ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Thaddeus Akum. We will remember him forever.

Thaddeus NCHOTU AKUM passed away at the young age of 47 on April 8, 2021 in Yaoundé, Cameroon, following a brief illness. Thaddeus was born on May 11, 1973 in Tiko, to Mr. John AKUM NCHOTU (late) and Mrs. Magdalene BIE AKUM née TAMBI (late). 

Growing up the child of a diplomat, Thaddeus began his elementary education in Bangui, Central African Republic and transferred to schools in London (UK) and Washington D.C. (USA) before finishing off at Ecole du Centre in Yaoundé. In 1984, he began his secondary education at College Bilingue d’Application (CBA) in Yaoundé before transferring to Lycée Bilingue Buea (Molyko) in 1986. Teddy, as many of his friends and relatives called him, also attended Government Bilingual High School (GBHS) in Bamenda and completed his GCE A-levels before traveling to the USA to pursue his higher education. Passionate about Law his entire life, he obtained his bachelor’s degree in Legal Studies from the University of Maryland followed by a Master of Arts (MA) in International Development from Saint Mary’s University of Minnesota. Recently, he had set his sights towards a PhD in International Development.

He worked for several years as a Sr. Paralegal Consultant in Maryland then in Minnesota (USA) while pursuing his dream of working in Africa by taking on short term assignments with entities like the UNCTAD (United Nations Conference on Trade and Development) in Addis Ababa (Ethiopia). 

Anyone who ever met Thaddeus knows that he was fun-loving, good company, full of life… really a people’s person. He was preceded in death by his mother (d. 1985) and father (d. 2009) and is survived by two elder sisters and a younger brother. He also leaves behind an 8-year-old son, John Ray, a large family of aunts & uncles, close cousins, and many nieces & nephews whom he loved and who loved him. We will all miss him dearly. 


Posted by Fri Etogo-Eko on May 7, 2021
Ni Thaddeus, my Mr. T,
I still can't believe I'm writing this tribute. I still can't believe you're gone. Gone forever. I'm still in shock.
You were my big brother, my friend. Though we disagreed sometimes, I was still always honored you valued my opinion and trusted me to handle somethings for you. Thank you very much.
We could talk about everything and nothing but we always agreed on one thing: our love for family.
You were such a selfless person, always thought of others before yourself. With your big heart, if you could, you would carry everyone on your shoulders.
I can't stop reminiscing about the past with a smile on my face. How growing up was so much fun around you guys.
I remember how Papa used to say "no one speaks anything in this house except the dialect" and you were one of those who would stay mute. Then, we'll be your translators.
I remember when Papa died, you waited for us in Yaounde and stayed with us throughout that ordeal, you and Ni Achu never left our side. You were our rock, one of our constants.
I remember when I was in the university, I wanted to play a fast one on you. I came up with some cock and bull story about needing money for something. Lol...I thought I had dealt with you but you sent me a mail and said "Fri, I know say you di lie but I don send you money"... hahaha.
I remember when I just started driving and a taxi driver barged into my car, you gave him such a hard time he'll never try that with anyone else in his whole life.
I remember when you met my husband for the first time. You marked him forever. He can never forget when you told him "you go tie heart eh cos this ma sisters dem di strong head fine"... hahaha. Yet, you never thought any man was good enough for your sisters.
I remember when you heard of John's birth, you were so excited. You couldn't wait to see and hold your son in your arms. You always reminded us to always check up on him.
I remember when you met the kids in Yaounde last year, you were so excited as they were. You said "Fri, you di remind me of mummy right now". Oh, by the way, they keep asking about you. Immanuel asked "Mummy, is Uncle Thaddeus up now?" I was speechless. Miss M is always reminding me not to cry anymore.
Thank you for being you.
Thank you for all these wonderful memories because these are the memories I want to keep in my heart forever, not the pain, the tears nor the hole your passing away has left in our hearts.
I keep asking myself what I would have gone to change this reality we're living today but alas, nothing. I reassure myself with the wordings of 1 Thessalonians 5:18 which says "in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you."
The Lord gave you to us and He has called you back to His bosom. How can I, mere mortal question God? In my pain, sorrow, hurt and tears all u can say is "Let thy will be done".
Rest in peace, my brother. I promise you, we will all take good care of John, he will want for nothing. But I know he will miss you forever.
Rest on my brother, you have a whole family that way waiting to spoil you as they always did. Say me well to them all. Until we meet to part no more.
Adieu, we love you to bits.
From Fri, Immanuel, Victoria & Miss Mufut.
Posted by Kisob Yango on April 11, 2021
Hey grand frere, wow! It's amazing how life can be soo unpredictable, if only we had a chance to predict the nearest future I don't think anyone will post a tribute on here. But as the saying goes, everything works in the beautiful image of God and only HE alone is accountable for any decision he takes. With that said we have no other choice rather than to say WE THANK YOU LORD!

My relationship with you was always smooth and cordial. I met you just 5times in my whole existence, and If I can recall correctly, you were always engaged with my immediate plan of action, and always strived to give me directives in life. Family is not limited to your nuclear family, but rather those who have a positive impact in one's life. Your gestures were always jovial, and you used to make fun of my gestures, and told me I was the split replicant of my older brother. If I find my self in the United states today, it was a quick and smart initiative from you. Wow! Today watching images of you with amazing grace rhythm in the background is so sad. My sincere condolences to the Akum family, these are tough times, given the recent tragedies, but we all should rather celebrate the life of this dynamic and distinguished handsome gentleman, rather than mourn. Adieu grand frere, I'm quite sure you must be together with your parents.
Posted by Akere Achu on April 11, 2021
My dear brother from another mother ,
Words cannot describe how I feel inside . It’s like I’m dreaming , what a hard pill to swallow . We spoke so much recently more than ever before , oh how we knew the end was near! Caring , kind , hilarious , very engaging and supportive especially at my hour of great need. You made me see reason in times of despair and uncertainty. You gave me courage when I felt low . You made me laugh so much .
Oh Ni Akum you were a brother indeed. It’s hard to know you will not pick up my call or respond to my messages. I have saved our 2021voice recordings and will cherish every moment shared .
Rest in peace bro , till we meet to part no more .
Posted by Njonbie Chimene on April 12, 2021
C’est avec beaucoup d‘émotion et de tristesse que j’ai appris le décès de notre cher frère Taddheus , arraché très tôt à la vie...
Comme on dit très souvent, les voies du Seigneur sont insondables. Que sa volonté soit faite Sincères condoléances à toute la famille éprouvée.
Union de prières pour le repos éternel de son âme.
Courage Barbara❤️
Posted by Christine Walker on April 10, 2021
To the Akum Family. My heart is sadden to hear about the passing of Thaddeus. I know you all will miss him deeply. May God comfort and strengthen all of you to know that he is safe in the arms of the Lord. My prayers and thoughts of peace are with you in your time of Bereavement. “ Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, lean not unto thine own understanding, in all thy ways acknowledge him and he will direct thy path.” May the peace of God rest, rule and abide in the name of Jesus. Grace and Peace. Love you all. Mom Chris (Achu & Tameca Mom) ❤️❤️
Posted by Ronald Coleman on April 10, 2021
May God have MERCY ON THADDEUS SOUL! Aameen! I briefly met THADDEUS at my niece TAMECA, & Achu's wedding. I instantly felt connected with his WARM SPIRIT! May GOD COMFORT TAMECA, ACHU, HIS ENTIRE FAMILY, & MAKE IT EASY ON THEM. Aameen! LOVE UNCLE RONALD & AUNT DEBBIE ❤
Posted by Kien Marceline on April 10, 2021
Life has shown us again, it's hurtful side by taking you away from us when we didn't see it coming. There is no way to make up for time lost and now gone, but I hope where ever you are, you know that you are truly a lovely brother and we hope you find peace and joy in the bosium of the Lord Almighty. Amen
Posted by Kemi Osias on April 9, 2021
Uncle Teddy, you are fondly remembered as a man who lived life to the fullest. Rest in the Lord's perfect peace.
Posted by Bei Ndi on April 9, 2021
I love you Big Taddy. I can't even write...my heart is hurting . I miss you . Rest In Peace.
Posted by Jenifer Akosa on April 9, 2021
Presi....I will continue to call you Presi.....when you became the President of the Lycee Bilingue Cooperative in 1992.....it showed that you were born to lead and help others....I was your Vice President....you seldom called me by name....you always called me Vice.....with a peculiar voice....who will call me Vice again.....Presi forever in my heart
Vice.....Tatiana Mankaa Babila-Akosa

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Posted by Fri Etogo-Eko on May 7, 2021
Ni Thaddeus, my Mr. T,
I still can't believe I'm writing this tribute. I still can't believe you're gone. Gone forever. I'm still in shock.
You were my big brother, my friend. Though we disagreed sometimes, I was still always honored you valued my opinion and trusted me to handle somethings for you. Thank you very much.
We could talk about everything and nothing but we always agreed on one thing: our love for family.
You were such a selfless person, always thought of others before yourself. With your big heart, if you could, you would carry everyone on your shoulders.
I can't stop reminiscing about the past with a smile on my face. How growing up was so much fun around you guys.
I remember how Papa used to say "no one speaks anything in this house except the dialect" and you were one of those who would stay mute. Then, we'll be your translators.
I remember when Papa died, you waited for us in Yaounde and stayed with us throughout that ordeal, you and Ni Achu never left our side. You were our rock, one of our constants.
I remember when I was in the university, I wanted to play a fast one on you. I came up with some cock and bull story about needing money for something. Lol...I thought I had dealt with you but you sent me a mail and said "Fri, I know say you di lie but I don send you money"... hahaha.
I remember when I just started driving and a taxi driver barged into my car, you gave him such a hard time he'll never try that with anyone else in his whole life.
I remember when you met my husband for the first time. You marked him forever. He can never forget when you told him "you go tie heart eh cos this ma sisters dem di strong head fine"... hahaha. Yet, you never thought any man was good enough for your sisters.
I remember when you heard of John's birth, you were so excited. You couldn't wait to see and hold your son in your arms. You always reminded us to always check up on him.
I remember when you met the kids in Yaounde last year, you were so excited as they were. You said "Fri, you di remind me of mummy right now". Oh, by the way, they keep asking about you. Immanuel asked "Mummy, is Uncle Thaddeus up now?" I was speechless. Miss M is always reminding me not to cry anymore.
Thank you for being you.
Thank you for all these wonderful memories because these are the memories I want to keep in my heart forever, not the pain, the tears nor the hole your passing away has left in our hearts.
I keep asking myself what I would have gone to change this reality we're living today but alas, nothing. I reassure myself with the wordings of 1 Thessalonians 5:18 which says "in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you."
The Lord gave you to us and He has called you back to His bosom. How can I, mere mortal question God? In my pain, sorrow, hurt and tears all u can say is "Let thy will be done".
Rest in peace, my brother. I promise you, we will all take good care of John, he will want for nothing. But I know he will miss you forever.
Rest on my brother, you have a whole family that way waiting to spoil you as they always did. Say me well to them all. Until we meet to part no more.
Adieu, we love you to bits.
From Fri, Immanuel, Victoria & Miss Mufut.
Posted by Kisob Yango on April 11, 2021
Hey grand frere, wow! It's amazing how life can be soo unpredictable, if only we had a chance to predict the nearest future I don't think anyone will post a tribute on here. But as the saying goes, everything works in the beautiful image of God and only HE alone is accountable for any decision he takes. With that said we have no other choice rather than to say WE THANK YOU LORD!

My relationship with you was always smooth and cordial. I met you just 5times in my whole existence, and If I can recall correctly, you were always engaged with my immediate plan of action, and always strived to give me directives in life. Family is not limited to your nuclear family, but rather those who have a positive impact in one's life. Your gestures were always jovial, and you used to make fun of my gestures, and told me I was the split replicant of my older brother. If I find my self in the United states today, it was a quick and smart initiative from you. Wow! Today watching images of you with amazing grace rhythm in the background is so sad. My sincere condolences to the Akum family, these are tough times, given the recent tragedies, but we all should rather celebrate the life of this dynamic and distinguished handsome gentleman, rather than mourn. Adieu grand frere, I'm quite sure you must be together with your parents.
Posted by Akere Achu on April 11, 2021
My dear brother from another mother ,
Words cannot describe how I feel inside . It’s like I’m dreaming , what a hard pill to swallow . We spoke so much recently more than ever before , oh how we knew the end was near! Caring , kind , hilarious , very engaging and supportive especially at my hour of great need. You made me see reason in times of despair and uncertainty. You gave me courage when I felt low . You made me laugh so much .
Oh Ni Akum you were a brother indeed. It’s hard to know you will not pick up my call or respond to my messages. I have saved our 2021voice recordings and will cherish every moment shared .
Rest in peace bro , till we meet to part no more .
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Shared by Mafor Ndi on May 7, 2021
Hey Big Daddy...I have so many memories, I don't know where to begin. From childhood when Papa died you have always been there for mummy and us. Even though you were so mischievous, it made us love you even more. Growing up all my guy friends were scared of you, then I didn't understand that you were trying to protect me but I figured it that as much later. You scared all the boys till today, they asked me "where is that you big brother who opened the door?"
Just recently I got married and you were the only one who stood in the way, until your in laws paid...you left us with broken hearts, all of us...even when we disagreed, I still loved you. We are sad, very sad, no one to protect us or intimidate the guys. I know you are in a better place but you left too early.
I guess it was your time, man proposes God disposes. Please rest in peace and prepare a place for us. You will always be in our hearts and we will always love you.



Shared by Charles N. Fon on May 7, 2021
Thaddy ,  you and i had a project to carry on. You came home two weeks ago. Write me on WhatsApp and even send me some dollars. We where to meet and discuss how the project will go on. Each time I look at the designed we made, tears goes dawn my eyes. I can't imagine you where already on your way going home so soon. Go well brother. May you rest in peace with our Ancestors bro.