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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Ying Xue "Jess" Lei, 37, born on August 11, 1974 and passed away on March 23, 2012.

Jess worked for QMS for almost 7 years as a software engineer and she was an exceptional engineer and person; a steady, quiet, and happy person, who was easy to work with and unfailingly cheerful, polite, and considerate. There are people who are easy to work with and be around, and Jess was such a person.  She was also a photographer with a good aesthetic ability that was a contrast to her analytical engineering abilities. Jess’s work and presence at QMS, will be deeply missed. Some losses in life are irreparable, and this is one such loss.

We will miss you dearly, Jess, and will remember you forever.

Y T
September 30, 2023
September 30, 2023
This time of year I eat peaches every day. I love peaches. Every time I eat I remember that you brought peaches to the office for lunch. On the way from the kitchen to your desk, you shared your peach to your colleagues including me. When I picked a piece, you said, "take more" with sweet smile on your face. By the time you got to your desk you didn't have anything left for yourself. That was how kind and sweet you were. Jess, you will never be forgotten.
August 11, 2022
August 11, 2022
雷影雪同学,

又一年了! 今年才发现你比啊当大一天! lol! 疫情好了许多,但是去中国仍然遥遥无期。上个月去了Maui, 还是觉得san francisco 最好!我怕热。 我家的大姐姐上了大学,去了UCB. 近呢?所以每个周末都去見她。弟弟11年级,依旧昰那样口水多,但是已经高我半个头,一米八的小伙子。

工作仍然没有变,疫情使library 过度到 eLibrary! ebook!! 刚对我开始老花! 哈哈哈!

March 26, 2021
March 26, 2021
Sister...今年有烧肉吃啦!~但换了不同餐馆的~不要怪罪!
时间过得好快~我都差不多满头白发了! 疫情继续~虽然疫苗己出~但变种病毒上升!感觉现在全世界没有一个地方是安全D!我们都挺好的~两个B都长大了~做事情开始有自己的想法!经常提起你们~给力量她们!让她们平安健康的长大!我会努力好好的~~~
We Miss n Love u guys forever!!!
Y T
March 23, 2021
March 23, 2021
9 years... doesn't matter. I remember your smile, gentleness, and caring heart. You will always be in my heart.
April 14, 2020
April 14, 2020
都好吗?相信你都看到听到了吧!世界都乱成一团了~真无奈!这世上天灾人祸的一大堆~每天都在上演了~今年都没有烧乳猪吃了~等过了这个难关吧~依我看还有一阵子呢!我们都很想你们!'bless us n give me power..sis...fighting fighting we love u guys!!
March 23, 2020
March 23, 2020
雷影雪同学,八年了,不知不觉八年了!今年在新冠疫情下,全球一片混乱!中国先停顿了两个月,然后扩散到欧美!大家都不得不困在家中抗疫。美股大幅下跌:两周内四次溶断。据说失业律将会20%到30%。你估下除了食物,大家抢购的是什么?toilet paper. LOL. 没有办法,在家除了吃,还昰吃!东奥大约也要延后⋯,现在才三月,已经发生了讲不完的大事!真是个不平静的鼠年。

姐姐已经读11th grade. 原来最忙, 因疫情影响关校, 大约关到这个学期结束。所有AP&SAT 考试都canceled 了!弟弟将上9年级!希望弟弟自觉吔读书.

我,开始有白头发, 眼睛用电子产品太多以致没有以前咁好.生活依旧忙碌,但是轻松了许多。

“ Global coronavirus cases cross 350,000, death toll passes 15,000 as pandemic takes hold”

有时候想你了!

August 29, 2018
August 29, 2018
最近遇到一点点麻烦! 不过相信会解决好的~只是需要点时间~天堂的你会给我力量的对吧! 我们一起努力! Love U...
July 14, 2018
July 14, 2018
景物依旧· 人面全非~最近视力越来越不好了~但方向感越来越强劲! 是你们在保佑我的, 我知道了! 我们一起努力吧! Love u.
April 14, 2018
April 14, 2018
Love u forever, sis...她们都很好!!
L H
March 24, 2018
March 24, 2018
Miss you !
December 13, 2017
December 13, 2017
heard about this from breitbart. It was an illegal immigrant that killed her, he was supposed to be deported.
August 11, 2016
August 11, 2016
Happy birthday Jess. Still thinking of you.
August 11, 2016
August 11, 2016
我们42岁了!SF 的房价这几年大幅升高,人多车多,塞车成为曰日会遇上的事!SF越来越受欢迎,天气好,美食多!忘了告诉你Uber, 好方便叫车服务!今年又大选,两个候选人都奇奇怪怪的. 下年再八多哋其他事你知!Miss you.
L H
September 26, 2015
September 26, 2015
BB. 生日快乐!Miss you!
August 11, 2015
August 11, 2015
How time flies! 又一年了!科技又进步了!我们现在用微信,好方便!随时可以见到和吹水,还是免费!还有微群,建立各种各样群,吹吹水,晒晒美食!中国股市年中升了许多,但是很暴跌,然后出现国家队救市⋯
Miss you!!!
L H
September 26, 2014
September 26, 2014
My BB , 生日快乐!
L H
March 23, 2014
March 23, 2014
2 years...      Forever miss you
L H
September 26, 2013
September 26, 2013
B B. Happy Birthday!
L H
September 15, 2013
September 15, 2013
BB, Miss you!!!
March 25, 2013
March 25, 2013
It's been one year.... I hope you are living well with your family in Paradise. RIP!
L H
February 13, 2013
February 13, 2013
世界上最遥远的距离莫过于,我在你身边,触摸到的却是冰冷的石碑......
L H
September 26, 2012
September 26, 2012
Happy Birthday ! B B.  生日快乐!!
L H
July 7, 2012
July 7, 2012
遥远的你从此相隔天涯
如何告诉你我梦里只有你
遥远的你是绚丽燃烧的火花
是我再也回不去的家
L H
June 10, 2012
June 10, 2012
思念无疆,人消瘦。江河沉默,水静流......
L H
May 9, 2012
May 9, 2012
Miss you very much !!!
L H
April 20, 2012
April 20, 2012
Love you forever!
April 17, 2012
April 17, 2012
Jess, you are a very nice person and a good friend i used to work with. 
 
You will be greatly missed. Rest in Peace
April 4, 2012
April 4, 2012
I haven't worked with you since 2009 but you are not forgotten. You would come and visit me in my corner with your cup of green tea. You are missed by all the lives that you touched.
March 29, 2012
March 29, 2012
Jess, 你来过, 带着你满腔热情, 分享过你的快乐;
你走了, 走的这么匆忙, 连告别的话语都来不及说;
留给我的是你的奋斗精神,你的笑语,和你的友谊;
怀念你!
Jess, 
You came, came with your enthusiasm and love, shared with your joy and happiness;
You left, you left so rush, no time for me to bid farewell to you;
What you gave me is your friendship, and your happiness.
Miss you
Michelle
March 29, 2012
March 29, 2012
Jess was a generous, friendly and helpful person. We had numerous lunches together and even took break times together at work. She always found time to help people and offered me fruits and baked stuff she brought from home. She was my coworker but I consider her a dear friend. She will be greatly missed.
March 29, 2012
March 29, 2012
Jess, when most of us are still searching on how to live, you already know. You would stop and look out the windows to enjoy the view. You would walk down and up the stairs with others. I wish I have more time to get to know you better. Rest in peace!

憤怒, 悲傷, 不明所以都不能夠改變事實⃘ 我只能以你為榜樣, 認真地生活⃘ 願在另一個角度裡, 我能再次碰上和更加認識你⃘
March 29, 2012
March 29, 2012
Jess, Pure of Heart... I hear your voice saying "Nooooo" to me when I am convinced I am right (and I am wrong) and then I hear "Yes, my dear?" when I call you to my desk. You will forever remain in my heart and I will be reminded of you when I look at the Golden Gate Bridge and when I eat my "Cuties", now I will always eat two - one for me and one for you. You are missed...
March 29, 2012
March 29, 2012
Rest in peace, Jess. You were always genuinely kind and friendly. You will be missed and unforgotten.
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
It seemed just like yesterday when I got the chance to work with Jess. How quickly those years fly, especially when working with someone as easy to work with as Jess. We will miss you dearly and wish you peace and happiness in heaven.
J W
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
Jess was such a kind, helpful and smart engineer to work with, you can feel her cheerful spirit when you talk to her. We will forever miss you!

我們將永遠懷念你, 尤其是你的好意,在工作中分享您的水果. 您帶給我們和平及喜樂.
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
I knew Jess for a short while, but she presented such a delightful aura one couldn't help but notice. She was intelligent ,kind, gentle and willing to assist with any task at hand. Take care Jess. you will be missed dearly.
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
Jess Lei will be dearly missed. You had the most gentle smile it will not be forgotten. May you and your family Rest In Peace & Paradise.
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
Tons of e-mails were exchanged between Jess and me but I only had a chance to talk to Jess over the phone once. But just the same, I felt Jess and I have really become close. She is often assigned to review my call. And because of her keen eyes and anticipation, the result - Nothing but Success. She is my guardian angel at QMS. Thank you and take care.
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
Jess you were such a nice, kind, and amazing person. Whenever we talked at work you were always so cheerful and pleasant. You will be greatly missed and you and your family will forever be in our hearts.
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
Jess(阿雪), my dear friend for more than 17 years! You gone too soon and I really miss you! Miss all the travellings we've gone together, miss all the gatherings, miss your sweet smile! You're such a trustworthy good friend! You're always and will be forever in my heart! RIP 阿雪and your family! 我懷念那些我故意拔弄你手臂上的細汗毛的日子,懷念你和我兒子玩功夫時的純真笑容,懷念你打羽毛球時讓我十五分!一路走好!miss you and love you forever!
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
Dearest 師姐...it was sad to hear such tragedy and more shocking to find out you were one of he victims to this crucial incident. I will always remember the times we worked together every Sunday morning and driving me home after work. You are a generous and cheerful person. May you and your family RIP.
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
Jessy- Jess- if there is one person that I dont mind scolding at me, that would be you. You were one of few people I know that can be mad and over it within minutes. I will miss everything about you. No words can describe how much we will miss you. May you rest peacefully. Xoxo
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
"Jess, it's still really hard for me to accept that your gone. I will always remember my 1st QMS Christmas lunch you. "Mojito" After that day, everytime I had one I've always thought of you. May you and your family members heart and souls be at peace and thank you for being such a great person! I will miss you dearly....
March 28, 2012
March 28, 2012
Jess - you will be missed! It's been a couple of yea the world unenrs since I've had the pleasure of working with Jess, but this horrible, senseless tragedy brings tears to my eyes over and over again. May peace be with you, Jess, as you travel the world unencumbered.
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Y T
September 30, 2023
September 30, 2023
This time of year I eat peaches every day. I love peaches. Every time I eat I remember that you brought peaches to the office for lunch. On the way from the kitchen to your desk, you shared your peach to your colleagues including me. When I picked a piece, you said, "take more" with sweet smile on your face. By the time you got to your desk you didn't have anything left for yourself. That was how kind and sweet you were. Jess, you will never be forgotten.
August 11, 2022
August 11, 2022
雷影雪同学,

又一年了! 今年才发现你比啊当大一天! lol! 疫情好了许多,但是去中国仍然遥遥无期。上个月去了Maui, 还是觉得san francisco 最好!我怕热。 我家的大姐姐上了大学,去了UCB. 近呢?所以每个周末都去見她。弟弟11年级,依旧昰那样口水多,但是已经高我半个头,一米八的小伙子。

工作仍然没有变,疫情使library 过度到 eLibrary! ebook!! 刚对我开始老花! 哈哈哈!

March 26, 2021
March 26, 2021
Sister...今年有烧肉吃啦!~但换了不同餐馆的~不要怪罪!
时间过得好快~我都差不多满头白发了! 疫情继续~虽然疫苗己出~但变种病毒上升!感觉现在全世界没有一个地方是安全D!我们都挺好的~两个B都长大了~做事情开始有自己的想法!经常提起你们~给力量她们!让她们平安健康的长大!我会努力好好的~~~
We Miss n Love u guys forever!!!
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You are always in our hearts and minds

August 11, 2018

Hi Ying

We miss you so much each day, especially me. How can I forget the first day we met at the Vanness Bakery? You helped me learn Cantonese and I helped you learn English. Together we worked as a team. Then our relationship blossomed, we traveled to Reno together with PHUONG. You helped me purchases our first house. You spent your commission to replaced the garbage and hot water for us bc we were broke. You listened to my life stories and kept all my secrets within you. Beto and i miss you very much. Oh and remember my cousin Nam? He found a picture of you driving Beto to the weeding. Life isn’t fair my friend. We love you always and you are always in our hearts.

Tony Bennett

May 19, 2012
by B A

At the QMS main office there is of course the small conference room with the extraordinary view:  the Bay, the two bridges, on the other side the silhouette of San Francisco.  Sometimes Jess would stand at the window just looking out.  She would stand there, sometimes in her favorite off-white blazer, her left elbow on the ledge or a cup (tea? coffee?) in her hand.  At what she looked I had no idea.  What she thought of I had no idea. 

One day (a cold, rainy day) when she was standing there, I approached her softly and stood beside her.  “You know,” I said, “when Tony Bennett worked for QMS, he stood at this same place, looked at the same scene.  And the words came to him:  ‘I left my heart in San Francisco.’” 

It was a silly joke, a silly reference to Jess standing and thinking perhaps of her own heart somewhere in San Francisco where she lived.

And her answer, in all seriousness:  “Really?  He really stood here?”

“No,” I said at once.  “Just kidding.  I was just kidding.”

I think of that incident sometimes.  I do not know quite what to make of it.  I do not know what the “moral” is.  That Jess was too sweet and nice, took me literally and didn’t get my joke?   That the joke was too silly, low-class, not worth “getting”?  That she did get the joke and was mocking me (or least playing along) in return? 

What the answer is, I still do not know.  But the memory—the image—of it remains.  And I like the image, I like lingering on it.  Jess standing at the window, her elbow on the ledge or a cup in her hand.  And looking, thinking.  Thinking of what:  The sky?  The clouds?  Her family?  Her heart?

Yes, as I say, I like the image.  So sometimes in your honor, Jess (and not only on cold rainy days), I will stand at the window and look out as well.  Your friends at QMS (so many) might join me.  Do stop by sometimes, say hello.  When you come, bring an orange, an apple, a cup of tea.  Or if these things are hard to find, just bring yourself.  We will talk of Tony Bennett, music.  Or if these things tire you we will talk of the things you do like:  the angels in heaven, all the new friends you have made.  We will talk, talk—maybe even miss a few project deadlines.  “Our angel is here,” we will say.  “The special one.  You know, the one who brings smiles to a few faces.  Fills a few empty hearts.”    

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