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Below are the details for those wishing to make a memorial donation in memory of Tony Cole.   For all donations, please include a note with Tony’s name.

 
Tony’s family is requesting donations to these deserving organizations in lieu of flowers.
 
 
Boy Scouts of America - Anthony Wayne Area Council
8315 West Jefferson Boulevard
Fort Wayne, IN 46804
 
 
Snider High School Football
c/o Snider High School Athletics Department
4600 Fairlawn Pass
Fort Wayne, IN 46815
 
 
Snider High School Performing Arts
c/o Kathy McVaigh
4600 Fairlawn Pass
Fort Wayne, IN 46815
 
 
Beta Theta Pi Fraternity - Beta Mu Chapter House Association, Inc.
c/o Kevin M. Comer
1700 Fairway Drive
Kokomo, IN 46901
 
 
Purdue University Flight Team
Donate via the University Development Office website at: https://donate.purdue.edu/Menu.aspx
 
Click on “Make a One Time Gift” (or “set up a Recurring Gift”), and on the next page “Select a Designation Area”. Scroll down to the very last entry “Other – specify in comments”. “Other Instructions” should include “Av Tech Flight Team #1207”. Select “yes” to the question about the gift being in memory of someone, and enter Tony’s name. If you wish to send notification of the gift, please enter Janet and Mack Cole, 1908 Benham Drive, Fort Wayne, IN 46815.
 
 
February 23, 2016
February 23, 2016
We have added an article we recently wrote about Tony for a newsletter. It is listed under "Stories" above. Thank you all for continuing to think of us and sending us your kind wishes.
January 4, 2016
January 4, 2016
Hello to your family, I just thought I would take some time to let you know that I think of you all often and I almost stopped by but did not want to bother you, especially during the Christmas season. Maybe that is when I needed to stop by though. I simply care and always will. I am not always good and keeping my thoughts to myself and I am glad where you have this website to let you know all of this. Hopefully you are all well. Take care . Lisa
October 26, 2015
October 26, 2015
I'm sorry I let Tony's birthday slip by this year. I just checked my email today - first time in a week - and noticed I missed it. However, we think of Tony often, no matter what the day, as well as think of you both, Janet and Mac, and the good times we shared. Saying a prayer for you guys right now!
October 25, 2015
October 25, 2015
Here we are again, another October, another birthday for Tony. And again we must thank our wonderful friends and family who continually help us laugh, help us mourn, help us live. We miss you more than words can say Tony bear.
Love to all, Janet and Mack
October 22, 2015
October 22, 2015
I am sure today is very difficult for you and I can only say that each day i say a prayer that you find comfort somehow in knowing that you will see him again someday. Your faith helps in keeping you strong.
October 22, 2015
October 22, 2015
Janet,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mac on this difficult day. Embrace your loving and happy memories to treasure for a lifetime. Remember that God has a plan for all of us that we rarely know or understand. Comfort yourself in God's Love and know that Tony is safe and happy in God's Kingdom and that you WILL see him again.
February 26, 2015
February 26, 2015
Remembering Tony and holding everyone who loved and cared about him in our thoughts and prayers, especially today.
Ed and Kathy Ferguson
February 26, 2015
February 26, 2015
II Corinthians 4:18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
February 17, 2015
February 17, 2015
To your family, I am thankful to be able to share my feelings on this page. It is difficult to just go day to day not knowing whether you all know that you are in my prayers every day. I pray for you to hold onto your faith in Jesus and to continue on with life which has got to be a struggle at times still. I know there have been many happy events as well but at the same time you always have that place in your heart that misses Tony. I also pray that God fills that place in your heart with a sense of reassurance that Tony is still with you although in a different way for now. Someday you will see him again and that is something to look forward to for all people who have lost a loved one.
December 17, 2014
December 17, 2014
I watched the video and saw the added pictures. Tony really could sing well!! It as always stirs up a very bittersweet feeling but it was great to watch and I am glad you posted it. Thoughts and prayers are for you all every day and will be forever by me. You are a wonderful family and I am fortunate to know you
December 15, 2014
December 15, 2014
With the release of the movie "Into the Woods" this month we are reminded of Tony's portrayal of the Wolf his sophomore year in Snider High School's 2005 production of "Into the Woods". To see Tony's song go to Gallery then Video above. We thank you all for your continued love and support. Janet and Mack
October 23, 2014
October 23, 2014
Thinking of you, Janet Mack and Betsy, and remembering Tony.
October 23, 2014
October 23, 2014
Mac, Janet, Betsy and Vince,
We continue to hold you all in our thoughts and lift you up in our prayers, especially on Tony's birthday. Love and miss you!
Ed and Kathy
October 22, 2014
October 22, 2014
Janet and Mac,
Today I remember Tony with a smile on my face but have you in my heart. Prayers for your continued healing and strength. May you know that Tony is with God and that God holds you in the palm of His hands.
Blessings.
October 22, 2014
October 22, 2014
Remembering Tony today. My heart and thoughts are always with you! Love you all.
June 3, 2014
June 3, 2014
Mack & Janet,

I haven't been able to find words that adequately express my heartbreak over Tony's accident. I still can't but I want to let know that you are on my mind and I grieve with you and I think of Tony often when I fly. I know he loved aviation and got a lot of joy from flying.

Roger Miller
February 27, 2014
February 27, 2014
Thinking of you and your son Tony always! Whenever I take my hike on my parent's farm and wander the woods Tony is in my prayers. As soon as the bluebells arrive I will make him a bouquet. Love, Cindy
February 27, 2014
February 27, 2014
All of you are always in my heart and mind…love you all...
February 25, 2014
February 25, 2014
So many fond memories. So many prayers of strength and peace surrounding you.
February 25, 2014
February 25, 2014
Janet and Mac: My thoughts and prayers continue for you and your entire family. Let's get together soon when I return from Florida. I think of you often.
Karen Allen
February 24, 2014
February 24, 2014
So glad to have stopped by the other night for the brief visit. I appreciate it that you accept my randomness! But there is still not a day that I do not think of you all and the forced change that has had to be made. Its just on my mind all the time and I care so much for you and others who knew him so well. I just wish there were more I could do
February 24, 2014
February 24, 2014
Thinking of you all as another tough day approaches.  It's hard and my prayers go out to you. Tony will always be alive in your hearts.
February 23, 2014
February 23, 2014
It's been three years since we spent our days & nights at the hospital hoping Tony would get better. Thank you all for keeping our family in your thoughts & prayers. We couldn't have made it this far without your support. Love, Janet & Mack
October 26, 2013
October 26, 2013
Hi Janet, Mack, Betsy, Vince, Ian, and entire family. You all have been in my thoughts and prayers, especially this month...but always. We will always remember Tony. Love you all!
October 23, 2013
October 23, 2013
Every time I see a small plane fly over, I think of that handsome hunk tipping his wings to us old gals! Love and prayers to your whole family,
. Deb T
October 22, 2013
October 22, 2013
We remember Tony, especially today on his birthday, and are thinking of you too, Janet, Mack, Betsy and Vince. Our prayers are always with all of you.
Miss you guys!
Love,
Ed and Kathy
October 22, 2013
October 22, 2013
Janet and Mac ~ My prayers continue with you on this difficult journey. I am learning to "see and listen" since my brother was killed 18 months ago and Dad passed a year ago. God will provide what you need in your most stressful moments. I will recommend a book I have found so comforting and have read more than once: "Heaven is for Real". Hugs for your family.
October 22, 2013
October 22, 2013
Dear Janet & Mack
Hearing that Tony would celebrate his 25th birthday today brings our heartfelt prayer that you would experience peace and strength for this time.
October 22, 2013
October 22, 2013
We are thinking of you and remembering the lasting impressions that Tony had on all of us. He brought lots of energy to everyone he touched! Love, Tom, Lisa, Kate, Jack and Will
October 22, 2013
October 22, 2013
Thinking of you all and sending a prayer your way.
October 21, 2013
October 21, 2013
Tomorrow is Tony's 25th birthday. Our family wants to thank all of the special people who continue to walk with us down the difficult path we have been forced to travel.
Love; Janet, Mack, Betsy, Vince, and Ian
October 21, 2013
October 21, 2013
Tomorrow is Tony's 25th birthday. Our family wants to thank all the special people who continue to walk with us down the difficult path we have been forced to travel.
Love,
Janet, Mack, Betsy, Vince, and Ian
October 14, 2013
October 14, 2013
I was running errands and looked at the blue sky with the color in the trees. I then remembered how difficult life has been for your family especially when I remembered his birthday is coming up. I really pray for God to continue to give you in whatever way any touch of grace through moments you have that make you smile.(Like that one time I spoke with you Janet about the meteor shower)
March 6, 2013
March 6, 2013
Janet, Mack, Betsy, Vince, and Ian: Living without Tony in your every day life is something I cannot imagine for all of you and the extended family. Our family still thinks of Tony, often. We continue to think and pray for all of you. I know his presence is very much a part of each day of your lives. May God continue to hold each of you in His arms and provide comfort, always. Love you.
March 5, 2013
March 5, 2013
As always, I think of your familly. The only thing I can write here comes something I read in a book .I am not for sure of the wording but. it is similar. "As time has moved on where you once had only sorrow now remains a subtle sense of peace"
March 3, 2013
March 3, 2013
Janet, Mac, Betsy, and Vince,

You all have been in my prayers the last several weeks. I'll keep praying.
March 3, 2013
March 3, 2013
Janet and Mac,
You continue to be in our heartfelt thoughts and prayers. Hugs for you and your family.
February 26, 2013
February 26, 2013
Hard to believe it has been two years. We were just looking at old pictures with the kids and saw a few more shots with Tony ...wow, the pre-school years were kid fun times......fun for us to watch and remember...the fun for Janet, Mack, Betsy with Tony. Peace and Love from the Wehrles.
February 26, 2013
February 26, 2013
Dear Mack, Janet and Betsy
Thinking of you today. I sincerely hope that your sorrow will lighten and you can have some peace with rememberence of the joy that Tony brought into your life.
February 26, 2013
February 26, 2013
Dear Janet, Mack, Betsy and Vince,

Thinking of you all today, and enjoying seeing all the wonderful pictures of Tony. They brings smiles to all of us who knew him, and I am sure to even those who did not. May peace be with you, and may Tony's energy and warmth live on.
November 27, 2012
November 27, 2012
We want to thank our friends and family who have helped us along this road. It is the second holiday season since Tony has passed and we wish peace and happiness to you all. Love, Janet and Mack
October 22, 2012
October 22, 2012
Kathy and I missed you guys at Cole's (our oldest son) wedding. We all got together at our house for a reception. I told Hope I had seen Mac, and we remembered Tony
October 22, 2012
October 22, 2012
There is not one day that I do not think of your family. I love the fact that Alaina and Dan are close to all of you and I also enjoy hearing the stories of and seeing pictures of Ian. I listened to a Jackson Brown song "For a Dancer" its on Utube and it is such a nice song. The words were very comforting and may help on days that are so difficult like his birthday. Take Care, Lisa
October 22, 2012
October 22, 2012
I just love seeing the picture of Tony with his plane. Airplanes were a big part of my life through my father who passed away Oct. 7 this year. I just know that both Tony and Dad are soaring on the wings of eagles and looking down on us with love. They will be with us forever in our hearts. Janet, let's get together soon after I return from Dad's home.
October 22, 2012
October 22, 2012
Thinking of your family today. What a blessing Tony was and always will be in your heart.  We know too Janet that we will be reunited in Heaven.With our loved ones. Love you Judy
October 21, 2012
October 21, 2012
Janet, Mack, Betsy, Vince, Ian, and family: though you remember Tony every day in your lives, tomorrow brings about a day that should have been celebrated in another birthday for Tony. Instead, we celebrate the life he did have and all the wonderful memories and love we all had of Tony. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.
April 21, 2012
April 21, 2012
I cannot believe he's been gone a little over a year. I took a walk through the woods at Kathy's and thought of him the whole time. Such a great guy
February 27, 2012
February 27, 2012
Dear Janet, Mac, Betsy & Vince,
We are thinking of you today, and about the vibrant life of Tony, and all those that he touched with his charm, energy and concern. His spirit lives on in all of us who knew him and he will always be remembered. How he lived his life continues to serve as a model to all of us, and reminds us to be happy and to encourage our friends.
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February 26
February 26
Another year with a beautiful day outside. I am seeing many things needing fixing and hoping for inspiration to at least fix one today. I will do best to pick one I am sure I will not fail. Forever missed indeed.
February 26
February 26
It’s been 13 years. It sometimes feels like 13 days. There are times when I still can’t grasp that he’s gone from this earth.
October 22, 2023
October 22, 2023
Noted Birthday today for Tony. The sun is out on what seems to be the start of a beautiful autumn day. I will share the day outside with nature. Thanking the planet for the weather, family for their kindness and hopefully friends (new and lost) for times well spent. May your futures be bright.
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February 28, 2020
I just want to let your family know that I really think of you and Tony so often. I always say this but it is because its TRUE !!  Please know that although I do not have any stories from my own experience I have heard many from  Alaina. I also know that I wish I could have known Tony more personally and I feel that everyone kind of feels the same way. I know how Jim looked up to him, and the loss greatly affected Jim's life but in a positive way Tony lived his life.I guess I should not speak for my "kids" because they may be embarrassed since they are not kids anymore. Thank you for keeping this site going. I guess I had a story after all.

Son, Brother, Friend

February 23, 2016

The following is an article from The Compassionate Friends newsletter Jan. 2016. It was written by Tony's parents (Janet and Mack), sister (Betsy) and long time friend (Dan).

Our son Tony was a lover of life:  he loved the ourdoors, family, friends, football, lacrosse, snow skiing, and building things.  He didn't know a stranger and often sang or whistled as he worked on various assignments or personal projects.  It seemed he was busy every day with school activities or helping friends or constructing things or planning the next adventure.  Tony loved flying airplanes and that's how he died.  We heard from many who knew him that "he lived more life in 22 years than most people do in 80".  This is what keeps us living.

My brother Tony was all in.  Many of us hesitate, take a sip, dip a toe into the flow of life.....but Tony would run straight in with a huge dimpled grin and a hoot of joy.  When he was a baby, I remember gazing into his eyes, making repetitive "babytalk" sounds as he earnestly stared back and his little mouth worked to mirror mine.  His connection and his presence with people were a hallmark of his life.  When he was in elementary school and I was in high school, I remember one family trip out West when we went camping in the Rockies.  As our parents set up camp, Tony and I scrambled up a nearby hillside feeling exuberant and adventurous.  At the top we stared in awe at the magnificence surrounding us.  His love and respect of nature defined him in life and beyond. (Hiking in the woods today is the surest way I have of connecting with my brother's unbridled spirit.)  When Tony was a young adult in college, he became an uncle to my son Ian.  Tony gave me the precious gift of watching his love envelop the next generation of our family before he passed away.  Now, as I watch both of my boys learn, grow, and laugh, I miss my brother beyond words... but I also see bits of him playfully peeking out through my sons' eyes.

My friend Tony was the kid in school wearing his oversized U of M hat on backwards, climbing trees during recess, capturing bugs and ambushing unsuspecting classmates with acorns.  Never living a dull moment through life, he always shared his adventures with friends.  Whether Tony was setting the stage for the school play, creating a backyard zip-line, effortlessly skiing down a double black diamond or spending time with family and friends, he always exuded passion and love.  With Tony's passion towards life, everything was possible.  There was never a discussion or topic that was off limits between us and he always gave an honest perspective and advice.  He would call, for no particular reason, other than to ask how my day was going and what plans I had for the week ahead.  Tony was charismatic, adventurous, hardworking and a loving friend that will never be forgotten; my dearest friend. 

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October 22, 2014

Same year tony sang in the band and dressed up like his uncle

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