life was busy occupying everyone with higher priorities than Roopa's raids on the chicken coop.
Now, these little chicken egg heists were part of a much happier time in young Roopa's life, but just a few short years earlier, her precious world was thrust into pain and darkness, the likes of which no child should ever have to suffer....Roopa was only about 2 years old, as one of the worst polio outbreaks was sweeping India...
Her mom had gone to a wedding for a few weeks, so Roopa was left in the care of her sisters, who had no idea why their baby sister was screaming in pain, with a fever so high that ice baths did nothing. By the time polio was done, her right leg would be twisted and unusable, so her days were spent being carried around. What would become a Hallmark of Roopa's will & determination became apparent when her father hand-made a pair of crutches for her when she was about 9 years old; she was virtually Unstoppable, going everywhere as fast as she could, and staying outside playing until well past dark. She still remembered her mom going around the village at night calling for her to come home.
When Roopa was of age to go to school, her mom's friends all chided that she should be kept at home and made to do chores, "because she's only a cripple". Her Mom fought them off and declared that no such thing would ever happen; Her daughter was going to have an education! Roopa remembers really taking to her new world with excitement and high energy, and that set the tone for the rest of her life; she was fiercely determined that polio was never going to get in her way! After her family immigrated to Canada, she would go on to learn to drive her own car, equipped with hand controls, and worked as a legal secretary in downtown Edmonton. She even made time to volunteer at a women's shelter called The Edmonton Women's Dream Center. But before all of those accomplishments, she had to bravely face several major corrective surgeries to her leg and back during her adolescence, one of which nearly cost her life. {To Be Continued......}

Roopa the Brave

February 6, 2021
Roopa spent most of the 6th grade in hospital, recovering from major corrective leg and spinal surgeries, during which time she bravely excelled in her classwork, and even won an award for an art project. However, it was a previous teacher in 4th/5th grade who had helped open up the world to little Roopa, a world that she was determined to continue exploring, as far as her imagination would take her. Her teacher's name was Sheri Long, and it was her compassion and enthusiasm that encouraged Roopa to soar. I reached out to Sheri recently, to share with her the news of Roopa's passing, and what she shared with me in her response was one of the most wonderful "gifts" I have ever received. Here is an excerpt of what she shared;
"Roopa was a bright light in a great class of students. Roopa loved to try everything. Her joy at experiencing the world, being in school, learning, trying and laughing made us all that much better.
"She was the happiest young girl, intently interested in everything, wanting to soak it all up and experience it all. She used her crutch as a tool to be able to experience it all, and it was so much more of a tool than it ever was a “crutch”. I still remember her eagerly being the first outside for recess even in the winter. She didn’t want to ever miss a thing, and appreciated everything and everyone around her. Even the grade 5 boys, which says a lot. I was lucky to have a student like Roopa, and she helped me to see the capabilities in everyone, and that barriers are just something to go over or around. That truly attitude and willingness were the most powerful tools for success. Roopa was and still is a bright shining light, and I will remember her fondly in the exciting and eager eyes of my current and future students." 

He Watches Over the Sparrow, and I Know He Watches Over Me....

February 7, 2021
Roopa’s teen years were very difficult, as her older siblings treated her disability with ridicule and emotional abuse, something which sadly continued throughout her junior & senior high school years. So, not only did Roopa have to deal with the pressures of having a disability at school, she also had to endure the emotional torments of cold & uncaring siblings in her own home. It was a daily battle for her, and there were so many times when she didn’t know how much longer she could take it.

Her one refuge was in caring for her young nieces and nephews, whom she loved dearly and watched over like they were her own. She cooked meals for them and read to them while their parents were at work, and was deeply devoted to them. That was one of the things that I fell in love with when I first met Roopa; her completely devoted attention to all the little ones in her family….a devotion that was sadly never shown to Her by her own older siblings. When they Should have taken great watch care over their baby sister, they instead chose to treat her like an orphan that had been abandoned on their doorstep. Their behaviors basically broadcast to everyone that Roopa’s disability rendered her inferior to Them, and so in their eyes, she did not qualify to be treated as an equal.

It was during this painful time that God sovereignly brought a friend into young Roopa’s life, an older woman named Judy Brown, who took Roopa to her medical appointments, as well as to church functions that Judy belonged to. Judy took Roopa to church functions and meetings where she was able to meet others who began to befriend her, giving her a wider social circle of caring people, people who did not judge her because of her disability, people who treated her with kindness and compassion.
God began to slowly move in Roopa’s heart, healing emotional hurts caused by her family, and gradually giving her a desperately needed sense of Hope….And, a true sense of Family, at a time when Roopa needed it Most. It was in Roopa’s 12th year of high school that she gave her heart to the Lord, and though the resulting hostility from her family was strong, she never wavered in her faith, but only drew closer to the Lord through it.

The Summer following her high school graduation, she went with her family to India for a wedding function, and the persecution there was very intense, with family members even hiding her Bibles and journal from her. Roopa told me after we met, that it was during that time that her relationship with the Lord grew the deepest, and became the most real to her. Her deep devotion to the Lord never wavered in all of the years following that incident.