I will miss my mother dearly and always remember her influence, her love and her feedback and our arguments at every point in my life... It's a personal thing between my Mom, my sister and myself....that's all I have to share but Thank you for also remembering how wonderful she was!! I was generally the one behind the camera and it was always a joy to capture the moments when I could.
This memorial website was created in memory of our mother, Shirley Shirrells. 83 years old , born on March 17, 1936 and passed away on April 8, 2019. We will remember her forever.
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Leave a tributeI will miss my mother dearly and always remember her influence, her love and her feedback and our arguments at every point in my life... It's a personal thing between my Mom, my sister and myself....that's all I have to share but Thank you for also remembering how wonderful she was!! I was generally the one behind the camera and it was always a joy to capture the moments when I could.
Connie
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Her intuitive skills, the magical way she could read people, her creativity, her effortless cooking, all enriched my life. For those who know MBTI personality preferences, she was a true ENFP: a free spirit, charming, independent, energetic and compassionate; an advocate.
Mom had a grand style--she loved art, huge comfy furniture one could nest in, and loved to find treasures in thrift shops and antique shops with which to decorate her home. We loved loading up and trekking to visit Mom when she lived in Nipomo and Palm Desert.
She was the perfect grandmother, not only taking Perry and her buddies out hiking, horseback riding, swimming, and mani-pedis, but she took Perry to Ixtapa and Cabo San Lucas for lovely beach trips.
To our chagrin, as she advanced in age, Mom was a rolling stone. She said she'd gotten used to it after living as a military wife. We'd move every few years then.
After leaving the desert, Mom wanted to keep moving to the next intriguing location... She even had a short stay in Santa Barbara, which was just too far away when she needed help with something. I remember schlepping the 90" drive to help her with this or that.
As dutiful children, Maurece and I would pack her up and set her down in a new place. Even after we settled her in a senior community here in Pasadena, her eyes would lock onto new condos and apartment buildings that we'd pass by in the car, wondering out loud what they were like inside!
Mom suffered for about 20 years with pain from a fall at work that caused serious injury to both of her shoulders. Her ability to live with pain for so long showed me how strong she was. Even now the thought of that constant pain wets my eyes.
She survived a heart attack from last July, but never fully recovered at her advanced age, and died from complications related to that. What a fighter she was, but ultimately decided she'd had enough. "I've lived a good long life, longer than my mother and father and sister," she said. We gazed at each other, then, for a very long time as I started to weep. She gave me a kiss that I will always remember.
My brother and I were busy fussing with getting her tv and cable box into her bedroom where she finally agreed to lie down in the hospice hospital bed that she didn't like. She went to sleep (or transitioned) while we were trying to keep the noise down, and didn't wake up.
I love you dearly, Mom. You were an amazing woman.
Mom was a touchstone for me through all my life. I can only hope that I was the same for her as she began to rely on me to take care of her.
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I will miss my mother dearly and always remember her influence, her love and her feedback and our arguments at every point in my life... It's a personal thing between my Mom, my sister and myself....that's all I have to share but Thank you for also remembering how wonderful she was!! I was generally the one behind the camera and it was always a joy to capture the moments when I could.
Connie
Nina Simone and Senegal, Africa
In 1982, after a divorce, Mom decided to take a long trip on her own. This was something she had never done before.
She was moved to visit the Ivory Coast, but her plans to go there fell through when neither she nor her travel agent knew that she was supposed to have a visa for that area.
So, in the airport in New York, someone suggested she redirect her destination to Senegal, where possibly she could decide to still venture to the Ivory Coast.
Once in Senegal, greeters encouraged her to stay there at a Club Med. While there she met Nina Simone and had an hours-long conversation. It's not clear in my memory, nor in the stories shared in the Santa Maria newspaper, but during the stay, Nina encouraged Mom to sing, which she ended up doing there with a German Jazz backup band. She ended up staying there longer than planned, and launched her side career as a singer.
When Mom got in a German newspaper back in the early 60s
Mom and a friend where in a German airport near where we lived when I was a child. They got the surprise attention of a well-known German boxer and it got in the local paper.
Translation: “Although a small flirt before the fight is not part of a professional boxer program, Peter quickly caught himself when he had to make the check that both ladies live on the airport grounds in Spangdahlem and are happily married to Americans.
Mz. Shirley
Mz. Shirley, Momma Shirley, Aunt Shirley, Shirley Girl... you were all of that to me. Caring for you was more than just my job, it grew from my heart... you grew in my heart. I can't thank you enough for allowing me to love on you, take care of you and be protective over you in this last year of your life. Our conversations, our secret moments we shared, the hugs and kisses were priceless. Your eyes and the way you looked at me as more than my position, was priceless. Every time you whispered "I love you too" to me will forever stay in my heart. Getting to know you was a blessing. I can't thank you daughter enough for allowing me to steal a piece of your heart. I am so grateful you knew that you were more to me than a "patient" or "resident" at work; you became my Aunt Shirley, my Momma Shirley and my friend. I know you are in a better place and you are jazzing it up, dressed to the nines with your hair, nails and makeup "beat"! Your beauty was undeniable and your smile and laughter was contagious. Your words of wisdom, commonalities and uplifting spirit were priceless. Thank you. Now shine down on us. My Shirley Girl Pasadena Highlands will miss you, but I do more! So glad I got to give you love, one last time before my "vacation" MUAH! Rest in heaven.