Remember Me
....
I cannot be seen, but I can be heard.
So as you stand upon a shore, gazing at a beautiful sea - remember me.
As you look in awe at a mighty forest and its grand majesty - remember me.
As you look upon a flower and admire its simplicity - remember me.
Remember me in your heart, your thoughts, your memories of the times we loved,
the times we cried, the times we fought, the times we laughed.
For if you always think of me, I will never be gone.
Margaret Mead
Dearest Family and Friends,
In times of hardship, we understand that shared sorrow is half the sorrow and shared joy is double the joy. You all had a beautiful place in Tri's heart, so from the bottom of our own hearts we thank you. We thank you for loving Tri.
Tri's life was made richer because of you. We hope that one day our paths may cross so that we may hear your stories of Tri and smile as we look back on all the memories, just as he always made us smile.
Until then, we invite you to share on this page your stories and photos of our beloved Tri.
Trí ơi, you will remain in our hearts forever. We love you.
Tributes
Leave a tributeLove,
My~
It's been four years that you left us to a better place; I have not seen you lately in my dreams so you must be pretty busy eh ? I still swim daily and still remembered you with each swimming stroke, I finally was able to do the correct flip turn now. I guess it's hard to teach an old dog new tricks but I am able to do it now :). The neighbor's cats still come over daily and the grey cat chose our home as hers now. We love her very much even though she woke us up in the middle of the night to go outside...
Take care Trí, we love you !!!
My~
I missed you, I missed going to the airport to pick you up every year, I missed seeing you at home, I missed your smiles .... I saw you in my dream once in a while and knew you are in better place so I am happy. It's been three years and just to let you know that you are always in our hearts.
Love,
My~
“A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul
never dies. It brings us together again and again.” - Maya Angelou
It’s been three years since you left us, Cau Tri, and you are still in all our hearts. As we’re in the midst of a global pandemic and rising divisiveness in the country, one thing we can always take solace in is knowing that you’re looking after us. The thought of you brings us peace in a time we need it most. We love you.
Today you would be 57. We are thinking of you and miss you everyday. I hope you remain happy wherever you are until we meet again.
Much love,
Your sis,
Hien
Happy Birthday and hope you are doing well. You were doing great when I saw you last in my dreams... I was so happy when you told me your passing was fake and I believed you until I woken up :( I swim every other days and every strokes now and then I still think of how you told me what I should do for those strokes, and I think I am getting better. Thanks Tri again for helping me when I ran into some difficult jobs lately...thought I couldn’t do it but then I was able to overcome it and I knew you were there to help me somehow but except for winning the Lottery ... that did not happen yet ... LoL !!!
Love you brother,
Me
Chị em mình uống cafe nhé? I've prepared one cup for you ( the same cafe sua nong as I always did whenever you came to stay with us .)
I miss you, brother.
wasn’t expecting to be crying so early in the morning…..
Sau khi đóng cửa đẻ làm hồ mới 2016 tới giờ,
Hồ bơi sjsu mới mở cửa lại.
Hôm nay tui với ông mình sẽ viếng thăm nó nhe.
We’ll do 2000 yards
Linh Các
Thinking of you today, and every day.
Happy birthday, brother!
Love,
Hien
It has been a year,
Still keep your last message you text me about John,
Missing you and John , will always be in my heart.
Love,
Lan
Missing you still, dear brother
Tears well up I weep.
with love ,
Hoa
Love,
Your sis, Hien
Wishing you a happy 55th birthday. You continue to constantly be on our minds and in our hearts. I know you're looking over us all. We all love and miss you very much.
Love,
Brian
Thinking of you, especially today. I miss you. I know how much you loved and appreciated traveling and nature. This quote from Henry David Thoreau from his book "Walden" makes me think of you:
"We need the tonic of wildness...At the same time that we are earnest to explore and learn all things, we require that all things be mysterious and unexplorable, that land and sea be indefinitely wild, unsurveyed and unfathomed by us because unfathomable. We can never have enough of nature."
I hope that you are continuing to have wonderful views of all things, dressed with your sincere and loving smile. Thank you for the constant reminder to appreciate the world around me and to always continue learning with patience, compassion, and sincerity.
Love,
Natalie
Happy 55th Birthday! Even with the time that has gone by, it is still hard to comprehend the fact that you are no longer with us. I will always remember the times where we would talk about sports and I would have the opportunity to hear your infectious laugh. I still have the souvenir beetle keychain that you brought for us one Christmas.
I hope that you are celebrating your birthday with Ong Ngoai up in Heaven and are able to do all the things that you enjoy doing on your special day. Have a great birthday Cau Tri.
Love,
Jeffrey
Every year on this day we always remember to either email or text you Happy Birthay. And from now on, with aching sadness, we will remember June 1 as " Ngày Giỗ cho em".
I don't need dates to remember you because I think of you every day. You have never left us, Trí, and you are always in our heart".
Love,
Hien
Our hearts ache when we think that we cannot tell you Happy Birthday anymore.
You are missed beyond words. We love you .
Happy birthday! Today marks your 55th birthday; how we wish we could celebrate with you. We all miss you dearly and still can't believe there isn't a day we can see your smile again. That's the thing about life. We have to pick up the pieces and push ourselves to move on, amidst all the heartaches and defeats. But, through it all, you remain a big part of us. Dreary days are made brighter with the thought of your warm smile and contagious laugh. You taught us the meaning of humility and compassion, that we should lend a helping hand to those who need it the most, and that life is too short to not be merry and explore the world. Your spirit lives on as we keep this in mind and look toward the future with hope. So, rather than thinking of this day with sorrow and a heavy heart, we reflect on all our fond memories of you and pay tribute to a wonderful uncle, brother, son, nephew, cousin, and friend.
We love you.
Lots of Love,
My~
Em se mai luon trong tim cua moi nguoi than thuong va be ban bon phuong.
L C thương tiếc tặng người bạn hiền, một tri kỷ trong hồ bơi.
Mùa Thu Không Trở Lại- Tác giả: Phạm Trọng Cầu
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qjPBKvQm6X4
Tri', It was like yesterday that you and I were on the road trip driving to San Diego, thru the Mojave desert, thru the death valley and up to lake Tahoe. It was only one of many, many wonderful experiences that we shared throughout our over 25 years of friendship, but it was the most special memory that I will cherish forever because It was our last activity together. I have always thankful that God had given me a chance
to become your friend, Tri'. You were kindhearted, selfless, filial, intelligent, among other great characteristics. You had touched many people's hearts, my friend. Your friend, Tuan
"Anh nằm xuống sau một lần đã đến đây
Đã vui chơi trong cuộc đời nầy...
Xin cho một người vừa nằm xuống
thấy bóng thiên đường cuối trời thênh thang"
(Hát Cho Một Người Nằm Xuống)
Anh Tri la nguoi thong minh ,thuong xuyen di chua cung PHAT va ham hoc hoi PHAT PHAP .Chinh vi vay Anh Tri hieu rat ro loi PHAT day. Cuoi cung ta chi mang duoc "NGHIEP" theo ben minh het doi nay doi qua doi khac nhu hinh voi bong va tao ra nhieu "NHAN" tot (THIEN NGHIEP/ PHUOC BAU),Anh Tri xung dang nhan "QUA" tot (thiên đường cuối trời thênh thang).
"forever missed by all of us
Thuyền Viễn Xứ
Thơ Huyền Chi
Chiều nay sương khói lên khơi
Thùy dương rũ bến tơi bời
Làn mây hồng xa ráng trời
Bến Ðà Giang, thuyền qua xứ người
Thuyền ơi viễn xứ xa xôi
Một lần qua giạt bến lau thưa
Hò ơi giọng hát thiên thu
Suối nguồn xa vắng, chiều mưa ngân về
Nhìn về đường cố lý, cố lý xa xôi
Ðời nhịp sầu lỡ bước, bước hoang mang rồi
Quay lại hướng làng
Ðà Giang lệ ướt nồng
Mẹ già ngồi im bóng
Mái tóc sương mong con bạc lòng
Chiều nay gửi tới quê xưa
Biết là bao thương nhớ cho vừa
Trời cao chìm rơi xuống đời
Biết là bao sầu trên xứ người
Mịt mù sương khói lên hương
Lũ thùy dương rũ bóng ven sông
Chiều nay trên bến muôn phương
Có thuyền viễn xứ nhổ neo lên đường...
In addition to his altruistic nature and personality, my uncle loved to travel. He always thought of us during his travels and brought home souvenirs and trinkets for the family. He would bring home the gifts in October, because Cau Tri always came home every October for my grandma's birthday and my grandfathers gio. Everyone looked forward to his homecoming, especially my grandma, and we all enjoyed home-cooked meals together however long Cau Tri was home.
My mom and I have been looking through old photos and thinking about Cau Tri a lot. There is a photo we found of Cau Tri with me, my brother, and my two cousins when we were young. We were at Ong Ba Ngoai's house in the backyard. Cau Tri is in the middle and we are all surrounding him. We all look so happy. This photo wasn't taken because of a birthday party or celebration or anything in particular; it is a photo that shows four cousins loving their uncle's company on a random day. I am grateful for the memories I have with my loving uncle. This photo is something I will cherish and look at often.
There are many things I respect about my Cau Tri and am blessed with an uncle who has shown me what it is like to be so selfless and happy. He found happiness in the most simplest of things, and always laughed at everything. Cau Tri's laugh is my favorite. His infectious laugh could brighten someone's bad day. Cau Tri's genuine happiness can be heard through his laughter and I smile thinking about his sincere, loving laugh.
We all lost some sunshine in our lives when my uncle passed away. But my uncle taught us to be kind, caring, calm, and loving throughout good times and bad times. And though we have less sunshine without him, thinking of Cau Tri and my memories of him, especially his loving laugh, will always brighten my day and give me some sunshine back.
Đại diện cho phụ huynh, học sinh và các thầy cô, xin chia buồn cùng gia đình thầy Mỹ. Chúng tôi vô cùng thương sót vì sự ra đi đột ngột của thầy Trí. Nét mặt phúc hậu và nụ cười hiền lành của thầy Trí sẽ mãi ghi sâu trong lòng chúng ta.
Vũ Mai Trang
Dì không có Facebook , nhưng mỗi ngày cậu Phước đều cho Dì xem tin tức của cháu Trí trên Facebook mà cháu đã gởi .
Khi cậu Phước nghe Dì báo tin cháu Trí mất ,cậu Phước hỏi lại mấy lần rồi hoảng hốt kêu 'Trời Ơi" . Cậu Phước yêu thương Trí nhất .
Khoảng 6 giờ sáng nay ( 26 tháng 6/17 ) có một con bướm nhỏ bay rất nhanh trong bathroom khi Dì vừa bật đèn .Dì nhìn theo con bướm thấy nó bay nhiều vòng trên đầu Dì rồi biến mất. Dì tìm mãi mà không thấy đâu hết. Dì nghĩ cháu Trí đến thăm Dì. Mười mấy năm trước , lúc cậu King mất , Dì cũng gặp một con bướm nhỏ bay trước cửa nhà mỗi khi Dì đi làm về ( 11 giờ 30 đêm ), liên tiếp nhiều đêm như vậy.
Nhớ Trí là Dì thấy mắt ươn ướt.
Dì Ninh
THÀNH KÍNH PHÂN ƯU
Xem qua Photo Gallery thấy Trí trưởng thành ở xứ người, thật giỏi giang, sportive, trở về VN chuyên tâm làm việc, sống đẹp, nhân hậu và luôn giữ hiếu đạo với gia đình, người thân. Rất là cảm phục.
Cầu mong linh hồn Trí tiêu diêu miền cực lạc, luôn phù hộ cho đại gia đình được bình an, hạnh phúc. Tất cả mọi người thân thuộc, bạn bè đều rất thương nhớ và hãnh diện về em.
Nguyễn Gia Ninh
tại Việt Nam.
Được biết cháu Trí rất yêu mến Việt Nam nên chọn làm việc ở đây. Cháu Trí ra đi khi tuổi đời còn rất trẻ, để lại niềm thương tiếc vô hạn cho gia đình và người thương.
Xin chia buồn cùng chị Ảnh và gia đình các cháu Thuận, Hòa, Hiền, Mỹ
Cầu chúc hương linh của cháu Trí được sớm vãng sinh về miền Cực Lạc.
THÁNH KÍNH PHÂN ƯU
Đại diện gia đình dì Chung Thị Bích Thuỷ, Chung Thị Hương Thuỷ, Chung Thị Kim Thủy
Cậu Chung Phước Thành và gia đình
Trí ra đi, để lại niềm tiếc thương vô hạn cho gia đình và người thân. Mấy Dì bên nây biết dùng lời nào để chia sẻ niềm đau với Mẹ các cháu và các cháu; chỉ cầu xin Ơn Trên an ủi và ban sự bình an cho thân quyến ..Không ngờ Dì Sáu không còn dịp gặp Trí nữa....
I feel very sad and shocked and heavy-hearted.
Trí used to work w/me at Mitta Tech, on projects in Virginia in 1998. Then he was off to Vietnam since.
Trí was on the same plane going to Thailand with Hoà and me on Oct 2016, a stopover for Bhutan.
We departed and waved goodbye, and he was off to Vietnam. I never knew that would be the last time I saw Trí in person.
I'll always remember Trí's quiet demeanor, his sweet smile and gentle manner.
How fleeting and fragile life is. Rest well in peace, sweet brother Tri'.
My deepest condolences to Hoà, Hiền, and Family.
Hearing stories and seeing pictures of his travels inspired me to explore the world and I always admired how independent he was. He really lived his life the way he wanted to live it and never let anyone get him down.
Even though he lived on the opposite side of the world, we never forgot about him and always kept him close in our plans. Occasionally when he flew back to the US, he would need a place to stay, and without hesitation, I happily offered my room to him knowing that he would be comfortable and relaxed at our house. I always looked forward to his visits knowing how happy our family became when he was here. He truly completed our family and with his passing it feels like we’re losing a part of ourselves. But one thing I can never lose is the memory of him smiling. I will forever keep his loving and cheerful attitude close to my heart.
Hoa and the Newens Family
Your cousins Lan, Bi and Tram
There are many good things said about Anh Tri. His nickname Banh Mi was because he was generous to those around him. To a close circle of friends, he is also known as Oracle because he was the fountain of all knowledge. If I had to describe Anh Tri in one word it would be “gentleman”. He was a true gentleman. His passing marks an end of an era and he will be sorely missed by all those who knew him. I consider myself to be very fortunate and blessed to have met Anh Tri.
San
Em Vic và gia đình,
I caught up with Tri in VN, when I was there in 2003 and we had met at least once every year either in VN or when he came back to visit his family in San Jose until his passing.
I will always remember Tri for being a very good-hearted person. He took care of his friends, when they were down and out.
RIP my friend as your journey has ended here on this earth. A kind, gentle person and a great friend. You will always be missed.
Nhìn tấm hình hai cháu Mỹ và Trí chụp ở bụi Cau ở sân sau của Ty Thuế Vụ Biên Hòa, đó là thời điẻm Chú được bổ nhiệm về Biên Hòa làm việc với Ba của các Cháu và quen thân với gia đình của các cháu từ đó cho đến nay cũng đã gần 50 năm trời. Chú Phò không bao giờ quên tấm chân tình mà Ba Má của các cháu đã dành cho Chú Thím từ nữa thế kỷ vừa qua.
Năm 1984 Chú qua thăm gia đình cháu, cháu Trí đã đưa chú đi xem trận Túc Câu Thế Vận Hội giữa Ba Tây và Ý. Cám ơn cháu nhiều lắm nghe Trí, cháu luôn tử tế với mọi người, cháu ra đi trong thanh thản vì cháu đã sống trọn vẹn với những gì cháu ước muốn, không bị́ ràng buộc gì cả.
Quy Mạng Lễ A Di Đà Phật,
Ở Tây Phương Thế Giới An Lành
Chúng con xin nguyện cho hương linh Cháu Bùi Huy Thiện Trí
Được Đức Phật A Di Đà cùng Chư Thánh Chúng tiếp dẫn về đất nước của Ngài.
Cháu Trí thích chơi tem và thích các đồng tiền cổ Việt Nam từ thời cổ
đến thời Pháp thuộc và Việt Nam Cộng Hòa, Cháu Trí rất có hiếu năm nào về Mỹ cũng đưa mẹ đi du lịch
Chú thím Nguyễn Văn Vỹ, Châm, các em Ngọc , Hùng , Nga
It is with unbearable sorrow that we are writing to share the unexpected death of Tri, our beloved brother. Tri died of a heart attack on Thursday morning during his daily swimming routine, in Saigon.
Tri was dearly loved and an important part of our family for 54 years. Tri will be missed beyond measure from all of us.
Services are pending , we’re thinking of a cremation funeral for Tri in Saigon and a memorial service in the US.
Please keep Tri in your prayers . Thank you friends for your support.
Sincerely,
Hòa & Hiền
Thank you for all of your condolences , prayers, and sharing your reminiscences of Trí. Reading your stories warmed our hearts and it comforts us to know that Trí is loved and remembered by many. Thank you also for the thoughtful and generous wreath-- it was beautiful.
Thank you thày Chuong, Tung, Tai, Sơn, Erich, and Tuan, for being with us. Your presence gave us support and strength to say our goodbyes to Trí.
Trí was handsome, smart, quiet, kind-hearted, generous, forgiving, and our brother believed in "Luật Nhân Quả".
Of all the sisters and brothers, he is our favorite. Every October, he came back to the US for our Dad's Giỗ and our Mom's birthday for 3 weeks. The siblings, nieces, and nephews never missed a chance to see Cau Trí.
Of all the children, my Mom and Dad loved him the most. Every Saturday at 7:00am, Trí would call our Mom and tell her, "Má nhớ an cho nhiều , dầy đủ cho khỏe, con về chở Má di chơi. Con khỏe lam, di bơi mỗi ngày".
I told Tri we would go to VietNam, and every year, we missed that opportunity because of conflicted work schedules. I said that this year would be the year for Viet Nam, and Trí meticulously planned out an itinerary for us. Trí would take us từ Bắc xuống Nam, to all the historical chùa chiền that he loved, and introduce his two cats, Kittie and Blackie to us. I don't recall that Trí mentioned anything about hot bia om places in town. Our trip would be in November.
Trí and I shared a passion for traveling, but regrettably, our travel paths had never crossed. We did share our travel pictures and videos wherever we went in our siblings group texts. Last week, I shared a picture of my daughter and I in front of a glacier and waterfall. Immediately afterwards, Trí commented, "Nice picture, nature is the best". The next morning, Thursday, June 1, before venturing on the hiking trail, we stopped by a serene, iridescent lake and took a picture. When I was about to send the picture, I saw the text and received the heartbreaking news about what happened. I knelt down by the lake and I cried.
I shared with Trí this video with the title "Travel, Before It's Too Late" and never thought in 3 short years, I would share this with you with a new title, "When Tomorrow Starts Without Me":
https://vimeo.com/105113459
Yes, this year is the year that we would go to Vietnam. After 42 years, Chi Hòa, Mỹ and I are back in Saigon, not in November as planned, but in June, to bring Trí back home to San Jose, where his family is.
Rest In Peace, brother. We will always carry your gentle, sweet soul with us.
Hien
Leave a Tribute
Love,
My~
It's been four years that you left us to a better place; I have not seen you lately in my dreams so you must be pretty busy eh ? I still swim daily and still remembered you with each swimming stroke, I finally was able to do the correct flip turn now. I guess it's hard to teach an old dog new tricks but I am able to do it now :). The neighbor's cats still come over daily and the grey cat chose our home as hers now. We love her very much even though she woke us up in the middle of the night to go outside...
Take care Trí, we love you !!!
My~
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Tết đến, nhớ Cha và Em
Vẫn Thấy Bên Đời Còn Có Em
Ngày lễ sum họp gia đình, thiếu Trí, nhớ em...
Vẫn Thấy Bên Đời Còn Có Em
Sáng tác: Trịnh Công Sơn
Vẫn thấy bên đời còn có em
Tấm lòng em như lá kia còn xanh
Rừng ơi hãy giữ cho bền nhé
Những cành hoa phai quá không đành.
Vẫn thấy em cười đùa đó đây
Mái nhà năm xưa tóc em còn bay
Gặp nhau giây phút trong đời ấy
Nỗi gì bâng khuâng níu chân hoài.
Em đã đến nơi này tựa như cánh én
Dịu dàng trao chút hương hoa mùa xuân
Nhớ gì mà nắng vàng cánh rừng
Thương ai mà sương khuya vội vàng buông
Chiều nay bên trời xao xuyến
Còn em trong từng nhớ thương.
Mỗi vết thương lành, một nỗi vui
Mắt cười mênh mông giữa đôi bàn tay
Dù em khẽ bước không thành tiếng
Cõi đời bao la vẫn ngân dài.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qyjcd_XlD6Q