- 92 years old
- Date of birth: Mar 7, 1918
- Date of passing: Sep 19, 2010
|Love,Learn,Labor,Laugh,Leave (Steve's 5 most important things in life)|
This memorial website was created in the rememberance and celebration of Stephen Hinrichs.
"Inasmuch as I have no affiliation with any church or organized religion, no funeral ceremony should follow my death. I direct that my remains be cremated and the ashes committed to the waters of Penobscot Bay.
If it pleases my family and friends to gather for some sort of memorial, I have no objections. I ask them only to remember that I have had a full and rewarding life and that any gathering should celebrate the love they have given me and the good fortune I have enjoyed.
However, given that family and friends are scattered over the globe, it follows that no single gathering will be possible. Therefore, a website has been eslablished to enable those who wish to exchange remberances and sentiments."
Dear Friends and Family,
We know how much Steve meant to each one of you. We encourage you to raise a glass, recall good times and if some of you live close to one another to gather together and celebrate. We look forward to your stories and communications and accounts of your celebrations.
Please feel free to leave a tribute below, or on the Stories tab leave a remembered moment, quote or poem where you can also include a photo or a song to accompany your story. On the Gallery tab at the bottom of the page you have the ability to leave a photograph.
It would be lovely for us if at the bottom of your tribute or story you mention how you know Steve (AIC, Harley, John Burroughs, Rochester, Samoset, Vinalhaven, NYSAIS, etc.).
Thank you and love to all, Stephen's Family
address: Grace Hinrichs and Family, 45 Village Way #39, Rockport, Maine 04856
On the weekend of September 10-11, 2011 the whole Hinrichs family gathered in Rockport, Maine, to share memories of Steve and honor his wish to have his ashes scattered in the waters of Penobscot Bay where he loved to sail.
If you click on the "Stories" tab you will find a description of those wonderful days along with some poems and photos. Also, there are more photos in the Gallery tab.
When Stephen's ashes were scattered, daisies were also scattered into the waters of the Penobscot Bay. On some of those daisies notes were attached that were written to include everyone who ever sent words of tribute or love about Stephen whether in letters, email, verbally or in thought, you were all included in the day.
Thank you all, the Hinrichs family
"Gone, yet a strong link that holds us together even now."
"Happy Birthday Steve! Gracie-thinking of Steve, you, and the family today and of all the good times we had together both aboard and ashore. Love
Nancy and Joe"
"Always love checking in to this website on Steve's birthday. Love watching the slide show of his life, and especially some of the pictures of Victoria, Kate, Christian, and Ibi when they were growing up together. And today Ibi's beautiful tribute is below. He was a beacon of light to many, and mindfulness and empathy defined him. Thank you, dear Ibi, for posting your warm and thoughtful tribute."
"Happy 99th Birthday Dad, In your honor today we are putting in some solar lights on the trees in front of the house, beacons of light in the dark, just like you were to me and so many others. Life continues to be an amazing adventure and I am so glad for the foundation you gave me.
This year is Harley's 100th and it would be fantastic if anyone wanted to honor Stephen by contributing to have his name sponsor one of the continuing Mindfulness and Empathy courses or one of the Civic engagement courses.(HarleySchool.org) If so contact me at: IbiPhotographyNow@gmail.com.
Dad, I know you would be quite engaged today and loving the renewed civic participation so many are choosing. Here's to continuing your clear vision and heart."
"I was just in Maine, where I first met, and knew Steve. We had a foggy day or two, and looking out on the water and searching, i remembered that Steve said, we all have our own personal mirage when looking into the fog for a buoy or a ledge. His, he said, was "3 men in a dory." I have never forgotten that. Mine seems to be an island with pine trees. Steve changed my life and I have not forgotten, nor will I."
"Happy birthday, Steve, wherever your sails are set.
Great site for a great guy--love all the pictures. Hi Gracie, the love of Steve's life. Nancy and I send along our love to you."
"Today is the 6th anniversary of Steve's passing. My last tribute in March 2016 on what would have been his 98th birthday says exactly the same thing I would say today. ForeverMissed is a good name for this website."
"Forever missed, and yet in some ways always present since his wonderful spirit has been so much a part of my life. He would have been 98 today and I would love to have heard his comments on this particular election year! (I wonder if even he could find any comparable low points in American history when it comes to the level of discourse among the Republicans)!"
"Happy birthday, Stephen! You are missed by many."
"Happy Birthday, Steve. We will miss you always. . .
Kitty and Guy"
"Thinking of Steve today--and many many other days as well of course. Just back from a wonderful week in Santa Fe NM with Victoria and Robert who are both doing noble work with their art, Robert with fused glass, Victoria with her silk painting and her teaching of Aura Soma color therapy. They have good friends there and live close to the land outside of town with views of the mountains and the star-filled sky at night. It was a pleasure to share some of that. Steve would be pleased that we are still very much a close family. With best wishes to all, Grace"
"I can't believe it's been 5 years. We've had a week of fantastic weather this week at the Samoset. Steve would have loved the golfing on these days. He is missed."
"Happy Birthday, Steve! We still think about you and talk about you and probably we always will. . ."
"I wake to a brilliant snow covered morning, perfect for a downhill or cross country ski. Dad introduced us all to skiing with a flair. He being one of the first ever to bring a student group to Aspen, at that time a very sleepy little town. Who would think the high school students from a Missouri high school, John Burroughs, would be skiing pioneers? For this love and many other loves I salute and remember you today Dad on what would have been your 97th."
"Great to have people continuing to check in and sometimes leaving remembrances full of fondness and gratitude. As a friend of mine said to me once, "He was a prince!" Needless to say I continue to miss him. With best wishes to all, Grace"
"Steve helped us all to believe in ourselves and have the patience to discover our special gifts. He did everything with integrity and a wry sense of humor. Somehow his threats, at AIC 1968, to call me Big Daddy Barn Smell turned me into a hygiene freak. At Harley he set the tone and direction of the school while being available to the students. No doubt his students and campers have a host of unusual accomplishments that would impress the world, generate many humorous stories, and inspire the next generation. A great mentor."
"Dear Steve, Still miss you as a friend and as a teacher - it doesn't get better as the years pass. I'm sure you're part of me! Much love to all,
Kitty Greve Darst, JBS '56, AIC '58. '59"
"Time passes so quickly. It hardly seems possible that Steve has been gone 4 years. Philip and I think of him when we look out our window on the 17th hole of the Samoset. He was a special person and is greatly missed."
"Booth and I are planting a memorial maple today to celebrate Dad's life. It is a crystal clear warm fall day here at Laughing Water, Augusta,West Virginia just the kind he loved. There is a slight breeze blowing and the very first of the Shasta daisies is just about to bloom, I think it will be open by the end of the day. Today feels like Dad, always renewing his love of learning, engagement, and participation in life. The hummingbird family is having a ball at the feeder, dancing together in the air and chirping their communication. All nature is saying, as I can hear Dad saying, "Life is a foot, be a part of it." lots of love to all, Ibi and Booth (photo added in that section)"
"SO nice to be able to visit Steve again on these pages. Gracie, we're thinking of you and the family on this bright and beautiful day and send our best love! Cheers! Nancy and Joe
Harley, Rochester, Bristol Harbour, Maine and the Mid Atlantic"
"Wishing comfort to those with such fond memories"
"I wrote my term paper for Steve thinking plagiarism meant not quoting sources exactly while using them for my own writing. So I changed at least one or two words in each I pretended were my own. I got a C+ (a gift, I think) with the comment, "An interesting paper written in a style somewhat more mature than you own." Never forgot that or Steve..."
"Cherished memories of life at the Samoset involve the great times I had with Steve and attempting to improve our games. I valued his advice very highly as a friend and teacher."
"Wonderful to know that others are thinking of him today. Love this website!
Cheers! (that's how he always ended his voice mail message as you may remember)
"Our kind thoughts to you Grace. How wonderful to have the memories of times spent with Steve.
You never get over the "missing" but it helps to think of the fun you have had together."
"Happy 96th, Steve. Good people live on forever in our memories."
Back in St. Louis, I remember when you had made for us a weird table - instead of desks - for our US history classes. That was a long time ago, but you'll not EVER be forgotten!
Kitty Greve Darst"
"How Steve would have loved playing golf at the Samoset today. The sun is warm, the fairways are green and the water is sparkling in the distance. A perfect day in Maine!"
"Another year without Steve - but we think of him often. He changed things for the good of all and was a memorable companion and a dear friend."
"I was hunting golf balls at the Samoset this August and my thoughts turned to Steve and how much he enjoyed seeing my findings. This year I broke my own record for one hour by picking up over 70 balls in less then an hour. How Steve would have laughed seeing me clean them all up for reuse. I'm dedicating them all to Steve's memory."
"Kitty Greve Darst, former student of Steve's as well as counselor at AIC, has made a donation to Great Pond Mountain Conservation Trust in memory of Steve. Thank you, Kitty! For news of the Trust's "To the Summit" campaign, see their letter to me posted under "Stories." That mountain is dear to the hearts of all AIC-ers I know. Greetings to all!"
"Steve was my friend and I remember the great times discussing
politics, Samoset affairs, and great places to dine. He was a fan of
Jeff Sluman while Calcavechia was my favorite. Made for great
conversation. Dearly missed."
"Steve was thoughty enough to allow me to enter the AIC family - after I had been his student - and I'm STILL working for the Great (Pond) Mountain Conservation Trust and probably will forever. Many thanks, Steve - you'll always be remembered."
"We miss seeing Steve around the Village and remember him for his wise counsel, especially when we were discussing national politics.
Philip and Brenda Doherty"
"A month after Steve and I met ,in April 1985, I flew to Rochester NY for a weekend at his solar-heated house on Canandaigua Lake and when I got home wrote a letter to my family to introduce Steve to them. I'll post a brief excerpt from that letter under Stories. Amazed how well I already knew him! With best wishes to all his friends on what would have been his 95th birthday , Grace"
"Happy Birthday Steve. We think of you often. Your memory continues to enrich our lives."
"Steve has always been an inspiration for me. I remember his wonderful way that he dealt with me as a child. I give thanks for his presence in my life at a time when I needed him most.
Thank you Steve, and happy birthday. Always remembered."
"Never will forget Steve - at JBS, he taught us how to read newspapers. At AIC, he made me discover how to cane chairs. Love to Grace, who also had interesting tables for her students!"
"Miss Steve as always. Drive by Harley School each day and remember - and view his "Tree" which is growing wonderously well. He would be happy to know that his student, son Tom Duffus is now sailing a Cape Dory on Lake Superior! Steve's memory will never leave us. Jim & Dancy"
Though time passes it is hard to bear the loss of a loved one.
I wish you comfort from these kind tributes."
"I will long miss Steve every time Maine comes to my memory.Golf and
friendship we shared on Penobscot Bay at Samoset will never be forgotten.
Much love to you Gracie,
"I just read through the whole list of tributes on this page. I was quietly stunned by the richness of the true substance in those who wrote. If that isn't testimony to who Steve is, what he drew to himself, and how he shaped it, I don't know what is!
"Steve opened the possibility for young minds to pursue their dreams. Being a Harley student and an AIC camper helped me develop an appreciation of the beauty of traditional watercraft and the adventure of exploring the world. Steve taught me to pay attention to my hygiene so that others would not call me “Big Daddy Barnsmell.” After college I sailed for 17 years in traditional vessels."
"As a teacher, as our camp leader, you are still missed. Happy Birthday wherever you are, Steve. Cheers! You certainly live on in many, many hearts and you always will."
"It has been one year and there is a description of the scattering of Stephen's ashes at sea on September 11 along with the poems read in tribute to him at the family gathering that weekend can all be found by clicking on the "Stories" tab."
"Steve was a warm and loving friend and mentor to our kids. We sailed with him and he came to both daughter's weddings. His mind was sharp and we loved "The Bangor Packet" recitation. He remains crystal clear in our memory. He was and is an icon - one of a kind - a very very speci"
"We are remembering Steve today. We think of him often. Our thoughts are with Grace and the entire Hinrichs clan this day."
"Grace, we'll be remembering Stephen in a special way today.
Philip and Brenda"
"I went kayaking two days ago in Wisconsin, and Steve's presence was vivid--- teaching cool canoe techniques, wryly enjoying trips. From my viewpoint now, I see his genius in creating a nurturing organization. AIC changed my lfe for sure, Grateful for his gifts to us all."
"Steve Hinrichs was my teacher and coach at JBS way back, early 1960s. He was a significant factor in my interest in founding an independent school much more recently and was kind enough to remember me thirty-five years later and counsel me during the founding and later during our head searching. To me, he and Keith Shahan are models of independent school culture and teaching. Thank you."
"I've just put under the "Stories" tab something Steve wrote in December 1985--his reflections on the meaning of this season as printed in the NYSAIS Newsletter (and reprinted many times) May it bring you "light and joy and hope."
With warm wishes for the holidays, the solstice, and the new year,
Grace (and Steve)"
"From my good friend and former Italian teacher:" I will never forget Stephen tapping (doing a little tap dance) while he was preparing food..his grace and wiry funny gentleness. Kind of windswept elegance. He was such a treat!...and such an inspiration."
Cristina Arrigoni Martelli"
"Lessons from Steve: 1) Always leave the campsite (and the World) better than you found it. 2) Love and learn from history 3)Campers should decide how to use their time creatively-- othewise they will be boring creatures by the age of 30 4) Use the right tool for the job at hand (many broad definitions of tool!)"
"Mr. Hinrichs (at JBS) or Steve (on the Drive from St. Louis to Lovell or at AIC)was the best teacher I ever had -- the lessons he taught from his heart or from the classroom or the unique camp environment have had a lasting impact upon me. It was luck (maybe even Grace -- the religous word for an unanticipated gift) when Steve asked me to come and be a counselor at AIC.Lessons? another tribute."
"The Rush Clarke family will with much love remember all the involment and joy we had working and being with Steve at Harley and How blessed we were that our children were touched by his love of learning....god bless you Steve. When I lovingly look at the ocean here in Charleston I will think of you and know that you are out of harms way......love Loma Clarke"
"AIC: I keep thinking of all the “for instances” that made up the magic. It was all about setting up a pattern for our lives, with growth and curiousity at it’s core. I will be forever grateful for the life tools I acquired on that beautiful, pine-smelling island. All thanks to Steve. I look forward to sending out a candle boat in his memory
Haydie (Donahue) Callaghan"
"Email from Ross Harris....Alamar Mate 1962........."Sad news but Steve had a wonderful life and contributed to so many people. I remember unwinding with him and Nancy at their house on Breezy Point after along day, glass of bourbon in hand. Those were great times and I'm glad to have been a part of it."......Ross"
"Email from George Morgan...(AIC)..........."He was an inspirational man, I will never forget him and he will be in my prayers.""
"Email from Steve Lockwood.........
"While I was only an AICer for one summer (mate on the Alamar) the Steve I knew briefly was a remarkable guy with a vision (for the camp) which was a unique experience in the life of many.".......................................
Steve Lockwood AIC '60"
"From Barbara Swanson at NYSAIS in an email to Grace: "I have such warm, fond memories of Steve! He was a visionary--one who understood sustainability before there was such a term. I really loved him and I know that many others did as well. He left a quiet, strong legacy at NYSAIS which is stronger because of his leadership.""
"I have very fond of "Mr. Hinrichs" when he was headmaster at the Harley School. Can still see his wonderful smile and the twinkle in his eyes. Also have fond memories of spending time with the whole Hinrichs clan in Maine and Rochester. Your father lead a long and fruitful life."
"My memories of Mr. Hinrichs was a little girl in elementary school at the Harley School. He had such a kindness to him that I looked forward to popping my head into his office to just say hello. He always seem to have time for me and brightened the smile on my face. We were all given the gift of a wonderful personable leader."
"Good Morning Grace and family.
Charlie,Sean Cara and I would like to express our condolences on the death of Steve.
This is a very beautiful and wonderful memorial. May you cherish the memories and in that way find comfort in your loss.
We know Grace from Vinalhaven"
"Steve’s life was as deep as it was long. He was a thinking man who put his intelligence to good use. He lived life with purpose and his actions spoke volumes about his beliefs. He loved learning and life. He was able to share ideas, allow space for others to formulate their own, and hear what others had to say. He touched us deeply and will be remembered always."
"Resubmitted for Lew Bigelow entry: 30 September, 2010........
"Steve's steady hand and light touch at AIC continues to draw my awe as I recall knowing him over the years. He was a valued friend and mentor to me.""
"Mr. Hinrichs (as I will always think of him) was my history teacher at Burroughs. He then introduced me to the beauty of Maine by hiring me as a counselor at Alamoosook Island Camp. Just a few weeks ago, my husband and I were in Maine and we stopped, once again, to look over Alamoosook Lake. How I loved that place and time. And he was a wonderful teacher as well. I was lucky to know him."
"Steve was dearly loved by Dancy and me (Jim Duffus) and by our 2 Harley kids whom he befriended both at school and in later life. We sailed and golfed and skied with Steve and he was there at our kid's weddings and was always there for us. And Gracie, you have our respect and our love and admiration for all you did for, and meant to Steve. He was an icon,a renaissance man and true friend.Jim&Dancy"
"How could anyone encounter Steve and not be forever changed? Space is too small for the long, true narrative. So vignettes: Steve on Omega - Botticelli master, we paddle for long hours, no notice of our aching arms; Steve, charging our confidence in our own path and vision. On Delta, we sailed across Blue Hill Bay to Mount Dessert. Who else would have dared let us be so brave?"
"I have known Steve most of my life. He and his family spent many summers at my grandparent's camp on Lake Kezar. Later He would drive into their yard in Freeport with his station wagon full of stuff, heading up the coast. I always thought Steve was Fred Astaire. I hope he's sailing somewhere with my dad."
"One of my most poignant memories as a fledgling teacher at Thayer Academy was chatting with my "mentor", Grace Bernan, in Room 21A; she confided that she was leaving Thayer to marry a man she had met through an ivy league "match up" column! And what a great decision that was... Grace and Steve were a "match made in Heaven", a bonafide love story! Steve will be sorely missed. May he rest in peace!"
"Godfrey Pflager / John Burroughs....... from email to Ibi......
You made American history interesting, wish I'd talked on 4 trips to Aspen..married a Denver
woman, lived in NYC since '64. Bet you had a great
family, LUCKY to know you. Still laugh at you doing Ski exercises in class. Godfrey"
"We knew Stephen as a neighbor and friend at Samoset Village. His wisdom and good common sense were always respected at get-togethers on the porch or at Village meetings. He had a fine command of the English language and used that strength for many years to write a wonderful column monthly in the Samoset Village Newsletter. He will be missed."
"Like a father, like a brother, always a beloved friend. My fortunate connection with Steve began as an AIC counselor and was rounded with an active correspondence and summer visits for the last several years. Like so many of his friends, I will treasure his calm good sense, always spiced with humor and a twinkle in the eye."
"Steve was my golf coach and history teacher at John Burroughs. I wasn't a very good golfer and remember his support in my first match after my first drive at least stayed in the fairway: "Hit 'em like that and you'll do fine." It meant a lot then and now. What a good and gentle leader he has been for so many. Thank you, Steve."
"Steve was a wonderful person. I knew him first as a student at the John Burroughs School in the early fifties. Later, he became my boss at Alamoosook Island Camp, where he was kind enough to hire me for two years, in 1958 and 1959. My experiences at AIC have stayed with me the rest of my life.
Kitty Greve Darst"
"From Carl and Susan Chase in a note to Grace and the family: " In talking about him last night and today, we both realize and agree that he was quite possibly the one person whose influence had the greatest impact on the course of our adult lives....He is- and has been-with us every day of our lives as we've raised our kids (and grandkids), done our work, and had our adventures in this world.""
"Mr. Hinrichs (he was NEVER Stephen to me) was my favorite teacher at Burroughs and is the reason that I will be celebrating my 49th year on the slopes this winter. What a sweet guy he was. And, I also am glad to reconnect with Victoria in Santa Fe after so many years. My best wishes to the family. J. David Levy, JBS '63"
"From Lila Magie, Midcoast Forum member and good friend: "What a prince he was--so bright and thoughtful. I loved his questions at the Forum meetings for they were truly thought out and not just coming from his own agenda or to hear his own voice! We will miss him but I am glad it was not a long hard fight. Somehow you could imagine that Steve had a plan--and he carried it to the end.""
"Mi sarebbe piaciuto conoscerti insieme alla tua cara moglie Grace. Speriamo di incontrarci in un'altra dimensione. Ciao, Franca"
"We are blessed to have known Steve as a friend,neighbor,
and golfing companion while living at Samoset Village We will long remember the fun and conversations over golf,the Samoset operations,politics,travel,good food and wine.
May the sun,moon and stars shine brighter on Penobscot Bay as Steve embarks to meet his Pilot in Heaven.
Bruce & Marie Libby"
"I knew Mr. Hinrichs as a student at Harley, class of 1969. We may have been the most difficult group of kids he ever had to deal with. Partly the times we lived in, I suspect. He was firm and fair, with a sense of humor. My love and respect has only grown over the years - he is still the Headmaster!"
"A lovely and accomplished man...A life well lived."
"WE ALL SEND OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS YOUR WAY. SOUNDS LIKE HE WAS A WONDERFUL MAN. WE ARE SURE HE WILL BE MISSED. TAKE CARE.
DR. LAURA A. REIDY & STAFF"
"He was the only man in the world could take a biscuit apart...and put it back together again!"
"AIC camper for 3 years.
My experience at AIC formed my life. Steve taught by example. From him I learned to respect, love and get along with nature. His lessons were: you can live outdoors and be comfortable; always step up when there is work to be done - after all, what else is there to do out here?; never complain; be prudent but brave; always remember what happened to Figgie Newton."
"Steve is a major influence in my life. His smile is the first thing I think of when his name is mentioned. I don't know that he needed prayers to speed him on his way, he seemed always to be steering his own ship quite well. I just ask God to hold him in Love."
"Steve, wow how do I sum up all those feelings? For me Steve is strong, loyal, determined, fun loving, honest, fearless, kind and gentle. He is a true educator in all meanings of the word. Steve is a role model for the way a man should live his life. But most of all Steve is my friend. I am so blessed to be able to say that. Thank you Steve for all the things you taught me. I will hold you close."
"Steve, I wish you fairways & greens. And I wish you God's speed."
"Steve revealed the stature and character of true manhood for us all, while trusting the innate strength and creativity in each one of us. In so doing, he drew the truth of us forth. I pray I can begin to return the gift by providing the same for the generation soon be taking the helm. My God, they need it. Bless you Steve!
Ellen (Melon) Roos"
"What creativity we could all have with the send off. Still remember the music barge arriving at the AIC reunion. Some could come in another "What's that?" the three canoes we lashed together for ocean trips. Some could make 4th of July candle boats to send off with the ashes. Those far away could make and mail their candle boats to the celebration. Ah the fun begins."
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