A TRIBUTE TO MY UNCLE - DAD. (63NA/3065, CAPTAIN TEDDY ADABA)
I was nine years old when my mother called me one evening and told me that I was going away to live with my uncle, Thaddeus Itsemhe ADABA, her younger brother, in 1962. Having agreed it with my father, my dad called me the next morning to talk to me as a young child, that he was not sending me away because he did not like me, but because he loved me and wanted a better life for me. He added that if I did not like my stay there, I can always come back home and tell him and he will stop me from going back there. The year was 1962, and I was in primary three. From that day until now, Capt. TEDDY Itsemhe ADABA has been my uncle and father, as I never went back to live with my parents until I became an adult.
Our journey started at Ayoguiri primary school where he was a teacher. From then on until his demise, he has been a father figure to me and a constant factor in my adult life. And looking back, he was only 19 years old at the time, and he was everything to me and everything I knew.
We spent two years at Ayoguiri. Then during the end of the school session in 1963, he came to Lagos to join the Nigerian army and proceeded to Zaria for his military training while I went to live with my grandpa and grandma at Ikabigbo to finish my primary school in 1964. I came to join him in Lagos in 1965 when he was deployed to the Headquarters of Nigerian Army Signals Corps in Apapa. He was bright and top of his class in the military training he attended. I got to know this from his course mates gossips and discussions. He was loved and related well with his mates and superiors in the army. He was so neat in his turnout that they called him " Teddy Pepempe"...I played a role in that because he taught me how to wash, starch and iron his "kakhi" to make him look "Pepempe"... On more than one occasion, his senior colleagues brought their uniforms for me to wash and iron so that they too can be neat and look "pepempe"...He did not allow them to tip me for my services.
From that early beginning in 1962 to the time he got married and fought throughout the Nigerian civil war in the 2 Division of the Nigerian Army in the Midwest, Onitcha and Awka, he was the father that I knew.
During the July 1966 counter coup, led by the northern officers, he was in the entourage of the then Gen. Aguiyi Ironsi, then (Head of State) tour of Ibadan western region. He was the radio operator of the motorized signals communications trip to Ibadan. He was arrested as they were arresting all Igbo soldiers and officers. He was detained for two days. Luckily, his first cousin, Sgt. Mamudu Adaba, with whom they bear the same ADABA surnames, was also a sergeant in the army but was with the counter coup team. He identified him and pleaded for his release that he was his brother and he was set free.
At the end of the civil war in January 1970, he was based in Benin City at the Headquarters of the Nigerian Army Second Division Signals where I was also now a soldier. He had enlisted me into the Nigerian Army in February 1969 and I was enlisted as Anthony ADABA. This was because the Warrant officer, who was one the officers in charge of the exercise and a close friend of my uncle, simply wrote my name down as Anthony ADABA when it got to my turn. He did not asked me my name as he did others. He had known me from visiting our house and believes he was my elder brother. This was how I served out my time in the army as Anthony ADABA. I tried a few times to correct this to my proper surname, but the process was tedious, so I let it be.
While he was posted to Warri at the end of the civil war in 1970, I remain in Benin with his wife and daughter. We only separated for the first time when he was posted to Akure in 1971 after the birth of his second daughter. I visited him often in Akure to see my family as it were...And when 2 Division eventually moved to Ibadan in 1972, I visited Akure more regularly to see him and family.
I grieve today over your passing dear "Brother" as I called you. I am the first child in your household and I know you are a good man, misunderstood by many including your siblings. You taught me almost everything that I know and for that am so grateful. All your children were born in my presence and under my care and I know you loved and stood strong for them all.
Capt. TEDDY Itsemhe ADABA alias "I beeeg" as some of yours friends and associates fondly called you, rest in peace and in the bossom of the Lord...MAY GOD GRANT YOU ETERNAL REST..
TONY IYAFOKHAI (ADABA).