細個時記得母親管教得我們很嚴。不只對我們,對表哥弟妹，甚至街外不識得的小朋友也一樣。記得她很有taste，買給我們穿,食，用的都很講夠,多數是來佬貨式。中學時覺得她對人很有人緣，街市檔販,商店,銀行,酒樓老板伙記，就連街上的清道伕，個個都識，可以傾計一番. 她的人緣那麼好怪不得她其中兩位親家都是母親早就認識的好朋友。她也很有同情心曾經叫我在小學期間因為我一位女同學仔家被火燒了而發起了一個同級裡的募捐行動。她也很疏爽絶無階級觀念。記得中二時她駕車從公共屋村接我一個同學仔去鯉魚門食海鮮。我還記得他對我說是第一次見倒枱上的檸檬水用來洗手不是用來喝。母親跟父親也到過很多地方旅遊同enjoy life.The one thing not perfect for me is that I cannot be physically by her side and taking care of her in the last few months of her life. But still thanks to my brothers and sister in Melbourne her passage from this world to heaven was ever so peaceful ,filled with care，joy , and dignit!!

我媽咪，楊錫容是位嚴母，我自小就要規行矩步，不可以癲癲得得，走來走去。著鞋要著襪，著涼鞋要著襪，著拖鞋都一樣要著襪。做各樣事情都要預先有所準備。如搭的士，車未到目的地就要先擺定錢，唔好要人等。對人要有禮，對家中的工人也不能例外。放學要先做完功課才可以玩。所以我就算如何攰或不願意做的事情，都要做完才休息。食嘢先食最不喜歡的，最後才吃喜歡的。先苦後甜已經植入我的人生。
認識我媽咪的朋友都聽過她常掛在口邊的故事。好似： 謝賢係媽咪的夜校同學，最富動感的故事就係日本仔佔領香港時跳船事件。英勇的故事就係覊氣壓倒馬騮佬勇救街坊不被勒索。身懷20條金條行走上海街，做款員拿錢回工廠出糧。這些都不是袐聞。到她晚年我才發現媽咪喜歡唱歌，佢喺護老院好出名，佢能感染到西方院友跟著她唱：
You are my Sunshine,同埋Doris Day的Hey Sera, Sera, Whatever will be will be 。
連工作人員幫她沖涼都一齊高歌一曲。媽咪的喜愛也好不一般。我去探佢時都會玩吓問答遊戲。我問過她喜愛的水果。佢話番鬼荔枝、菠蘿、龍眼、榴連、荔枝。喜愛的顏色呢？佢反問：係乜嘢先？我話乜都得。她說係淺啡色、紫色、淺藍色、萍果綠。喜愛的點心係蝦餃、粉果、魚趐餃、蝦腸，同埋棉花雞。問她明天想吃甚麼？佢話蝦米，即是湯米粉加一隻中蝦再加一條菜。
媽咪好多時都會語出驚人，拖著她去Glen行吓，睇吓，佢話想自由行。有時糊塗起來，我問佢知唔知自己在那裡？她答在地球。
有一段時間我們不能入護老院，我隔著窗問她悶唔悶呀？佢搖搖頭說： 做一日人要盡一日義務。不會悶。這句話就入了我心。我要好好記著這句話。
當日爸爸囑咐我照顧媽咪，我已完成了這任務。期間要作些很難的決定，如不做內窺鏡，不做手術，停止服用藥物，到後期的打嗎啡針。若不是握著神的應許和盼望，那些決定就更難更沉重。媽咪離世前我和岱雄都在她左右，握著她的手，輕輕按着她，看著她猛力的最後一個呼吸。然後就靜止了。唐建安一家來到，媽咪仍有微微的脈搏。我們一同禱告，感謝神。媽咪現在去了天家，與我爸爸相聚。
My mother, Yeung Shik Yung was a strict parent.  I always had to be in my best behaviour.  As a child, I was never allowed to run around and simply have fun.I was not allowed to wear shoes without socks, even when wearing sandals or slippers.  Advanced planning is a must.  Like catching a taxi, even before the taxi arrives to the destination, I was taught to have my money ready, and never make others wait.I must respect others, inside and outside the family.  Homework comes before playtime.  These things were engrained in me from a young age.  As such, no matter how tired or unwilling I am towards a task, I have learnt to complete it before rest.Those who know my mother would know her old time stories:  Tse Yin (HK movie star) was her classmate; her “jump ship” incident during the Japanese occupation; the story of the street “monkey-man”, the cheat, when she helped a neighbour by calling him out; her work history of carrying 20 gold bars walking down Shanghai street; acting as a security guard, carrying large sum of cash back to the factory for workers’ wages.  These were no secrets.
It was only towards her old age, that I realized my mother loves singing.  She was well known for her singing at the Aged Care centre.  She influenced others to join her: “You are my sunshine” and Doris Day’s “Hey Sera, Sera, Whatever will be will be”.  Even the staff who showered her sang along together.Mum’s taste was unique.  When I asked her to name 5 favourite fruits, she said: “custard apple, pineapple, long-an, durian and lychee”.  As for her favourite colours, she reverted: “It depends”.  I then said “whatever”, she replied: “Beige, purple, light blue, apple green”.As a person who generally held a serious demeaner, there were times when my mum’s responses showed the humour side of her personality.  Towards her old age, and with dementia setting in, I would often ask her if she knew where she was, she would often respond with a hint of sarcasm: “I am on the earth”.During the COVID-19 pandemic, there was a period of time when we were restricted to window visits only.  I asked mum if she was bored, she said: “No, of course not.  Why should I be bored?  One has a duty as long as they live.”  I treasure these words in my heart.
Prior to my father’s death, he had asked me to take care of mum.  I have completed my duty.  In the process of caring for my mum, I had to make some hard decisions.  Like, not to conduct invasive treatment, no operation, stop all medication, and finally, the decision to inject morphine to make mum more comfortable.  If I did not have the promise and hope in God, these decisions would have been even harder.  Miguel and I were by her side, holding her hands and patting her when she took for her last grasp for air.  Then everything went silent, and she was in perfect peace.  Denis’ family came while mum still had a weak pulse.  We all prayed together to thank God for her life.Mum is now in heaven, reunited with Dad.

親愛的奶奶，

和你的緣份始於我媽媽，媽媽與你是小學同學。
在我十四歲兒時開始認識你，那時你和媽媽午餐
歡聚後，總是買給我們一個美心大蛋糕分享。我
就想這位 Aunty 很有人情味和慷慨啊！到有緣做
你媳婦時，更了解到你是一位處事嚴謹、公正又
不失為一個有同情心正義感的長者。

媽咪，你對兒女和孫兒嚴謹的教導，我們會銘記
於心。現在你和爸爸在天家相聚，定必很快樂，也
希望你在天之靈，庇佑我們，願這疫情快快消失。

媽咪，永遠懷念你。你是我的榜樣

 大媳婦
Clara

Mum, your kind and gentle presence will be sorely missed. 

We’ve lived next door to each other for over 20 years. You have helped me so much whether it was babysitting the grandchildren or making us lovely soup for addition to our dinner menu. After babysitting each time, there was always a detailed report on how much they drank, ate, slept with particular emphasis on output from the other end as well, which I looked forward to find out. 

I have known you since about the age of 7 when I went to school with Jennifer. You were a lady of principle. Jennifer was always the first one to arrive at school. It was quite scary for a young child when asked if I had done all my homework and had studied well for my test. When I couldn’t recite the dictation passage to you properly, it made me work harder and not to embarrass myself the next time. 

As my mother-in-law, you were always encouraging rather than being critical. Obliging and no task was too difficult when asked. By spending more time with you the past year, I have enjoyed your singing, story telling and your principles of life. Farewell ‘ma mee’until we meet again, I shall miss seeing you down the driveway, picking flowers for your flower arrangements. 

Ah San 

奶奶在我心中是點蒼派長門人，最喜歡指指點點。年輕時的我，當然不受點。在麻雀枱上還會借機反擊，諗真又幾過份。

在2017年底两老從港返澳後，每週日的家宴沒有再辦了。取而代之的是每週六唐安去26號值班，照顧两老。而我這個媳婦只會隔週才夫唱婦隨，真不及格。

自2019年8月两老入住護老院後，每週六探訪或帶奶奶外出吃午餐便成了周末節目。老爺上天堂後，我們每週六都會接奶奶回家，讓她和芝麻仔玩下，讓嘉欣陪她睇下電視，傾下計，培養一下感情。

慢慢地我和奶奶的感情深厚了，能在過去一年有機會陪她說說話，聽她咬牙切齒地駡'戴耀廷'，喋喋不休地想當年，好歌唱不停。。。當那天你用温暖的手握著我冰涼的手替我補暖時，那溫暖溶化了我的心，媽咪，我永遠懷念你，期待他日在天國相聚，再聆聽你的故事。
Anne

亞媽在護老院是一位好受歡迎的院友。她用有限的英語去與每位朋友建立關係。她更用歌聲拉近人與人的距離。坐在辦公室的同事遠遠便聽到媽媽的歌聲，在走廊的室友會與媽一同唱歌。院方每天設有不同的活動，而媽媽祇會參加一些她有興趣的，其他時間她會獨個兒在走廊走來走去，也會在房間吃她的小食唱她喜愛的詩歌。認識媽媽的朋友都知道，她食盡天下美食，叫她每天吃院內的三餐實在不易。但媽每天按時坐在她的座位上，與其她院友用膳。她祇吃喜歡的，而她不喜歡的總是有禮地推開。每到中午過後，她便在大門或房間內等我們的到來，期待著有她愛飲的湯和香口的餸菜，便說：今晚不用食晚餐了。每週我們都帶她回家晚飯一次，或出外午餐，她總享受著每樣的食物，帶著愉快的心情回院休息。相信最困難的時間是在疫情開始時，我們祇能在窗外與她見面，每次都用一個小盒子帶些她愛吃的糖果和小禮物給她，她總是開心地見到我們，離開時總是提我們小心出入，我便說明天見。最後一個月是媽媽最弱的時候，她吃不進東西，飲水也有困難，然而她仍然堅持下去。當她離開的那刻，我們是對望著，彼此握著手說再見。在我理智上知道她去了更美的地方，在我內心深處卻是不捨得，眼淚總是不其然下。謝謝媽媽給我服侍她的機會和留下那麼多美好的回憶。

My relationship with Porpor was a unique one.  We enjoyed each other’s company a lot and we had much in common.  I enjoyed playing the piano while Porpor liked to sing along.  Mum often says that I am more alike Porpor than she is, because I love coriander, spring onion and jelly fish.  We even shared the same-looking pair of slippers.  We like our meals in morsels, noodles with soup.  No thanks to dry noodles or oily fried foods.  We dislike large portions that make us feel full in the stomach even before the meal begins.  I will miss you, Porpor.  Farewell for now, we will have our laughs and music together in heaven again.
With Love,
Eva

我是爺爺嫲嫲的大孫女，足足有七年的時間得到爺爺嫲嫲獨有的愛護，細佬子豐才出世。每逢上畢架山或在又一村的時候，一見到嫲嫲就會聽到...

「喂，記住叫人喎，大聲D，清楚D，俾隻手嚟咬吓。有冇做功課呀？要勤力D，做多啲，學到嘅係自己的。」

嫲嫲有好多金句我仍然記得，好獨有的關心與教導。
「跑跑跑，曲低你就知死。」
「做咩un un 吓。」
「做咩又唔着襪？保護隻腳呀。」
「做咩著咁少衫呀，露出個手臂。」
「食D芫茜啦，都唔知幾香！」

嫲嫲也是很好客的，我記得每星期吃飯的時候，是要很巧妙地挑選坐的位置的。如果你坐着她左右，一定成晚不用夾餸，因為嫲嫲會成日夾俾你。如果你坐着嫲嫲視線範圍對面，她就會轉D食物俾你叫你夾多啲。所以如果你不想吃太多，就要坐嫲嫲隔兩至三個位。這是經多年驗證的。哈哈！

我今天有些生活習慣，都是由嫲嫲教出來的。

• 係屋企著拖鞋
• 食完飯，用抹完嘴的紙巾抹乾淨啲碗碟才洗
• 送禮及回禮

但有一些生活習慣真的夠嫲嫲細心：

• 將啲唔係成日着嘅衫好小心用膠袋包住放入櫃，係逐件逐件包
• 洗完衫要將啲衫覆一覆平才掛上，會冇咁皺
• 煮飯前的食材準備好透徹

在她晩年的時侯，係有少少遺憾不在她的身邊，同佢傾多啲，俾佢督促Selwyn 同Shaun。但我都好慶幸生了兩次仔，爺爺嫲嫲都在香港，一出院就可以到又一村俾他們抱吓太孫仔。在她離世的星期三，Selwyn 又會記掛太婆，安慰我説太婆見到太公，又祈禱叫神照顧他們。Shaun 都認得太婆，話 She is up there. 

嫲嫲，我真的很幸福有你作我的嫲嫲。三十多年以來所有的生活點滴、教誨，我都會銘記在心。

孫女
唐頌恩

I'm the eldest granddaughter, so I had total of seven years of undivided granny-love from Grandpa and Grandma before Aaron was born. Whenever I meet Grandma at Beacon Hill or Yau Yat Chuen, she would always say...
"Hey, remember to greet people. Make it loud and clear. Come on, give me your arm to have a bite. Did you do your homework? Work harder, whatever you learn is for your own sake."

Grandma also had a few sayings that always rang in your ears:

• "Run run run, you'll learn your lesson when you fall down."
• "Why are you so jittery with your legs?"
• "How come you're not wearing socks? You need to protect your feet."
• "How come you're wearing so little? Exposing your arm..."
• "Eat some coriander, it smells so good!" 

Grandma is also very hospitable. I still remember during our weekly family dinners, it's a strategy to sit at the right position. If you sit beside her, you don't need to reach out for any food as Grandma will fill up your bowl. If you sit directly opposite her, she will turn the lazy susan to you and ask you to get more food. Therefore, if you don't want to eat too much, you need to sit two or three seats away from Grandma but not directly opposite. This is proven by years of experience. Haha!

I think some of my habits are from Grandma:

• Wearing my slippers at home
• Wipe the bowls and plates with the leftover tissue before washing
• Always send a gift in return

However, there are some other habits that I was not as detail-orientated as her:

• She will wrap the clothes in individual plastic bags if she is not going to wear it frequently
• Straighten the clothes with her hand after it's washed so it's less crinkled when it's dried
• Meticulously preparing the ingredients before cooking

In her final years, I wish I could spend more time with her and talk to her, and also let her teach Selwyn and Shaun. However, I'm glad that both Grandpa and Grandma were in Hong Kong when I gave birth to both of our sons. Once I came back from the hospital, we went to Yau Yat Chuen for the Grannies to give the boys a cuddle. On the Wednesday when Grandma passed away, Selwyn said he missed Grandma and comforted me saying that Grandma can see Grandpa and prayed that God will take care of them. Shaun also recognises Grandma, and say "She's up there."

Grandma, I am so blessed to have you as my Grandma. I will always remember your teaching and all those 30 years of life moments.

Your Grand-daughter
Stephanie Tong

It was not long after beginning a relationship with Stephanie that I was quickly introduced to the extended Tong family and first met both Yehyeh and Mahmah.  Back then I didn't speak a word of Cantonese (though I've barely improved since) but I knew from day one they supported our relationship.  

The best thing I learnt from them was their marriage - longlasting and faithful - and I hope for that in Steph and my marriage so that we would be good role models for our boys.

Yehyeh and Mahmah has always been a blessing to me: in my relationship and marriage to Steph, and also to our boys, Selwyn and Shaun.  They're always happy to see the boys.  Mahmah, in particular would yell "GWAAI" (乖! [仔] - which means "Good! [boy]") when Selwyn loudly greets her.  I miss this, among many of such things so easily taken for granted.  I'm so glad we were able to meet one more time in July 2019 on our annual trip to Melbourne.

Take care, Mahmah, will see both you and Yehyeh someday in heaven.  God bless you as you rest in eternal peace.

親愛的嬤嬤，

Dear 嫲嫲, 

The years that you spent living next door to us with 爷爷 have formed some of the best parts of my childhood and early adulthood. 

I have many fond memories of playing at your house as a child, where you would never fail to take care of me when my parents were busy. You taught me so many Chinese poems when I was little and the food you cooked was distinctively homely and delicious. Even though I was already full, you would always keep telling me to eat more. Whenever I wanted a snack you would boil me an egg and peel it for me so carefully. You used to call me over quite often to give me old trinkets and jewellery that you found while looking through your things. 

Thank you 嫲嫲 for all that you have done for me and I will treasure each and every one of your gifts that you have given me. I miss you and hope that you and 爷爷 are living happily in heaven together. 

Love from your granddaughter, 
Rachael (慧怡)

When I was a child, I was always very afraid of 嫲嫲. She was very strict and never held back at telling people off for their bad habits; such as shaking their leg or chewing loudly. Every Saturday after Chinese school I would make sure to be on my best behaviour and would feel very accomplished when 嫲嫲 would praise me for my good manners. When I finished my Chinese homework she would treat me with sweets and biscuits, including 瑞士糖 (one of my favourites).

In the last few years I was able to grow closer to 嫲嫲. We both shared a love for animals and spent most of our afternoons watching BBC documentaries. After getting Sesame, I saw a new side of 嫲嫲 that I’ve never seen before. She was very cheeky when playing with him, always pretending to throw his toy and hiding his treats.

As our bond grew stronger I’ve learnt that 嫲嫲 does not express her love and care for us through words  or acts of affection. Instead she would ask: How is school? Have you eaten? Where are your socks?

From someone who I’ve always thought of as intimidating, 嫲嫲 has become someone who is very thoughtful, caring and playful. She would always tell me to not be picky with my food, but who would’ve thought 嫲嫲 is the pickiest of them all!

嫲嫲 thank you for always asking about me when I’m unable to visit, always worrying about me and telling me to stay at home these days. But most of all, thank you for remembering me and keeping me in your thoughts. I’m glad that we were able to spend a lot of time together in the last few years. They are moments that I will always cherish and remember.

Love from your grand-daughter,
唐嘉欣 (Cecilia)

One of my earliest memories of 嫲嫲 was when she read 老夫子 to me. As I couldn't read Chinese at the time, I would choose a page for her to read to me. I remember her putting on different voices for every character and even acting out each scene with exaggerated arm movements. I remember laughing so much that dad eventually came in to see what was going on.  

嫲嫲 always cared for her grandchildren. She would regularly ask me how I was doing in school and would always encourage me to study harder and be a good student. Her stories always had a lesson to them. Whether it be about growing up, being a good person, or even finding love. I remember her telling me to never marry a girl that only parties and never studies. I also remember her telling me to cut off a particular mole as this mole was bad luck. Some lessons were better than others. 

嫲嫲 was generous and kindhearted. I remember when I would play in the driveway, she would see me and come out to give me sweets and snacks. There was even one time when she gave me a 肉松包, which intrigued my taste buds. She would also always invite me over to carry a big bowl of soup back home for everyone to share. Her soup was my absolute favourite. 

I look back at these fond memories with nothing but happiness and joy. I will miss your warm energy, your kindness, your generosity, your stories, your singing, your funny remarks about my pale skin and our many conversations. I will cherish these memories for the rest of my life. 

I hope you are doing well up there with 爷爷. Take care and rest well. 

Love from your grandson, 
Alex (智仁)