Papa Sitting at Mummy's Bench for her 78th Birthday, September 14, 2015
Sushil Kumar Bansal
  • 84 years old
  • Date of birth: Oct 6, 1933
  • Place of birth:
    Meerut, Uttar Pradash, India
  • Date of passing: Dec 29, 2017
  • Place of passing:
    Madison, Wisconsin, United States
I held you close in my heart today, It made me feel complete. You may have died, but you are not gone, You will always be a part of me. As long as the Sun shines... The Wind blows... The Rain falls...

This memorial website was created in memory of my father, Sushil Bansal, 84, born on October 6, 1933 and passed away on December 29, 2017. He will live on in our hearts forever.

My father was suffering from complications due to stroke and since June this year after a surgery he started to have more problems.  While he suffered with multiple issues this year, it appears that he went to sleep on the night of December 28th and just didn't wake up and went peacefully.  He was at Belmont Nursing Home in Madison, Wisconsin at this time and had been there for little less than a year.

He was born in Meerut, India, the son of Dr. Dhanpat Rai and Smt. Prakash Vati (Goyal) Gupta. He married Saroj Rastogi on December 25, 1958, in Mawana, India. It was an arranged marriage. They saw one-another for the first time after they were married! They were rarely ever apart until my Mom passed away on September 8, 2013.  My father was an accountant by profession. He had a Masters in Mathematics. His first job was as a teacher at a school in Meerut but soon he found a position working as an accountant for the Government Of India.  He always worked very hard and no matter how difficult the situation became, he never let any of know that there were problems. In 1977 we moved to the United States and he worked with the Embassy of India in Washington DC for four years. Eventually he resigned from the Government Service and stayed on here so that we, the children could have a better life. After living in Maryland for 23 years they moved to Madison, Wisconsin along with his son's family.

He has always been the quiet one; most comfortable with papers, figures, computers but at the same time he did have a witty sense of humor. He always enjoyed a challenge – learning a new skill like web site development, mastering photography, creating projects on Shutterfly. He loved taking walks. My parents used to take regular a mile walk at least once a day, no matter how cold it was. They both loved to travel. We travelled a lot together both in India as well as here in the States. We went on a Cruise many years ago and this became his favorite way of vacationing.  He was very actively involved with Indian American Association in Madison. He loved playing Bridge and created a Bridge Group at the Fitchburg Senior Center. He also volunteered there for various activities including exercise program. He was supposed to teach Exercise class there a day after he had his stroke on February 14, 2013. Stroke left his left side weak. He loved working with the therapists and worked very hard to gain his strength back. He joined Adaptive Fitness class at the UW Natatorium offered by Tim Gattenby in Summer of 2013 and attended every session until the Fall of 2017 when he was too ill and weak from several complications due to Stroke. He loved this class; loved working with the students who doted on him; found a wonderful friend in Tim who went out of his way many times to help and work with my Dad. My Dad was very much looking forward to starting this class again on January 30th, 2018, but... He was definitely a fearless and adventureous soul.

His final year was spent at Belmont Nursing Home and Rehab. He was happy there and actually considered it second best place to home. Special thanks to Gail, Jerri, Essa, Pam, Chad, Joan and Katie who went out of their way many times to make his life a bit easier; and to the Activities Staff for discovering an artist in my father who had never before used a paint brush.

He is survived by his Son, Ashish; daughter-in-law, Gauri; grand-daughters, Priya and Pramita; daughter, Sandhia; and son-in-law, Christopher. He was preceded in death by his parents; 3 brothers – two older (Rajendra Kumar Bansal and Sukumar Chandra Bansal) and a younger one (Suboth Kumar Bansal); his wife and my Mom, Saroj Bansal and his older sister-in-law, Bala Bansal.


Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 23rd January 2018

"Dear Papa

Last month on this date, December 23rd, was a Saturday.  Not sure what you were doing at this time but neither you nor any of us knew then that that was your last Saturday on earth!  

I was planning to take you to that Botanical Garden again when I came when weather warmed up in March.  Glad that we were able to go in October and that it was a nice day and you said you had a nice time.

It feels so empty and quiet around 5-6 in the evenings because that is when we mostly texted or called one-another.  Now that phone never rings or beeps.  Yesterday we were sitting down to dinner and the home phone rang and even though I know it wasn't possible, I looked and almost expected it to be from your number!  It wasn't.

Miss you, miss your calls; miss your texts.  Miss you.
Your daughter"

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 21st January 2018

"Dear Papa

I saw you in my dream last night.  We were somewhere in a Rehab and you were being released to go home.  Jerri was there but I called her 'Cindy'.  She said they were sending you home with a home exercise program and I felt so relieved that you would have help at home!

I hope you are okay now; with Mummy.  Can you see now how loved you were.  I tried to tell you many times - mostly in my long letters.  Papa, I wish I had more happy memories of recent past in my head than the ones of fighting so hard with you, Belmont, Doctors and everyone else.  I wish that after so many years of so much efforts on all our parts, we ended on a happier note.  I wish you just didn't go away all alone.  Wish I came for Christmas/your anniversary - your and mummy's last on earth - 59th!  I am convinced that Mummy came for you and took you by your tired arms and you walked away with her smiling.  This picture of you two gives me peace.  

Always stay in my heart - you will always be there.  Know that I loved you, love you very much.  Wish I had a place to go...

Missing you
Your daughter who lectured all the time."

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 19th January 2018

"Dear Papa

Wish I knew what you were thinking in the end.  We were with Mummy when she went but you were all alone!  It hurts me so much to think of that that I cannot bear it.  Did you want to call for help and couldn't?  Or did you just fall asleep and Mummy came for you and took you by the hand?  I would like to think the latter.  But I don't know.

Wish I called you...  Wish you called me...
How you missed Mummy...  Now I know.  I am sorry that I lost the picture of your card you made for Mummy.  I sent the original with you.  Did you give it to her?  Remember me in your walks together.

Just come in my dream once or give me a sign that you knew how much I loved you and needed you.  I wanted for you to be able to walk again more than I have ever wanted anything and I am sorry that I could not let go of that wish during the whole last almost 5 years!  Wish you talked to me... Wish you told Chris to tell me what you wanted me to do.  Now it is too late.

Help me to forgive myself.
Your daughter"

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 14th January 2018

"Dear Papa

17 Days!  17 days since I knew where to find you.  I didn't even know for 4 hours that you were gone that day!  Gone forever...

I will have your last note to Mummy that you wrote on her birthday engraved and put on the bench that now belongs to both of you.  I hope you gave the original to her - I sent it with you...  And my letter to her and Babaji Ammaji....  Remember what I said...

This time when I go to Madison, neither of you will be there.  No place to go; no-one to fight with!  But I will visit the places where you were; see people who were close to you.  Wish you were there!  I will go to the class on your behalf on the 1st.  Its Chris's birthday on 30th - so...  Will you wish him Happy Birthday?  Send him one of your paintings?

You or Mummy never told me about the visit he made to you long ago - when he came to talk to you in my absence to see how you felt about him...  He liked you and Mummy very much.  I am in good hands.  Still I miss you very much.  Very much...

I am sorry that I never went to that cruise to Alaska that you so badly wanted.  Papa, you never denied me anything; but I denied you one thing that you and mummy asked of me.  How do I live with that?  How do I live with so much regret?  How do I live with the fact that I failed you even though I tried.  I am sorry that I would get so frustrated but I hope you know now that I was just angry with myself for not being able to fix things; also for having been selfish; very selfish indeed.  

Wish I had another chance.  Always be with me.  I need you; please stay  with me always...

Love you
Your daughter"

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 12th January 2018

"Dear Papa

After having the kind of last five years we have had, how could you just go on such a journey without saying Goodbye to me?  Were you angry with me?  Disappointed in me?  Felt I didn't need you?  I don't know what happened...  I need an answer to what happened that night but how will I find it?

Now even you are gone!

Miss you.
Your daughter"

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 10th January 2018

"From Kim (January 3, 2018)

I am very sorry to hear of your father’s passing.

He was a very kind man and I will miss him  greatly.

I am very privileged to have been involved in his and your mother’s care all of these years.

Please accept my deepest condolences during this time of grief.


This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 10th January 2018

"Dear Papa

Papa, what happened that night?  Why did you go away without calling or texting any of us?  You had the cell phone in your hand?  I really thought you would be around for at least another couple of years.  Why did you leave me?  How does someone who is so important just leave without saying GoodBye.  On the night of October 21st when I left you sitting in Belmont lounge, I told you 'see you next time'.  I didn't know next time will be after I am gone!  I hope I will see you then.  You better be prepared to answer this question then...

I miss you so very much.  How can it be your 'theravi' today?  Where have all the years gone?  Where have all four of you gone?

May be I will see you in my dream.

Miss you.
Your daughter"

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 9th January 2018

"Dear Papa

Coming to work this morning in the bus I closed my eyes and envisioned Mummy coming to you that early morning hour of December 29th and asking you to come with her.  May be she said "Bahut ho gaya, ab aa jao.  Shailu ka apna pariwar hai; Gudiya ko Chris dekh lega; Ab chalo".  May be you took her hand and told her how much you missed her.  May be Babaji, Ammaji were there too.  May be you got up, strong on your legs and floated above.  Hope you thought of me then...  hope you knew how much I still needed you.  I know you were tired; very tired and yet still has so many things that you planned to do.  I will go to your class on the second day; will try to finish your Sr. Center project this year.

Papa, I am sorry that I yelled at you on the 25th when you said you didn't have the balloon.  I wasn't angry with you; just with myself for failing you.  You said that I kept you alive with my efforts.  I don't think that its true.  You lived these last 4 years without mummy because of your own strong will and may be because I needed you but my effort was to make you stronger again so you could walk well enough; so you could stay home.  But I failed miserably.  By now I could see zero result for all that I tried and watching you suffer like this made me very sad and angry with myself.  I didn't know what to do and one day when things were miserably bad three weeks of so ago, I asked Mummy what to do.  I think she was watching me and gave me a sign that she knew how all of us were suffering in our own ways.  May be she came down on 29th to help you; to help us; to help us move on.  But now what?  How do I go on and wake up and feel like doing anything?  Will you help me?

Come in my dream one day soon and tell me that you are okay.  Show me that you and Mummy are going on your walks again.  May be three of us can walk together again in my dream the way we used to; the way Mummy and I did in one of my dreams long ago!

Love you and miss you
Your daughter"

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 8th January 2018

"From Jan and Dick --

Even though we knew your dad only a short time, he was so memorable.  He was always so gentle and kind.  He also had a sense of humor and it was nice to see.  You could tell he loved your mom, just the way he acted.  We were so lucky to have been a part of his life even for a short time.  

Jan and Dick"

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 8th January 2018

"Dear Papa

I miss you so much.  Come back...

Love you
Your daughter"

This tribute was added by Katie Wedig on 5th January 2018

"Dear Sushil and family,

My deepest sympathies to the family during this difficult time. Sushil was such a pleasure to work with, and I very much looked forward to our time together at Belmont. He was such an intelligent, hard working, and genuinely kind man who introduced me to Bridge and his Indian culture that he adored so much. One of my favorite days spent with him was when he showed me a couple of his favorite Indian songs, including “Mera Joota Hai Japani” by Raj Kapoor. Below are the lyrics of the main chorus:

“My shoes are Japanese,
These pants are English,
The red hat on my heat is Russian,
But still, my heart is Indian.”

Memories, like this one, will be with us forever. He will be greatly missed.

-Katie Wedig, Speech Language Pathologist at Belmont Nursing and Rehab"

This tribute was added by Katie Berberet on 3rd January 2018

"Bansal Family,
My deepest sympathy to you during this difficult time. Your dad was a pleasure to work with and will be missed by many. Continued Prayers,
Katie Berberet, Social Worker Belmont Nursing and Rehab."

This tribute was added by James Hammen on 3rd January 2018

"I'm sorry to here of your father's passing . He was a good man , I only new him from adaptive fitness classes but was always happy. He will be missed."

This tribute was added by Betty Merten on 2nd January 2018

"To Sushil's family
I met him at the Adapted classes he was a wonderful man. I learned so much from him, he was always ready to work hard. Sushil always had a smile for everyone. He will live in our memories forever."

This tribute was added by Tim Gattenby on 2nd January 2018

"Dear Sushil and family.
I'd like to express my deep appreciation for Sushil's participation in the University of Wisconsin adapted fitness program. Over the course of the last few years Sushil blessed us with his presence and participation and helped to train hundreds of new health and medical professionals by his presence in the program. I would like to express my deep condolences but again my deepest appreciation for all of you who helped encourage and support his coming to work with us.  I would have to say that barring health and medical issues Sushil was one of the most dedicated reliable and consistent participants that we had in the program's history.

Personally for me I greatly enjoyed Sushil's involvement as a client but also as a friend.  He had a stealthy under-the-radar type of humor that we all looked forward to when he was in attendance. I know that we will all miss him but we will all look forward to seeing him again and also we are extremely happy to know that he is now reunited with his wife and other family members who are welcoming him to the next stage of existence. Much appreciation and thank you so much for sharing him with us here at the University of Wisconsin adapted fitness and  personal training program.

Timothy G Gattenby"

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 2nd January 2018

"January 23, 2018

Dear Papa

Its been 26 days since I could find you; since I could fight with you...  We did fight a lot, didn't we?  Wish we had more time together.  Wish there was something I could have done to improve your quality of life in last few months.  Wish I was there...  Wish I just held your hands and listened...  But I wanted so badly to see you walk again and it had been a while since I did.  May be I should've given more importance to what you wanted.

I had all the good intentions.  I loved you very much and will always do.  How can I not?  You are in my Heart just like the three others now.  I still needed you.  Hope you know that.

Love you and missing you.
Your daughter"

This tribute was added by Anju & Pratap Thakur on 2nd January 2018

"Dear Uncle

This is very shocking news to me. Few days back I was texting with Shalini and also tried to skype but did not get any response.I could never imagine that we have lost you. You were always so lively and enthusiastic. When I look back it seems that mano kal ki hi baat hai
when we all enjoyed together in Madison and Minneapolis.I wish we could have met sometimes again but you left us........We will miss you uncle. pray that you rest in peace...."

This tribute was added by Sandhia McLeod on 1st January 2018

"Dear Papa

How is it that I am writing this to you?  You are supposed to be at Belmont, giving everybody a hard time!  When I left you on October 22nd, you were sitting in the lounge with others.  When I said 'see you next time', you looked so sad... so very sad...  I hated to leave you.  I wish there was something more I could have done to make all the bad things go away.  I am sad that you are gone and that you were alone at the time...  You had your cell phone in your hand.  Were you trying to call me?  I am sad that I wasn't here for you on your anniversary at XMas.  I am sad that you didn't get to send Mummy a balloon.  But I know that you are with her and happy by her side.  Don't upset her; talk to her to her heart's content.  Babaji, Ammaji - You are all together now.  I like to think so.  

This morning I sat around the hotel room, looking around and a bit lost.  I used to have to get ready very quickly so I could come for a visit with you.  Today you next texted me to find out where I was.  I almost expected you to ping me.  I still need you very much.  May be I didn't realize it how much.  I miss you already.  Miss you very much.  Will you come and see me in my dreams?  All my old life, my childhood life is now gone; all four of you are gone.  I miss that life; miss all of you; and right now I miss you most of all.  I never thought when I left you last that I won't see you again.  

Why did I not miss a beat and felt a pang as you left this World?  Why did I have to receive a phone call to know that you were gone?  How could we have been so close and yet not have felt the loss?  I don't know...  Wish you would come back.  We were going to go to Botanical Gardens again.  You had plans... What of them?  Why so sudden?  It hurts so much because you know...

I hope you knew how much I loved you.  I hope you knew that when I was angry with you, it was because I was just angry with me for not being able to fix things; for not being able to make your life just a little bit easier.  I am sorry that I failed.  I tried but...

I love you so very much; and miss you even more.
Come back...

Love you

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