ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in loving memory of our loving brother, husband, uncle  and father Babatunde Coker, aged 59 years old, born on October 17th 1961 and passed away on March 24th 2021. Tunde will remain in our hearts forever.

Please feel free to share your memories and tributes below, as we remember him fondly. 

Thank You
Posted by Jumoke Coker on April 22, 2021
Daddy, writing this is difficult, you always told me that instead of crying I should focus on fixing the problem. This is one time that that advice is completely moot, there is nothing I can do to fix this problem. You have gone much too soon and there is nothing I can do about it and that it is devastating. 
There are so many memories that where do I even start. Is it from our random nights out at boat club, where even though I lived 5mins away from Boat Club you would still drive behind me to make sure I got home safe before heading home? Is it our many lunch/dinner/after-work daddy-daughter dates? Is it the time “Minnie Mouse” stole my gold necklace at a party, and you tracked down the imposter and got it back? Is it the time you told me that the only way I could even think of get my driving license was if I first passed your “test” which consisted of me driving you around (after months and months of lessons with Mr. Israel and Mr. Elijah) for weeks until you were satisfied?

A lot of people have mentioned how kind and considerate you were, but nobody has mentioned how much you enjoyed forming ‘hard guy’. Daddy it is time to expose you: One of the last times I saw you before the hospital was in Lagos, shortly before you travelled. I called you 30mins to curfew that Betsy (my car) had broken down yet again, this time under Falomo Bridge. You told me to sort myself out and call a tow truck if need be. Lo and behold, who should show up unannounced 10 mins later, TC himself. Masked and gloved up, ready to supervise the towing of said car. You stayed with me through all the wahala, once again driving behind me till I got home, then dashing home minutes before the curfew. This is just one example of the many times you have saved me and Betsy. The full chapter of our lives with Betsy is a story for another day.

I am comforted in the knowledge that you are now at peace, you fought a great fight. One of the things I asked you when I was able to see you physically in hospital (with Aunty Joanna) was for you to prove to us all how truly strong-willed you could be and come back to us despite everything the doctors said. You did your absolute best. A lot of this feels like it can’t be real. That I can’t accept that just like that there will be no more days of me showing up to your office and sitting across from you till you closed for the day. I am grateful that I was able to see you before your untimely passing and every word I said, I mean it even more now. Rest in Perfect Peace Daddy.

Love and miss you,
Jumoke aka Jumsie aka Feeding Bottle Lawyer
Posted by Anna Williamson on April 21, 2021
We’re devastated for you Suzy. Thinking of you and your family at this difficult time. You are always in our hearts and thoughts.
Posted by Imelda Utuk on April 20, 2021
Perhaps passing through the gates of death is like passing quietly through the gate in a pasture fence. On the other side, you keep walking, without the need to look back. No shock, no drama, just the lifting of a plank or two in a simple wooden gate in a clearing. Neither pain, nor floods of light, nor great voices, but just the silent crossing of a meadow.” Tunde Rest In Peace.
Posted by Gbemisola Ademola on April 20, 2021
Dear Dr S. Elneil I am very sorry to hear that Uncle Tunde passed away. My Condolences to you and Coker's family. May Almighty Lord give you strength and comfort you with the loving memories you shared with Uncle Tunde, as I hope this will help to ease the loss you bear. Lord Almighty will remember you and pray for you, as you are a wonderful woman.
We loved him but Lord love him most and I pray Lord Almighty grant Uncle Tunde eternal resting peace. Amen.
Posted by Kunle Lijadu on April 20, 2021
It is still so hard to believe you have departed this earth TC. It feels so unreal for me to be writing this tribute and I have simply been putting writing it off in the hope that this is just one big mix-up. I however had to face reality when I received the program for your burial. You were so full of life and you lived life to the fullest. All memories of you are ones to cherish. From Calabar to Lagos to H. A. Lardner and beyond, you were different things to me at different times - friend, colleague, hang-out buddy, mentor, mentee, benefactor, beneficiary, name it. I am sure that so many people will say the same thing about you. You had the enviable capacity to embrace and relate with everyone no matter their place in life and this I liked so much about you. I still wonder to date how, with your giant frame, you felt so comfortable in that my tiny room at Campbell Street in those days. You felt comfortable in huts as much as you did in palaces. I am glad that you were blessed to leave Jumoke behind and I am kind of happy to be a small part of her story. I pray for strength for her, your wife and the rest of your family and friends to withstand the blow dealt by your untimely departure. Sleep well TC. May the Lord forgive your misdeeds and grant repose to your soul.

Kunle Lijadu (KL)
Posted by Joke Akin-Taylor on April 19, 2021
Tunde is gone but continues to live in our hearts!!

Tunde, I still cannot believe you have indeed gone!! I pray every day that I would wake up from this horrendous nightmare……. but sadly it seems this will never be!
I still cannot process this shocking news, I simply could not talk for days, let alone bring myself to put pen to paper to write a tribute to rekindle my memories of who you really were and the principles you stood for. It took me several weeks to reluctantly pull myself together to say these few words about you.
Where do I start from and where do I end? ……….I keep asking myself. The thirty plus years of great memories we share are enormous and overwhelming!
I vividly recall first meeting you at the Federal High Court in Lagos in 1990, where as part of our training program for newly qualified lawyers, we sat quietly at the back row in the court room observing proceedings. You walked in confidently and your presence was felt by all. Nodding politely with a wide smile to the presiding Judge you addressed the court diligently, thus leaving a very positive impression on all our colleagues and much admiration from us.
As we stepped out of the court room at the end of the day’s session, much to our surprise we saw you interacting jovially with the people around and putting smiles on their faces from the food sellers to the hawkers in the court vicinity, cracking jokes and giggling with them as they called you “Barrister Coker! Barrister Coker!” all over the place. Tunde never discriminated nor turned up his nose at anyone. While observing such warm interaction with them, my very good friend & colleague and I looked at each other with “raised eye brows” and chuckled away saying “hmmm… he must be a very popular jingo” and called it a day! Tunde was indeed a man of the people and it was evident!
The next day, on commencing my service at the law office (H.A Lardner ) where I was assigned gladly to serve as a pupil (often referred to as “law office attachment” in Nigeria), I was very much surprised to meet Tunde once again in the office I was assigned to, where unknown to me he worked. Tunde and I became very good friends from then on, he got to know every member of my family, and the rest unfortunately, is now history.
The great fun times we shared, the good old days at Alara, your trips to Accra, London etc. etc., the joy & love, the jokes, the laughter, the changing scenes of life, the care, your comforting voice, and now this deeply seated pain and sadness that simply wouldn’t go away!!!!
I ask God every day since receiving this devastating news, why He (God) who has authority over all things and situations allowed this to happen to such a wonderful, loving and caring person. You had plans Tunde, you had aspirations and dreams, you were generally very healthy and full of energy and vigour. You still had so much work and other things to do, not only for yourself but for so many people. But again this was not to be!
Despite all my questions to God, that still small voice, keeps dropping in my spirit and telling me ‘IT IS WELL!’. I ask how it can be well, when Tunde has suddenly gone. But the voice keeps reminding me that “God’s ways are not our ways”. He knows best, he knows the beginning and the end, for the all-knowing God will never forsake you nor leave you. He surely knows best and ultimately, he has the keys,… the keys that opens all gates to “Eternal Life”. For the flesh can pass away but certainly the “Soul and Spirit will have eternal life”.
Isaiah 55:8-‬9 (KJV) informs us that: “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts”.‬‬‬
One thing I know for sure, is that Tunde, you put up a good fight, oh yes, by the Grace of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, you fought a good fight, which typically of you, was for a good cause!! You wrestled and defeated the enemy to a standstill and won that battle!! At last you were set free from the enemy……… But ultimately God in His infinite Wisdom, the All-Knowing One and True God whom we serve, crowned you with honour and glorified you by calling you to a much Higher Place! 
1 Timothy 6:12 KJV teaches us to: “Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses.”
Tunde, you cared and fought for a lot people, and you were always willing to help others to the extent that you felt obliged to help any and everybody who approached you for assistance. Most times you did so at your own expense and even to your own detriment. You were indeed a true man of the people, a good & kind hearted person, a man of integrity, a firm yet a gentle giant, a disciplinarian and an absolute gentleman who feared & loved God!!!
What we love and miss, is also loved by God, Heaven was certainly “missing an Angel” too, so you were called home to be with your Creator and to serve your God!!
Oh yes, I do take a lot of comfort in knowing from my dream that you are very happy and in a much better & beautiful place, where there is no more sorrow nor pain, and where blue birds fly over the rainbow, as you walk beside the still shimmering waters!!
My dearest & loving TC may God continue to grant you eternal rest until we meet again!!!
Rest well Tunde, Rest in Perfect Peace!!! You will forever be missed and you will forever be in my heart!!
May God comfort the entire Coker family for this colossal loss and vacuum created and in particular may God protect and Guide Yemi, and your daughter Jumoke!

Sleep Well Tunde!

My story: Joke Akin-Taylor!

Posted by Foluso Adeluola on April 19, 2021
Dear Uncle Tunde,

It is so sad that you left the world so soon. We take comfort in the fact that you’re resting with the good Lord. I will always remember your warmth and your smile. You will be sorely missed.
Femi Adeluola
Posted by gwen gonzales on April 19, 2021
Rest in peace, Tunde

John 14:1-3
“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.”
Posted by Yinka Akinkugbe on April 19, 2021
My dear brother Tunde..a giant in so many ways thoughtful at times but always with a broad smile, generous with hugs and robust and rumbustious when it was time to play....Whether we met at the boat club, met club or in your flat there was never a dull moment ....never a moment of regret at least non that I can remember. I had hoped you would find the strength to meet this challenge and thought you had won the battle again...I know you will love to tell the tale when we meet again rest in peace aburo.
Posted by Dere Coker on April 19, 2021
Tribute by Dr. Sam Iwuajoku

Till We Laugh Again!

Tunde, Goodbye for now my dear friend
I cherished our friendship till the very end
It seems like yesterday as boyhood friends we use to boat, laugh and play .
Even though you will be greatly missed I think of a friendship that spanned the years.
It's the remembrance of this that quiet the tears.
May your memory be a blessing to us.
Rest In Peace,

Sammy
Posted by Aduke Gomez on April 19, 2021
It is said that in all things we must give thanks. This is difficult beyond words at present but we are not to weep like those who have no hope...

So, Tunde, let me list out some such things here. Thank you for the gift of the greatest blessing in my life. As I know she was in yours. And, as I also know, you were rightfully so proud that she had followed in both our footsteps and read law. To have been granted the privilege to have been your co-parent through the ups and downs of life and to see how well we have succeeded despite all odds is truly something for which I am grateful.

Above all else, in the end it is the good times that we must remember. And so looking back through the years, besides the beach trips and Jumoke's birthday parties and all her graduation ceremonies - from primary school to university - my favourite memory is of you and Jumoke and my dad dancing the night away together at his 90th birthday party!

Sun re o Papa Jumoke! May the angels themselves escort you and may light perpetual shine upon you. Missed now and always.

Aduke Gomez
Posted by Dere Coker on April 18, 2021
Tribute from Mrs Tunde Coker

A Tribute to Tunde Coker

Tunde was just the best!
We met one day in court, both of us in the same matter, and announced our names, the judge was a bit flustered, so he announced ‘Will the real Tunde Coker please stand up, ’ and we both stood up! It was a day of laughter in the Lagos High Court. He would say ‘ I am the real Tunde Coker’ whenever we are being introduced.
We would go across the world together, to Singapore, Spain, Argentina etc.all those days of IBA, are now gone, o ma se o.
He was so kind, so loving, so so respectful, and gentle, despite his huge size. Tunde, was really the best.
Tunde, o di’gba o!
Tunde Coker ( the real one)
Posted by Seyi Johnson on April 18, 2021
Big T,

A very kind and fine gentleman. Always there for everyone especially family.

I Always called him 10 men because I felt the Yoruba adage "okunrin meta" 3 men wasn't sufficient for him. To me,he was larger than that and his capacity to go the extra mile for people made me believe he was 10 men moulded into one.

I have so many fond memories of Tunde that I smile when I think of them but which also makes me sad immediately I remember i will never see him again.Even at the most critical stage of his illness I always felt he would pull through.

Tunde didn't play golf but traveled all the way to Thailand to be with me and my golf buddies as part of my 50th birthday celebrations because that's what I wanted. It wasn’t too much trouble for him not minding the time and cost. That's how he was.

Tunde insisted that I join the Metropolitan Club because he felt it was the right for me. While I was still dithering he would invite me to their traditional Tuesday lunch as part of the membership process. Today I'm a proud and happy member of the club. He didn't have to make the effort but he did because he cared.

There are so many wonderful experiences with Tunde I could recount but I'm sure it is the same for most who knew him.

Tunde ran a good race. May his soul continue to rest in perfect peace. Amen.
Posted by Yewande Cole on April 18, 2021
Life is so unpredictable. We all hoped and prayed that Tunde's health would continue to improve, especially after losing Olu so suddenly in January, but alas, it was not to be. It is not how long one lives that matters, but how well. Tunde lived life to the fullest, touching so many lives positively on the way.  He was a loving father, husband, brother and friend to many. Rest in peace Tunde and give Olu a big hug from Remi and I. We miss you both dearly.


Yewande

Posted by Dere Coker on April 17, 2021
Tribute From ASP ARIGIDI EBIBONIMIGHAN.


ETERNAL REST TO MY MENTOR BARRISTER, BABATUNDE BAPTIST. AKINREMI COKER .(BBA COKER), Honour and tributes to the memory and legacies of Barr Babatunde Baptist Akinremi Coker, "BBAC' Departing for the afterword is something we must all face. Yet your departure is a shock, a wound that could not be healed, But indeed a moment of gratitude of a great philanthropist, a devoted man of peace, a refined man of knowledge, a remarkable diplomat of wisdom, justice, peace, love and unity. I am proud to remember the custodian of the Law, "BBAC'"for his legacies of being humanly considerate, compassionate,and indeed examplarily unique in course of life, My heart blinks as I pay tributes to your sudden demise.Rest in perfect peace till we meet in the bossom of thy creator .

Arigidi
Posted by Dere Coker on April 17, 2021

Tribute from Toki Adewole (nee Coker) with Bodunrin and family.

A Tribute to my dear cousin Tunde Coker (Big T)

This has been a very difficult tribute to write as I cannot believe Tunde has left us so soon.
Tunde was the life and soul of our Coker family, I will always remember how he lit up a room with his gregarious character and laughter and the huge fireworks he organized at family parties every New Year’s Eve at Alhaji Kanike Ikoyi. Those of us including the little children who attended will never forget the firework displays and the pure joy and excitement it brought. All thanks to Tunde.
So my dear Tunde you will be terribly missed.
You were an accomplished Lawyer and a generous benefactor to many.
You faced a battle no one could have ever predicted but you fought the good fight along with your beloved wife Suzi, your much cherished daughter Jumoke, your devoted brother Yemi and his wife Joanne, your many nieces and nephews, cousins, aunties and uncles, In-laws and friends all praying for a reprieve.
But God Almighty knows best because he loves you more, so we will always give him thanks and praise for bringing someone special like you into our lives, even now that he wants you back, we will always thank God.
Rest in Perfect Peace Big T.
Farewell




Posted by Dere Coker on April 16, 2021
Tribute to Tunde by Dr Adeyemi Coker

I write this not just as a tribute but as a declaration of gratitude for the joy that your life had brought into both mine and the rest of our family and friends.
Tunde (aka Big T) was my younger brother who learnt from me , who I protected and mentored . His loss has made me realise how much he had also protected and loved me.
I remember our days at St Saviours school and the school run we did for several family friends as we had a white van. I also recall the occasions when our long-time driver would allow you to drive the van home (unknown to our parents).
I remember watching you develop through school and university and my encouraging and supporting you when you were in doubt about starting your own law practice.
I recall our regular weekend relaxations at the beach and all the joy and fun times we shared together.
His generosity of spirit knew no bounds and touched all around him. He had the unique ability to communicate with people of all ages and all walks of life. If the epithet “cool” could be applied to one person, it was my brother Tunde.
But most of all he was my baby brother, and his loss has left a bottomless chasm which may not be filled for all time. I have endeavoured to fill it with memories of his smiles, his love and kindness, his honesty and integrity and his compassion to all.
He truly embodied what we as human beings strive to live, to imitate the shadow of God in this life.
In the end, after all said and done in his honour, I would like to say very simply “this is for you my brother, may you rest in peace in our Lord”

Yemi
Posted by Oge Sasegbon on April 13, 2021
It is difficult to write a tribute at any time, but particularly given the extreme health challenges Tunde faced and the immense grief and pain the Coker and Langley families have had to endure over the past months. But we are reminded that '... In the end it is not the number of years that count , it's the life in your years' . Tunde leaves behind precious memories of himself and his love for his family ..... they can never be erased. May these memories bring great comfort to you all, may they give you the strength to bear this tremendous loss. May Tunde's soul rest in perfect peace, may Heaven enjoy his smiles and infectious laughter just as they were enjoyed here, in his earthly life. God bless and keep you all.
Posted by Rosa Vera-Cruz on April 13, 2021
My dear brother, Tunde Coker.
We were praying so hard that it would not come to this, but alas, God who knows the beginning from the end, chose to call him home.

The Coker’s, and Lardner’s go way way back. Tunde’s uncles GBA and HTO were very close to my family. In fact my dad worked with GBA, who was chairman at my parent’s wedding, and many decades later, chairman at my wedding.

Tunde was dear to my dad. Aside, from the fact that Tunde worked in HAL Chambers, he and dad had a father-son relationship. After dad passed on, Tunde remained,loyal, and stayed close to the family, and didn’t miss our family events- a brother to my sister and I, and uncle to our children. How could I forget how when he worked with HAL, he would come home for lunch with HAL, and always praised and looked forward to mum’s culinary skills- Tante Marie trained. He was close to my mum also, and she called on him when she wanted things done or sorted. He was a part of our household in those days.

We spoke often, and believe it or not, after every few sentences, you would hear- Oga told me this and that- Oga taught me always/ or never to do so and so- One thing I learned from Oga- and so on. We had shared fond memories.

I will miss chatting with him, those conversations, and calming him down a couple of times. I would say hey aburo, and he was younger,but he would reply with- Rosa, stop it, or stop e.

Jumoke, Suzie, and Yemi, I commiserate with you. Yemi, I felt so much pain talking to you, not knowing exactly what to say- It’s all so much, but I know you will draw strength from the Lord, and he will uphold you. 

Tunde sleep well, aburo sleep well
Posted by Anthony Idigbe on April 12, 2021
Tunde,

You were so full of life, so compassionate! I treasure our friendship. It's there like a sweet fragrance of myrrh floating over my memory and lingering on many things around me. God's speed my friend on your current journey. I'm sure we get a second bite by faith.
Posted by Foluso Adeluola on April 12, 2021
My Dear Uncle Tunde,
Thank you for the fun times we had! All the money you spent on me, getting sweets and ice cream. I enjoyed the parties you and the Cokers had. I remember the family trip we took to Dubai with you, it was amazing. I’m sad that you will miss my dad’s 60th birthday. We will all miss you very much. Rest In Peace my Godfather, Uncle Tunde Coker.
May his soul Rest In Peace.
Foluso
Posted by Dere Coker on April 12, 2021
Tribute From Dr Gogo Millar-Jaja

Tunde

This is a tough one to understand
You’ve always been a true brother and a close friend from day1
Your generosity had no limits
Thanks for the major role you played at our wedding all those years ago
Thanks for the great times we shared
I was filled with optimism when we spoke shortly after you were admitted to hospital
This optimism continued to the very end
My brother we will miss you
We must take comfort that your gentle Soul rests with the lord
Tunsi Meme RIP

Gogo Millar J
Posted by Jumoke Coker on April 12, 2021
Tribute From Mrs Hetty Bakare

Tunde - warm , bubbly , life and soul of the party .You couldn’t miss him in a crowd.
Loved family and always supportive attending weddings , christenings and funerals ! You had a wonderful sense of humour and booming laughter!
Remember New Years eves parties in Alhaji Kainike Close you were the perfect host and made sure everyone was happy and having fun!!
We prayed for you to recover fully but the sovereign God chose to take you at this time
Rest in Peace Coz
Posted by Jumoke Coker on April 12, 2021
Tribute From Mr Keem Bakare

Your actions are always kind, a generous hand and an active mind. Anxious to please and loath to offend. A loving brother, and family oriented. We stand motionless and consumed with grief this year. We wish you sweet sleep, my dear cousin. Although there’s so much that you have left bare, we hate that you had endure such pain. On our minds, your saddened eyes have left a stain. We want to know what crossed your mind, unspoken words you have left behind, undone things that we can’t complete without you. It’s really like a hole in our lives. It is known that God will open your eyes, renew your mind cause you now begin to exist in souls with us and spirit in the Lord. No more suffering, sickness and yes, not even pain. Now that from Wordly cares, you are finally free. We miss you. REST IN PERFECT PEACE

Keem Bakare
Posted by Dere Coker on April 10, 2021
Tribute From Architect Fred Coker

Like many of us, I am still struggling to come to terms with your passing. It is hard to believe I will not see your smiling face or enjoy your bear-like embrace.
Tunde you were a good man. You were kind, strong and principled. You were fun to be with. You were someone I could always count on. I am comforted in this difficult time when I remember all the wonderful things we did together.
I remember the days at your house at Temple Road where we played football and Tennis.
I remember our time in St Gregory’s College and the trips back home in the white Danfo and the mischief we got up to.
I remember your days at H.A. Lardner when, after work, we hung out at Deja Vu.
I remember our days in Yaba when we would go clubbing over weekends. Princess Club was one of your favourite clubs.
I remember the evenings we spent at your place at Alhaji Kanike Close in Ikoyi.
I remember our days going to the beach where you exhibited your brilliant cooking skills. You made a particular sauce which I thought was fantastic. Later you revealed the secret ingredient you used was marmalade. Oh!!! How I loved it...
I remember all the evenings we spent together at the boat club.
So many good memories to numerous to mention....
I still see you every day Tunde. Your passing brings home the transient and brief time we had together. I’m just happy I was able to share so many good times with you. I certainly will miss you very very much. I take solace knowing you are now with the Lord in a better place.
Adieu my brother till we meet again. May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.

Fred.


Posted by Dere Coker on April 9, 2021
Tribute From Senator Tokunboh Ogunbanjo

My dearest Aburo Tunde. Where does one start ? I was the one called Big T but you certainly earned the moniker.
I remember our discussions about our fight for Shasha land which our fathers had acquired way back in the early 60’s ! I remember lunch at the Met and where you were the only one I would concede my seat at the other end of the table in my absence or move to share the end with you. I remember how in the last couple of years you would show up at the LMBC late evenings, jacket in hand obviously straight from work. Every year you would invite me to the Coker end of year party at Kanike. Somehow I never made it. I swear we all believed you were going to pull through after having been literally ‘out’ for most of last year. You got tired, we understand. Doc will hold up the end here now, you can trust. It is well Bro. I broke the news to Papa just today and showed him the pic of you two together.Naturally he expressed shock. It is well. May your kind and gentle soul find Peace Most Profound
Posted by Dupe Coker on April 8, 2021
Dear cousin Tunde, may your gentle soul rest in perfect peace. We hoped and prayed it wouldn’t be so but alas! It was very sad news indeed to hear of your passing.
My thoughts and prayers are with you cousin Yemi, Suzy and Jumoke, and with us all.

Tunde, Sun re o!
Posted by Folarin Norman-Williams on April 7, 2021
Tunde Adios...!
Life is but a stopping place,
A pause in what's to be,
A resting place along the road,
to sweet eternity.
We all have different journeys,
Different paths along the way,
We all were meant to learn some things,
but never meant to stay...
Our destination is a place,
Far greater than we know.
For some, the journey's quicker,
For some the journey's slow.
And when the journey finally ends,
We'll claim a great reward,
And find an everlasting peace,
Together with the lord

-Author unknown-
Posted by Rita Finni on April 7, 2021
All I remember about Tunde is that he had such a genuine smile, straight from his soul! He lit up any place with his Love&Light presence ... we didn’t catch up a lot over the years as we lived on different continents, however whenever we could we’d catch up w a good yarn and laf over a Guiness! Bless his beautiful soul!
May his family be consoled and comforted in the knowledge that he is now in the loving embrace of God Almighty, no longer in any pain: his love lives on in the hearts he’s left behind: REST IN PEACE Tunde
Posted by Yemi Coker on April 5, 2021
Tribute by
Mr Lanre Ishola

Big T will be sorely missed by all. He was a gentleman of great personality. You will always feel his presence when he is around.
I have many fond memories of our time together, especially when we met at Celtic Manor in Wales in 2019 to play golf to celebrate the birthday of his brother Yemi. We had a great time.
May the Lord rest his gentle soul in peace and empower the family to endure the loss. Amen
Posted by Barry Osilaja on April 5, 2021
Tunde was a lovely, lovely and charming man.

Knew him well from Unilag but more recently also as Kayode's partner.

Of course when I came back to Nigeria 2012, got closer and at Emmanuel Chapel. We would both have croissant and coffee Sunday mornings after church with Newspapers (and in old days, a cigarette for him and half a cigar for me).....will miss him; that smile and booming voice..."Barry, se o ti ra paper"?

May his rest on and may Almighty God grant the Coker family, friends the fortitude to bear this loss.

Tunde, Sun re oo.
Posted by Bola Akadiri on April 5, 2021
Tunde, what a giant. Both literally and poetically. I remember the jolly, vital and compassionate man who used to drive to Ife to visit dear friends at the University. I will never forget the kindness and generosity he showed us all. When we would come to Lagos, Tunde would welcome us like kin, even opening the gates to his family home for all and sundry, chuckling as his loving family provided us with food and comfort. Tunde did not categorize people by class or wealth. He had a heart big enough to embrace the people who God placed on his path. Regardless of "pedigree". He was authentic, robust, intelligent, and a free spirit in many ways. And now his spirit is truly free. We love you, "tundra". May you find everlasting joy in the arms of our Savior. You leave behind a legacy of grace, and there are many who weep for the loss of you. God bless, godspeed.
Posted by Oluranti daCosta on April 5, 2021
Dear Tunde, I can't believe you are finally gone! So full of life and now you are still. We prayed and prayed for a full recovery and a restoration to complete health but God had other plans, who are we to question Him? The good book says in all things give thanks, so I am thanking Him for your 59 years on earth, for your achievements and the legacies, for your daughter and all the loved ones you have left behind. Thanking him for the memories. To Yemi ( the last one standing) I say it is well . May the Lord comfort strengthen and uplift you and indeed the entire family at this difficult time. Sleep on Tunde till we meet again.
Posted by Shola Coker on April 4, 2021
I am deeply saddened by Tunde’s passing, we prayed and were so hopeful for his recovery but God has shown his supremacy over all things. Yet I believe Tunde still had so much to do, to share, to give. He was so generous with his time and self and had such love for good company. He was happily the family MC at Coker events. He was such a good brother to Jide and I and dearly loved by us. He fought well and long but God wanted him more. May his soul have eternal peace and rest, May God comfort Suzy, Jumoke and the entire Coker family. Sun re Tunde
Posted by Dere Coker on April 3, 2021
My Tribute:
From  Ambassador Demola Seriki

Tunde will be missed sorely by all and sundry. He was an embodiment of strong character without compromising integrity. TC put everything on the line including his position on issues without reservations. He will be remembered by his compelling presence. He owed no apology on the positions he took. A good family man and a professional to the core. He loved the legal profession to the end. I was privileged to refer to him as a friend. TC, sleep well till we meet. May God grant his soul perfect peace - amen.


Posted by Erejuwa Gbadebo on April 3, 2021
I am angry with you Tunde.... This is NOT the way we planned it!!!
I am sooo angry with you that I will leave it to everyone else to write about how wonderful you were, how you made them laugh, how you were a true friend and brother, how you were loyal etc., etc., etc!!!
I will not tell anyone how much we laughed about the coup we pulled off in Lower Six when I spearheaded the bribing of our QC school bus driver to take us to the Greg's dance, (as opposed to the KC one we had an exeat to go to), firm in the knowledge that you would support and 'pay' the bribe with coke, food and cigarettes... And you did not 'fall my hand'!!! 
I won't even tell them the childhood nickname you yelled out in your own particular, unique, booming voice whenever you saw me.... (or your hugs that always threatened to crack my ribs)!!!
I won't tell anyone that you considered me your Aburo, (even though our birthdays are only 3 months apart), or that because of you, Yemi, (and Olu, bless his heart too), just subsumed me into the UK-Coker clan... OR that you fought my battles for me irrespective of who my adversary was!!! They say you fought a good fight... truth is, I expected no less of you, you were a fighter for all the right reasons.
Tunde, you were my friend, and my brother, and I miss you!!! 
So b----y inconsiderate of you to go like this! Whose 60th and 70th and 80th do I look forward to now? If I had known, would I not have rocked your 50th even more!!! Been the absolute last to leave!!! Been dragged out of the Met the following morning??? Even more so to go at a time when I cannot bid you farewell and Godspeed face to face....
Tunde, my dearest brother, this is soooo painful!!! I am heartbroken!!! Trust this, I will endeavour to make it to heaven where I KNOW you are with the LORD, if only that I can berate you for leaving in this manner!!!
The bible exhorts us not to mourn like those who have no hope... I have hope so I will not mourn you in that way... but mourn you I do.
Sleep well Tunde... God created you special and I love you
xxx
Posted by 'Leye Thompson on April 3, 2021
Shame on death.
The gentlest of men, larger than life, the most comforting soul,
To take away our brother, Tunde, this is the biggest cheat of life,
however, we must not dwell as the world is still at war but look back in gratitude to the Lord for a most beautiful life for our beautiful man,
and in prayer continue the daily battle, with faith in God prevailing.
Posted by Deji Adeyeye on April 2, 2021
My dear brother from another mother...
TC, you lived a good life. Touched quite a few lives during your stay here on earth.. We had some really great times together and I'll cherish those wonderful moments. Bamtist, as I preferred to call you, rest in peace. We prayed.....and had a lot of hope.
You too fought and gave it your best shot, but God alone decides. I will miss you my brother..
Posted by Eje Coker on April 2, 2021
Dear Tunde..

Memories galore,are all I have.

Shiro- Alara-Ghana-Ikoyi

Asterix and Obelix,Tin Tin,your favourite reads.

The list goes on.

Family time,Fun time,Good times!!.

You loved our girls,they were your girls.
You had a standing order,to leave,your flat door open,for easy access for the girls,when they were toddlers.

Great memories!!

I am happy I was able to speak to you,during the Lockdown of 2020,in Nigeria.

Farewell my brother.

Rest on In Perfect Peace.

Your sister Ej









Posted by Elizabeth Ozua on April 2, 2021
Dear Tunde,

Where does one begin to write a tribute to such an amazing, jovial, full of life and joyful gentleman. To know you was to love you.

You were so warm and welcoming and made everyone around you feel so welcome and at ease. Watching you interact with your daughter, nephews, nieces and all your other family members was so lovely to behold. You loved family and friends and your were equally loved.

You were so in touch and always in the present. Your deep throaty laughter induced laughter in others. From the first time we met you, it seemed as we had known you all our lives. We prayed so hard for you to make it, however it wasn’t to be. You will be sorely missed and the void you’ve left will be impossible to be filled. You came, saw and conquered. You went too soon but will always be evergreen in many memories. Rest in peace dear Tunde. May God grant you eternal rest. Amen 

Elizabeth Ozua.,
Posted by Olayinka Coker on April 2, 2021
Dear Uncle Tunde thank you for all the fun times we had growing up. I always remember the fun pizza and ice cream dates you took us on with our amazing cousin Jumoke. Such fund memories. Rest in the most perfect peace uncle. God bless you.
Posted by Kemi Balogun on April 2, 2021
So hard to believe you are gone.
I saw you for the last time the very last time you visited your brother (Dr Yemi) and sister in law (Joana Coker).
I was visiting them also and we joked laughed and chatted. No one knew that you were visiting them for the last time otherwise even though it was quite late at night, I am sure they would have asked you to stay just a bit longer.....
You were so full of life!!!
.....So many prayers said for your full recovery. But God almighty knows best And May he give your beloved friends and family the strength to bear this loss.
Rest on in perfect peace, Tunde.
Posted by Jonathan Everett on April 1, 2021
Sadly, another lovely soul lost to covid !!! Tunde, was one of the Cokers I have known and regarded as family for many years. A beautiful spirit indeed, and sure to find eternal solace with God.
Will be dearly missed.

Jona @ houston
Posted by Akintunde Akinkunmi on April 1, 2021
Devastating to hear the news of Tunde’s passing. We had hoped and prayed that he would pull through, but it was sadly not to be....Almighty God knows best and may He grant Tunde eternal rest, and comfort and strengthen those he has left behind, especially his brother Yemi and his daughter Jumoke.
Adieu, friend. Rest
Posted by Yanperuwa Oshisanya on April 1, 2021
Tunde, death came for you harsh and crude. Memory of your amiable self and quest for the law would forever be missed.
‘lai
Posted by Jumoke Abili on April 1, 2021
Our Uncle’s words say it all. Rest in peace, Tunde
Posted by joanna Coker on April 1, 2021
My dear brother-in-law Tunde has left us prematurely. Words of comfort sound hollow and do nothing to ease the overwhelming sense of loss. How can our gregarious, bubbly giant be gone for good! This could not have been the right time but then when would it ever have been??? I will always remember my precious bottles of Drambuie which I could count on recieving whenever you came into town. You were kind, thoughtful and dependable. My boys loved you and we will all miss you. Big T , you were a big part of our lives. Rest on in Peace.

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Posted by Jumoke Coker on April 22, 2021
Daddy, writing this is difficult, you always told me that instead of crying I should focus on fixing the problem. This is one time that that advice is completely moot, there is nothing I can do to fix this problem. You have gone much too soon and there is nothing I can do about it and that it is devastating. 
There are so many memories that where do I even start. Is it from our random nights out at boat club, where even though I lived 5mins away from Boat Club you would still drive behind me to make sure I got home safe before heading home? Is it our many lunch/dinner/after-work daddy-daughter dates? Is it the time “Minnie Mouse” stole my gold necklace at a party, and you tracked down the imposter and got it back? Is it the time you told me that the only way I could even think of get my driving license was if I first passed your “test” which consisted of me driving you around (after months and months of lessons with Mr. Israel and Mr. Elijah) for weeks until you were satisfied?

A lot of people have mentioned how kind and considerate you were, but nobody has mentioned how much you enjoyed forming ‘hard guy’. Daddy it is time to expose you: One of the last times I saw you before the hospital was in Lagos, shortly before you travelled. I called you 30mins to curfew that Betsy (my car) had broken down yet again, this time under Falomo Bridge. You told me to sort myself out and call a tow truck if need be. Lo and behold, who should show up unannounced 10 mins later, TC himself. Masked and gloved up, ready to supervise the towing of said car. You stayed with me through all the wahala, once again driving behind me till I got home, then dashing home minutes before the curfew. This is just one example of the many times you have saved me and Betsy. The full chapter of our lives with Betsy is a story for another day.

I am comforted in the knowledge that you are now at peace, you fought a great fight. One of the things I asked you when I was able to see you physically in hospital (with Aunty Joanna) was for you to prove to us all how truly strong-willed you could be and come back to us despite everything the doctors said. You did your absolute best. A lot of this feels like it can’t be real. That I can’t accept that just like that there will be no more days of me showing up to your office and sitting across from you till you closed for the day. I am grateful that I was able to see you before your untimely passing and every word I said, I mean it even more now. Rest in Perfect Peace Daddy.

Love and miss you,
Jumoke aka Jumsie aka Feeding Bottle Lawyer
Posted by Anna Williamson on April 21, 2021
We’re devastated for you Suzy. Thinking of you and your family at this difficult time. You are always in our hearts and thoughts.
Posted by Imelda Utuk on April 20, 2021
Perhaps passing through the gates of death is like passing quietly through the gate in a pasture fence. On the other side, you keep walking, without the need to look back. No shock, no drama, just the lifting of a plank or two in a simple wooden gate in a clearing. Neither pain, nor floods of light, nor great voices, but just the silent crossing of a meadow.” Tunde Rest In Peace.
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For Tunde......

March 2021
Imagine our journey as a family into a world made empty by your passing, of fear for our longing, a journey, seemingly with no ending, and our only solace is in remembering.Yet, we remain thankful that our hearts will be uplifted by your life, your kindness, and yes, that warm smile and the bear hugs we all received. We remember your face, through our own suffering, and draw strength from your courage.
Thank you, Tunde!

Often, in journeys such as this, we question our own path, the milestones along the way, and the longing question - did we do all we could to love and cherish you? Grief brings fear, and fear leads to anger, and at times, an unsettling disconnection, which can lay us all bare. Yet, it is in these times that we open not close our arms, embrace our differences and do not push them aside, endure with honour, and build upon our love.

Families are never easy, but we are one: united in grief, forgiving in spirit, and enjoined in love. On this journey with you Tunde, in which we were passengers, we learned that you had caught COVID-19 whilst visiting your family in London. You became ill in September 2020, and due to your pre-existing lung condition, landed in hospital just one week later.

By October 15th you were in the intensive care unit. Unfortunately, although your dear brother Yemi did all he could to see you in person during these early days, the entire world was gripped in a lockdown that prevented direct physical contact. We were grateful for the times he could see you intermittently in the intensive care unit and were grateful to be kept updated.

We are also thankful that your daughter, Jumoke, was able to see you while you were in the intensive care unit.

No path is ever smooth, and our crests fell when your condition worsened towards the end of October, needing even more oxygen to stay with us. We said prayers, many specially designed for you, and locked ourselves in our respective faiths that you would recover.

On the 12th of November, we heard that your condition was deteriorating, and for us to prepare for poorer news. We conveyed what we heard to the doctors in the family and looked for any sign of hope. Specialists from all over the UK convened to try and help, and they did all they could to keep you with us.

Your wife advocated for an experimental treatment, which was administered.

We are grateful for her courage and were right there in support to do all and everything that could be done.

We then had a blessed respite of a few days during which we were able to communicate with you, albeit with much difficulty, and our hearts were lifted with hope.

Cruelly, you caught another infection, which despite the might of your courage, could not be overcome. We are saddened that throughout this ordeal since October 2020 you were unable to leave the intensive care unit.

At dawn, on March the 24th 2021, your dear brother Yemi was informed of your passing on.

Yemi’s grief was unbearable, but he drew some comfort knowing your wife had been with you in your final moments. Our sadness continues. Often, loss not only brings grief but confusion. In such a haze brought about by the dark mood, words are difficult, and in our pain, our struggles can make us bump into one another. In our frustration, like with all things human, our feelings are hard to grasp and convey. Nevertheless, our overwhelming recollection is of our enduring love for you, your wife, and your daughter.
 
This is the melting pot of what makes us who we are as a family, and how we stand up when we are called to just be there for each other. And yes, we did all we could to love and cherish you and shall continue to do so!

In our grief, we extend our love to all, we pray for time to heal all wounds for everyone, and kneel in supplication that the grace of God gives us the opportunity to be allowed to honour your life, as is befitting of you, us, and the world outside.

With gratitude to God, fortitude for our family, prayers for wisdom, and the love of our ancestors,

Chief Dr. Adeniyi Coker, for the family

The Life of Babatunde Coker 1961 - 2021

Babatunde Baptist Akinremi Coker was born October 17th 1961 in Lagos. His primary education was at St. Savior’s School, Ikoyi, Lagos. For his secondary education, he attended St. Gregory’s College, Obalende, Lagos. He then attended the University of Lagos from September 1980 to June 1983 and was awarded a B.A. (Hons) degree in Philosophy. He served the mandatory National Youth Service year in Rivers State from August 1983 to July 1984 before he returned to the University of Lagos where he proceeded to study Law from 1984 to 1987. He attended the Nigerian Law School and was called to the Nigerian bar in 1988. 

He began his legal career in H.A. Lardner’s Chambers and remained there for seven years until he set up the law firm of Coker & Adeluola with his friend of many years Mr. Kayode Adeluola in 1995 and who till today remains a close family friend..

He is survived by his wife Suzy and daughter Jumoke.

Tunde left a lasting impact with everyone who had the chance to meet him. He will be deeply missed but never forgotten.
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Shared by Foluso Adeluola on April 11, 2021
My Dear Uncle Tunde, 
Thank you for the fun times we had! All the money you spent on me, getting sweets and ice cream. I enjoyed the parties you and the Cokers had. I remember the family trip we took to Dubai with you, it was amazing. I’m sad that you will miss my dad’s 60th birthday. We will all miss you very much. Rest In Peace my Godfather, Uncle Tunde Coker. 
May his soul Rest In Peace. 

Tunde we love you forever!

Shared by Tunji Lardner on April 8, 2021
Lately, I have been writing an inordinate amount of tributes like this one for our dearly departed friend and brother Tunde. I must confess that I cannot quite process his passing, even if we acknowledge the health challenges that preceded his transition. All I have are golden fragments of memories of a wonderful man strung on an iridescent string fifty years long. I was Tunde's senior at St. Gregory's college alongside with his equally missed younger brother, Kunle. In late December I spoke to his oldest brother Olu, enquiring about Tunde's health challenges with the promise that we would most certainly meet in early January. It was not to be, and now I will never hear Tunde's rumbling baritone, his gregarious and warm salutatory bearhugs, his witticisms and his sheer luminous humanity that always warmed our hearts. I can't mourn Tunde without thinking about Kunle and Old. I really am gutted by this.Really, really saddened by this. I can only lend my heartbroken voice to all the other voices of family and friends in our shared ineffable grief. I pray for God to give Yemi a particular grace and strength and his wife and children divine succour to bear this sad, sad loss. Tunde may great gentle soul rest in peace. We love you forever!