Let the memory of Tom be with us forever
  • 83 years old
  • Born on June 23, 1929 in Newark, New Jersey, United States.
  • Passed away on June 6, 2013 in Santa Rosa, California, United States.

Tom left this world peacefully Thursday, June 6. He leaves his wife, Diane, three daughters, Martha who works with Dassault and lives with her family in Boston; Wendy, who is a Professor of Architecture at Norwich University and Middlebury College; and Lisa, who lives with her husband and three children in New Hampshire. She and her husband own CLIX, a photography franchise. Tom leaves a sister, Doris Cox-Peterson, in West Lafayette, Indiana; three nephews and their families who reside in Virginia and North Carolina and another nephew in New York State; and a niece and family in New Jersey.

Tom was born in Newark, New Jersey, June 23, 1929, son of Henry Alfred Cox and the former Flora Belle Smith. Schooled in Maplewood, New Jersey, he earned his Eagle Scout award. He graduated with a Business Degree from Lafayette College, Easton, Pennsylvania. A member of Zeta Psi fraternity, he played tennis on the college team. He served his mandatory service time of two years in the Army Signal Corps in El Paso, Texas. Following that he earned a MBA in Business from the University of North Carolina as well as a Professional Engineer’s License. He has worked for a number of computer firms including 20 years with IBM.

Upon retirement he started the company, Room Acoustic Analysis, which can model a home or office electronically so the position of the speakers, flooring and ceiling materials can be determined before construction or remodel. He wrote articles on the use of a series of smaller speakers in line. He was an avid tennis player and enjoyed his yard and some woodworking.

There will be service in New Jersey in the fall for the close family. Donations in his honor would be welcomed at Lafayette College, Office of Alumni Relations, 223 Pfenning Alumni Center, Easton, PA 18042.

Posted by Ruth Pritchard on 3rd August 2018
Thinking of you both on those wonderful holiday dinners we shared, especially on July 4th and Thanksgiving when we Brits felt so out of place and you made us welcome. Additionally, dear Tom, you were the finest and the most sincere Republican I ever met.
Posted by Doris Cox-Peterson on 7th June 2014
How we all missed you and Bud at my 90th birthday reception!!! It was wonderful to have so many family from 11 states, yet it needed you to make it complete. However the memorial service with two empty chairs tipped to the table helped me to feel that you were truly there in spirit. God bless you always, as we remember two great brothers/dads and all the good times we shared and treasure! Love, Sis .
Posted by Martha Cox on 6th June 2014
Miss you Dad as much today as a year ago and the wonderful memories are lasting Love, Martha
Posted by Marianne Eagan on 6th August 2013
Dear Dee and Family, I am so sorry to learn of your loss. I did not know Tom, but based on how wonderful you (Dee) and your three sons are, I am sure I would have loved Tom. May you all find comfort in the memories you share.
Posted by Deborah Riedweg on 3rd July 2013
To the Tom Cox family- I offer my deepest sympathies as my dear friend and sister to Tom, Dee Cox Peterson, is deeply effected with this loss. I raise you all up as a family and especially Dee with the loss of her last sibling. I just lost my second parent, dear mother, after 10 months in Hospice. I miss them both daily for the Character and peace they have brought me, in God. God Bless!
Posted by Brad Peterson Peterson on 28th June 2013
Uncle Tom will always be fondly remembered in our household. Deepest condolences to Aunt Diane, my Mom, and my cousins and their families.
Posted by Iris Busch on 25th June 2013
Dear Diane. My condolences to you and your family. Tom was a great guy and I always think fondly of our fun days on the tennis court -you with the funny serve and Tom with that big smile and long reach.
Posted by Lisa Stift on 24th June 2013
Thinking of you yesterday Dad! Good times on your birthday! Dinner on the porch. June was perfect to have a birthday!
Posted by Lois Bell on 24th June 2013
60+ years of memories -- a smiling man who adored Diane and his family -- Godspeed, Tom
Posted by Martha Cox on 23rd June 2013
Happy Birthday Dad! We miss you very much and think of the strawberry rhubarb pie you always loved for your birthday.
Posted by Mimi Chapman on 17th June 2013
Sweet smile, unfailingly cheerful, and such a gentle man. It is a comfort that he shed of that illness.
Posted by Alison Booth on 16th June 2013
Tom your laugh will always be with me. Thanks for sharing New Zealand with us and so graciously opening your home when I needed family. Hallelujah,
Posted by Nea Martin on 16th June 2013
Diane; I'm so sorry to hear the news about Tom. We had many good times with both of you playing tennis etc. up at the WRC. Love to all your family NEA e-mail to follow
Posted by Bill Birkenmeier on 16th June 2013
Tom was one of my oldest friends,a perfect gentleman and someone I always found to have a sincerity and warmth that made him a very special person. I'll miss him terribly.
Posted by Martha Cox on 16th June 2013
Happy Father's Day Dad - I remember so many years when we went canoeing and had a fun BBQ in the park afterwards and of course your favorite, strawberry rhubarb pie. We all miss you and especially today.
Posted by Iz Campbell on 15th June 2013
Eva & I were walking in the neighborhood when Nature called. And became ever more insistent. We were near the Cox home so went up & knocked. We told Tom we were friends of Diane & asked to use the bathroom. He had a bemused smile, but ever the gentleman, said "Of course". I wondered what he said to Diane later--about the two bold alleged friends of hers who had dropped by. Love the pix!
Posted by Heather Ford on 14th June 2013
Of course, he is forever Mr. Cox to me......! He had so many interests in the world but could focus so intently on the matter at hand - small or large - it had his attention. I do remember him enjoying Ruscoe Road and the pond area. He would wave at us next door or say hi when I ventured over to visit Martha. Wonderful pictures in the scrolling tribute - enjoyed seeing the changes.
Posted by Beth Martinez on 14th June 2013
I remember Tom's everlasting smile and deep laugh, and bright eyes
Posted by Martha Cox on 13th June 2013
So many memories of happy times with my wonderful Dad! He loved us all very much.

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