ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in memory of my mother, Ruth Taflinger 74 years old , born on December 15, 1944 and passed away on February 24, 2019. 

Ruth was born December 15, 1944 in Williamsport, Indiana to George A. and Irma V. Wurtsbaugh Taflinger. She was born fifth of five children and was close to her brother Walter. She grew up in Williamsport and Attica, Indiana.

Ruth met Richard G. "Dick" Van Horn in Attica, Warren, Indiana and they were married on December 18,1960 in Otterbein, Benton, Indiana. She and Dick divorced on 27 September 1968 in Lafayette, Tippecanoe, Indiana. She had already met and then married Leland Stanford on October 18,1968 in Ohio. She and Lee divorced on 15 November 1989 in Lafayette, Tippecanoe, Indiana.

One hobby whether she ever claimed it to be or not would have to be cooking.Ruth would spend endless hours in the kitchen during the harvest season canning vegetables.One year there was well over a hundred quarts of just green beans put up.To this day, Monty doesn’t care for Green Beans LOL.It was during this time that Ruth would decide to just try something else in the kitchen since she was already there.Christmas candy from what many folks would consider waste.Hey, how about some red and green pears this time?She seemed to be at home concocting something up in the kitchen. If you ever had her chocolate mayonnaise cake one slice was never enough. Or beef and noodles made with home made egg noodles. Ruth also was quit a seamstress and enjoyed making things out of rags.

She worked various jobs to help support the family at times.Ruth was a meticulous housekeeper.

Ruth got her GED 16 March 1989 in Lafayette, Indiana. She was so proud to have finally done it.

Ruth worked in a couple of nursing homes in Lafayette and a sewing factory near Attica, Indiana. She also worked for Village Pantry for a time. She moved to Texas to be with her son and his wife in 1997. After moving to Texas she worked in house keeping for Chateau Ville Motor Inn, as a live in care giver and in the dietary department at Coryell Memorial Hospital. Ruth had surgery on her lungs in 2005 forcing her to be on disability. Although on disability she still lived a vibrant life with her son and family until the last couple of years. Being strong willed and stubborn helped her to be a survivor.

"Maw" as her grandsons called her, was well loved and will be missed by family, friends.She returned that love to all as well as her constant companion Hobo, her dachshund.

Ruth was known by all the staff at The Meadows Nursing Home as Taffy.All of the doctors and staff fell in love with Taffy and many would visit her on their own time. One staff member would “sneak” her a cookie almost every day and on many of those occasions visit with Monty. There is no staff member that has met Taffy that doesn’t have a fond memory of her. She will be missed by them all.

Ruth was proceeded in death by both of her parents, sisters Clara Miles, Lois Millburg, Shirley Story and brother Walter Taflinger.

Ruth is survived by her son Richard M. "Monty" Van Horn and wife Tammy of Gatesville, Texas, daughter Maretta R. "Marty" Thompson and husband Michael of New London, Texas and best friend Lynn Manuel of Gatesville, Texas. She is also survived by her grandsons Adam Van Horn and wife Jewel of Temple, Texas, Thad Van Horn of Gatesville, Texas, Matthew Van Horn of DeQueen, Arkansas, John Tetrick of Longview, Texas and Richard Reames of Smyrna, Tennessee. A granddaughter Elesha Tetrick of New London, Texas. Three great grandsons, Richard J. Van Horn of Bossier City, Louisiana, Ethan W. Van Horn of Gatesville, Texas Rylan C. Van Horn of Temple, Texas and a great granddaughter Angela Nation of Bossier City, Louisiana.

(Per mom's request there will be no viewing, memorial, graveside service or obituary published in any papers. I didn't volunteer information about online obituaries LOL. This obituary will be online forever. Feel free to post a tribute or story, post pictures etc. Thanks and God Bless)


Posted by Teresa James on February 28, 2019
Ruthie, I loved you. I have many sweet memories and some not so sweet. But, that's ok. We have all made choices in life that have caused us great problems and much pain. Today, I choose to remember the good stuff! You and Lee were there for me when I needed you. We cried together and laughed a LOT together and we were just sure that WE could solve the problems of the world if only someone would listen to us! At times, you were exasperating, but I loved you anyway. You were always our special aunt and will forever hold a piece of my heart. Now your journey here is over and a new one is underway. Goodbye for now and I look forward to a great reunion one day. Oh what a party we'll have!! And please don't try to run the show up there, it's just not going to work!! ❤❤
Posted by LaRoc Cockrell on February 28, 2019
God bless you and yours Monty I know your mother was a great mother to you, she raised a great son.
Posted by Bobbie Pritchett on February 27, 2019
Ruth, I did not know you but I know your son and if you raised him I know you have to be a wonderful person and mother because you raised a very good son. I know you will be missed by many who loved you but they will remember you with love and kindness. I know you are an angel in heaven now, may God Bless you always.

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Posted by Teresa James on February 28, 2019
Ruthie, I loved you. I have many sweet memories and some not so sweet. But, that's ok. We have all made choices in life that have caused us great problems and much pain. Today, I choose to remember the good stuff! You and Lee were there for me when I needed you. We cried together and laughed a LOT together and we were just sure that WE could solve the problems of the world if only someone would listen to us! At times, you were exasperating, but I loved you anyway. You were always our special aunt and will forever hold a piece of my heart. Now your journey here is over and a new one is underway. Goodbye for now and I look forward to a great reunion one day. Oh what a party we'll have!! And please don't try to run the show up there, it's just not going to work!! ❤❤
Posted by LaRoc Cockrell on February 28, 2019
God bless you and yours Monty I know your mother was a great mother to you, she raised a great son.
Posted by Bobbie Pritchett on February 27, 2019
Ruth, I did not know you but I know your son and if you raised him I know you have to be a wonderful person and mother because you raised a very good son. I know you will be missed by many who loved you but they will remember you with love and kindness. I know you are an angel in heaven now, may God Bless you always.
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Mom & Lee living with us

Shared by Tammy Van Horn on February 28, 2019

Mom had lung surgery in April  or May of 2005 and we moved her in with us since she wouldn't be able to keep her apartment. Then in January 2006 Lee had a stroke and I moved him in as well. Monty being in Iraq at the time finds out the next time he called me. His reaction was a little bit of shock and a lot of "oh no!" Mind you Ruth and Lee had been divorced for 21 years by now and hardly spoke to one another. Within a short time they were driving me nuts wanting to know why the other one was looking down the hallway each time the other left their room etc. I have to put a divider up in the hallway so they couldn't see each other. Lee lived with us for two years before he passed away. In that time frame Ruth and Lee buried the hatched and became friends again. Needless to say,  the divider came down. Lee would pop his head in her door and ask if she needed anything each time he left. He brought her candy and flowers for Valentine's Day, Mother's day, and her birthday before he passed away. God works in mysterious ways.

Shared by Rebecca Larson on February 27, 2019

Aunt Ruthie, I would have given anything to have seen you one last time. I know your better now and celebrating with the Taflinger gang. I have so many fond memories of you visiting our house and getting to be with cousins Monty & Marty. I love you and until we meet again, “behave yourself.