ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our treasured Dad, Husband, and Papa, Visaud Gotay. We will remember him forever. The memories we have are endless. The love we had for one another, eternal. He was selfless, compassionate, and humble. His 3 children and 5 grandchildren were his greatest treasures. His wife of 47 years, his world. There was nothing he would not do for his family as well as for a stranger. He embodied the love of God, unconditional, without limitations. It was evident in everything he did. Though he is not present here with us he is not gone. He lives on, eternally with God and lives on here, on earth, through us. Please feel free to share your memories in his honor whether through words, photo, video, or all of the above. 
Posted by Brendaliz Ayende on June 22, 2020
Daddy,

Yesterday was our first fathers day without you. There are not enough words in the world to describe the desolation that was felt, the emptiness, the void, is too vast to explain. I was proud to be Daddy's girl. I still am. I'll never be the same. For so many reasons. For starters, you have taught me so much! And not just with mere words, but mostly, in how you lived. In how you loved and gave to others selflessly. Never looking for the spotlight or validation. I'm changed because of that but Ill never be the same because you are no longer here with us. I never knew it was possible to carry both Hurt and Hope. Hurt because you are not physically here, Hope because I know where you are, with who you are, and that I WILL SEE YOU AGAIN and on that day we will never again be separated. You always came to me to fix things for you. Your phone, your paper work, make a phone call, etc. I became your health proxy while you were admitted. In viewing your records, I saw time and time again how I was your emergency contact. This one time, I could not fix this for you. And I will live with that pain forever. I am sorry. I carry that with me daily and it often feels like I am lugging along a suit case filled with boulders. I promise I am trying to hand over that burden to God. I know its not mine to carry. I will continue to try. I'll never stop trusting God. But I miss you. I miss you so much and I look for you in every face, in every flower that blooms. In every sun raise that caresses my face I close my eyes and imagine they are your hands. I miss singing with you and praising God together. I know you had many regrets and felt like you could not give us much but you gave me Jesus. You gave me the blessing to witness His transformation in your life. What a gift! What a gift to witness you as a Papa to your 5 grandchildren who you adored! There is no one like you! There will never be. I'm trying my very best to take care of Mom. I know how much that was your desire. She is broken without you but God is providing for her as always. I know that one day I will look back at this wilderness and see that God was here all along. I cant see it now but I promise I am looking, leaning, and believing still. Te Amo daddy.
Posted by Arry Nalbantoglu on June 6, 2020
I remember too many great times we spend together. The day I told u that Cano will be under my wing and u trusted me with your son. We have always had love for each other and I will always cherish those moments. I love your family as they were my own. I am blessed to have had u in my life. I know you are watching over your family and I will always be there for them as well. Saul May you rest in paradise and until we meet again my friend , brother, father figure and angel.
Posted by Daniel Kalmann on June 1, 2020
Saul, friend and neighbor, all of us, will forever miss your kindness, your generosity, your optimism, your love for Maggie, and your unconditional willingness to help out. When I was sick, you took me to the hospital early in the morning, waited there all morning, and took me home again in the afternoon without even a thought of not doing such a kind deed. Your religion was strong, your wife will find her strength in her belief. It’s hard to believe we can’t run into you in front of the building and you greet us with a smile and kind word. You have enriched our lives immensely. May you Rest In Peace.

Daniel, Dora, Emi, Kailo and Shay Kalmann
Posted by Margaret Aidala on May 29, 2020
He was one of the sweetest and kindest men I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing! I’m sure anyone who knew him, loved him! Took me in and always made me feel welcomed. When I think of you, you are always smiling we had so many good laughs I will always remember. My kids were all so fond of you as well! You had such a presence on this earth! You’re truly missed, taken away too soon!
Posted by Jeanette Ducos on May 28, 2020
He was like my second Dad , I miss him so much I wish we had more time with him I never got to say thank you for always being there for me , may you rest my uncle
Posted by Frank Gotay on May 28, 2020
Dear Uncle Saul ,

As I sit down visualizing in my mind all the good times we had together starting from when I was a little 5 yr old. We played baseball , basketball in the parks. You were the one who guided me to play the right way. We went to Yankee stadium and  your face lit up when I took u for a meet and greet with yankee greats Jorge Posada and Andy Pettite. I still feel it wasn't your time to leave us especially your kids, grandchildren and wife. But only God has you in the right place right now and please protect all of our family who we all love and miss you dearly. Que Dios te quide siempre. Love always , nephew Frankie

Posted by Mildred Gotay-Esquilin on May 28, 2020
I feel such a closeness to you, I always have. I guess it’s because from the beginning you have been there for me, encouraging me and listening to my troubles. I never got to thank you and tell you how much you meant to me. I love you dearly and I feel so fortunate to have had you in my life. You will forever be a part of me......

Love your niece,
Mildred

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Posted by Brendaliz Ayende on June 22, 2020
Daddy,

Yesterday was our first fathers day without you. There are not enough words in the world to describe the desolation that was felt, the emptiness, the void, is too vast to explain. I was proud to be Daddy's girl. I still am. I'll never be the same. For so many reasons. For starters, you have taught me so much! And not just with mere words, but mostly, in how you lived. In how you loved and gave to others selflessly. Never looking for the spotlight or validation. I'm changed because of that but Ill never be the same because you are no longer here with us. I never knew it was possible to carry both Hurt and Hope. Hurt because you are not physically here, Hope because I know where you are, with who you are, and that I WILL SEE YOU AGAIN and on that day we will never again be separated. You always came to me to fix things for you. Your phone, your paper work, make a phone call, etc. I became your health proxy while you were admitted. In viewing your records, I saw time and time again how I was your emergency contact. This one time, I could not fix this for you. And I will live with that pain forever. I am sorry. I carry that with me daily and it often feels like I am lugging along a suit case filled with boulders. I promise I am trying to hand over that burden to God. I know its not mine to carry. I will continue to try. I'll never stop trusting God. But I miss you. I miss you so much and I look for you in every face, in every flower that blooms. In every sun raise that caresses my face I close my eyes and imagine they are your hands. I miss singing with you and praising God together. I know you had many regrets and felt like you could not give us much but you gave me Jesus. You gave me the blessing to witness His transformation in your life. What a gift! What a gift to witness you as a Papa to your 5 grandchildren who you adored! There is no one like you! There will never be. I'm trying my very best to take care of Mom. I know how much that was your desire. She is broken without you but God is providing for her as always. I know that one day I will look back at this wilderness and see that God was here all along. I cant see it now but I promise I am looking, leaning, and believing still. Te Amo daddy.
Posted by Arry Nalbantoglu on June 6, 2020
I remember too many great times we spend together. The day I told u that Cano will be under my wing and u trusted me with your son. We have always had love for each other and I will always cherish those moments. I love your family as they were my own. I am blessed to have had u in my life. I know you are watching over your family and I will always be there for them as well. Saul May you rest in paradise and until we meet again my friend , brother, father figure and angel.
Posted by Daniel Kalmann on June 1, 2020
Saul, friend and neighbor, all of us, will forever miss your kindness, your generosity, your optimism, your love for Maggie, and your unconditional willingness to help out. When I was sick, you took me to the hospital early in the morning, waited there all morning, and took me home again in the afternoon without even a thought of not doing such a kind deed. Your religion was strong, your wife will find her strength in her belief. It’s hard to believe we can’t run into you in front of the building and you greet us with a smile and kind word. You have enriched our lives immensely. May you Rest In Peace.

Daniel, Dora, Emi, Kailo and Shay Kalmann
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More than an uncle in law

Shared by Madeline Hernández on May 28, 2020
Never thought this was our last meeting all toghether with him.  As for our family, Saul was not just an uncle in law,  was much more than that. He was the kind of person you don't see very often. He spread kindness everywhere he walked, compassion and love even for the less fortunate ones. I had see him take of his winter glove to share with someone who needed it most. Love, compassion, kindness, are just few words that described him.  My family, myself included will always remember him as a Man of God.!