mom’s obituary 3 years ago. I miss her so much!!!!https://www.legacy.com/us/obituaries/venturacountystar/name/susan-wells-obituary?id=2140287&utm_source=webshareapi&utm_medium=share_button&utm_campaign=wsapimobile_beta

Mom, I can't believe that Sept 6 passed and I did not realize it!

I just thought about it today that it has now been 2 years and 3 days since you passed.

I still wonder to this day if you really left naturally because when I was finally told that you were on your way out it was too late.

I can never forgive Amy for not letting me know. I carry this heavy guilt in my heart because when I flew out to see you as soon as I was told about your condition they had already taken you off oxygen and IV. I still don't think that is the decision I would have made because you went in for a UTI. How did things get that bad? I still question that. They had taken you off IV and oxygen but had put you back on oxygen so you could live until I arrived. Then they took you off oxygen again and gave you morphine for the pain which I was instructed to give you.

I was criticized by some that you never took drugs and would not have wanted Morphine. I was told this after you died. I did not want you in pain so I still disagree with the thought that since you never took drugs that you would want to be in pain. I am sure you were given Morphine in the hospital before. Anyway, I hope you understand that decision and the hospice told me it would make it painless for you.

I had come at the time where there was no more hope and you were already dying because they had given you oxygen but they still had you off the IV so you were starving to death. It was terrible to watch this happen to you mom. I hope you did not feel pain. IF I had known earlier that the hospital UTI visit turned deadly and that you were going to be taken off the IV I would not have agreed and would have questions as to why. I called the hospital and the nurse said Sue's daughter Amy gave them the go ahead to take her off the IV. I told the nurse that AMY IS NOT SUE'S DAUGHTER. I AM! It had already happened though and Bob agreed to it so I will never know what really happened or if you still had a fighting chance but Amy made the choice to end your life. I hope she gets the karma she deserves if it was foul play.

I am sorry mom. I know you probably want me to just get past this but I know how you and Amy did not get along and then she became your caretaker in the last couple years of your life. When you died Amy made sure we could not talk to Bob about anything because Amy was taking care of the money and they sold your house without telling us and moved to Arizona and pocketed all of it. They did not give your kids anything from the house you bought and raised us in. Not a dime. That is the other reason I feel that there may have been the decision to take you off the IV. Amy did not have to care for you anymore and they could sell the house and pay off all bills plus buy a new house in Arizona with cash from your house. It makes me sick! Mom I know it makes you sick too to see this. What do I do about all this?

I also, worry about Bob because Amy only cares about herself and he has Parkinsons too so he may see the same fate.

If anyone reads this and has any advice I would love to hear it.

I am so broken by the way you, Mom, died. I just don't know what to think about why they took you off IV from a UTI? Did you get the UTI because Amy was not caring for you well? I was there with you a lot but then the last 2 years when Amy needed a place to stay and made an agreement with Bob to help with care for you I went to Hawaii to take care of my business during covid.

I feel INCREDIBLY GUILTY FOR LEAVING EVEN THOUGH I FLEW OVER TO VISIT EVERY COUPLE MONTHS. I LEFT YOU WITH AMY! I really don't know how to handle this.

The weird thing that confuses me is that Amy broke down in tears crying hysterically when you were wheeled away from the house to the hearse. Guilty tears or tears of grief?

Mom, Amy even had you going to die in a home before I through a fit and said mom is dying at her house with family around her, not in a home during covid alone!. At least you got to take your final breath at your beloved home at 4198 Adam Road. The address you remembered until the very end. You would say you wanted to go home to 418 Adam Road whenever we were at the doctor or you were in the hospital or recovery. You loved that home. It had 50 years of memories for you.

Mom I love you so much and you are missed terribly! I hope you are happy and well and being your normal social butterfly!
Until we meet again MOM.
I love you!

Happy birthday mom. It’s been 2 years now since you left this earth and I miss you as much as the day you left.
I am going to try to figure out how to post a couple pics here too.
I love you forever…

Happy Birthday in heaven Mom!

Karen, thanks so much for sharing all the wonderful pictures. Tina and I would love to be able to attend the services, but are unable to do so. Your mom and I had a special bond. I have known her since we were teenagers.
We kept in touch over the years, and she visited us here in Austin. We are so grateful for the extensive genealogy work she did. I believe I have copies of it all. She was a sweet person, full of love. We will miss her very much.
With love,
Dale & Tina

I don't know how I got so blessed to have such a wonderful lady as my mother. She has always had a huge heart. She always found a way to provide us with the best possible life she could give us (her kids..Larry, Adam, Bodie, and myself).

She loved to spoil us, when she could, and she gave us an abundance of love.

She was somewhat of a pushover, due to her sweet nature and us kids took advantage of that at times (like asking for things she could not really afford or asking her if we could do something when she was asleep so she would just say yes). We would ask for things at times that were almost impossible to give, but somehow she would manage to make it work out.

I will never forget when I asked if I could have Taffy, a horse that had been owned by almost everyone on my tiny street of 6 houses. The neighbor next door was selling Taffy and I wanted her so badly. I knew that financially it might be a stretch for us to afford a horse, but I asked anyway..well..ok..I begged her to pleeeeeaaase let me have Taffy! My mom kept telling me that we can't afford it, etc. A month went by and I did not get the horse. I was bummed. The next month, on Christmas day, we all opened our presents from Santa and the doorbell rang. My mom said someone was at the door for me. It was Taffy! She pulled it off!!! She said I would have to quit gymnastics and use my movie money to buy Taffy's food so we could afford it. I was so excited!!!
My mom did that kind of stuff for us all the time. She loved to go above and beyond to make someone's day or life better. She was a true giver. Always.

She was also the strongest woman I ever met. I learned so much from her and my strength is definitely a trait I got from her. I learned that if you really wanted something, you just focus on what you want and work hard to get it. She built her own planter in the house, installed a back patio, and even made the garage into another bedroom, including the electrical (with help from her dad). She learned how to make flower arrangements and made money doing that. She learned how to make stained glass windows, lay flooring,etc. She usually just did it all herself, instead of hiring people because she wanted certain things, but could not afford it.

My mom also made some pretty cool Halloween costumes for us. Our favorite was a gorilla costume she made for Adam (I think it was Adam..might have been Larry. Correct me brothers and PLEASE POST A PIC OF IT).
My mom was just and AMAZING person in every way.

I will miss her sweet spirit and her laughter. She loved to laugh. My mom and I would often start laughing at something and could not stop. SO many great memories of this beautiful woman, inside and out, that I was lucky enough to call Mom.

Until we meet again...