The first time I met Timmy, he was in his garage on a lawn chair, drinking a beer. His big bald head gleaming in the setting sun. I introduced myself and he asked if I wanted a beer. "No thanks", I replied.
"What, you want some rose wine instead?"
"I just don't really drink"
"Alright, you wanna be a pussy that's fine with me"
And that's when I knew he and I were going to get along swimmingly.
I used to weigh over 500 lbs. One day, Timmy called me out of the blue and asked me over for breakfast. Thinking to myself, "well this is weird. but OK" - I went. He cooked eggs (he cooked amazing eggs), we ate toast and sausage and bacon. And we talked. We talked about everything. I talked about things I'd never spoken to anybody else about. I don't know why, but I knew I could trust TImmy with some of my darkest thoughts, and he genuinely didn't care. That had no effect on how he saw ME, as a person. With absolutely zero judgement.
After talking for a while, he started talking to me about my weight and how worried he was. Timmy was one of the very few people who was able to cut right through my bullshit emotional defenses and get to the point. And I'm forever grateful to him for that day. It's one of the most meaningful days I've had as an adult. And had a great impact on me when I lost the weight and got sober. In many ways I try to model myself after him.
Timmy was an amazing human who had an ability to make you feel loved, and hated at the same time. haha - With Timmy, much like myself, the more shit he gave you, the more he liked you. And that's why we all loved him.
I love you, Timmy. You will be greatly missed.