ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of my mother, Terri Brooks-Spilker She was 67 years old when she passed, much too soon. She was born on July 22, 1953 and left this earth on January 3, 2021. We will all remember her coy smile always.

Due to the Covid-19 Pandemic there will be no official services. Mom probably wouldn't have really been into that anyway. A small group will be scattering moms ashes in the mountains this summer as mom wanted. Please feel free to express your condolences, thoughts, feelings, and stories about Terri here where all will be able to see and enjoy them. 

Thank you again and please participate in celebrating Terri's life by leaving a tribute below. Or by adding a story, adding pictures, video, or music in the Stories or Gallery section.
Posted by Darlene (Stauffer back th... on January 19, 2021
Sorry to hear of Terri's passing. Even though I left town a long time ago and didn't keep in contact, I remember her sense of humor, kind heart, shared stories and adventures in child rearing and us both admiring and thinking the new Ford Bronco painted Navy blue with tan trim on the bottom was way too cool. I thought she had the most beautiful family living there in the spaciousness of Winchester Hills and having the room for animals. I feel I know her better after reading JW's heartfelt tribute to his mother and those of others. You know Terri has to be beaming in Heaven! Please know I share in your loss. She left us way too soon. Let us remember and cherish what she gave and shared with us. She could always warm a person's heart just by being Terri. I know she sure loved and valued her beautiful kids and remember her being proud of you all. Much love and comfort to you. Yes, and we'll meet again someday at the end of the Rainbow Bridge. Her love connects us all.
Posted by Trent Armstrong on January 17, 2021
I believe that Terri and I came into each other's lives for a reason.
From the first moment we met, while working at Tuacahn, we built an amazing friendship. We shared horseback rides, road trips, getaways and numerous phone conversations over the years since.
At times it felt like there was some cosmic connection. I say this because there were many times when either one of us (even though living on opposite sides of the country) would contact the other one to say, "I was thinking about you today, do you need to talk?"
The reply was always "Yes! How did you know?"
Sometimes these talks were to share good news and other times it was because one of us was having a rough day. The thing I will always remember most is that no matter how good or bad a day we were having when the conversation started, we always shared a good laugh before each conversation ended. She always brought me a ray of sunshine into any day that she was part of.
  
I am blessed to have known her.

Her bright smile, her laughter and her loving heart (for people and animals) will be missed by all.
Posted by Erica Brooks on January 13, 2021
My fondest memories of Aunt Terri were seeing her with her horse or with one of her Great Danes. She had a distinctive and contagious laugh. I was a pretty quiet kid but Terri was open and easy to talk to. While I don’t think she always took the easy path, I think she was a genuinely kindhearted person. I wish I knew her better and I’m sorry that she’s gone. Cheers to her adventures, her fiery spirit and sweet soul.
Posted by Samantha Spilker on January 13, 2021
I don't know Grandma Terri as well as I would have liked to, but what I do remember is she was always a pretty upbeat kind of person. She made me laugh and we always had a good time. The best word I can think of to describe her is fun. I remember she had the longest prettiest nails and hair, and she had a very distinct voice. She smelled like incense and cigarette smoke, not something everyone can pull off but I thought she did. I thought she had a great sense of style and I like her taste in music. I remember her bringing her great Dane Aiden over once, he was practically as big as her! She liked Scooby-Doo like me and even let me keep a big pillow of him I had grown fond of. I think was supposed to be for Aiden! That was really nice of her and I appreciate that. I know she was a very kind person and had a free spirit. We will miss you Terri, and I hope to get to know you better someday.
Posted by Elizabeth Lockhart on January 13, 2021
Mom was strong, independent, confident, smart, kind, sweet, funny, unique and so much more. She may not have been around much as we both would have liked due to being a single mother supporting a child or 2, and a few animals. She still did teach me so much in the time we did have together. I am the strong and independent woman I am because of her.

She spread so much joy in her years. She inspired others to be better. She defied societal norms, and just was herself. She didn't shy away from trying new things. If she failed she would just try again. She was the most accepting person I've ever met. She always saw the best in people, and would never judge anyone before getting to know them. She will never be forgotten by so many. I have and will miss her so much. If there is anything after this life, I hope mom is spending time with Cody. I know how much she missed him, and I hope I'll be able to see them both again myself.
Posted by Carrie Brooks on January 11, 2021
Though we never really got to say goodbye, your memory will be in my heart. I am so sorry that you left this world so early. I will keep all the good memories of you and hope you are at peace. 
Love you,
Carrie
Posted by Tom Brooks on January 11, 2021
One of Terri's favorite movies was "Remo Williams".
JW didn't emphasize this enough: Terri expressed many times, She preferred animals to people.
She had 3 wonderful (short term) jobs: FedEx in Aspen, CO, Horse trainer for Wayne Newton (singer - think "Danke schoen")https://youtu.be/LRPILZS1hc8 Las Vegas, NV, Animal Wrangler for Tuacan Theater, Snow Canyon, (St. George), UT. where she handled horses and even camels - "Joseph's Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat"
She was a very prolific reader.
She taught me, her big brother, an extremely valuable life lesson: JW touched on this when he mentioned how she never took herself too seriously. A girl at school approached her, while we were standing next to our Bonneville Jr. High-school lockers. The girl was attempting to be mean and hurled her insult at Terri. She said, "You've got a big ugly nose." Without hesitation, before I could say or do anything, Terri fired back with a smile, "I know! I've been trying to install a ski lift and make some money off of it." She totally disarmed the mean girl and made her laugh. Suddenly they were friends and that girl started being nice to everyone.
We all face these moments: We can escalate or de-escalate in a moment of time.
I told JW, my best memory ever, of Terri, was when she and I went bowling and two school bullies walked up with bad intentions. Terri walked up to one of them, planted her finger on his chest, and said, "You leave my brother alone.". They took off, never to bug me again. :*)
Terri - 4'10" 85 lbs. She was adorable and had a habit of becoming the girlfriend of my friends from age 4 with Johnny Dubois on through our mid teens. Bobby Sharp, George?, Ray Curry, Up until she met Kevin Spilker and I became his friend.
BTW: Kevin is still with us. He lives in a small apartment in St. George under the care of his aging parents.
Posted by Sarah Spilker on January 8, 2021
I will forever be grateful to Terri for raising an amazing son. I loved how unique Terri was. When I first met Terri I was not that into animals. She showed me a beautiful relationship can exist between humans and animals. For a tiny little lady, she loved her great big dogs, big horses, and big Ford Trucks. I loved her beaded hippie curtains. She will be dearly missed.

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Posted by Darlene (Stauffer back th... on January 19, 2021
Sorry to hear of Terri's passing. Even though I left town a long time ago and didn't keep in contact, I remember her sense of humor, kind heart, shared stories and adventures in child rearing and us both admiring and thinking the new Ford Bronco painted Navy blue with tan trim on the bottom was way too cool. I thought she had the most beautiful family living there in the spaciousness of Winchester Hills and having the room for animals. I feel I know her better after reading JW's heartfelt tribute to his mother and those of others. You know Terri has to be beaming in Heaven! Please know I share in your loss. She left us way too soon. Let us remember and cherish what she gave and shared with us. She could always warm a person's heart just by being Terri. I know she sure loved and valued her beautiful kids and remember her being proud of you all. Much love and comfort to you. Yes, and we'll meet again someday at the end of the Rainbow Bridge. Her love connects us all.
Posted by Trent Armstrong on January 17, 2021
I believe that Terri and I came into each other's lives for a reason.
From the first moment we met, while working at Tuacahn, we built an amazing friendship. We shared horseback rides, road trips, getaways and numerous phone conversations over the years since.
At times it felt like there was some cosmic connection. I say this because there were many times when either one of us (even though living on opposite sides of the country) would contact the other one to say, "I was thinking about you today, do you need to talk?"
The reply was always "Yes! How did you know?"
Sometimes these talks were to share good news and other times it was because one of us was having a rough day. The thing I will always remember most is that no matter how good or bad a day we were having when the conversation started, we always shared a good laugh before each conversation ended. She always brought me a ray of sunshine into any day that she was part of.
  
I am blessed to have known her.

Her bright smile, her laughter and her loving heart (for people and animals) will be missed by all.
Posted by Erica Brooks on January 13, 2021
My fondest memories of Aunt Terri were seeing her with her horse or with one of her Great Danes. She had a distinctive and contagious laugh. I was a pretty quiet kid but Terri was open and easy to talk to. While I don’t think she always took the easy path, I think she was a genuinely kindhearted person. I wish I knew her better and I’m sorry that she’s gone. Cheers to her adventures, her fiery spirit and sweet soul.
her Life
About mom according to me:
Terri liked to have fun with whatever she was doing.  She had a cute sense of humor and liked to make everything light hearted and fun. She played with us kids a lot, we had water fights, hiked Snow Canyon, went camping, and of course played with the animals.  The animals, that is where mom's true love was.  She loved those animals so much that we often would kid that she loved them more than us.  Dinner had to wait until the horses were fed and watered!  We had a bit of a menagerie at our home in Winchester Hills.  We had horses, chickens, a goat (would you believe the goat and chickens were allowed in the house?), dogs, a bird, and us kids. Mom loved her horse Sis. Sis was a Morgan horse with a flaxen mane and tail.  We always had dogs in the family, she loved her Great Dane Tink, and several others, I can't remember the names of all the Danes.   It was always funny to see these giant dogs and such a tiny lady together. I remember a few birds here and there too, Bean the parrot and Dudley the Cockatoo. She hung on to having animals for as long as she could.  When she couldn't have them anymore it was very hard on her.

She listened to classic country music, what I called hippie music, and some current groups of her time.  The ones I can remember are Willy Neilson, James Taylor, Randy Newman, Kenny Rogers, Donovan, Blues Brothers, The Beatles, and the Bee Gees.  Her favorite color was Green. Mom's style was hippie or western wear. She was still a jeans kinda gal though. She loved incense, patchouli scent the best, beaded curtains, and most anything hippie.  I don't remember a specific favorite food of hers, but I know she loved M&M's the plain ones. She would have a large family size bag on hand most of the time. She preferred McDonalds over Burger King. She ordered a cheeseburger and fries every time, the #2 meal I think it was.  She loved Diet Rite, very hard to find.

Terri was outgoing and yet a bit shy at the same time.  She made friends quickly and enjoyed being with them. She almost seemed more comfortable with some buddies than with her immediate family.  She hung out with horse groups of all kinds.  I remember her endurance riding group of friends, her horse show group of friends, and her wrangler group from Tuachan.  She always kept a few people a little closer than the main group.

Mom was involved in several different programs for us kids.  She did a Little Women group through 4-H for my sister and a Food for Fun 4-H group for me and my friends. Later she helped me with 4-H horsemanship, and endurance riding. Before those her and dad took me all over for my BMX racing.

Mom was a great cook.  My favorite meals were spaghetti, teriyaki chicken, and beef wellington.  Most everything she made was good.

Mom helped me to become the person I am today.  She taught me that everyone is equal.  She taught me that you can't judge a book by it's cover and you don't judge others. She taught me hard work, through helping take care of the animals. She had a tremendous faith in me. I never had a curfew and was trusted to do the right thing. Her faith in me has helped me be a confident, independent individual. She always had my back, even in a few circumstances that looking back she maybe shouldn't have. I am truly grateful for all she did for me.

How we came to this:
Mom showed some of the first signs of Alzheimer's only about 4 years ago. She didn't keep in contact with family very well and was quite difficult to track down.  She lead a very nomadic lifestyle for a spell. She moved quite often and changed phone numbers or didn't keep them activated constantly.  

She was quite far along in the disease when she was placed in a home in Pasco, Washington after a hospital visit.  She had brief moments of coherent speech and could recognize myself, Sarah and Mitch.  Her place in Pasco didn't work out due to her excessive care and we had to find a new place for her.  She had grown quite fond of her boyfriend Mitch and so we struggled with whether to move her closer to home or keep her there in Washington.  After a lot of thought and persuasion by Mitch we decided to move her to a wonderful place in Pullman, Washington.  Her new caretakers were the absolute best they knew just how to give her the care she needed.  I am truly thankful for them and all they did for mom.  Mitch kept his word and spent time with her almost every day until Covid rules made that impossible. Thank you Mitch for doing your best!  When she was first placed into the Pullman home she was placed on Hospice due to her not being able to eat on her own.  Purity, her care giver, took care of that and soon she was eating on her own. They took her off Hospice and she was healthy, just not very Terri. She could not speak very well and didn't recognize people very well.  She even didn't respond to dog therapy!

At the beginning of October she had a serious seizure and had to go to the hospital again.  The doctors were very concerned because she wouldn't eat again.  Back on Hospice.  Mom wouldn't eat while she was at the hospital.  In comes Purity to the rescue again, she has some kind of magic, she got mom eating again.  I was thinking mom would recover again with Purity there to take care of her.  She did get a bit better but not too great.

On Sunday, January third in the morning, she went into a comma like state and passed away. I feel that she is much happier now being free of all that life brought her in the end.  I have so many wonderful memories as a kid with her and that is where I will keep her in my heart.  I will remember the hiking, camping, 4-H, horse shows, endurance rides, goofing around, and all the support she gave me growing up.  Thank you Mom I truly appreciate all you did.

Hit by a car

Mom was hit by a car as a child.

Married Kevin Spilker

Two very young people.  Mom didn't finish high school and dad had just barley.  They were young and did their best and made it to 17yrs.
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From Mary Jo Brooks via Facebook

Shared by JW Spilker on January 15, 2021
Terri was like a little girl who never wanted to grow up. She was so small but mighty. Her three boys and one girl can thank heaven for the interesting life they all lived.  I remember visiting her and Kevin with My hubby Bill and our two oldest kids. We sat on the sofa and one of the Great Danes sat right next to me on the sofa. It took up most of the space but I love animals too so just snuggled in. This was summer of 1974 or 1975.  She gave us soda drinks. I think just Stacy and JW were her only kids at that time. I shared her love of horses as I had one as a kid. She wasn’t much more than a kid herself.  Lovable though. Will alwsys remember her smile (impish) and her pretty long hair. Rest now and ride in heaven.

Teresa Lynn Brooks' favorite poem:

Shared by Tom Brooks on January 10, 2021
I met a little elf man, down where the lillies grow.
I asked him why he was so small, and why he didn't grow?
With a twinkle in his eye, he looked me through and through:
"I'm just as big for me," he said, "as You are big for You.".

Moms Favorite car

Shared by JW Spilker on January 10, 2021
Mom got a red Pontiac Firebird with a T top.  She loved that car until..  She was driving down St. George Boulevard and was passing a Safeway on the North side of the street and came to a stop at the stop light. When a police car slammed into the back of her.  Scared me to death and I'm pretty sure her dad was with us too.  When the officer cam to see if we were ok he told us that he was distracted by the ponies in the Safeway parking lot!  Well shortly after that they got rid of the Firebird.  I think we were all sad to see it go. Here is a picture of it in it's pre crash glory.