We Love You Mum.
You are always in our thoughts,
You are always in our prayers,
You are with us in our memories,
And always in our Hearts.
  • 71 years old
  • Born on December 6, 1941 in Australia.
  • Passed away on March 13, 2013 .


Sandra’s family would like to thank all those people (individuals and groups) who partook in the International Candle Lighting Ceremony to commemorate her life.  The scope of participation was overwhelming and heartwarming: a true testament to the love and enduring relationships that were fostered during her life.  Thank you also to those of you who sent donations in her name to the chosen charities and to those who posted such beautiful messages.  We are truly honored by each and every gesture of love for our mother. 
Love, Nicole, Jason and Michelle.

The journey of Sandra's life provided her the opportunity to make friends all over the world.  Given the impracticality of gathering all those people in one place, it is the family's wish that Sandra's friends and family (wherever they are) participate in an international candle lighting ceremony on Saturday March 23, 2013 at 5pm (USA CST) = Sunday March 24, 2013 at 9am (Australia EST) to commemorate her.  Each person or group of friends is invited to perform a candle lighting memorial in the manner in which they feel most comfortable with – maybe a moment of silence, a prayer, a poem, a passage, or a personal message to read while the candle burns.

This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Sandra Tabbernee, 71, born on December 6, 1941 and passed away on March 13, 2013. We will remember her forever.


Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 13th March 2019
Today is always a hard day especially when I need your advice, advice only you can give.Thank you for your direction I miss it so. I will always remember you telling me the best way to help someone is aid them with the tools so they can work out a solution for themselves. I hope with all my heart that a change is coming.
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 13th March 2018
Yesterday Joshua noticed Sandra‘s last stitch on the wall. I was able to tell him how much you loved Needle work. I was able to share with him the story of how auntie Marion in Australia was able to share such a wonderful gift in completing a Needlework for each of your grandchildren. You had so many wonderful friends. Thank you auntie Marion and Margaret for reaching out to us on important days like today.
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 13th March 2017
Thank for teaching me to be "present" when listening to friends and family. I miss you so today Mum. Your picture is on the frig and your warm smile still calms me and helps me do the right thing. I miss your voice so much. Last week the boys built graves for you and nana Subie in their Mine craft worlds...I love how present you are in their worlds.
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 13th March 2016
We just lit a candle for you Mum it will burn all day. Scott said a prayer in Hebrew and the boys helped. We miss you terribly and remember all the love and light you brought to our lives. Thank you for all your kisses and cuddles... I'm so lucky to have boys who love to kiss and cuddle too.
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 6th December 2015
Happy Birthday Mum,we all miss you so much. This year music is my focus for our boys. I wish you could have seen their holiday program...you would have been so proud. They sang their little hearts out. Joshua sang Hebrew songs and Kai just loves to sing...wish you were here to teach them. I will always remember your beautiful voice and treasure our memories singing together.
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 13th March 2015
Mum, I love and miss you so much. Yesterday as we were pulling into the driveway Josh said "home again jiggity Jog" I don't think I've said that for a year. It was nice to hear it again. Today I saw a butterfly in the back yard it's amazing how your presence through butterflies and owls really warms my heart. I listened to your angelic voice today as you sang O Holy Night. It brings me to tears every time because I am so proud of such a talented Mum and so sad that I can no longer hear your voice except for in my heart. I miss our conversations, I miss you and your amazing support and love, I love you always
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 7th December 2014
Joshua and Kai keep getting phone calls from Nana Sandra and hand me their toy phones. You are the only one who calls. At first I was heart broken every time this happened but now I enjoy telling you how proud I am of them and what they have been doing right in front of them. They love this. Keep calling Mum, I love you
Posted by Sue Keeney on 6th December 2014
How. We had such a living time caring for the newborn twins. They now 4 and great young boys. With love
Posted by Michele Hennessey on 6th December 2014
Happy Birthday Sandra...I think of you often. We were able to visit Michelle and the boys this year, and it was grande! They are so vibrant and lively...real little people. They are distinctly individual and still they are clearly twins. She has been and is a wonderful mother and friend, you must be so proud watching over her and her family. You are dearly missed my friend. May God's love and eternal peace be with you.
Posted by Gwyneth Mason on 21st August 2014
I met Sandra at seminary, Phillips Theological and we became classmates and friends. I saw her again after a car accident she had driving back and forth from Enid, Tulsa, and OKC. She shared her life with me and I am glad we met when we did. I will miss her laugh and smile and wisdom. Love and prayers to her and her family, kids, grand kids and great grand kids!! Love you Sandra! Gwyneth
Posted by Charlotte Harper on 15th March 2014
She made my life a better place to be. I will never ever forget her and how she helped me change my life. She was a beautiful, loving and vibrant soul. She was heaven sent. Thank you Lord for this angel.
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 13th March 2014
I miss you Mum.
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 6th December 2013
Happy Birthday Mum, I miss you every day. I am so sad that I can not hear your voice today. I hope you hear my voice when I talk to you... I see owls all over Sanibel, I never noticed them before...so I know you're watching over us. I love you so much
Posted by Jenni Shrum on 27th August 2013
Sandra made a huge difference in my life, I'm thankful I had the opportunity to be her patient. She helped me rebuild my relationship with my mother and because of her help, my mom and I are extremely close now. Thank you Sandra for your loving, kind and remarkable way of looking at situations and your gift of extreme compassion. You were a healing force in my life.
Posted by Greg Shaw on 5th May 2013
Sandra, I miss your beautiful smile, your joyful but down-to-earth outlook, your friendship,your caring as you often said to me 'o shut your face!' I appreciated most your support of Jenny as a minister's wife and as a friend, it was a joy to behold. At the Winter Haven Relay for Life I did the service to remember loved ones lost to cancer, I lit a luminary for you and for Jenny.
Posted by Sue Keeney on 8th April 2013
Fond memories abound from the many hours we spent caring for our children's new born twins. Rocking, walking, feeding and feeding some more;those dear little tiny boys. Nana Sandra always trying to calm one of them with her old saying gully gully gully gully! Much loved and sorely missed. Too soon gone from our lives.
Posted by Robin Spurling on 5th April 2013
I am so sorry to hear of the passing of Sandra. She became a good friend during my seminary years. I reconnected with her when I moved to Illinois. My life is certainly better from having known her. My sympathies to her family, whom she loved so deeply.
Posted by Margaret Bottomley on 31st March 2013
Will always remember Sandra for her lovely smile just like her Mum spent some happy times singing in Eisteddods and Oakover Choir a lovely Christian person. Now in God's presence.
Posted by Reg Slaney on 26th March 2013
Sorry to hear of the passing of Sandra,our Bridesmaid 51 years ago. She, her brother Les and her mother and father were always a very special family to us and were much loved. We had many great times together in our youth, holidaying, shopping, swimming tennis etc. Our love to all of her family. Lois and Reg Slaney
Posted by Meryl Dawson on 24th March 2013
Remembering lots of happy times as teenagers in Melbourne, Australia. We respected Sandra as a Godly example to her peers in the 60's. lo e and prayers to all her family. David and Meryl
Posted by Dorothy Smith on 24th March 2013
Today I lit a candle, in memory of my special friend Sandra. Thankyou for the friendship we had as teenagers and young mums. I have just listened to your beautiful singing, and my memories flooded back to our singing trio "The Tritones", what fun we had. My special love to Nicole Jason and Michelle, and all her beautiful grandchildren, that she adored. I will miss you my friend.Rest Now.
Posted by Kylie Winstanley on 24th March 2013
Nic, i was saddened with the news of your mums passing. Special thoughts, hugs and strength at this time. love to you and all your family -
Posted by Earl Haggard on 23rd March 2013
What a loss the world has experienced in the homegoing of Sandra. She was a joy and a delight. As I visited her on a weekly basis for about 2 years while in seminary--she always knew the right thing to say. It may not have been easy to hear but you always knew it was said in love and compassion. I thank God for her love and support during that time. I will never forget dear Sandra.
Posted by Sondra Tilsley on 23rd March 2013
I was blessed to know Sandra in Enid, OK. My memories include her feeding me dinner during those Seminary days. She was the only one who has ever gotten me to eat lamb. Her kindness and hospitality have always and will always be remembered. Sympathy and prayers to all her loved ones.......
Posted by Erica Tabbernee on 23rd March 2013
Tonight with your favorite lavender candles, photos, your perfume and the Aussie flag we felt like we were surrounded by your love. You will always be missed but never forgotten, The flame of your life can never be extinguished.
Posted by Philippa Holm on 23rd March 2013
It has taken me a while to write here. I am so very sad to hear this so soon after I reconnected with you and Michelle. You were a shining light in my childhood, always there no matter what we were doing. Supporting the horse dreams and pulling me out of the pool after falling in off a pogo stick in the middle of winter!! My Deepest Sympathies, I will never forget xxx
Posted by Shenia Pierin on 23rd March 2013
The candle light was such a precious moment to think about Sandra and the beautiful person that she was. I will miss such a lovely lady. I am glad I had a chance to meet her. Be in peace Sandra. Love
Posted by Selma Bartsch on 22nd March 2013
From the Handicraft Circle, part of the 50+ Club of the Hoffman Estates Park District - Rica, Marian, Sylvia, Ann, Arlene and of course Sandra, who was with us for about 2 or 3 years. The whole group favored her very much. We will remember her fondly for a long time. She will be missed very much.
Posted by Hollie Smith on 20th March 2013
I remember your mom really well!! She was always so sweet to me! She will always live on in the amazing children she raised!! I love you guys and I am so sorry for your loss! Love Hollie
Posted by Angelika Mitchell on 19th March 2013
Met with Sandra an hour a week for a year while I was in Seminary. I will always remember her smile. Never met someone so non-judgmental, compassionate and gentle. What a blessing she was to me. She is one of those people I will never forget.
Posted by William Tabbernee on 19th March 2013
With gratitude for the life and love we shared for over forty years; for our wonderful children, Nicole & Scott, Jason & Erica, Michelle & Scott and our beautiful grandchildren Andrew, Adam, Mya, Kai, & Josh; and for seeing you again recently to be able to say goodbye personally. Your suffering from cancer is over. Rest in peace in God presence; always remembered by we who loved you.
Posted by Julia Selling on 18th March 2013
Sandra was my counselor for over 7 years. She walked with me through all of of my pain and saw me through to the other side. The side where I found joy in life. Sandra was the most loving, caring person I have ever known. She truly loved without judgement. She was one remarkable lady. She was so proud of her family, her grandkids. She is at peace and with God now. Forever Loved.
Posted by Julia Selling on 18th March 2013
Sandra is the reason I am now in college to get my social work degree. I spent an hour a week with her for over 7 years. She has been my inspiration. After I 'graduated' from counseling, all the tools she gave me carried on. I still hear her voice when I'm at a crossroad. I will get my degree and make her proud. She was a beautiful lady. I love her dearly.
Posted by Peter Lampe on 18th March 2013
Dear family, I only met Sandra once years ago in Greece but was impressed by her kindness. My condolences for your tremendous loss. Peter Lampe, Heidelberg, Germany
Posted by Beth Gerardy on 18th March 2013
From the moment I met Sandra in 1991, I felt a special affinity. She was wise, kind, strong, devoted, and loving. I count her as a dear friend. We shared many hours together, and I was enriched by her generous sharing of herself. I will miss her. I send my best wishes to family as you grieve and heal.
Posted by Michele Hennessey on 17th March 2013
She loved you all so much. Each one of her children, Jason, Nicole and Michelle...and all of your children, and your spouses, and their families. And she loved me. And I think Sandra was wonderful, she made me feel valuable. She will be missed in this world. She was brave, and happy, and proud and humble and strong, as are all of her children. May peace be upon our friend as love remains.
Posted by Scott Schwartz on 16th March 2013
Although finally at peace and with the angels, mum will be ever present in my heart and mind. Always visible through the love, compassion and dedication Michelle has to family. Mum, you gave me my most precious treasures, Michelle and my boys.
Posted by April Swinnea-Ogg on 16th March 2013
Michelle and Family, I knew your mother briefly when you and your family lived in Enid, Oklahoma. She was always filled with love and light and was one of those people who seemed to find joy in everything she did. It was an honor to have had the opportunity to know her. My deepest sympathies to all.
Posted by Kate Pozeznik on 16th March 2013
Dear Michelle, Jason, Nicole, and Family, My condolences for the tremendous loss of your Mum. She was a kind lady whose special legacy lives on in each of you. I pray that you find some peace as the healing process begins. Much, much love to all of you from Kate, Nate, and Wren
Posted by Bethann & Peter Talbot on 16th March 2013
She was a very special lady. Thank you for giving us Michelle and my beautiful nephews.
Posted by Michelle Tabbernee on 15th March 2013
As children, we can't comprehend or fully realize the meaning of our mother's love, how tender and how wise...The patience and forgiveness that are part of every day, the unexpected "little things" she does in her own way.Years go by before we can look back on life and see through older eyes and wiser hearts her love and loyalty, thank you for everything Mum we love you.

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