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The Journey Continues

December 28, 2021
The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18:

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.


We give thanks to God, that exactly a year to the day a great man, a great father, a great friend and a great brother, of blessed memory, departed prematurely to be with the Lord and to take his please up in the star's with the heavenly Angels.

If I told you I could explain how as a family we were able to overcome this great loss, I would be doing you a great disservice. All I can say is thank God that as a family we don't rely on human beings but we put our hopes in the Lord.

I saw how the Lord brought a mother who was devoid of any hope and had suffered a terrible heartbreak that only someone who has lost a loved one, can understand. I saw God bring this beautiful woman of God back from the brink of despair.

I saw how God, the great Healer, healed a family that had lost so much. In such a short space of time God who is the great Restorer, restored laughter and joy back into our mouths and added to our numbers. Truly the circle of life is never ending and never forgotten, when someone dies, at the same time a new baby is born our energy is transferred from one to another, to God be the glory.

We are remembering our brother's legacy with the Tunde Etti Foundation. Please Join, Donate and Support when you see it.

This will be our first Christmas without our friend and brother and it won't be the last but as I started at the beginning, that in all things give thanks to God.

By Taiwo Etti
January 21, 2021
Ahh Bro Tunde, laying you to rest today was not easy, one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do...

Driving down to Edmonton today, I remembered one particular day when I was about 12, you showed up to my mums house at around 5pm on a Sunday evening saying you wanted to take me shopping because I was being boring.

I told you it was too late and the shops would be closed by the time I got ready but you insisted that you just wanted to treat me and buy me something.

We got to Croydon at 5:55pm, 5 minutes before the shops closed thus they weren’t letting anyone in. Bro Tunde told all sorts of ridiculous funny stories to the security guards to try get us in the shops but to no avail saying things like “my little cousin needs a toilet”, “my little cousin left her purse in there” and so on.

I said Bro Tunde let’s just go but you replied no kunbi I just want to get you something. In response I told you not to worry and let’s go get food instead...of course that was speaking your language loool. So we just chilled in the car eating takeaway checking out the ladies that were walking by. Using me on plenty occasions to try get their number for you.

Whenever you did manage to hit the shops on time, you’d say things like “this basketball head spent all my money ” but in return, I got you that fine girls number.

You were so full of life, dropped the craziest jokes or said what everyone was think but wouldn’t dare say.

Our oldest cousin, the man that cared for both young and old and never ever held a grudge. Whom will take on your role now???

I will miss you xx

Memories for my friend Tunde.

January 20, 2021
I have known Tunde for too many years and we had so many memories together. In my childhood he was part of the ‘mandem’ growing up as kids in Tottenham, and in adult life going on holidays and trips together. Whilst growing up he became to know my family very well and they felt his warm connection over the years none more so than the story below.

This story is very personal one, and one that I think no one else could have pulled off expect for Tunde. On Sunday afternoon he called me and told me he is coming to see me. You know him ‘no invitation needed’. I told him I was ‘at my sisters with the rest of the family’ and he would just turn up knowing he was always welcome. Whilst mingling within the household Tunde knew there was a long-standing feud between me and one of my sisters, so much so that me and her hadn’t spoke for nearly 6 years. This was also the first time that Tunde had seen both of us in the same room for years since the feud. After dinner Tunde came and grabbed my hand and also went and grabbed my sister’s hand. He then said ‘you guys stop being silly, do you know how much pain you are causing your family, I am not letting go until you guys sort it out’ and then forced our hands together not letting it go until we both speak. Honestly, he would not let go. He held us holding hands reluctantly for about 45mins, until eventually me and my sister realised that Tunde was serious, he wasn’t letting go. Finally, me and my sister eventually embraced and hugged which was the ice breaker that was needed to resolve our differences. Everyone started crying tears of joy. Tunde had managed to do in 60 minutes something my family had been trying to do for many many years. This was the measure of the man. Kind, Caring, funny and genuinely looking out for others. We will never forget what you done for us bro and my family is truly indebted to you and your spirit.

Until we meet again

Love

Jason Hanson and Family

We lost a REAL One

January 18, 2021
Reducing my brother to memories is so bittersweet: it allows me to remember him but also reminds me no new memories. Therefore Reader, indulge me on a walk down memory lane:


My brother came to the UK before me and when the rest of us siblings relocated here, he found himself suddenly responsible for the actions of 3 kids - obviously, he loved it! To his credit he took that responsibility to heart, delaying his travels in 2020 to see “he’s babies celebrate their birthday “.

Undisputed, my earliest fun memories of Brother Tunde (or affectionately Ba Tunde, Bro Tee) was as a play mate. Living with two brothers and my cousin Yemi the games were predominately cops/robbers or Kung fu – sacrificing my precious barbies to the cause (lol). Next came combat by way of player1 & 2 through Golden Axe (Commodore 64), Sonic (Mega Drive), Mortal Combat (Nintendo NES), but by Fifa 97 (PS1) I had turned to teen novels.
          The three years separating us became apparent during the teen years, and we had lots of fights due to him being so autocratic and I being stubborn - but really, he was my spirit animal. I did admire the way he stood up for himself and others. Bro Tee was not afraid, pure and simple. He approached life fearlessly and lived it the way he saw fit. Raving really helped our relationship in the teen years, in that he always covered for me, Ietting me sneak back in when mum had locked the door - what a G (haha). More importantly to me, he didn't subscribe to the idea that because I was a girl, I should be a certain way as tradition dictates but stood up for my right to explore the world as I saw fit. We both caught the travel bug, but Bro was really more adventurous as he really enjoyed meeting new people, making new friends and family. When he went to Nigeria, he found his roots and just fell in love with the country and its people. During the start of Covid in 2020, he took it upon himself to sponsor a few families and treated it as seriously as he did his businesses. To find a fault, I’d say he couldn’t take criticism like he should as he cared what loved one said about him and could be defensive, but he had a BIG heart to protect. He never met a person that he couldn't (nor wouldn't) render help to, nor someone he couldn't love - hate really wasn't in his vocabulary. Don't get him wrong, he wasn't no fool and as big as he loved you, he could argue with you - yet if you were still mad after all was said and done then it was all you cause he'd forgotten it before you did.        

Ba Tunde’s passing was… is … (just no words)

The lingering memory of my brother is of someone who was immensely proud of me, loved me and looked out for me. My brother is, and was, that large character. You sure knew he was in the room as he made sure to make friends wherever he went. He had no airs or grace when meeting people and didn't like it in others also. He simply loved people to laugh and be happy around him. I’m going to learn from all that and let it shape me going forward.

 

Ba Tunde,

This is not goodbye, so come visit me sometimes and let’s while away the time playing a combat game & shit-talking like we use to, if you let me win then I know I’m dreaming :)

We said it on the last video call, but You know what it was and what it is… love you always.

I know, I know – we got her. Mum will be fine.

You ain’t got to worry again.

Sun Re O

Kehinde
love U, love U, love U

Tunde Security firm

January 15, 2021
Tunde was a regular at Blacknights Entertainment events and he was a loyal supporter and always calling me to give advice about our events. After awhile he started calling me nonstop about his new security firm & urging me to give him a try. I kept telling him that not sure his firm is ready to deal with a crowd of thousands. He persisted that I give him a try. I agreed on the basis that he works with the other security firm on the day of the event he agree and even said he willing to take a pay cut. 

I remember on the night of the event there was a massive long queue and some people were trying to rush the door. One thing that distinctively struck me that I still remember vividly to this day is on that day,  I came to the door to organise the security to control the crowd and I remember Tunde was like a one man army using all his physical strength to push the crowd back he was a colossal that night & I remember whilst it was happening he looked at me as if to say 'I told u I could handle it' . At the end of the event the first person I went over to was Tunde. I open a bottle of brandy and poured him a glass although he said no because he was still on duty, I insisted. I hug him and said well done so proud of him. He words were to me 'Dutch I could let u down brother'. That summarises the kind of person Tunde was a gentle wonderful helpful soul. 
Rest Well my Brother 
Dutch Blacknights 

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