Shar Cox
  • 65 years old
  • Date of birth: Jul 21, 1948
  • Date of passing: May 2, 2014
Shar was full of love and was always the life of the party. Help us celebrate her life by sharing your fond memories.

This memorial website was created to honor the memory of Shar Cox who touched so many lives.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Bill & Jo Ann Wheeler on 21st July 2017

"Bill and I  thought of Shar this morning on her birthday.  We so enjoyed her and think of her so often.  She was such a spark in so many of our lives and so many memories that we continually talk about.  Glad she was a part of our life.  Jo Ann"

This tribute was added by Donnnie Bollinger on 4th May 2017

"We miss you... RIP  hugs  Donnie Bo"

This tribute was added by Donnnie Bollinger on 21st July 2016

"We sure miss you and your smiling little face    We love you so much and god bless you   hugs Bo and Molly"

This tribute was added by Terri Day on 2nd May 2016

"Forever in our hearts .....much love! Lamar,Terri and Taylor Day and the whole gateway crew..xxoo"

This tribute was added by Donnnie Bollinger on 23rd July 2015

"Memories.... are great,  and we sure had fun floating the Middle Fork of the Salmon... for one whole week...and could she fly fish.... I was truly blessed to know her and have her as part of the family... Hugs Bo"

This tribute was added by evelyn andrews on 2nd May 2015

"Shar was a smart and fun lady. She could be the life of the party, but she could just as easily be your confidante and an ear when you needed one. She was one of Jerry's favorite nieces and we will miss her always. Our thoughts today are with her and her loved ones."

This tribute was added by Terri Day on 4th September 2014

"Not only was Shar one of my favorite customers here in the canyon but I considered her and Darryl great friends ! To learn of her passing hit us hard and very unexpected....every time she and Darryl came to gateway they came berring gifts! But the gift I'm most fond of is her perfect smile! Our hearts go out to her family and we are truely gonna miss her presence .I hope the breakfast menue in heaven consists of a gateway breakfast burrito! You know wat I'm saying!   Love and miss you ..always Lamar ,Terri and Taylor Day xxoo"

This tribute was added by jeanne hodges on 18th June 2014

"Why Shar chose me to be her closet friend in high school is still a mystery, but whatever the reason, I feel so fortunate that our life's paths crossed.  Shar possessed an indomitable and innately happy spirit.
In spite of our many teenage traumas, she seemed to live life on a higher plane and was always happy and upbeat.  My life has been enriched because I knew her.
Many posts have mentioned Shar's hair.  It was bright orange, but it had the texture and luminosity of corn silk, . . . . . .and her personality definitely matched her hair - bright, soft, and luminous.  Whenever I see a woman with red hair I think of Shar, but I mhave never seen anyone with that same color.
One experience we shared in our college years, which produced many fond memories, was the summer we spent together working in Lake Tahoe, but I'll never forget throwing peas at eachother as we worked the night shift on the conveyor belt at Birdseye after high school graduation.  One summer my dad took our trailer up to a mountain resort for Shar and I to spend the week together playing in the water and the sun, but it rained the whole entire week! To relieve the boredom, we played cards until the edges were tattered.  Whatever our circumstance, being with Shar made everything fun. She laughed her way over any difficulty.  What was an impassable crevice to me, was but a mere crack to her.  That "big picture" perspective was one of the many reason she was so such a delight to be with.
Because of scheduling conflicts, I was never able to attend the high school reunions, but Shar always called with "the report" and kept me informed about the chatter from the lunch and bridge games too.  Unfortunately, E-mail replaced phone calls and I have missed hearing her happy, sunny voice.
Shar brought a little bit of heaven with her when she came to earth and has now returned to the source of the light of her wonderful spirit.  I know that she is happy where she is now, and heaven is undoubtably brighter because she is there. I miss her, but look forward to seeing her again in her native habitat."

This tribute was added by Doris Ann Asmus-Jones on 27th May 2014

"I first met Shar back in the early 1970's in Pocatello.  She was the secretary in Dave Asmus' office and her best friend, Julene, was a teacher at the school where I worked.  Shar and Julene had a clothing party and I was invited.  When I went to the party, Dave happened to drop by and the girls introduced us, which led to Dave and I marrying, sharing almost 35 years of life.  We moved to Boise, then Shar and Julene and husbands also moved to Boise.  Sadly we didn't stay in touch but a bit thru the years.  Our kids were older and our paths didn't cross enough, that's for sure.  My memories include Shar as the vivacious redhead that easily shared her quick wit and love of life.  She was a closer friend to Dave than me, I think, and he treasured her friendship from those early years in the office and on.  Shar and I were born in the same year, and it's with joy for her in our lives that I share this little but very life-changing story.  Without her, Dave and I may have never met and had our lovely family.  Thank you, Shar.  You'll always be a treasure in our life story."

This tribute was added by Doreen Martin on 21st May 2014

"I first met my good friend Shar in our junior year of high school when this beautiful red head had the nerve to "invade" Caldwell High from our biggest rival school, Nampa.  She was fun and witty, and everyone loved her.  After high school we parted ways and didn't reunite until our 10-year class reunion when we discovered that we only lived about six blocks from each other in Boise.  Shar asked me if I played bridge and would like to substitute in her night-time bridge group.  I said that I played a little (actually very little) and that was the beginning of a life-long friendship.  One of the best things in my life has been being a part of "the bridge group," sharing good times and bad times and always having total support when needed.  After being away from Boise for 16 years, I just moved back and looked forward to spending many more years with my good friend, Shar.  Shar was one of the most positive and fun people I have ever met, and I will truly miss her.  She touched my life in a big way -- Continue touching lives, Shar.  I love you dearly."

This tribute was added by Meridith Allis on 20th May 2014

"Dear Shar, my friend
The day you left us was a very sad day.  You touched so many lives and had so many friends!  I remember the first day we met at Ore-Ida and I knew we would be life long friends.  We had our Margaritas at lunch weekly, well I guess, daily,  plotting how to get out of our job.

Then we started realizing the other friends that had a connection through a tangle of relationships and we had our bridge club.  Our retreats were the best with dancing, singing, laughing and marching around the room.  You were always the first one to jump up to dance with whoever would join in.  

Through the years I have always appreciated how you would interpret a situation whether big or small.  It seemed you usually had a different take than I was seeing but you were right because you would find a positive aspect and shine a different light on it.  I have had many times that I would ponder "what would Shar say".  Your glass was always full and that was how you lived you life.

You are with me in mind and spirit and I think about your beautiful smile and your love of life and love of everyone around you.  When my time comes, I want to be a twinkle in thee sky next to you.  My love to you."

This tribute was added by Bill & Jo Ann Wheeler on 17th May 2014

"Shar had unlimited qualities, but two that stick out are her unconditional friendship and zest for life.  She accepted all her many friends without condition.  As far as she was concerned, friendwhip was for life.  She approached life with zeal, whether it was being a grandma, playing a rousing game of bridge, golfing, fishing, etc, etc.  She was up for pretty much anything.  One time that sticks out is the hike to Lost Lake on West Mountain south of Cascade.  Bill
was leading the way out, missed the trail, and started bushwhacking.
Shar was somewhat aggravated (no, she was pissed).  I know she is looking down now, saying "just stay on the trail, Billy Bob".
We love you forever, Shar!!"

This tribute was added by Judy and Jack Acree on 17th May 2014

"We have had the privilege of being Shar and Darrell's neighbors for the last twenty years - what fun, generous, good-hearted people!  Shar had a way about her that made you feel important.  We  always left a visit with Shar with smiling faces and a little more spring in our step.

Darrell, Melissa, Peggy, and all other family and friends, we share your sadness.  Our memories of Shar, however, will still always bring a smile to our faces."

This tribute was added by Paul Frisk on 14th May 2014

"...from a member of the Nampa High School Class of '65.  Although Shar moved to Caldwell in '62, she was never forgotten. Even to the point of trekking to Caldwell (to the dismay of the Nampa High co-eds)
to catch up with "The Andrews Sisters."  Upon announcing you had a date with one of the Andrews sisters, the question always arose: "Which one?  The smart one with the orange hair, or the funny one?" Their parents were always most accommodating and it was always a family affair. Fondest of memories.  Shar will truly be missed by all those whose lives she touched..including myself.  Paul Allen Frisk"

This tribute was added by Mike DePaul on 13th May 2014

"Thanks to knowing Shar I became a better person. She was an unbelievable person.  My thoughts and prayers go out to Darrell and The entire family.."

This tribute was added by Peggy Andrews on 12th May 2014

"Dear dear Shar,
From carrot top kid to bella luna woman--what a marvelous life's journey you had!  I was the daughter with the wanderlust and you the one who kept the home fires burning warmly for family and friends.  You were kind and always ready to "ravel the sleeve of care" when needed.  Thank you for so many wonderful memories and teaching me many things, but especially how to share and that generosity is more fun.  Farewell, Sis, you are beautiful to no end and always in my heart.  I love you forever, Peggy #2"

This tribute was added by Donnnie Bollinger on 8th May 2014

"When Shar and I met years ago we both agreed there was an instant connection between us which grew to something far beyond just friendship.  We called it a kinship.  Nine months ago she allowed me the privilege of taking the journey of her illness with her.  We talked almost everyday about subjects too numerous to list, however, every conversation always included our wonderful Melissa and our beautiful Ella and Evan.  We ended each call with "I love you" and her last words to me were "I love you".  She enriched my life and all that knew her.  I cherish every memory we had together and loved her with all my heart.. I called her my hero and she said she liked that.  I love and miss you more than words can say.  Goodbye my wonderful Shar you really are my hero."

This tribute was added by jeannette skinner on 8th May 2014

"I met Shar when we were 15 and she transferred from Nampa High to Caldwell High.  She caused quite a stir.  Everyone wanted to know the new girl with the orange hair.  She had the most amazing color of hair.  I have a feeling she caused a stir from the time she was born.  She was the funniest person I have ever known.  And she was a great friend.  She was courageous, always spoke her mind.  She ate life.  I will miss her forever."

This tribute was added by Kim Swanson Law on 7th May 2014

"I spent a lot of my childhood with Shar and always felt welcome and a part of the family.  Melissa was one of my bestest friends growing up and there were times that I felt like the adopted sister.  Shar always gave the best advice and said the right things just when I needed to hear it.  Oh, and that spaghetti sauce!  I will never forget the spaghetti sauce...not just the taste, but the love that was put into it.  Shar's laugh, hugs and bright spirit will forever be missed.  Sending my love to you all!"

This tribute was added by evelyn andrews on 7th May 2014

"Sharolyn was someone who could disagree with you and still have your respect because she was genuine. She was so likeable, I think because she liked others, and it showed. Uncle Jerry and I are saddened by the loss of Shar, as is everyone who knew her. We can picture in our mind's eye the mischievous look on her face when she would tell a particularly juicy tale! She was a character...and well loved by all."

This tribute was added by Melissa Bollinger on 5th May 2014

"Thank you, Mom, for being that perfect balance of mother, best friend, and therapist.  You were always patient and supportive and my biggest cheerleader.  You were the first person I wanted to share my successes and heartaches with- usually over a fried egg sandwich.  I can only hope to have the same incredible relationship with Ella Jean.  I will miss you every second of every day, but am so thankful for all the gifts you've given me.  You are truly my Phenomenal Woman."

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