ForeverMissed
Xiaodong, our dear friend and sister, was injured and passed away due to a sudden accident. Her warm voice, bright smile and enthusiasm will always remain in our memory until the day we reunite with her!

The family and friends have set up this memorial website and invite Xiaodong's relatives and friends to contribute their tributes, stories and photos. This website will be a permanent memorial for our beloved Xiaodong. Let’s keep her memory alive.


Funeral Service Information:

Friday, March 13, 6pm—8pm
Volpe Funeral Homes
707 W Germantown Pike, Norristown, PA 19403

Donation to Education Fund for Allie and Eric:

Xiaodong is the most proud and devoted mother. Please help us set up the education fund for her young children, Allie and Eric.

If you will attend the funeral service on March 13th and would like to give the donation in person, please make the check payable to "Alexandria Jiang" (Allie) or "Tao Jiang".

Or Click here to go to the GoFundMe Page which will be withdrawn to children's custodial accounts.

Or Click here to go to the PayPal Page which will be withdrawn to children's custodial accounts.

 

Your support at this difficult time is very much appreciated and a great comfort to all of Xiaodong's family!



Posted by Yun Wang on March 23, 2020
I read the tributes and stories about you almost everyday. when reading Allies tributes, my eyes are wet. Yesterday when I go out to the garden planning for some vegetable planting, I thought of you. There will be no 冬瓜苗 anymore。 You will be missed by your friends and your family.
Posted by Allie J on March 23, 2020
It's been two weeks and I'm still in shock. I hate waking up and not being able to look out my bedroom window to see you working in the garden. Every time I walk past your room, I'm still half expecting to hear the whirring of your computers or some podcast in Chinese with jokes that I only half understand. When I go into your room it's cold. It never felt that way when you were here. You were so warm. Like any mother and daughter we argued. We argued a lot but in the end I loved you and you still loved me. It never mattered how mad we were.
I've been wanting to write something but I can never quite find the right words. All of the moments we spent together, I took for granted. I check this page every day, reading every story and trying to engrain every picture of you in my brain. I wish I had a recording of your voice to listen to. I love you, 妈妈.
Posted by Veronica J. Valentini on March 20, 2020
Am so very sorry for your loss. A beautiful tribute to a lovely angel - She would be so honored by this sweet page. God bless and please stay strong. No, you don't know me, but I'm here for you if you need a new friend in the world. Take care and stay safe. ~ Veronica, USA
Posted by Zahari Kamal on March 19, 2020
You would be missed.
Posted by Ryan Zhao on March 15, 2020
Xiaodong 阿姨, I am still a little in shock. For as long as I can remember, you have been such a big part of my life. I remember being so happy when you'd come over for dinner, when we'd stay up playing cards and cracking sunflower seeds until my eyes wouldn't stay open. I remember staring with wonder at the gigantic tomatoes you grew in your garden and commenting how your green beans somehow always tasted better than ours. And I remember all the times when you took care of me when I was sick, when my parents were busy and you would be there. Xiaodong 阿姨, you are a part of so many of my memories, from DEFCON to Kalahari, from summer sunrises to winter hotpot. You always treated Lily and I like we were a part of your family, and you were family to us too. I hope you rest well and know that you will be with us, always.
Posted by Qian Yang on March 14, 2020
I was so shocked and saddened to hear this. Deepest condolences to Tao, kids and your whole family! 晓东,一路走好!
Posted by Chen Lu on March 13, 2020
from Yilei Zhu

非常遗憾我也不能参观晓东的告别议试,愿晓东一路走好,永远记住你的蔬菜园子,你绽放的笑容,与你豪爽的性格。永远怀念你!
Posted by Chen Lu on March 13, 2020
from 严宁:

晓东,一路走好,永远怀念你!
Posted by Chen Lu on March 13, 2020
from Ying Sang:

非常遗憾我也不能参观晓东的告别议试,愿晓东一路走好,永远怀念她
Posted by Chen Lu on March 13, 2020
from Lucy Chen:

非常遗憾今天不能去参加晓东的告别仪式,愿晓东安息,一路走好! 将永远记住我们一起玩抓妖的快乐日子,永远怀念你那张总是带着微笑的美丽面孔。
Posted by Chen Lu on March 13, 2020
from 明:
晓东,一路走好!你的音容笑貌会永远留住。春天来了,你忙碌的身影在哪里?到现在都还无法接受现实。
Posted by Chen Lu on March 13, 2020
from 狄绍杰:
晓东,一路走好!永远怀念你的豁达爽朗,为人热情和对生活的爱!
Posted by Chen Lu on March 13, 2020
from Ying:
我的好朋友晓东,我非常遗憾,不能去你的告别仪式上。晓东一路走好,认识你我非常高兴,你的美丽的笑容永远活在我的心里
Posted by Chen Lu on March 13, 2020
from 刘晓洁:
非常遗憾不能去晓东的告别仪式,晓东安息,一路走好,有幸认识你,记着你温暖阳光的笑容!
Posted by Ye Zhang on March 13, 2020
I still keep denying Xiaodong is gone. Xiaodong is a common and the most capable person I have ever met: an affection mom with two lovely kids, an IT security master, a garden expert, a tractor (Chinese card game) wizard, and a Pokémon pro. No matter what she does, she can always do the best. She is a special person who shines and glows briefly in our lives, but will be memorized forever. R.I.P. Xiaodong!
Posted by Ying He on March 13, 2020
亲爱的晓东, 这些天, 我没法给你写下留言。 因为任何词语都不能表达我对你的不舍和思念。 你是一个平凡的伟大女人,我的百科全书和偶像。怀念我们一起跑步, 一起做月饼, 一起养小鸡,一起抓螃蟹, 一起抓Pokémon, 一起聊天的日子。 这一切仿佛就在昨日, 但现在却那么的遥远… 

晓东,一路走好。 希望你在世界的另一边一切安好!永远爱你 !
Posted by Wenping Li on March 12, 2020
就像是昨天,我还和晓东在中文学校的走廊聊天,聊起孩子们的成长和未来,晓东满脸自豪!难忘晓东微带俏皮的笑容,难忘晓东充满活力和爱心的人品,世上无难事的自信!愿晓东安息,俏容永存!
Posted by 宇东 张 on March 12, 2020
晓东,有几年没见了,看到消息除了心痛还是心痛……在宾州的美好记忆中总有你的身影。愿你在那个世界,忘却世俗的烦恼,开心的养花种菜…… 想念你
Posted by Zheng Zheng on March 12, 2020
嘻嘻哈哈的坐在一起打牌聊天,仿佛还在眼前。转眼,物是人已非,更作死生分。庄子说得好:载我以形,劳我以生,佚我以老,息我以死。

晓东,一路走好,愿天堂没有烦恼。
Posted by Qing Luo on March 11, 2020
Dear Xiaodong, how I missed you! It has been six years since we left Pennsylvania, but every time I thought about old friends there, your warm smile always filled my heart. You are the most capable lady I have ever seen. I remember the days YouYou slept on your back, the secret recipe of your delicious pasta and the little apron you made for every kid on YaYa’s birthday. How I wish I could talk to you again. RIP, my dear friend!
Posted by Jianhua Ye on March 11, 2020
Xiaodong share the same enthusiasm with me about edible gardening. During the season we share the seed, seeding and also the harvest. She is a such nice, wonderful human being. She will be missed forever. 
Posted by Fang Zhou on March 11, 2020
California sunny days hurt the most.
Everywhere I go,
A familiar figure came into vision.
Always cheerful and lively,
She stood out in any crowd.
Dark, short hair fluttered up and down,
Charming smile, perfect teeth,
Cross shoulder bag is the signature.
Forever young, like a college kid.
Why?
Steady pace suddenly quickened…
My eyes couldn’t keep up.
Wait!
Wait!


She is gone.


Hope you rest in a better place,
Knowing our Love, gratitude and admiration will never fade,
the way we care for the footprint you left on our hearts.


R.I.P Xiaodong
Posted by Jian Ye on March 11, 2020
Nothing can be compared, to the priceless memories we shared. It is so painful to lose a close friend like you. You will live at the bottom of my heart forever. Miss your smile, miss your warmth and miss you as such a wonderful friend! R.I.P. Xiaodong!
Posted by Shuang Zhao on March 10, 2020
Not a sister by blood, but definitely a sister by heart!

RIP, Xiaodong. We love you!
Posted by Yun Wang on March 10, 2020
I still cannot believe that we lost Xiaodong, such a dear friend. I will miss you, miss your vegetable, miss your veggie seedlings. You are such a informative person, always brought so much convenience to the friends around you. Almost everybody I know ate something from your vegetable garden. Without you, there is that hollow forever.
Posted by S M on March 10, 2020
sorry for your loss. would love to read the life stories, but they are not in english.
Posted by Chen Lu on March 9, 2020
We were so deeply saddened to hear the sudden passing of Xiaodong. She was such an amazing and fantastic friend! We will always miss her warmth and bright smile, her garden, her chickens and her warm house.

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Posted by Yun Wang on March 23, 2020
I read the tributes and stories about you almost everyday. when reading Allies tributes, my eyes are wet. Yesterday when I go out to the garden planning for some vegetable planting, I thought of you. There will be no 冬瓜苗 anymore。 You will be missed by your friends and your family.
Posted by Allie J on March 23, 2020
It's been two weeks and I'm still in shock. I hate waking up and not being able to look out my bedroom window to see you working in the garden. Every time I walk past your room, I'm still half expecting to hear the whirring of your computers or some podcast in Chinese with jokes that I only half understand. When I go into your room it's cold. It never felt that way when you were here. You were so warm. Like any mother and daughter we argued. We argued a lot but in the end I loved you and you still loved me. It never mattered how mad we were.
I've been wanting to write something but I can never quite find the right words. All of the moments we spent together, I took for granted. I check this page every day, reading every story and trying to engrain every picture of you in my brain. I wish I had a recording of your voice to listen to. I love you, 妈妈.
Posted by Veronica J. Valentini on March 20, 2020
Am so very sorry for your loss. A beautiful tribute to a lovely angel - She would be so honored by this sweet page. God bless and please stay strong. No, you don't know me, but I'm here for you if you need a new friend in the world. Take care and stay safe. ~ Veronica, USA
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那个在长廊尽头读书的女孩

Shared by Fangzhe Chang on March 22, 2020
我们高中一个班最初有五十多位同学,最少时女生只有八个。温晓冬是其中一位,好像是坐在第一排。晓冬的脱颖而出是在后来的一次考试,她轻而易举地拿了全班前三名。说轻而易举是因为大家看不到她学习有多刻苦努力。那时候的学生生活每天早晨五点多起来跑步做操上自习,白天忙着上课,晚上有晚自习---自己看书学习,有点儿像美国的study hall。10点半晚自习结束以后,很多同学还点上蜡烛,再看一会儿书。晓冬不住校,早自习和晚自习通常是看不到她的。只是在课程紧张的时候,偶尔会看到她站在教室前面长廊的尽头,手里拿着书读。我从走廊经过,有几次注意到在远处读书的她。

高三的一天,班主任把我们俩从教室里叫出去。在办公楼见了国防科大负责山东招生的老师,一位满头白发的离休老干部, 他向我们介绍了计算机系建造当时中国最快的银河机的成就。虽然一起参加座谈的还有其他班的同学,但最终坚持报考国防科大的只有我们两个。高考以后,同学们都轻松了,开始一起玩儿。有一次几位同学聚在一起吃饭,男生都喝了一点酒。散场的时候已经晚上,姜涛坚持要骑车送晓冬回家。我们左等右等姜涛也不回来。第二天传来消息,晓冬和姜涛谈恋爱了。那时晓冬只有15岁。

晓冬、我、还有早一年在科大的一位学长约好一起走。晓冬的父亲陪我们坐汽车到邯郸。然后我们三个乘火车到长沙。那趟火车很拥挤,我们没买到有座位的车票。人和行李都挤在车厢中间狭窄的过道里,晃晃荡荡一直站了十几个小时才到终点。那是我乘火车的经历中最疲劳的一次。晓冬作为一个女孩子,没有显示出一丝我后来所了解的女孩子的柔弱。她一直是一个能坚强前行的人。多年以后,我把晓冬送上从纽约开往普林斯顿的火车,看着她小小的身形和旁边两个大大的行李箱,心中不禁替她作难而又感慨她的坚毅。

晓冬是一个非常聪颖的人,脑筋转得很快。有一次几家人在一起散步,晓冬给我提了一个问题。她说有一座1米长的桥,怎样走直线距离最长。我一时卡住。她欢快地告诉我答案:走对角线。我现在回想起来,清清楚楚记得的是桥和对角线,具体的问题已变得模糊。晓冬向来都不是一个拘泥于寻常答案的人,虽然高中大学研究生一路走来我常常能理解她的想法。只是这一次,她清清楚楚地给我展示了她的回答,却再也没有对我说出她心中的问题。我无能为力,却又妄想早先能做点什么。我缺少勇气去一页一页慢慢翻开三十几年来的记忆,脑海中却不由得浮现出最初一幕那个在长廊尽头站立读书的小姑娘。

顶雷

Shared by Ming Li on March 21, 2020
终于只能我讲你来听的机会了,你是一个才思敏锐,说话语速极快的人,我最惨的记忆就是92年初去公司报到的时候,绕道长沙去看方哲和你,在你的宿舍,碰到了你的两个好友,胡滔,史媛媛,你们三个伶牙俐齿,每个人都是说话嘎嘣脆,语速极快,说话就像机关枪一样,让我在那里连说话的机会都没有,几乎每讲一句,你们每一个人都有十句以上的话在等着我,以至于到现在都记忆尤新。

不过现在你没有解释的权力,只能听我说:

88年我们高中毕业,高考过后,我们一帮同学跑到油泵厂路南家属院小贾同学亲戚的宿舍里聚会,那是我们同学的第一次聚会,喝了不少啤酒,大家边喝边聊,到结束的时候,已经是深夜,姜涛同学自报奋勇去送你回家,我们一帮弟兄在那里左等右等,后来都睡着了,也不知道姜涛是几点钟回来的。事后大家自是拿着姜涛取笑一番,然后各自散去,以为什么事都不会发生。

没成想,过了几天,大中午,谢晓冰跑到我家递给我你写的一封信,她告诉我说,她去你们家找你玩的时候,你悄悄地递给她的,说是你爸爸特别生气,把你关在家里不让你出门。打开一看,几颗斗大的字,写着:快来救救我,要不然我和你二弟就完了!(虽然我们家后来几次搬家,这封信竟然和我其他的一些书信都被我的父母保留下来,我曾经开玩笑说,将来要拍卖这封信...)

看完之后,我赶紧骑车到红旗小学你家去认错,那天,在那个小院子里,你爸坐在小凳子上,我在那里傻傻地站着,被你爸训了将近两个小时,我一再承认,是我组织的活动,玩的太晚了,忘了时间,保证以后不再这样了,如何如何,曾经在我心目中和蔼可亲的叔叔就那样变成了凶神恶煞,以至于现在我见了他还是心惊胆颤...那时你十五,姜涛十八...

晓燕姐说,你15岁谈恋爱,一生只爱一个人,希望这份感情能陪你走一生..

那时候,老哥哥年轻,可以去替你们抗雷。现在你说,这么大的雷,你让老哥哥怎么抗?!

再一个,你还来参加拍卖你的这封信吗?疫情过后我回国的时候,把它烧了吧!怎样?

纪念小妹妹

Shared by Ming Li on March 21, 2020
一直想写些东西,但每次开头,却发现有太多的想法,有好多话想说,都是这个刚刚写了一句,另外一个又涌入脑海...那天曹颖整理照片的时候,我坐在旁边看着,一幕幕都像刚发生一样,当她在那里感叹:“谁知道当时照这张照片的时候,怎么会想得到会在现在用作晓东的遗像”,我实在是忍不住老泪纵横。
从上周一别,这些天发生了好多好多你都不会想到的事情,冠状病毒四处狂虐,不仅席卷欧洲,就连纽约都成了重灾区,Tri-states绝大部分开始在家上班。股市熔断听说过吧,至今为止,美国股市一共熔断过五次,你赶上了97年那次,错过了最近的4次.算了,不说这也不是什么好事,错过就错过了吧!
咱们开始唠唠记忆中的事情,不过讲述人是我,别人却没有办法听到你那个角度的看法了。咱们从头开始讲,好吗?
相识
我们是1985年的秋季高中入学时才算是真正认识,虽然你的父母和我母亲都在一个学区教学,他们彼此相熟,但作为孩子的我们因为住在不同的学校家属院,彼此根本不认识,就连初中三年同一个学校,且一直邻班,也都不知道谁是谁。你比我们小太多,个子又小,一直坐在最前排,嗯,那时候,你是一个比较安静的女孩子,没有什么特殊的记忆可以让我来揭短的。如果说印象最深的关于你的记忆就是在高三的时候排球比赛,周围的观看的同学和邻班发生争执的时候,是你一个看似弱不禁风的小女子,站出来一个人跟对方一帮人对着干,那就是对你的第一印象,打抱不平,敢打敢杀的晓东!
跟大多数人的高中生活一样,我们的高中三年也是平淡无奇,你们这些优秀学子都是在努力学习中度过。毕业后的故事就多了,要不要我讲讲替你们顶雷的事?