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Nine Weeks................

Shared by Mark Judy on January 23, 2021
Hi my Sweetheart, today marks 9 full weeks since you left our lives, and started your new life with the Lord in Heaven....

The past couple of nights, I had dreams that I was fighting doctors on your behalf, doctors who wanted to do things their way even though it meant more pain for you—something that you and I had to live through countless torturous times....
Both times I woke up sure that you were in the room with me, but when the sleep began to lift from my eyes, I could see that your bed is still empty....which left me relieved that it was just a dream and you were not having to suffer at the hands of the doctors yet again... and yet feeling my heart sink again from the ache of your absence....

I just got a used treadmill so I can get in better shape, which is something I know you were wanting me to do for a very long time, but I always felt guilty looking after myself when I needed to be looking after you—so I have finally started taking better care of myself.....although, breaking a toe the first night on the treadmill was not part of the plan... I won’t be using the treadmill barefoot anymore.... (It looks like our daughter got all of her smart genes from mommy  )

And This is the picture of you I keep on my laptop screen, because you are smiling like an angel, looking right at me, so it’s almost like you’re right here....and I just sit and talk to you sometimes, and just babble on, and you, well, you just keep looking at me, smiling, letting me talk endlessly about everything and nothing....

it’s just a wonderful thing to see you looking back at me....

Words from my Wife that I live by......

Shared by Mark Judy on January 15, 2021
She really & truly had the deepest heart of devotion to the Lord that I have ever seen....So profoundly Blessed and Grateful that she was with ME.....She was an amazing woman who inspired me with her relentless hope in the Lord, her untiring selflessness & love for others, her determination to spread faith & encouragement to everyone she touched, in spite of her own daily battles with fears of what the future held concerning her failing health. If it were financially possible, I would build monuments to my wife everywhere.....but Roopa has already done that.....in the memories of all those who knew her......      

She Came Forth As Gold.........

Shared by Mark Judy on January 9, 2021
"But he knows the way that I take;
when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold.
 "My feet have closely followed his steps;
I have kept to his way without turning aside."
{Job 23:10-11
}

As Roopa’s husband, I am sure that I am not the only person who has countless times agonized over the question as to why someone as wonderful as my wife had to suffer so much. After all, I cannot think of one instance in her entire life where she held any animosity towards anyone, had a bitter or complaining spirit, ever wallowed in self-pity, and there was never a time when she ever took out her suffering on those around her.

Quite the contrary; Her spirit was relentlessly gracious, kind, and self-sacrificing in the face of unspeakable agonies, for well over 16 years...

And her furnace was mine as well... although, physically of course, I never felt her pain, my soul was in as much torment as her body was....I remember countless nights of pacing the living room floor, weeping and crying out to God for mercy, to please spare my wife further suffering...Going on Facebook, begging our friends to lift her up in prayer...and oh my Lord, I must’ve done that hundreds of times....And as God is my witness, we have had hundreds of loving beautiful people all over the world praying for my wife for the last 13 years, and you were all Gold to me...And like many of you faithful praying warriors, I too have witnessed many miracles in my lifetime, including a close friend who was completely healed of a stroke, and others healed of degenerative spine ailments, and so on...

So the mystery for me has always been, Why not my wife???

The amazing thing to me, was that Roopa never asked that question....

Maybe it was harder for me, as someone who has actually seen bona fide, real life healing miracles, whereas Roopa had never really witnessed such things....

Or, maybe it was something else....

Perhaps my wife was placing a higher value on something unseen, on something that did not simply equate to a healing of the body in this life, but on a heart and a spirit that refused to stop trusting God, no matter how fiercely the storm winds blew.....

Still Learning Meaningful Life Lessons From My Darling Wife

Shared by Mark Judy on January 8, 2021
Earlier tonight, I was reading Hosea 6:3; “Let us follow on to know the Lord”, and as I was praying about that passage, and praying over our daughter Asha to become more focused on knowing the Lord personally, I began to weep, because it really hit me how much pursuing the Lord in an intimate way has meant to me in my life all these years...It hasn’t been a pursuit of head knowledge; it has been a pursuit of personal knowledge of the Lord himself, something that I have been blessed to carry with me all my life. And it is my deepest, most intensely felt heart's desire that my daughter have the same thing operating in her life.

Then it came to me, that that is the message of the book of the Song of Solomon, one of Roopa’s favorite books of the Bible, which clearly shows a woman pursuing her lover, desiring to know him as intimately as possible, and she was willing to go through anything and everything to pursue that intimate relationship.

And then it came to me, how much I had failed in that respect with my precious wife Roopa—how I failed to maintain that desire to pursue an intimate knowledge of my precious wife, through all the storms and seasons of life, that no matter what came, I would not give up my desire, or be sidetracked from my desire to know my wife in every way intimately.... And what breaks my heart is that now that she’s gone, I cannot get that back, unless somehow in eternity, the Lord grants me new opportunities to be with my wife and to pursue that precious relationship....

Even now, I am learning beautiful life lessons through my wife, and gaining a fresh appreciation for all the things that she taught me while she was here.....gratitude, selflessness, kindness, sincere devotion to the Lord and to others....

How Our Love Story Began........

Shared by Mark Judy on December 31, 2020
Hallmark has nothing on mine and Roopa’s love story!

We met on Sunday, March 11, 2001. I was living in Juno Beach, Florida, and Roopa was here in the Edmonton, Alberta area. We actually met in an online prayer chat room, where I had gone to post a prayer request for myself.
After I posted, I felt like God said stop feeling so sorry for myself & pray for somebody else, so I began scrolling the hundreds of prayer requests just to see what might stand out—even though they all touched my heart—but as I was scrolling, a name popped up that really captured my attention; “Roopa”. My first thought was, Wow, that’s a really beautiful name, I’ve never seen that one before.
Roopa’s prayer request was that she felt very alone in her faith, as she was the only Christian believer in her East Indian Sikh family. My heart truly was gripped and went out to her. I felt so much compassion towards her. But as I was still feeling pretty depressed at the time, all I could muster to Roopa was, “Hi, I saw your prayer request tonight and just wanted to write and let you know someone is praying for you”. I sent that message to her at 2:13 in the morning on Sunday morning, and when I got up later that day, there was a response from her waiting for me.
What began as a prayer pen-pal type of friendship quickly grew into something a lot more—at least, where I was concerned; I knew within about three weeks time that if Roopa did not fall in love with me, I didn’t know what I was going to do with the rest of my life—but God let me know very quickly that if it was meant to be, HE would do it, not me. And I can say without a moment's hesitation, that Roopa was the Perfect wife for me. She had a Faith that had been tested in fire, a faith that was deeper & more steadfast than anyone I had ever known. She also had a spirituality that was simple, a hope that was pure, and a love that was sincere. She was absolutely Unforgettable, to me, and to everyone whose lives she touched.......

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