On March 1, 2020, Tim passed away after yet another battle for his health. I lost my best friend and my forever love. He had fought many health challenges and to both of us, this was just another one to conquer. Just days before he passed, he was adamant that we have a serious chat about when we were going to travel again and that we should definitely start planning.
Fortunately his family and friends were able to be with Tim by his side during his last days. (David, Steve, Kae, Don and Jorie) Liz and the boys also saw Tim just before that!
Tim is survived by our daughter, Elizabeth and our two grandsons Sebastien and Xavier, our son, David and his wife, Kim, and his brother Steve Ellis.
He loved life and valiantly fought many health challenges over these last two decades. He had a very strong will. No matter what the health challenge was, he believed he would beat it. He was an easy patient, compliant and amazingly pleasant even when suffering. Many people mentioned that they could not believe his zest for living and the strength to keep going. One of his buddies, Don, nicknamed him the energizer bunny as he just kept bouncing back. In early February 2020, when his back and groin area hurt so bad, it was the only time that I heard him say he wasn’t sure if he could fight yet one more time.
Tim was a man of simple pleasures and many talents.
His simple pleasures were being together whether it was eating out, hanging at home, watching sports, or sharing treats. He wanted to be involved in every aspect of our life together whether it was selecting paint, planning a trip, or what art to put on the wall.
Tim loved me unconditionally and he told me often, I just love you sooo much. (It was a deep love, always strong, never wavering from these feelings). He let me be who I wanted to be. He encouraged my work interests and each day after work, he would ask if my day had been good. Many people would tell me how proud he was of my accomplishments and our relationship. It is unlikely I will ever be loved like this again!
Tim’s many talents developed at an early age. He grew up in the Brentwood/Santa Monica/Palisades. He spent time on horses, motor bikes, cars and athletics. After moving to Oregon for the rest of his life, he developed even more talents. Tim was an accomplished snow and water skier, a captain of many boats including sailing, motor boats and navigating white waters on a raft. After we had been married a few years, he decided he wanted to dive again. He had learned in an old fashioned bell off Catalina as a kid. So, since I loved the water we took diving lessons and travelled around the globe looking for favorite dive spots. On our last diving trip we qualified as passing the Rescue Diver course in Chuk Micronesia.
My first date with Tim I learned about another one of his talents. We went downtown to have a drink and he suggested dancing. It had been quite awhile since I met a man that actually loved to dance. Tim was an excellent dancer, particularly swing, and we danced as long as his mobility allowed.
We both wanted to see the world! We have a big map of the world in our garage with pins on all the locations we visited. We loved the challenge and the adventure of seeing new places. Two of his favorite accomplishments were hiking Kilimanjaro and Machu Pichu.
Tim was not a demonstrative his children deeply. He liked being a dad and wanted to expose Liz and David to many activities and places. He wanted them to see places and experience activities that might last a lifetime. And for both of them, many of those early activities are part of their lives now. As I was going through his files, I found this note to Elizabeth and David from sometime in the late 80s.
Elizabeth and David,
If tomorrow never comes will you know I love you enough to last.
Much love, Dad
Another talent of Tim’s was a successful business man. He spent years in banks, open his a bond business with a partner, and loved investment advising. He followed the stock market every day and up to his last few days, would continue to talk to his last partner, Andy.
Thank you for visiting this memorial to Tim. You have been incredibly caring and dear friends for both of us. And all of you know the battle Tim fought to be alive and continue making memories with his family and friends.