ForeverMissed
15th July 1977 - 28th December 2020
This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved Brother, Son, Uncle, Cousin and Friend,
Tunde Etti
Please leave your photos and messages below.

Tunde was a truly loving and selfless guy who opened his heart to those he came across and would give his absolute last. Tunde was a big guy with a big heart, always laughing and willing to meet and connect with new people and create new opportunities for himself and others - hence the outpouring of love from across the length and breadth of London and beyond.
Tunde was loved immensely and his memory will live on in all of us.
The bible says 'To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord' and his family is rest assured that he is with our Father in heaven.

We Love You Tunde Etti
Posted by Michael Osborne-Brumant on February 3, 2021
Bro
I'm kinda speechless. I'm messaging you and had no idea... so saddened by the fact you are no longer here.

Your loyalty and faithfulness as a human being means such a lot to me.

At that time when I really needed people you were the first to be there for me. In those young days when things were crazy...This I will never forget.

I thank the almighty for your life
Never got to tell you. Love you for that. God knows your heart.

Missing you now.
Peace and love
Posted by Tobi Olujinmi on January 22, 2021
Bro.Tunde, my cousin and friend, we laid you to rest yesterday in the midst of some of those who loved you the most. We came together with both tears and laughter – in a way which I know you would have loved.

“Unapologetically you”, that was how one of your friends described you yesterday and honestly, I think that truly summed you up. You allowed yourself the respect of being yourself in every setting. What a gift!

I have more memories than the word count allows and I will keep each one within my heart…you were always there for me, my husband and our children. I will deeply miss you. I mean, who is going to say something totally inappropriate (but probably true) at our next family gathering? 

Buffett, all you can eat restaurants will probably miss you in a different way.

Seriously, I have reflected on my Christian faith these last three weeks, and I have reached a conclusion…this isn’t goodbye. Thank God, that I can say with confidence, that isn’t the end. We will surely meet again.

Sleep well, brother Tunde.

Love you always.

Tobi
xxx
Posted by Pharaoh Belle on January 21, 2021
My dear brother Tunde,

I'm so heart broken and devastated by this news it's been hard to processes.

You was a beautiful soul, always making us laugh and the most selfless person I know.

I will miss the jokes and you coming over for dinner we loved having you around.

Today we lay you down to rest, I pray that your soul transcend peacefully and just know that you will never be forgotten because a void has been gone from us all.

Until we meet again my brother. You will always be my brother, the God father to my son and the Brother of my hubby Doug who you loved so much.

I promise to take care of him and support him as I know this is the hardest pain that he has ever dealt with and he will never be same as he has not only lost his best friend, but his brother.

Until we meet again...

Ashley Aroze❤️

Posted by Debbie Akinkunle on January 21, 2021
Well Tunde - what can I say?‍♀️ I am truly shocked by your sudden demise, especially as we recently had some interaction on Facebook when I wanted to remind myself who David Mannex was.

You will be sorely missed. Growing up with you around was bliss and funny too. Those were some of the best days of my life. And though we grew older and in some ways grew apart, whenever I saw you, and wherever that was (cause you popped up in a lot of places I didn’t expect to see you), you would give me that bear hug as you said my name (Kemi Abidoye) as if to remind yourself who I was

I was always shocked by the mutual friends we had and even in your demise, peeps who saw your picture on my story who would say, oh you know Tunde too?? Well that is now “knew Tunde” and whilst we grieve here on earth I know that heaven is rejoicing

I pray God’s peace, comfort and strength for your family. I have no idea how they will get through this but I know that by the grace of God they will ✝️

I will hold the good memories I have of you in my heart and I pray your family will be upheld by the beautiful memories they have of you and those that have been shared even on this platform.

Well - you are now my big bro since you tasted heaven first.

Rest well Tunde, in one of those many mansions up in heaven (cause I know you loved property).

Till we meet again at the feet of the Father.

Your sister & friend
Debbie

Oh, and don’t worry, my hubby is taking good care of me just like you always told him to whenever we would meet up.
Posted by Labi Roma on January 21, 2021
Tunde, you will be missed, distance played a factor in our friendship but the memories we share will last. From the days of Napoleon Management to the playlist you asked me to send you back in Oct 2000 which included ---
Royce59 Boom, Guru Feat Angie Stone Keep Your Worries, Iceberg Slim Nursery Rhymes, Phife Dawg Flawless/Lemme Find Out,
D Don Featuring Redman And you know That, LL cool J Imagine That, Black Eyed Peas Weekend, Missing Link Feat Prodigy Family Ties (Remix).

There was also the funny glass door incident at our house, those who know, know.

The last time I saw you, it was also one of your business ideas you were talking about, you always had an idea or another you were working on.

With you, what you see is what you get, not sugar-coating.

It's difficult to take. I guess we must number our days, apply wisdom and ensure we do that which is important to us as tomorrow isn't guaranteed.

Rest well brother.
Posted by wale gbadebo on January 20, 2021
wow tunde im lost for words, i appreciate very much the genuine kindness you showed me when i first arrived in the uk,fresh from lagos and i was finding it difficult to settle but knowing you among a set of wonderful young people you made it a breeze to mingle ud literally tease and joke in ur oyinbo accent just to break the ice ,u and timi were true gems, and those dance moves of urs was legendery bro

rest in peace bro
Posted by Oluyemisi Lawson on January 20, 2021
Tunde was loving, kind, humble and polite.
He always had a kind word for everyone.
He had a large heart and was loved by the young and old.
Tunde, your wings were ready to fly but our hearts weren't ready to let you go.
May God grant Tunde eternal rest, comfort his mum, wife, children, family,loved ones and friends
Posted by Tim Forde on January 20, 2021
Oga Tunde I actually don't know what to say, I can't bring my self to come to terms with your passing. You are a Legend.
Posted by Tayo Arewa on January 20, 2021
Bro. Tunde, where to even begin sef.

I should probably start with how you were never best pleased when I forgot to add the Bro. suffix before your distinguished name ('llow me lol).
One of our last conversations was 3 hours long, you gave me all types of advice, called me all types of names, yet by the end we were bent over in stitches. To date that'll remain one of the most memorable conversations we ever had... the content of which we'll keep between ourselves ;)
You knew everyone from London to Lagos, but in addition to your popularity you were loved and will be sorely missed - your friends & family who showed up for you during your Wake this evening are a testament to that.

Rest well big cuz, try not to get on Jesus' nerves, and know that I love you and thank God for the years you spent with us on this side of eternity.
Posted by Bode Sharp on January 20, 2021
My Dear brother Tunde, there are really no words to describe the Love you have left behind and the impact that you created while you were here.

You gave your all and truly lived your purpose. So sorry we didn't get to speak before you left. Thanks for your friendship, jokes and keep doing your thing up there.

My sincerest condolences to your family and I pray that God gives them strength during this difficult time.

Stay blessed. You will be missed but never forgotten.

Love and Respect Always.
Bode
Posted by Lateef Bello on January 20, 2021
Posted by Victor Daniel on January 20, 2021
Truly will be missed bro
Posted by Tomi Sogbade on January 20, 2021
I never knew Tunde in his lifetime. I only knew Kehinde because she is my sister’s friend. From what I have read Tunde was the real brother. The way he looked out for his siblings is worth emulating. His upbeat approach to life also preaches anti- depression. I believe that Tunde has his space with the Almighty Father. Rest In Peace bro.
Posted by Kim Hanson on January 20, 2021
Tunde Is one of my brother's longstanding close friends. Growing up, he was always in and out of our family home and always welcomed with open arms.  As we grew older, Tunde was still a part of our staple diet.

When we had the pleasure to be in Tunde's company, it was always  blessed with his unique sense of humour,  jokes and laughter together with his love and warmth - Never a dull moment when Tundz was around!

Tunde, I can't believe I will never see your WhatsApp images of your food posts, hear your chuckle or listen to the stories you tell in true #Tundz fashion!!!

You are a true gent and my family and I will miss you dearly. Take care my friend x

Deepest condolences Tunde's family, my thoughts have been and always be with you..
Posted by Artcha James on January 20, 2021
Tunde. Boss man. Big bro. Super genuine and you always kept it 100 even if you offended me lol. I know it was always love and looked forward to seeing you at the shows, raves, missions or in the studio. Top soul. Love king.

Artcha.
Posted by Richard St Joseph on January 20, 2021
Tunde... I met you from young I can truly say you brought only positive energy into my life and a smile. You was full of humour & jokes, it's true what they say, the best go first.


Your spirit will most definitely be missed here but never forgotten.

God Bless.
Posted by Shane Murray on January 20, 2021
Tunde ... you were one of the most genuine people I have ever met. You were always willing to help others and it was always so effortless.
I would only have to mention something to you and you would be on the case straight away ready to sort things out.
You were full of life and always in high spirits and
You have left a void in the hearts of those who knew you.
There will be no other like you ...you were unique with a style of your own.

I just wanted to say thank you for the laughs over the years as that’s what we did the most BUT most of all thank you for your friendship.
You have been taken away from us too soon and so suddenly and it’s hard to believe you are no longer here with us as you were larger than life itself.
I am going to miss you! ...BIG TIME!!
R.I.E.P my brother

Posted by Cleve McCollin on January 19, 2021
I don’t like death for it takes away love ones, leaving us feeling empty. In this case it has taken away one of the architects of some of my best memories. I have loss Tunde Etti who I would describe as one of the kindest person I have known. Tunde had a heart so much bigger than him. I have loss count of the times he has been at the charity’s office and seen people in crisis and has offered to help them. He would offer assistance to complete strangers, he would buy people food, give them money and on more than one occasion he has given then space under his roof.

I have loss a friend with the biggest of heart. I will never be the same this is the man that would phone me out of the blue and ask have you got enough money to manage and when he put money into my account and we would always argue about me putting the money back into his account.

This is the pain of death, but I hope God knows why he has taken my friend.
Posted by Frank U on January 19, 2021
Larger Than Life!

I can't think of how else to describe Tunde. He was certainly an unforgettable character, but I will add that Tunde had the biggest heart. He would always find time and go out of his way to help you no matter what. I won't forget how he helped me find builders/decorators to fix up my flat (without me asking lol).

We didn't see face to face so often but he would always call me out of the blue. We shared some interesting conversations over the years, mainly him telling me what to do with my life. We discussed our plans, business ideas and relationships. In between that and all of the friendly insults we would always have a good laugh. While we were both in Nigeria once, he called asked where I was and within an hour he had made his way to me. He ended up spending a couple of days with my family.

Tunde knew everyone and everyone knows Tunde. He will be dearly missed. 
His passing hit me hard but I take comfort that he is in a better place...

...Rest In Peace brother.

Frank
Posted by Thomas Fakile on January 19, 2021
Tunde, I am still struggling to come to terms with your sudden departure from this earth. My memory of you will remain with me for a long time. I recall how much you loved everyone and how you expressed that in practical terms. You were ready to stand up and defend victims of injustice. You were caring and loving.

To some, your very high standard did mean that you were demanding and pedantic, but it was all for the best you wanted for everyone. Speaking with you two weeks before your demise and the content of that discussion suggests to me you knew this was coming. I never knew it was the last time I would ever speak with you again.

Death's mightiest powers have done their worst,
but Christ their legions has dispersed:
let shouts of praise and joy outburst:
Hallelujah!

Goodnight Bro.
Posted by Alan Jay on January 18, 2021
Tunde will be sadly missed by all who knew him. I knew Tunde from school and my brother stayed close friends with him. He had this beautiful larger than life character that he was blessed with, and could connect with anyone. I’ll always remember when my brother showed me a video of Tunde going back and forth with US comedian Eddie Grithin. Tunde held he’s own and was just as witty and funny! Such a good person and always helpful. I saw this on many occasions. Our hearts go out to Tunde’s family for their loss. We will always carry big mans memory. Rest in power brother.
Posted by Adekunbi Bello on January 18, 2021
The words of you passing are still ringing in my ears and cannot look at your picture without getting all teared up but I believe God knows best in every situation.
You were a fantastic and amazing big cousin. Tell me off in the morning but would be calling me back by the evening asking if i needed anything. Your forgiving spirit is what made you stand out from the crowd. You were there for anyone and everyone and would give 100% to make another person happy.
You pointing out the elephant in the room used to make me die of laughter.
I remember our long arse convos and you’d constantly repeat “kunbi you understand?” And I just want to respond “no brother Tunde I don’t” but I’d just say “yep”...how I’m going to miss those!!!....words just can’t describe the grieve but I’ll stop rambling now.
A soldier has fallen but your memories will stand forever. I love you. X
Posted by Tolu Martins on January 18, 2021
Tunde, your loving and caring nature will be missed.

I remember one of the last times I saw you was at church in Nigeria. We were both standing outside church as we were both late. We spoke for a while to catch up on what we had been up to and doing.
You were always genuine and didn’t let things get to you.

May God great you eternal rest and comfort for your family, loved ones and friends.

Till we meet to part no more,
rest well Shadow...
Posted by Funmi Awokulehin on January 16, 2021
Tunde...or Shadow as we use to call you back in the days. This is such a big shock. I've known you from my very young days, we practically grew up together.
You'll be missed my brother. Your very caring and protective nature will be missed. We fought once or twice because you were trying to look out for me... forever playing the big brother role.
I wish we had you for longer. I wish life didn't have to so cruel.
Sleep well my brother. Sleep well. Good night Tunde.
Love. Always.
Posted by Tayo Olayemi on January 16, 2021
Tunde where can I even begin.
Used to call you ‘shadow’ I know you didn’t like it and we used to fight a lot about it. But as we got older, I stopped and changed to ‘Tee’. Likewise you’d call me ‘Tee’ or Tayo.
Growing up over the years I watched you mature and you were so loving, caring and never let anything get to you anymore.
Whenever you and mum see each other she’d say ‘Tunde....wa!!!!’.
The next question she would ask is ‘where have you been, who is your girlfriend?’.
You’d always smile and she would pray for you. You both spoke like you were mates and would always have an answer to dodge her questions same way.
I remember when I had my last child and came to church. He had oxygen and you came and carried him out of the car with the oxygen and car seat and took him inside and put him by my sister.
Yes we fought so many years ago but whenever we saw we’d always have a conversation and update each other about what we’d been doing since we saw last.
I know you are in a better place and you will be missed beyond measure.
Now you are in heaven, I pray the void left from your passing will be filled with your lovely memories for all who knew you.
You will remain in my heart forever....on this last occasion I will say it....
Rest in perfect peace ‘Shadow’ Tunde
Posted by Wale Agunbiade on January 16, 2021
Tunde. Where do I start with you. We met over 27 years ago in Southgate College, when you forced your whirlwind friendship my way. We went through so much together over the years. We laughed, argued, were shoulders to lean on for support and more. But in all of this you were always, always the most selfless person I have knew. Anything that needed doing you were there. You couldn’t help yourself. You could never sit by and watch when help was needed. Always the first to volunteer. Always connecting people. And then there was the banter. The jokes. The laughter. The kind hearted nature you had. If we’d disagree, you’d always say to me “Wait, you’ll soon say Tunde you’re right”. You often were but I was never going to tell you that, because you would never let me live it down, and hearing you go on and on about being right was a nightmare :)

So many people would misunderstand you. Nobody is perfect. You had your ways and like me, you could be as stubborn as a bull. But that was what made you so endearing. You never gave up. You would fight the cause for those you loved to the very end. You always had a massive heart to help others. Not everyone saw the different layers to you, but we all saw the loyalty, love and compassion. There isnt one person who can say you didnt try and help them. You were ALWAYS trying to bring people in on something you had, and even if it wasn't to your benefit, you'd still bring people together so they could benefit.

I still expect the phone to ring with you having a new business idea. I still expect you to call me a ‘foolish guy’. I still expect to see your beaming smile. I’m missing the laugh, the rubbish you’d say when Arsenal won, the calls to say that you had a business idea and you were ordering me to get involved. But most of all I’m missing you. I really loved you like my own brother. The memories and legendary stories will be the endearing memory I have of you. We laughed, cried, travelled and worked together. You were a voice of reason when I wouldn't have it, an ear to listen and give advice. I already miss that hugely. It's been a really really hard period. We'd speak every other day. Trying to make sense of things but I cant. But I know that you're looking down smiling at us all. Smiling with that big full teeth smile of yours and that laugh that we all loved. Sleep well brother, and thank you for blessing my life with your presence. Its been an honour knowing you my bro.

Posted by Janet Hussain on January 16, 2021
Tunde, I’ve known you for many years and you always wear a smile. I can’t believe that you’re gone. May your gentle soul rest in peace. Good night Tunde, till me meet to part no more.
Posted by Ola Balogun on January 16, 2021
Tunde Etti, for the short time I known you, I can say that you are a very gentle guy always when I meet you out and about, you always say hello,it was a shock to hear that you passed on, may your soul rest in perfect peace and God to console your mum and siblings you left behind, sleep on Tunde .
Posted by Giselle Daniel on January 15, 2021
I have known Tunde for many years through my elder brother, Jason. Always present at family functions and very much a dear family friend. It was always a pleasure to see Tunde at our homes and family gatherings, with a plate of food mingling and getting to know everyone. Anywhere he was, laughter was always present. Lovely person, with a big heart. Still unable to process this loss. It still feels surreal, even as I write this. Going to miss you Tundz, forever in our hearts❤ Deepest condolences to all the family. Thinking of you all at this time x
Posted by Dana Appiah on January 15, 2021
I have known Tunde for many years; being my older brother Jason's dear friend.
Always know him to be giving jokes, and was always garaunteed to have a laugh with Tunde around!
Tunde would always be at our family gatherings, and was part of the furniture. Even if we didn't see him for a while; we always reconnected where we left off.
Being told of his passing has been absolutely devastating, and never in a million years would of thought Tunde would not be here with us today! Hold your loved ones close.
Tunde will be sorely missed! RIEP Tuns X.
Sincere condolences to the family.
Posted by Andrew Shonde on January 15, 2021
One of the nicest guys you will ever meet. Always smiling and in a pleasant mood. You were taken from us waaaaay to soon. At least now you are at peace and with God. You will be missed.
Posted by Joshua Oladoyin on January 15, 2021
Tunde was like a bother to me, we argued like brothers,  laugh, joked and  had each others back. He's the one person  I know that can argue with himself and everyone and at the end of the day, he will always have their back . When he thinks, he won an agreement, his favourite words were "Tunde is always right" .

He always like putting others first , he loves kids and would have been a good and loving father.

Tunde can be so stubborn,  with a kind heart,  he loved Arsenal, well we all can't be perfect. He knew everyone and everyone knew him, he had a new business idea every month, when you try to point the flaws in it, he doesn't want to know.

We will miss him very much, can't believe he has gone, I felt a big hole in my heart when I was told, I couldn't believe it, I was with him a few weeks ago and he was  been his normal self.

I'm missing you and will never forget you
Posted by Mat Motondo on January 15, 2021
It was with great sadness that I had heard of the untimely passing of Tunde, though I wasn't very close to him, I was still taken aback. I can only imagine how much pain his loved ones must feel at the moment. I pray that God give you strength, comfort, peace and the assurance that Tunde fine and he is in a better place. I got to know Tunde though a group of friends and we would usually to come across one another at special occasions and it was always jokes, jokes and more jokes. Yeah, that's how I remember Tunde man, a bundle of joy and laughter. Sleep in peace my brother, until we meet again and crack more jokes on the other side.
Posted by Byron Richards on January 15, 2021
I knew David from southgate college days, he was someone u could always banter with him, I last him last year at Bujus funeral even there we were bantering about who had the bigger belly. Going to miss your vibes and energy.
Posted by Zack Hussein on January 15, 2021
It was 2017 and i arrived late for stadium job at the emiretes. I was out of breath manangement decided to turn me away. Tunde was sitting their and at this time i didnt know him. He stuck up for me against them so i could work.

Eventually before i was leaving he said don't worry take my number and ill line you up with work. Since then id worked for him on few occasions. He had a lot of bantz, and really was a peoples person.

You would have to be mad not to like him. He was a laugh to be around, and overall a good person.

It was really an honour knowing you bro.
Posted by Don Dutch on January 15, 2021
Tunde was such an amazing guy always joyful optimistic and encouraging a wonderful soul and his funny laugh. Even when he cracked a joke and it wasn't funny he will even make u laugh upon the fact that it wasn't funny. Rest well Brother. The memories u left were heartfelt become u were a positive good soul. God knows best. Bye my dear brother

Dutch Blacknights
Posted by Alexander Alabi on January 15, 2021
Sad to hear that our Egbon ( Big Bro) has passed. I will miss his warm smile, big heart and wicked sense of humour. He always made time for me, and others.

Rest in perfect peace, Big Brother!

Posted by Adetola Adefulu on January 15, 2021
Tunde was my great benefactor during my process of relocation to England 10yrs ago in terms of my documentation, he was very sefless, supportive and ready to help with whatever as long as within his reach. A prominent family man ,very jovial and friendly always reaching out to extended family members. I see him as great king that death denied him his reign . I personally will miss him , adieu brother

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Posted by Michael Osborne-Brumant on February 3, 2021
Bro
I'm kinda speechless. I'm messaging you and had no idea... so saddened by the fact you are no longer here.

Your loyalty and faithfulness as a human being means such a lot to me.

At that time when I really needed people you were the first to be there for me. In those young days when things were crazy...This I will never forget.

I thank the almighty for your life
Never got to tell you. Love you for that. God knows your heart.

Missing you now.
Peace and love
Posted by Tobi Olujinmi on January 22, 2021
Bro.Tunde, my cousin and friend, we laid you to rest yesterday in the midst of some of those who loved you the most. We came together with both tears and laughter – in a way which I know you would have loved.

“Unapologetically you”, that was how one of your friends described you yesterday and honestly, I think that truly summed you up. You allowed yourself the respect of being yourself in every setting. What a gift!

I have more memories than the word count allows and I will keep each one within my heart…you were always there for me, my husband and our children. I will deeply miss you. I mean, who is going to say something totally inappropriate (but probably true) at our next family gathering? 

Buffett, all you can eat restaurants will probably miss you in a different way.

Seriously, I have reflected on my Christian faith these last three weeks, and I have reached a conclusion…this isn’t goodbye. Thank God, that I can say with confidence, that isn’t the end. We will surely meet again.

Sleep well, brother Tunde.

Love you always.

Tobi
xxx
Posted by Pharaoh Belle on January 21, 2021
My dear brother Tunde,

I'm so heart broken and devastated by this news it's been hard to processes.

You was a beautiful soul, always making us laugh and the most selfless person I know.

I will miss the jokes and you coming over for dinner we loved having you around.

Today we lay you down to rest, I pray that your soul transcend peacefully and just know that you will never be forgotten because a void has been gone from us all.

Until we meet again my brother. You will always be my brother, the God father to my son and the Brother of my hubby Doug who you loved so much.

I promise to take care of him and support him as I know this is the hardest pain that he has ever dealt with and he will never be same as he has not only lost his best friend, but his brother.

Until we meet again...

Ashley Aroze❤️

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Tunde Etti

Our beloved Tunde Etti was a Son, Brother, Uncle, Cousin and Friend. He was a truly loving and selfless guy who opened his heart to those he came across and would give his absolute last. Tunde was a big guy with a big heart, always willing to meet and connect with new people and create new opportunities for himself and others - hence the outpouring of love from across the length and breadth of the city of London. When the news of Tunde's passing someone said "The Streets are Mourning" and this couldn't be more true.

Tunde was loved, immensely and his memory will live on in all of us.
'To be absent from the body is to be present with the lord' and his family rest assured that he is with our Father in heaven.

We Love You Tunde Etti

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Shared by Adekunbi Bello on January 21, 2021
Ahh Bro Tunde, laying you to rest today was not easy, one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do...

Driving down to Edmonton today, I remembered one particular day when I was about 12, you showed up to my mums house at around 5pm on a Sunday evening saying you wanted to take me shopping because I was being boring.

I told you it was too late and the shops would be closed by the time I got ready but you insisted that you just wanted to treat me and buy me something.

We got to Croydon at 5:55pm, 5 minutes before the shops closed thus they weren’t letting anyone in. Bro Tunde told all sorts of ridiculous funny stories to the security guards to try get us in the shops but to no avail saying things like “my little cousin needs a toilet”, “my little cousin left her purse in there” and so on.

I said Bro Tunde let’s just go but you replied no kunbi I just want to get you something. In response I told you not to worry and let’s go get food instead...of course that was speaking your language loool. So we just chilled in the car eating takeaway checking out the ladies that were walking by. Using me on plenty occasions to try get their number for you.

Whenever you did manage to hit the shops on time, you’d say things like “this basketball head spent all my money ” but in return, I got you that fine girls number.

You were so full of life, dropped the craziest jokes or said what everyone was think but wouldn’t dare say.

Our oldest cousin, the man that cared for both young and old and never ever held a grudge. Whom will take on your role now???

I will miss you xx

Memories for my friend Tunde.

Shared by Jason Hanson on January 20, 2021
I have known Tunde for too many years and we had so many memories together. In my childhood he was part of the ‘mandem’ growing up as kids in Tottenham, and in adult life going on holidays and trips together. Whilst growing up he became to know my family very well and they felt his warm connection over the years none more so than the story below.

This story is very personal one, and one that I think no one else could have pulled off expect for Tunde. On Sunday afternoon he called me and told me he is coming to see me. You know him ‘no invitation needed’. I told him I was ‘at my sisters with the rest of the family’ and he would just turn up knowing he was always welcome. Whilst mingling within the household Tunde knew there was a long-standing feud between me and one of my sisters, so much so that me and her hadn’t spoke for nearly 6 years. This was also the first time that Tunde had seen both of us in the same room for years since the feud. After dinner Tunde came and grabbed my hand and also went and grabbed my sister’s hand. He then said ‘you guys stop being silly, do you know how much pain you are causing your family, I am not letting go until you guys sort it out’ and then forced our hands together not letting it go until we both speak. Honestly, he would not let go. He held us holding hands reluctantly for about 45mins, until eventually me and my sister realised that Tunde was serious, he wasn’t letting go. Finally, me and my sister eventually embraced and hugged which was the ice breaker that was needed to resolve our differences. Everyone started crying tears of joy. Tunde had managed to do in 60 minutes something my family had been trying to do for many many years. This was the measure of the man. Kind, Caring, funny and genuinely looking out for others. We will never forget what you done for us bro and my family is truly indebted to you and your spirit.

Until we meet again

Love

Jason Hanson and Family

We lost a REAL One

Shared by Kehinde Etti on January 18, 2021
Reducing my brother to memories is so bittersweet: it allows me to remember him but also reminds me no new memories. Therefore Reader, indulge me on a walk down memory lane:


My brother came to the UK before me and when the rest of us siblings relocated here, he found himself suddenly responsible for the actions of 3 kids - obviously, he loved it! To his credit he took that responsibility to heart, delaying his travels in 2020 to see “he’s babies celebrate their birthday “.

Undisputed, my earliest fun memories of Brother Tunde (or affectionately Ba Tunde, Bro Tee) was as a play mate. Living with two brothers and my cousin Yemi the games were predominately cops/robbers or Kung fu – sacrificing my precious barbies to the cause (lol). Next came combat by way of player1 & 2 through Golden Axe (Commodore 64), Sonic (Mega Drive), Mortal Combat (Nintendo NES), but by Fifa 97 (PS1) I had turned to teen novels.
          The three years separating us became apparent during the teen years, and we had lots of fights due to him being so autocratic and I being stubborn - but really, he was my spirit animal. I did admire the way he stood up for himself and others. Bro Tee was not afraid, pure and simple. He approached life fearlessly and lived it the way he saw fit. Raving really helped our relationship in the teen years, in that he always covered for me, Ietting me sneak back in when mum had locked the door - what a G (haha). More importantly to me, he didn't subscribe to the idea that because I was a girl, I should be a certain way as tradition dictates but stood up for my right to explore the world as I saw fit. We both caught the travel bug, but Bro was really more adventurous as he really enjoyed meeting new people, making new friends and family. When he went to Nigeria, he found his roots and just fell in love with the country and its people. During the start of Covid in 2020, he took it upon himself to sponsor a few families and treated it as seriously as he did his businesses. To find a fault, I’d say he couldn’t take criticism like he should as he cared what loved one said about him and could be defensive, but he had a BIG heart to protect. He never met a person that he couldn't (nor wouldn't) render help to, nor someone he couldn't love - hate really wasn't in his vocabulary. Don't get him wrong, he wasn't no fool and as big as he loved you, he could argue with you - yet if you were still mad after all was said and done then it was all you cause he'd forgotten it before you did.        

Ba Tunde’s passing was… is … (just no words)

The lingering memory of my brother is of someone who was immensely proud of me, loved me and looked out for me. My brother is, and was, that large character. You sure knew he was in the room as he made sure to make friends wherever he went. He had no airs or grace when meeting people and didn't like it in others also. He simply loved people to laugh and be happy around him. I’m going to learn from all that and let it shape me going forward.

 

Ba Tunde,

This is not goodbye, so come visit me sometimes and let’s while away the time playing a combat game & shit-talking like we use to, if you let me win then I know I’m dreaming :)

We said it on the last video call, but You know what it was and what it is… love you always.

I know, I know – we got her. Mum will be fine.

You ain’t got to worry again.

Sun Re O

Kehinde
love U, love U, love U