June 6, 2021
June 6, 2021
Remembering you Dad and miss you! Love, Martha
Tom left this world peacefully Thursday, June 6. He leaves his wife, Diane, three daughters, Martha who works with Dassault and lives with her family in Boston; Wendy, who is a Professor of Architecture at Norwich University and Middlebury College; and Lisa, who lives with her husband and three children in New Hampshire. She and her husband own CLIX, a photography franchise. Tom leaves a sister, Doris Cox-Peterson, in West Lafayette, Indiana; three nephews and their families who reside in Virginia and North Carolina and another nephew in New York State; and a niece and family in New Jersey.
Tom was born in Newark, New Jersey, June 23, 1929, son of Henry Alfred Cox and the former Flora Belle Smith. Schooled in Maplewood, New Jersey, he earned his Eagle Scout award. He graduated with a Business Degree from Lafayette College, Easton, Pennsylvania. A member of Zeta Psi fraternity, he played tennis on the college team. He served his mandatory service time of two years in the Army Signal Corps in El Paso, Texas. Following that he earned a MBA in Business from the University of North Carolina as well as a Professional Engineer’s License. He has worked for a number of computer firms including 20 years with IBM.
Upon retirement he started the company, Room Acoustic Analysis, which can model a home or office electronically so the position of the speakers, flooring and ceiling materials can be determined before construction or remodel. He wrote articles on the use of a series of smaller speakers in line. He was an avid tennis player and enjoyed his yard and some woodworking.
There will be service in New Jersey in the fall for the close family. Donations in his honor would be welcomed at Lafayette College, Office of Alumni Relations, 223 Pfenning Alumni Center, Easton, PA 18042.
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August 3, 2018
August 3, 2018
Thinking of you both on those wonderful holiday dinners we shared, especially on July 4th and Thanksgiving when we Brits felt so out of place and you made us welcome. Additionally, dear Tom, you were the finest and the most sincere Republican I ever met.
June 7, 2014
June 7, 2014
How we all missed you and Bud at my 90th birthday reception!!! It was wonderful to have so many family from 11 states, yet it needed you to make it complete. However the memorial service with two empty chairs tipped to the table helped me to feel that you were truly there in spirit. God bless you always, as we remember two great brothers/dads and all the good times we shared and treasure! Love, Sis .
June 6, 2014
June 6, 2014
Miss you Dad as much today as a year ago and the wonderful memories are lasting
Love, Martha
Love, Martha
August 6, 2013
August 6, 2013
Dear Dee and Family, I am so sorry to learn of your loss. I did not know Tom, but based on how wonderful you (Dee) and your three sons are, I am sure I would have loved Tom. May you all find comfort in the memories you share.
July 3, 2013
July 3, 2013
To the Tom Cox family- I offer my deepest sympathies as my dear friend and sister to Tom, Dee Cox Peterson, is deeply effected with this loss. I raise you all up as a family and especially Dee with the loss of her last sibling. I just lost my second parent, dear mother, after 10 months in Hospice. I miss them both daily for the Character and peace they have brought me, in God. God Bless!
June 28, 2013
June 28, 2013
Uncle Tom will always be fondly remembered in our household. Deepest condolences to Aunt Diane, my Mom, and my cousins and their families.
June 25, 2013
June 25, 2013
Dear Diane. My condolences to you and your family. Tom was a great guy and I always think fondly of our fun days on the tennis court -you with the funny serve and Tom with that big smile and long reach.
June 24, 2013
June 24, 2013
Thinking of you yesterday Dad! Good times on your birthday! Dinner on the porch. June was perfect to have a birthday!
June 24, 2013
June 24, 2013
60+ years of memories -- a smiling man who adored Diane and his family -- Godspeed, Tom
June 23, 2013
June 23, 2013
Happy Birthday Dad! We miss you very much and think of the strawberry rhubarb pie you always loved for your birthday.
June 17, 2013
June 17, 2013
Sweet smile, unfailingly cheerful, and such a gentle man.
It is a comfort that he shed of that illness.
It is a comfort that he shed of that illness.
June 16, 2013
June 16, 2013
Diane; I'm so sorry to hear the news about Tom. We had many good times with both of you playing tennis etc. up at the WRC.
Love to all your family
NEA
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Love to all your family
NEA
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June 16, 2013
June 16, 2013
Happy Father's Day Dad - I remember so many years when we went canoeing and had a fun BBQ in the park afterwards and of course your favorite, strawberry rhubarb pie. We all miss you and especially today.
June 16, 2013
June 16, 2013
Tom was one of my oldest friends,a perfect gentleman and
someone I always found to have a sincerity and warmth that
made him a very special person. I'll miss him terribly.
someone I always found to have a sincerity and warmth that
made him a very special person. I'll miss him terribly.
June 16, 2013
June 16, 2013
Tom your laugh will always be with me. Thanks for sharing New Zealand with us and so graciously opening your home when I needed family. Hallelujah,
June 15, 2013
June 15, 2013
Eva & I were walking in the neighborhood when Nature called. And became ever more insistent. We were near the Cox home so went up & knocked. We told Tom we were friends of Diane & asked to use the bathroom. He had a bemused smile, but ever the gentleman, said "Of course". I wondered what he said to Diane later--about the two bold alleged friends of hers who had dropped by. Love the pix!
June 14, 2013
June 14, 2013
Of course, he is forever Mr. Cox to me......! He had so many interests in the world but could focus so intently on the matter at hand - small or large - it had his attention. I do remember him enjoying Ruscoe Road and the pond area. He would wave at us next door or say hi when I ventured over to visit Martha. Wonderful pictures in the scrolling tribute - enjoyed seeing the changes.
June 14, 2013
June 14, 2013
I remember Tom's everlasting smile and deep laugh, and bright eyes
June 13, 2013
June 13, 2013
So many memories of happy times with my wonderful Dad! He loved us all very much.
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June 6, 2021
June 6, 2021
Remembering you Dad and miss you! Love, Martha
August 3, 2018
August 3, 2018
Thinking of you both on those wonderful holiday dinners we shared, especially on July 4th and Thanksgiving when we Brits felt so out of place and you made us welcome. Additionally, dear Tom, you were the finest and the most sincere Republican I ever met.
June 7, 2014
June 7, 2014
How we all missed you and Bud at my 90th birthday reception!!! It was wonderful to have so many family from 11 states, yet it needed you to make it complete. However the memorial service with two empty chairs tipped to the table helped me to feel that you were truly there in spirit. God bless you always, as we remember two great brothers/dads and all the good times we shared and treasure! Love, Sis .
Gallery
Bud's 90th Birthday
Bud's 90th Birthday
Tom and Diane
Tom, Dottie, Bud
Dad, Bud, Buddy and Susie 1949
Birthday Memorial Flowers for Tom in Santa Rosa
Alex with Grandpa and Grandma
Dad's 75th Birthday
Dad in Vinalhaven ME on a lobster boat
Recent stories
Tom's Smile!
July 26, 2013
Though your smile is gone forever,
and your hand we cannot touch,
we still have happy memories
of one we loved so much.
Your memory is our keepsake,
with which we'll never part,
God has you in his keeping,
we have you in our hearts--
Sadly missed, but NEVER forgotten.
Sophomore Summer
July 1, 2013
by Martha Cox
The story of this photo is that Dad worked at Spring Lake Country Club in Sea Girt, NJ during the summer of his sophmore year at Lafayette. A fraternity brother had a special connection. Dad and his friend were managing the car garage. The club was quite nice and the cars were large so they had to park them so close to each other that in order to get out of the garage they had to climb through the cars. Dad got a great workout every day and also played quite a bit of golf, I imagine, to get a nice tan as well. He is at the beach with his older brother, Bud, and his two children Susie and Buddy. What a wonderful photo given to us by Susie!
My "Little" Brother
July 1, 2013
On Father's Day, I’m remembering my treasured "little" brother, Tom. I'm so sorry for our loss. I always felt close to Tom and his family despite, in later years, living so far apart. How I love the pictures taken of him, as a toddler playing with a huge ball. He was so adorable! Fond memories of playing tennis with Tom, taking a month-long trip to California with him and my folks, knowing that he cared enough that I could count on his being loving and supportive, and my being so proud of his character and many accomplishments (including the uncomplaining manner in which he coped for so many years with his first frustrating stroke).
I have so many good memories of my "little" brother, Tom, included in this website--a brother whom I feel blessed to have had throughout my life, beginning with the much-anticipated night when (being just 5 years old) I'd been allowed to "stay up" with my grandma to greet Mom when she arrived home from the hospital carrying a basket that she set down on a chair in our dining room, and then unfolded some blankets inside to reveal my first glimpse of an awesome baby brother with an adorable face and being impressed with how tiny his hands and feet were! Little did I realize then that he would eventually grow to tower over me and take me on in tennis. We all miss him so much, but keep in mind that his memory and spirit lives on through his wonderful family whom I cherish.