Shelley was born in Lethbridge Alberta to parents Joe (Joseph) and (Marion) Sherri Mandel March 28, 1967.
Shelley was the 3rd child of the family joining eldest brother Cam (Cameron) and Roger.
She was raised in the town of Warner in southern Alberta and attended Warner elementary and junior high. For her high school years she traveled to and attended Raymond High School and graduated there in the spring of 1985.
The fall of 1986 she was enrolled at the University of Lethbridge where she studied for 3 years.
From an early age she always showed compassion and caring to everybody and everything.  She grew up in a home with two small poodles Tiffany and Mojo.  She loved these dogs growing up and had several including her dear Basil and now Bennett.
She met her soul mate and the love of her life Pat Schroh in 1994 when Pat was working in the town of Warner.
Shelley and Pat dated for some time and on June 24, 1995 they were married in Lethbridge.
In 1997 Shelley and Pat moved to Calgary where Pat started a home construction company which they ran together. 
Shelley and Pat welcomed children Spencer March 97, Kaden Jan 2000, Zane Apr 2004 and Mylan Apr 2005 into their home.
In 2000  Shelley was diagnosed with MS. A shock at her young age, she was determined to not let it slow her down and for the next 20 years she fought it into submission. 
Shelley was the comsumate homemaker.  She was an incredible chef in the kitchen.  She had a passion for great food.  She loved watching cooking shows and collected innumerable cookbooks.  Everything from her tomato pasta sauce to her famous snickerdoodles and puffed wheat squares. Her trifle was legendary with enough booze to stagger you. 
In the house the day of her accident there was a huge container of she and Pat's famous Almond Roca they made on Sunday. She learned to make Roca from her father and recently proclaimed with the Amish butter  mother dragged back from Kalispell that she had finally made it taste better than Joe's.
In the fridge currently there are 3 large batches of snickerdoodle dough wrapped in plastic.  She was on the ladder in the garage retrieving her Christmas cookie cutters when she fell. 
There are many things that can and will be said about my sister. I have a few comments to lead off these tributes.
Shelley had a passion for helping people, whether it be relatives, friends, neighbours or strangers.  Shelley's eyes saw many injustices in life and she worked tirelessly to make some of those right. She loved and really cared about everyone she met.
Shelley loved Pat so very much and the boys she brought into the world were her proudest accomplishment. She worked tirelessly on their behalf, from soccer coaching to volunteering at their schools.  She was very very much involved in every aspect of their lives and along with Pat helped them become the people they are today. 
Shelley was so so proud of Spencer's graduation from Depot this past spring as well as Kaden's graduation from high school as well as his university attendance. 
Shelley had a passion for the colour PURPLE.  Mom tells me it goes back to a beautiful deep purple coat she had as a child.  We looked for the black and white photo of her in it and could not find it yet.  But this passion/obsession was with her though out her life.  There will be many photo's shared of Shelley and almost without exception purple will be in the photo. 
Shelley was also very proud of me as her brother and she was a huge support during the time after dad's passing dealing with the farm.
I am so very proud of her and her accomplishments as a wife and mother.  Times like this you think and know you did not say that enough.  Little sister "you done good" in your life and have left a legacy we are all proud of.
Say hi to dad and give him a big hug from me.  
Till we meet again Love Cam

Shelley's family, husband Pat, sons Spencer, Kaden, Zane and Mylan along with mother Sherri, brother Roger and myself would like to let everyone know that though this is an unexpected tragedy there is some solace for us in that Shelley gave the ultimate gift of life through organ donation.  
The team at Foothills let us know this past Friday that 7 people received the gift of life though Shelley's contributions.  Please sign your donor cards and have it put on your licence. 

Posted by Elya Cary on January 10, 2020
To all of Shelley's family,

I only recently learned of Shelley's passing (we were away for sometime) and I can't tell you how saddened and shocked I (and my family) feel, I can only and hardly imagine the loss you are feeling at this moment. I knew her as Miss Purple, she taught 3 of my kids- in the 2 year old program. She was the reason I would ever have my kid in a 2 year old preschool program PERIOD. I loved her, and my kids loved her! She was the kind of person that never forgot a name and knew exactly how to comfort and care for the little ones in a way that can only be done by someone who was doing exactly what they were meant to be doing. She was meant to teach little kids, I am certain of this. I don't know a teacher that could match the energy she brought to a space, she was one of a kind and can never be replaced, the void feels heavy at school, and my heart aches for her own children, who's home is forever changed without her in it, I can only imagine.
She used to laugh when telling me that her routine with my jack in order to soothe him when i dropped him off in the classroom was to, "hug him tight, give him a sip of water and occasionally let him wipe his snot on my shirt, then bug him about it". My kids knew she was a safe place to land, her gift to them was her presence. She was funny, loving, fair, organized, she cared and it showed in every way.
The world felt better with her in it, i will never forget Shelley and I will make sure my kids don't either, and god forbid that my kids or any children for that matter, should ever have to leave this earth early, knowing that Miss Purple would be there to hug them, give them a sip of water and a safe place to wipe their nose, brings me comfort. I pray for these same moments of comfort for your family as your grieve the loss of a very very special soul. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
With Love,
Elya Cary
Posted by Cyrus Fletcher on December 14, 2019
Sherri,Cam,Roger,Pat and children.So very shocked and saddened to hear of Shellies death.She was always Joe and Sherries little girl.Shelley will live on by her generous organ donation and will always live on in our hearts.
Posted by Diana Melnyk on December 14, 2019
Sherri, Cam and Roger, My Heart is so sad knowing your sweet Shelley has passed away. There are no words but just want you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know families are forever and you will be reunited one day. It is the time in between for that reunion that is so hard. Much love-Danni Pittman Melnyk
Posted by Jessica Garcia on December 11, 2019
There are no words to express how sorry I am for you loss. My dear friend was a blessing in my life, her kindness will be in our hearts forever. My thoughts and prayers are with her family.
Posted by Shelley Murray on December 10, 2019
To Shellys family and friends,so sorry to hear of Shellys accident and tragic death last week. I meet Shelly through ffca and all her work on the board and I through my work with the school councils. She was dedicated to ffca and the staff and students at the school. And was tireless fighting everyday for the well being of staff, students and what she believed the school needed to make it great. I am sorry your family has to go through this and our school lost a wonderful advocate even though she was no longer on the board. I Know she was so proud of her boys and theirs accomplishments in school and their hobbies and career choices they made so far. We have got to know Zane more around our house as my son Carson is a good pal of his, he has been here many times for hanging out and Zane always had something nice to say Or a story to tell about his mom. We wish you peace and comfort and it was a wonderful thing you did donating her organs for others who needed them to have, she will live on in those people. Take care
Posted by Allison Vanderveen on December 10, 2019
Dear Family of Shelley,

When word made it to me that Shelley had sustained an accident, my world paused. I immediately froze in the moment, as I was in disbelief. My memories of Shelley are the warmest memories. I had met Shelley and Pat when I was 8 years old...I am now 31. I had the pleasure of living next door to Mrs. Purple :) We had met when I was walking back from the candy store and Shelley had her new puppy Basil out on the porch. She called me over to meet her puppy and for the next 10 years or so, you could find my sisters and I at Shelleys house (or in her pantry)! We would make crafts, cookies, play games and oogle over all her purple items! We watched her carry and raise her boys and stayed close through out our lives. Shelley was always there. Always at bridal showers, weddings, baby showers and special events. She was always supporting everyone and had the ability to make each person feel like they were the only one who mattered to her. She embodied unconditional love. I cherish so many memories of Shelley, and I now cherish the beautiful baby blankets she had made for my 18 month old son. He and I will forever wrap ourselves up in Shelleys love. My eyes are flowing as I write this... there are so many wonderful things to remember about sweet Shelley. I love you forever Shelley. I love you Pat, Spencer, Kaden, Zane and Milan. Our lives have intertwined because of your beautiful wife and mother... I will always honor her memory with a smile and kind words. I will always remember Mrs. Purple. Rest easy Angel. 
Posted by Jerri-leigh Goldade on December 10, 2019
Shelley and I spent a lot of time together as kids growing up. So many great memories! Purple everything...room, clothes, hair! She did have another obsession when we were kids...The Bay City Rollers! But I think that one faded as we got older. She truly was one of a kind!  Sending love, hugs and prayers to her husband and children as well as Sherri, Cam and Roger. Shelley was an amazing person and will live forever in our hearts.
Posted by Leslie Pogue on December 9, 2019
Pat, Spencer, Kaden, Zane and Mylan,

I admired the way Shelley lived her life and the light she brought to others. She was a very special friend and I am deeply sorry for your loss. She will be missed and always remembered. Sending you my deepest condolences to her family.
Posted by Deb Ainscough on December 9, 2019
Send my hugs and prayers to Cam, Roger and Sherri.
Shelly was such a joy to us all when were growing up in Warner.
To Shelly's husband and children, send you all our condolences.

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Posted by Elya Cary on January 10, 2020
To all of Shelley's family,

I only recently learned of Shelley's passing (we were away for sometime) and I can't tell you how saddened and shocked I (and my family) feel, I can only and hardly imagine the loss you are feeling at this moment. I knew her as Miss Purple, she taught 3 of my kids- in the 2 year old program. She was the reason I would ever have my kid in a 2 year old preschool program PERIOD. I loved her, and my kids loved her! She was the kind of person that never forgot a name and knew exactly how to comfort and care for the little ones in a way that can only be done by someone who was doing exactly what they were meant to be doing. She was meant to teach little kids, I am certain of this. I don't know a teacher that could match the energy she brought to a space, she was one of a kind and can never be replaced, the void feels heavy at school, and my heart aches for her own children, who's home is forever changed without her in it, I can only imagine.
She used to laugh when telling me that her routine with my jack in order to soothe him when i dropped him off in the classroom was to, "hug him tight, give him a sip of water and occasionally let him wipe his snot on my shirt, then bug him about it". My kids knew she was a safe place to land, her gift to them was her presence. She was funny, loving, fair, organized, she cared and it showed in every way.
The world felt better with her in it, i will never forget Shelley and I will make sure my kids don't either, and god forbid that my kids or any children for that matter, should ever have to leave this earth early, knowing that Miss Purple would be there to hug them, give them a sip of water and a safe place to wipe their nose, brings me comfort. I pray for these same moments of comfort for your family as your grieve the loss of a very very special soul. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
With Love,
Elya Cary
Posted by Cyrus Fletcher on December 14, 2019
Sherri,Cam,Roger,Pat and children.So very shocked and saddened to hear of Shellies death.She was always Joe and Sherries little girl.Shelley will live on by her generous organ donation and will always live on in our hearts.
Posted by Diana Melnyk on December 14, 2019
Sherri, Cam and Roger, My Heart is so sad knowing your sweet Shelley has passed away. There are no words but just want you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know families are forever and you will be reunited one day. It is the time in between for that reunion that is so hard. Much love-Danni Pittman Melnyk
her Life

The closing chapter

It is interesting in these situations that everyone wants to know what happened to my sister.
I thought it would be appropriate to detail what happened first so the family particularly Pat, the boys and mom do not have to continue to explain and second to let everyone know how quickly life can change from such an innocent seemingly benign activity. 
As many of you know Shelley was a homemaker first.  She cared and spoiled her boys including Pat with incredible cooking and baking.  Tis the time of year for Shelley to do her Christmas baking. 
On Tuesday Dec 3rd she had made several "batches"  (never understood that term from a volume perspective) of her famous Snickerdoodle cookie dough.  As many bakers know this was prepared and then wrapped and put in the fridge to cool.
At some point in the afternoon of the 3rd she went to the garage and climbed a small ladder to reach a storage tub (purple of course) on a shelf over the door. The tub contained all kinds of cookie cutters and pans in the shape of trees and wreaths etc used for Christmas baking. 
Because she was alone no one knows for sure what exactly happened but somehow she slipped and fell backwards and struck her head on the concrete garage floor. 
She was not that high in the air, her feet maybe 5 ft off the ground.  However the fall somehow freakishly caused her to land on the top of her head. 
Her youngest son Mylan found her and immediately called 911 and with the help of Zane they turn their mom on her side and tried to comfort her.  She was in the Foothills ICU head trauma ward very quickly. 
The entire amazing team of doctors and university neuro scientists worked on Shelley throughout the evening of the 3rd and through the day of the 4th.  
The X-rays showed significant trauma to the skull and she ended up with a major bleed at the brain stem.
The trauma was simply too severe and Shelley's brain function deteriorated to the point that on the morning of the 5th she had no blood flow or brain function at all. 
Shelley never regained consciousness at any time after the fall. It is hard to know for sure but it is believed that she never felt or experienced any pain.
Through out the day on Dec 5th the transplant team worked tirelessly to organize for her organs to be harvested and given to 7 different individuals in Western Canada. This is a monumental task when you consider the logistics of the testing of Shelley along with preparing the recipients, OR teams, transportation etc etc.
At 10:30 PM on Dec 5th we all said our tearful goodbyes to a wife, mother, daughter and sister.
Shelley's legacy lives on in the work she did on behalf of others throughout her life and the recipients of her very healthy organs.
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Shared by Jen Robinson on December 16, 2019
I thought I would post what I read at the celebration on Sat. Lots of memories and hopefully some things that people can relate to when remembering our one of kind Shelley

“Good Afternoon and thank you all for coming today to celebrate the incredible legacy of Shelley. Its evident here today just how many life’s she touched and each in their own special way.

I’m Jen Robinson or more commonly known to most of you as “Jenna , Jenna” or “ my Jen” as Shelley would often say when introducing me to anyone.  How do I even begin to deliver a tribute that would do justice to someone who embodied perfection in everything she did?? When I was starting to compose my thoughts and thinking how I was going to put them to paper I did a google search of “if your favorite color is purple” I came across a phycology of colour article. It was amazing to me how closely it embodied her that I wanted to share just a few points to start.

Having purple as your favorite color means you are sensitive and compassionate, understanding and supportive, thinking of others before yourself - you are the person others come to for help.

You are creative and like to be individual in most of your endeavors, including your dress and home decoration - you love the unconventional.

People who don't understand you sometimes think you are eccentric.

As a personality color purple, you are a generous giver, asking for little in return except friendship.

You are a visionary, with high ambitions, dreams and desires, and a compulsion to help humanity and to improve the planet earth.

You are a good judge of character and sum others up quite quickly and accurately, although you usually see the best in everybody.

I first met Shelly in the summer of 1997. I was 13 years old. We had just moved in 2 doors down on Inverness Park in Mckenzie Town.

I was out on the front step waiting for my sister Ali to get back from the Macs and I remember seeing her unload Spencer out of his car seat from her purple car. She waved us over to meet their new puppy Bazel . She introduced her self and invited us in. It wasn’t long before we were shown the pantry and it felt like I had just opened the door to Willy Wonka’s! My parents were both working that summer so naturally, Shelley took it upon her self to keep us entertained and that she did! 

It wasn’t long before I was reminded of the fundamental lesson of “blue and red make purple”! We experimented for days with so many boxes of RIT dye to find the perfect ratio for the most beautiful purple. We colored everything that day including the curtains! 

Another day that summer we went over, and she had brushes and paint in the back yard and told us to paint the fence however we wanted. I thought she must be crazy but soon realized that was just Shelley! She made fun out of any situation. When summer was over and we went back to school I remember having the best projects to hand in. I would have cricket cut outs, a staples size selection of any coloured paper, or any type of sticker I could dream of.

As the years went on, we became family. I don’t think I ever knocked on the door and it was always open. I was around all the time and ended up watching the boys grow up into the young gentleman that they are today. She was so proud of them! She never missed a violin performance, soccer game, or school play. She tirelessly advocated for them and truly was their biggest fan.

I have so many wonderful memories with her. Nothing was ever ordinary with Shelley and she never just had one of anything. I realized quickly that it was pointless to even question the logic of it. Like for example why anyone would need 100+ containers of sprinkles! If I ever asked her response would just be “oh you be quiet!”.

She taught me from a young age the importance of the best kitchen aid with all the attachments. And how important it was to own a spurtle. She taught me to appreciate good quality things when it came to cooking or baking. I’m sure I never saw whole vanilla beans or imported saffron before her! You never made anything with her that didn’t include good butter, parmesan cheese, heavy cream, or bacon.

We watched so many episodes of Americas test kitchen or would sit and flip through cooking magazines while eating 2” thick cut multigrain toast with creamed honey. We would mark what we wanted to make and then made sure we did. We had so much fun and she never said no to anything I wanted to try. She was adventurous.  We made jams, banana bread with (ground fresh whole nutmeg) which I still do to this day, the best snickerdoodles, chocolate chip cookies that I’m pretty sure were more chocolate then cookie!  Double chocolate, ooey gooey puff wheat squares, and oh so many things with lemon!

She put everything in the dishwasher, and I mean everything. She would always say if something couldn’t go in the dishwasher then it was “no good”. I learned how to perfectly fold a fitted sheet from her and developed the same passion (o.k obsession) of ironing. Because of her I have a professional steam iron and know where to go in Calgary if I need it fixed! I visited that small repair shop with her so many times. If it wasn’t for the iron it was for the kitchen aid which speaks to how much she used them both! 

Her sewing machine was also always going. She made the coziest blankets. My youngest and my sisters’ children are fortunate enough to own one. They will be cherished keepsakes. Her knitting, scarfs and stockings she was always giving too. Her mom Sherri shared with me the other day that not long ago, someone commented on how beautiful the scarf she was wearing was. She took it off her neck and gave it to her. That was Shelley. It didn’t matter who you were. She had the most giving heart. 

 We took so many trips up to Warner and they were mostly always all the same.  We would get a Jones soda and listen to an audio book or CBC radio. I never remember it being music! She would always make me drive and was the one who actually ended up taking me for my drivers licence in Lethbridge in her Van. I just told the boys this and they couldn’t believe it as she would never let them drive with her!

Shelly had a passion for helping the earth, people and animals too. I’m pretty sure she was one of the early pioneers of recycling! It was so foreign to me then that someone would spend so many hours washing, sorting and then paying someone to come get it. She truly wanted to make a difference and has been long before most of us even thought of it. There was also a time that a duck with her ducklings ended up in their window well. Shelley got a box and put the babies in it. We all walked down to the pond with the momma to let them free. Even the animals knew where to go if they needed help. She loved all her fur babies and spoiled them like crazy.

Over these last few years and now that I have kids of my own, we had never lost touch. Sometimes months would go by without checking in but when either of us did its like we had just talked the day before. Life got busy but she never forgot my girls at Christmas. They have special memories of making make gingerbread houses with her and had recently just asked me when we were going to go over to do them. I’ll make sure this is something we do every year and I’ll find purple candy of some sort in her honour.  Some things that will always remind me of Shelly (outside of the obvious anything purple) and will be sure to bring a smile to face are:

  • Fresh peas
  • Lindor chocolate balls
  • Corn on the cob
  • Little licorice candies from the Italian shop
  • Red cinnamon hearts
  • Turtle pecan cluster blizzards
  • Diet coke
  • Elephant ears
  • Popcorn balls
  • The smell of that cinnamon/nutmeg/clove concoction she would always  have boiling
  • And most recently, Our angel Christmas tree topper. It decided to stop working this year, so we went out and found one with a purple light. Shelley truly was angelic in so many ways. She was an exemplary, saintly, and wholesome human being.
I will cherish these many wonderful memories that I was so incredibly privileged to be apart of. Thank you, Shelley, for always looking out for me and teaching me to find the best in everything.  I really am a better person because of you. You’ve left big shoes to fill down here. Literally! Rest in peace knowing you have a purple army here that’s going to make sure we preserve your legacy.  Forever -your Jen”

Shared by JO Vanderveen on December 12, 2019
Thank you Shelly for all the love you gave Our family was greatly enriched Because of that love . Your smile was infectious and your joy was received by us all . Having you as a friend and neighbor was truly a wonderful experience We will always remember you in my hearts  
Allour love
Jo&Ron Vanderveen 


Celebration of Life

Shared by Cam Mandel on December 9, 2019
A celebration of Shelley's life will be held on Saturday, December 14 at 1 pm at: 
Foundations for the Future Charter Academy (FFCA) South Middle School
8710 Ancourt Rd SE, Calgary.
Shelley loved purple, she was Ms. Purple so please wear purple.