ForeverMissed

Thomas Marc Castiglia, 50, of San Diego, passed away on January 26, 2019.

He lived enthusiastically and was passionate about his family. His greatest joy was his son Ben, and he married his true love, Martha Aldana. He loved hiking, going out with friends, and being part of the Scripps Ranch community. He achieved his dream of owning a technology consulting firm, DocFluix, LLC. 

Predeceased by his father, Daniel Castiglia, he is survived by his mother, Eileen Kramer, and his sister, Stacey Castiglia Stacey, her husband, Tom, and their two children.

A memorial service will be held at 10:00 am, Tuesday, February 5 that St. Gregory the Great, 11451 Blue Cypress Drive, San Diego. 

In lieu of flowers, donations to the American Heart Association are appreciated. 

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This site was created in the memory of Thomas Castiglia. We will remember him forever...  husband, father, colleague, mentor and friend.

A memorial fund has been set up in Tom’s honor. Funds will be used for funeral related expenses of our beloved Tom. Please click link, share, and donate. 

https://www.gofundme.com/tom-castiglia-memorial-fund

Posted by Tony Rockwell on November 20, 2019
I think of you so often & so often I just want to hang out with you. I truly miss our chats over a beer or cigar and other fun get togethers.
Posted by Joel Oleson on November 19, 2019
Thinking about you today Tom. We miss you. We need your help on Office 365 Saturday San Diego. It's not the same without you!! 

You were the glue and alone we are parts and pieces of the solution. Simply getting together is so hard without you. Lost...
Posted by JAMES WILLAM WILLAM on February 8, 2019
My favorite memory of Tom was at SharePoint Saturday San Diego in 2018. It was the final session of the day and Tom approached me to say we should end the day early and cut the final sessions, which happened to be the lightning talks and my talk happened to be last. After some discussion, I asked Tom to trust me and I gave my talk. When I came off the stage, I was ready to hand the mic over to ... read more ...
Posted by Tim Odell on February 7, 2019
Was blessing to know you. May you be in God's loving arms. Peace to you friend. #tears
Posted by Aaron Cutchin on February 6, 2019
Tom was my close friend and roommate in the early-mid 1990s in San Diego. We met at the San Diego CalPIRG office where I was a recent college grad and new canvasser, and he was also a recent college grad and our trainer and supervisor. I didn't last long at door-to-door fundraising, but Tom was tenacious, responsible, and hardworking, skills that I personally lacked and admired in him. Those skills served him well throughout his life and career.
We had a large group of common friends and had a lot of fun in our early 20s, going to the beach, concerts, road trips, local rock-and-roll shows, and rollerblading on the Pacific Beach boardwalk. Tom could be funny and goofy. I had the honor to be best man at his wedding.
He worked for most of a year for my mother's small sales office, where he made sales calls and developed a new contact database. I think this is how he originally caught the technology bug.
I moved to the Bay Area in 1997 to start my own career in tech and through the years we saw each other occasionally but eventually less frequently and drifted apart. I had not seen him in the last few years and now deeply regret not reaching out. I'll miss Tom.
Posted by Liz Sundet on February 5, 2019
My favorite memory of Tom was at SharePoint Saturday San Diego in 2018. It was the final session of the day and Tom approached me to say we should end the day early and cut the final sessions, which happened to be the lightning talks and my talk happened to be last. After some discussion, I asked Tom to trust me and I gave my talk. When I came off the stage, I was ready to hand the mic over to Tom and it was the look on his face I'll never forget; it was the look of someone that just realized he was part of something bigger, that sense of Esprit de Corps. Tom whispered to me as I handed the mic over: "That was fantastic, you're a great speaker". Later that evening I asked him how he felt about the lightning talks and he told me it was incredible. Thank you for trusting in me Tom, thank you for challenging me, thank you for your incredible support, for empowering me and being my fan club president. All of those things, no one else could do, but you just made it look easy. You have inspired me in so many ways I can't even express. May you always shine down on the SharePoint Saturday's in San Diego and inspire future lightning talks.  Sweet water and light laughter until next we meet my friend.
Posted by Paul Swider on February 4, 2019
“Don’t think of me as gone away,
My journey’s just begun.
Life holds so many facets,
This earth is but one.” -Ellen Brenneman
Posted by Margie M on February 2, 2019
Tom is not gone to us forever, in fact according to God’s word he has a wonderful future ahead that includes us. I find comfort in the Bible book of John where it’s promised that those in the memorial tombs will come out to life again with us. Like Jesus’s friend Lazarus, Tom will enjoy life as never before on a paradise earth. No more will there be fear of pain, suffering, or death! At Revelation 21:3,4 God plainly tells us such things will be done away with. Tom will be with us forever!
Posted by Randy Williams on February 1, 2019
Tom and I had many good times together, both here and at events around the country. He was always there to lend a hand, take extra responsibility, lead by example, and put others before self. My good friend, I'll miss our hikes, our social events, our talks covering all kinds of subjects.
Posted by Tony Rockwell on February 1, 2019
I will never forget your laugh Tom. You knew how to be a good friend, a community leader, a valued co-worker, a great family man and wonderful father. Thank you for letting me see all of those sides of you and call you friend.
Posted by Reza Palizban on February 1, 2019
Over the short two years I knew you, you made a genuine impact and left an indelible mark in my heart. Your talent, passion, attention to detail, collaborative spirit, and dedication to craft was a joy to witness. Technology brought us together but I am most thankful to know you personally. You brought me into the SharePoint community and your inner circle of amazing friends. I will miss your quirky smile and the kind hearted gleam in your eyes. You listened attentively and always kept it real. Whenever I go to IAMCP, SharePoint Saturday, SharePint, the user group, and out partying with your beautiful friends, you will be with us. I know it.
Posted by Sal Jr. Rosales on January 30, 2019
Going to a SharePoint conference, SharePoint user group meeting and especially a SharePint will never be the same without you. Thanks for letting me into your life, you will live in my heart and memories for the rest of mine.
Posted by Hootan Farokhi on January 30, 2019
Your cho cho cho quirky sounds have been ringing in my ears during the last few days. I keep remembering your melodramatic sighs when you tried to express your frustrations and it brings a smile to my face. I know how much you enjoyed when I set up a reunion whenever I came to San Diego for a visit. We are getting together at the hotel next to the office on Monday to reminisce all the great times we all had with you. I know that you are very busy with your new gig, but I'm sure that you will make the time to at least show up for a Samuel Adams or two. You will greatly be missed.
Posted by Joel Oleson on January 30, 2019
I miss you Tom. I want to go on a hike! I want to go to a concert. Let's pick a far off land and help the community, create a SharePoint Saturday or relive the crazy trip to Cuba. We had such a great time. I miss you so much Tom. Yes, please bring Martha.

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Posted by Tony Rockwell on November 20, 2019
I think of you so often & so often I just want to hang out with you. I truly miss our chats over a beer or cigar and other fun get togethers.
Posted by Joel Oleson on November 19, 2019
Thinking about you today Tom. We miss you. We need your help on Office 365 Saturday San Diego. It's not the same without you!! 

You were the glue and alone we are parts and pieces of the solution. Simply getting together is so hard without you. Lost...
Posted by JAMES WILLAM WILLAM on February 8, 2019
My favorite memory of Tom was at SharePoint Saturday San Diego in 2018. It was the final session of the day and Tom approached me to say we should end the day early and cut the final sessions, which happened to be the lightning talks and my talk happened to be last. After some discussion, I asked Tom to trust me and I gave my talk. When I came off the stage, I was ready to hand the mic over to ... read more ...
his Life

Scripps Ranch Old Pros - Non Profit Sports Leagues and Community Events Committee

From hosting community bike rides and runs, to raising money for community youth and high school sports programs, the Old Pros are a lively and enterprising group of residents and sports enthusiasts at the heart of the Scripps Ranch community.

Founded by Scripps Ranch residents in 1982 as a way of socializing with friends and organizing local sports leagues, the Old Pros now number more than 300 members and coordinate a broad range of established community events as a IRS approved 501(C)(7) non profit organization.

Tom has been super involved in arranging softball and soccer leagues to holiday concerts in Hoyt Park.  The Old Pros commitment to Scripps Ranch is prominent and visible throughout the year.

Technology Speaker, Community Builder & Technology Leader

Tom started the San Diego .NET User Group back in 1994!  He had a passion for development and has had a lot of passion for Microsoft Technologies for many years.

Tom is a leader and a self starter.  He has played the role of mentor, volunteer, and believes strongly that sharing is caring.  He has shared his knowledge with many many developers and engineers over the years who have looked up to him as an expert, professional, and a master in his field.

Tom helped co-found the San Diego SharePoint Users Group #SANSPUG with friends.  He has continued to help build community for over 20 years.  

One of his colleagues Joel Oleson shared a number of photos and stories about Tom's technology communities at https://bit.ly/2RvwFfM

  • .NET User Group Founder and President - over a decade
  • SharePoint User Group SANSPUG - Cofounder and President since 2007
  • SharePoint Saturday San Diego - Organizer 3 years, Committee member 4 years
  • SharePoint Saturday LA - Committee 2 years
  • Southern California Office 365 & Productivity User Group - Speaker and Committee
  • Nintex Inspire, Nintex VTE & SharePoint Saturday Speaker, and various community events - New Orleans, Sacramento, LA, Cuba, and way more

15 Years at Hershey Technologies

Sandy Levine and I hired Tom as a developer primarily to support Cardiff TeleForm.  

Tom stayed with the firm for 15 years helping us grow to eventually sell to a Konica Minolta Business Solutions in 2015. 

With Toms assistance and funding from clients including commonwealth of Saipan, US Navy and the State of California the birth of the Hershey Technologies’s XenDocs software product line was born.

Always a devoted a dad and father, Tom also enjoyed a good time with co- workers. See attached picture of Tom at our annual Hershey Halloween party. 

Gone to soon.. he will be missed.

Neal Fischer

Sr ECM Solutions Consultant
Konica Minolta Business Solutions
Recent stories

Tom was one of my role models

Shared by Sal Jr. Rosales on January 30, 2019

I met Tom at the SANSPUG user group. Back then, I was a struggling SharePoint administrator trying to find free resources to help manage this monster of a product. He was president of the group and from then on, we grew to become friends. Tom's questions were always very targeted and super intelligent, he would make me say 'huh, I didn't think of that' many times. He would also call out when I was wrong, which is what I really liked about him; constructive criticism. He was also very warm and made you feel very comfortable within minutes of meeting him. I really admired how he was dedicated to his family and giving back to the community. Shortly before this picture was taken, I admitted that I was star struck at having accomplished a bucket list item of working with him to make the 2018 SharePoint Saturday San Diego a reality.  I will miss this kind and generous soul more than I can imagine right now.

Tom - Dedicated Husband, Proud Dad and Inspiration

Shared by Galen Keene on January 30, 2019

I first met Tom in the early 2000s working at an investment firm in Del Mar.  Hershey Technologies provided services to the company and Tom and I met in passing.  Fast forward several years and in 2010 I met Tom again at a SharePoint 2010 launch party hosted by Chris Givens.  At this launch party Chris, Tom, Tony and I spoke about the San Diego SharePoint user group.  Our relationship grew over the next nine years and looking back; that launch party for me was the launch of lifelong friendships.  Throughout the years we went to many SharePoint Saturdays, conferences, and countless user groups.  Tom was always open to exploring, whether it was in tech, exploring the cities we were in; he was always ready to learn and experience new adventures.

My fondest memories of Tom are more personal in nature.  In 2013 my son experienced some health challenges.  Tom was there for me and would take time out of his day to listen, just listen.  Throughout the years we would share stories of our sons and I cannot express enough the love and pride that Tom had for his family, especially his son.  When Ben went to college I called Tom to congratulate him on Ben's achievement.  He was so proud and I remember telling him that I hoped I would be as good of a dad as he.

Tom, thanks for including me in your SharePoint adventures, thanks for helping me get through some challenging life experiences, and thank you for being a good friend.

Tom Lifted Me Up When I was Down...

Shared by Joel Oleson on January 30, 2019

I moved to California a few years ago, and it was Tom who stuck his neck out for me.  I had lost my job, and came to the SharePoint User Group SANSPUG that Tom co-founded.  He was there for me.  He listened to my story and had empathy for me. 

Tom was a partner at Hershey Technologies and had poured his heart and soul into that company.  He saw the need to invest in the social media, marketing, and increasing the presence of that small company.  Tom needed to convince his partner Neal Fisher.  To invest if they were going to bring on somebody like me.  He knew I didn't have long before I'd lose the house I was in the middle of buying.  After a meetup at Denny's with Neal and Arjay and some convincing on Tom's part, I would be brought in to work with Tom and the whole Hershey crew.  They were a family and they brought me in thanks in large part to Tom.

It was that kind gesture that would bring Tom and I to connect and spend so much more time together and both of us loved to speak.  We traveled to Ignite in Chicago, Atlanta, and the SharePoint Conference in Las Vegas, the SharePoint Saturdays in LA, Silicon Valley, and my most memorable trip with Tom to Cuba.

I will always remember how kind you were and how much you shared LOVE to those around you.  Everyone is your friend.