ForeverMissed

Below are the details for those wishing to make a memorial donation in memory of Tony Cole.   For all donations, please include a note with Tony’s name.

 
Tony’s family is requesting donations to these deserving organizations in lieu of flowers.
 
 
Boy Scouts of America - Anthony Wayne Area Council
8315 West Jefferson Boulevard
Fort Wayne, IN 46804
 
 
Snider High School Football
c/o Snider High School Athletics Department
4600 Fairlawn Pass
Fort Wayne, IN 46815
 
 
Snider High School Performing Arts
c/o Kathy McVaigh
4600 Fairlawn Pass
Fort Wayne, IN 46815
 
 
Beta Theta Pi Fraternity - Beta Mu Chapter House Association, Inc.
c/o Kevin M. Comer
1700 Fairway Drive
Kokomo, IN 46901
 
 
Purdue University Flight Team
Donate via the University Development Office website at: https://donate.purdue.edu/Menu.aspx
 
Click on “Make a One Time Gift” (or “set up a Recurring Gift”), and on the next page “Select a Designation Area”. Scroll down to the very last entry “Other – specify in comments”. “Other Instructions” should include “Av Tech Flight Team #1207”. Select “yes” to the question about the gift being in memory of someone, and enter Tony’s name. If you wish to send notification of the gift, please enter Janet and Mack Cole, 1908 Benham Drive, Fort Wayne, IN 46815.
 
 
Posted by Karen Allen on February 27, 2020
While we don't see each other very often, you and Mac (and your family) are in our thoughts and hearts. There are times I look at Ross and remember our two small sons bouncing all over the gym. Fond memories. I finally located the poloroid you took of one of the groups. When I get home, I will scan it and post it here for you. Lots of hugs.
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on February 26, 2020
Can't believe it has been 9 years - that doesn't seem possible. Janet, Mac, Betsy, and Vince...we both think of you often, Tony, too. Love you guys!
Posted by Janet Cole on February 21, 2020
February again. I never thought we could make it to the 9 year mark. Tony is with us both everyday in so many ways. Thank you family and friends who have helped us on our heartbreaking journey.
Love, Janet & Mack
Posted by Janice Cass on October 23, 2019
Thinking of you all today and holding you in my thoughts and prayers. Tony will always be remembered as the brightest stars will always shine.
      Brad and Janice Cass
Posted by Mark Wehrle on October 22, 2019
Kathy and I were just looking at some old pictures. A few never before seen (or that we remember) shots that had a young Tony with a big smile. We continue living, staying busy, productive and proud, with help from an old picture of Tony sharing a wonderful childhood memory (and his contagious joy).
Mark and Kathy Wehrle
Posted by Janet Cole on October 21, 2019
Tony will be 31 tomorrow.
He passed more than 8 years ago.
We miss him 7 days a week.
He is with us 24 hours a day.
The numbers are meaningless.
We continue to live life, helping others, experiencing grace, living with passion as our boy would
want.
Posted by Janet Cole on February 26, 2019
We lost Tony 8 years ago. It feels much longer. Thank you friends and family who have helped get us this far. We go on in his memory with love in our hearts.
Posted by Janice Cass on October 23, 2018
My heart is heavy, it's so unfair. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Such a beautiful soul...missed but never forgotten.
Posted by Lisa Wiley on October 22, 2018
What a beautiful site for Tony's pictures and tributes. I can't believe it's has been 8 years. Great job Betsy on setting up this memorial. You are a wonderful family.
Posted by Janet Cole on October 22, 2018
Our Tony boy is 30 now. I hope all the friends and family can love life as he did and help others whenever possible. Love, Janet and Mack
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on October 22, 2018
Happy heavenly 30th birthday, Tony!
Posted by Mark Wehrle on February 26, 2018
Now that our kids have grown, Kathy and I have been watching home movies. Tony often pops in for a quick cameo. Watching the play with high energy and higher volume, the children are having fun and bringing a rush of joy and emotions to our living room. Tony remains in our thoughts. Best wishes to your memories.
Happiness and Regards,
Mark and Kathy Wehrle
Posted by Chris Stockwell on February 26, 2018
Janet, Mack and family, thinking of you with love and warmth as you keep Tony in your hearts today and every day.
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on February 26, 2018
We're thinking about all of you today and saying a special prayer, as well.
Ed and Kathy
Posted by Janet Cole on February 26, 2018
Seven years ago we lost our Tony. Such a nightmare. Thank you friends and family for remembering.
Posted by Ronna Parrot on February 26, 2018
My thoughts are with you both and your family. Love you very much.
Posted by Tom McKarns on February 26, 2018
Thinking of you Janet, Mack, Betsy and Vince, and of course Tony. He left so many of us with a beautiful string of interconnected memories, what a positive impact he had on so many. Lots of love, Tom
Posted by Jane Sowers on February 26, 2018
Janet, Mack, Betsy, Vince - our thoughts are with you all today. We have such wonderful memories of Tony. Love, Jane, Rick, and Casey
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on October 22, 2017
Thinking of all of you today on Tony's 29th birthday.
Posted by Janet Cole on October 22, 2017
Tony is 29 today. Our days continue to be full of longing to hug him and talk with him. But, we have learned how to navigate in our new world, how to laugh, how to feel joy, how to exist. Longing remains everpresent.
Posted by Cindy Hallar Cook on October 22, 2017
Thinking of Tony's loved ones today on his 29th birthday. I pray time is helping with the healing process. God Bless!

Cindy Cook
Posted by Janet Cole on February 26, 2017
"There is freedom waiting for you,
On the breezes of the sky.
And you ask "What if I fall?"
Oh but my darling,
What if you fly?" -Erin Hanson   We discovered this poem this past year and it touches our hearts.  Love to you all, Janet and Mack
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on February 26, 2017
Janet, Mac and Betsy, We think of you a lot, but you are in our thoughts especially today. Praying for you. Miss you guys...
Kathy and Ed
Posted by Tom Williams on February 16, 2017
Tony,

It was six years ago on this day February 15 that we lost you. I cannot believe how many years have gone by without you. I wish I could tell you now where I am. You would be proud. I will never forget the day we were on a ski lift in Park City when you told me to go live out my passion in the mountains. Tony, I did exactly what you told me to do. I am living in the mountains and every time I take a trip into the woods or strap on my snowboard you are with me. Your memory will never die in my heart. You are missed greatly by your friends and especially your loving family Janet, Mac and Betsy.

Your friend,

Tom
Posted by Ronna Parrot on October 22, 2016
Hi Janet and Mack. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers today. Today we remember Tony and his birth date. We love you!
Posted by Casey Sowers on October 22, 2016
Janet, Mack, Betsy and family
Thinking of you today. I told mom and dad it was Tony's birthday today. So we looked through all the pictures and the stories and we laughed and we cried. Happy birthday to you Tony. Never stop exploring! Love, Casey, Rick and Jane
Posted by Tom McKarns on October 22, 2016
Thinking of you today, Janet, Mac and Betsy.
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on October 22, 2016
Thinking of all of you on Tony's birthday today.
Posted by Janet Cole on October 22, 2016
Thank you friends and family for remembering us and Tony on his 28th birthday. The pain in our hearts remains fresh. We live on trying to help others in his memory.
Love, Janet and Mack
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on February 26, 2016
Great words about Tony - thank you for sharing them! Thinking of you and saying a prayer.
Kath
Posted by Janet Cole on February 23, 2016
We have added an article we recently wrote about Tony for a newsletter. It is listed under "Stories" above. Thank you all for continuing to think of us and sending us your kind wishes.
Posted by Lisa Wiley on January 4, 2016
Hello to your family, I just thought I would take some time to let you know that I think of you all often and I almost stopped by but did not want to bother you, especially during the Christmas season. Maybe that is when I needed to stop by though. I simply care and always will. I am not always good and keeping my thoughts to myself and I am glad where you have this website to let you know all of this. Hopefully you are all well. Take care . Lisa
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on October 26, 2015
I'm sorry I let Tony's birthday slip by this year. I just checked my email today - first time in a week - and noticed I missed it. However, we think of Tony often, no matter what the day, as well as think of you both, Janet and Mac, and the good times we shared. Saying a prayer for you guys right now!
Posted by Janet Cole on October 25, 2015
Here we are again, another October, another birthday for Tony. And again we must thank our wonderful friends and family who continually help us laugh, help us mourn, help us live. We miss you more than words can say Tony bear.
Love to all, Janet and Mack
Posted by Karen Allen on October 22, 2015
Janet,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mac on this difficult day. Embrace your loving and happy memories to treasure for a lifetime. Remember that God has a plan for all of us that we rarely know or understand. Comfort yourself in God's Love and know that Tony is safe and happy in God's Kingdom and that you WILL see him again.
Posted by Lisa Wiley on October 22, 2015
I am sure today is very difficult for you and I can only say that each day i say a prayer that you find comfort somehow in knowing that you will see him again someday. Your faith helps in keeping you strong.
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on February 26, 2015
Remembering Tony and holding everyone who loved and cared about him in our thoughts and prayers, especially today.
Ed and Kathy Ferguson
Posted by J'Nelle Hamilton on February 26, 2015
II Corinthians 4:18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Posted by Lisa Wiley on February 17, 2015
To your family, I am thankful to be able to share my feelings on this page. It is difficult to just go day to day not knowing whether you all know that you are in my prayers every day. I pray for you to hold onto your faith in Jesus and to continue on with life which has got to be a struggle at times still. I know there have been many happy events as well but at the same time you always have that place in your heart that misses Tony. I also pray that God fills that place in your heart with a sense of reassurance that Tony is still with you although in a different way for now. Someday you will see him again and that is something to look forward to for all people who have lost a loved one.
Posted by Lisa Wiley on December 17, 2014
I watched the video and saw the added pictures. Tony really could sing well!! It as always stirs up a very bittersweet feeling but it was great to watch and I am glad you posted it. Thoughts and prayers are for you all every day and will be forever by me. You are a wonderful family and I am fortunate to know you
Posted by Janet Cole on December 15, 2014
With the release of the movie "Into the Woods" this month we are reminded of Tony's portrayal of the Wolf his sophomore year in Snider High School's 2005 production of "Into the Woods". To see Tony's song go to Gallery then Video above. We thank you all for your continued love and support. Janet and Mack
Posted by Tom McKarns on October 23, 2014
Thinking of you, Janet Mack and Betsy, and remembering Tony.
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on October 23, 2014
Mac, Janet, Betsy and Vince,
We continue to hold you all in our thoughts and lift you up in our prayers, especially on Tony's birthday. Love and miss you!
Ed and Kathy
Posted by Karen Allen on October 22, 2014
Janet and Mac,
Today I remember Tony with a smile on my face but have you in my heart. Prayers for your continued healing and strength. May you know that Tony is with God and that God holds you in the palm of His hands.
Blessings.
Posted by Ronna Parrot on October 22, 2014
Remembering Tony today. My heart and thoughts are always with you! Love you all.
Posted by Roger Miller on June 3, 2014
Mack & Janet,

I haven't been able to find words that adequately express my heartbreak over Tony's accident. I still can't but I want to let know that you are on my mind and I grieve with you and I think of Tony often when I fly. I know he loved aviation and got a lot of joy from flying.

Roger Miller
Posted by Cindy Hallar Cook on February 27, 2014
Thinking of you and your son Tony always! Whenever I take my hike on my parent's farm and wander the woods Tony is in my prayers. As soon as the bluebells arrive I will make him a bouquet. Love, Cindy
Posted by Ronna Parrot on February 27, 2014
All of you are always in my heart and mind…love you all...
Posted by Laura Hossler on February 25, 2014
So many fond memories. So many prayers of strength and peace surrounding you.
Posted by Karen Allen on February 25, 2014
Janet and Mac: My thoughts and prayers continue for you and your entire family. Let's get together soon when I return from Florida. I think of you often.
Karen Allen
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Posted by Karen Allen on February 27, 2020
While we don't see each other very often, you and Mac (and your family) are in our thoughts and hearts. There are times I look at Ross and remember our two small sons bouncing all over the gym. Fond memories. I finally located the poloroid you took of one of the groups. When I get home, I will scan it and post it here for you. Lots of hugs.
Posted by Kathy Ferguson on February 26, 2020
Can't believe it has been 9 years - that doesn't seem possible. Janet, Mac, Betsy, and Vince...we both think of you often, Tony, too. Love you guys!
Posted by Janet Cole on February 21, 2020
February again. I never thought we could make it to the 9 year mark. Tony is with us both everyday in so many ways. Thank you family and friends who have helped us on our heartbreaking journey.
Love, Janet & Mack
Recent stories
Shared by Lisa Wiley on February 28, 2020
I just want to let your family know that I really think of you and Tony so often. I always say this but it is because its TRUE !!  Please know that although I do not have any stories from my own experience I have heard many from  Alaina. I also know that I wish I could have known Tony more personally and I feel that everyone kind of feels the same way. I know how Jim looked up to him, and the loss greatly affected Jim's life but in a positive way Tony lived his life.I guess I should not speak for my "kids" because they may be embarrassed since they are not kids anymore. Thank you for keeping this site going. I guess I had a story after all.

Son, Brother, Friend

Shared by Janet Cole on February 23, 2016

The following is an article from The Compassionate Friends newsletter Jan. 2016. It was written by Tony's parents (Janet and Mack), sister (Betsy) and long time friend (Dan).

Our son Tony was a lover of life:  he loved the ourdoors, family, friends, football, lacrosse, snow skiing, and building things.  He didn't know a stranger and often sang or whistled as he worked on various assignments or personal projects.  It seemed he was busy every day with school activities or helping friends or constructing things or planning the next adventure.  Tony loved flying airplanes and that's how he died.  We heard from many who knew him that "he lived more life in 22 years than most people do in 80".  This is what keeps us living.

My brother Tony was all in.  Many of us hesitate, take a sip, dip a toe into the flow of life.....but Tony would run straight in with a huge dimpled grin and a hoot of joy.  When he was a baby, I remember gazing into his eyes, making repetitive "babytalk" sounds as he earnestly stared back and his little mouth worked to mirror mine.  His connection and his presence with people were a hallmark of his life.  When he was in elementary school and I was in high school, I remember one family trip out West when we went camping in the Rockies.  As our parents set up camp, Tony and I scrambled up a nearby hillside feeling exuberant and adventurous.  At the top we stared in awe at the magnificence surrounding us.  His love and respect of nature defined him in life and beyond. (Hiking in the woods today is the surest way I have of connecting with my brother's unbridled spirit.)  When Tony was a young adult in college, he became an uncle to my son Ian.  Tony gave me the precious gift of watching his love envelop the next generation of our family before he passed away.  Now, as I watch both of my boys learn, grow, and laugh, I miss my brother beyond words... but I also see bits of him playfully peeking out through my sons' eyes.

My friend Tony was the kid in school wearing his oversized U of M hat on backwards, climbing trees during recess, capturing bugs and ambushing unsuspecting classmates with acorns.  Never living a dull moment through life, he always shared his adventures with friends.  Whether Tony was setting the stage for the school play, creating a backyard zip-line, effortlessly skiing down a double black diamond or spending time with family and friends, he always exuded passion and love.  With Tony's passion towards life, everything was possible.  There was never a discussion or topic that was off limits between us and he always gave an honest perspective and advice.  He would call, for no particular reason, other than to ask how my day was going and what plans I had for the week ahead.  Tony was charismatic, adventurous, hardworking and a loving friend that will never be forgotten; my dearest friend. 

Barn party

Shared by Josh Kaskel on October 22, 2014

Same year tony sang in the band and dressed up like his uncle