When we take our vows and say, "until death do we part," we are lying to ourselves. Death only brings a physical departure. A marriage and the bond between a husband and wife make two people into one. That means that even when we lose a wife, we are still left with that special love that burns inside and never dies. That internal love burns on even if our wife is no longer with us. Clinging to that love inside of us, even if it can never be physically expressed, sustains me in her passing.
The grief and pain can be almost unbearable; you cry a river and your sorrow knows no end. You never really know what it’s like until you are there yourself.
We lived as husband and wife for 30 years. All through this period she was my pillar of support, my friend, my companion, my partner and my wife. I miss a million things, every detail of who you are. I miss your mind , body and soul.
You’re a wonderful mother to our children. Each of them love you so dearly. You have been to them a mentor, an example, a teacher, a comfort, a place to turn for insight and wisdom, a friend, a role model, a light, and one in whom they can trust. You have made them secure in your love! We all thank you.
My second biggest heartbreak (first been loosing you) is that our 6 grandchildren will not get to experience your affection first hand. They all however are well aware of who you are and what you brought to the family.
I am trying hard to carry on in ways that you would approve of.
I still say I am one lucky man to have been given the gift of you.
Your loving husband