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March 15, 2016

Dad passed away at 8:56 am, 3/11, 2016. Dad you leave in such a hurry. From the day you felt pain in the right arm and pelvis, it's merely a little over two months. You won't even wait for April's planned trip to Shanghai. If given chance again I would like to spend more time with you, just playing Chinese chess or playing cards with you, or sit and chat with you.

Dad was born during anti-Japan war in 1937. His dad passed away due to illness 40 days after he was born. He was raised by his widowed mom alone. At 12 years old he was sent to a cigarette factory as apprentice until at 18 years old when he entered Hangzhou railway bureau.

The childhood hardship did not stop him from achievement in life, rather gives him the virtue: moderate, diligent and prudent. Dropping from school early did not conceal his wisdom. His skill in Chinese chess is among top tier in the amateurs. He has achieved "Marshal" ranking while playing against computer chess game in recent years while living with us.

Continuous self learning and improvement overcome hardship in work, especially there were lots of written reports and articles due, and culminated in managing a group of about three hundred people.

Dad is a dutiful son. Ever after moving to Shanghai for work he move her from Hangzhou to live with him and take care of her until she passed away in the age of 87. 

Dad is a good husband. They always love and support each other. When mom suffered rheumatoid arthritis 10 years ago he took a good care of herever since.

Dad is also versatile. He is good at cooking, sewing, and bonsai.

Dad is also a good father. With careful planning given meager wages he never let us feel poor. Our family always have some saving, although fairly small in nowadays standard. When I came to US as a foreign student dad supported me with all he had.

Dad is a fortunate man. He never have to worry about his son and daughter's school work and career. Coming to the states and living with us after retirement is the happiest period of his life. 

In 2014 we moved to the house with folsom lake and sac valley view. The sunny bedroom and the specially made kitchen and sun room plus the scenic backyard give him the enjoyment of living in the estate. In the backyard, there are deer, turkey, rabbit and raccoon visiting frequently, and birds chirping everyday in the morning. Dad always said its natural oxygen bar.

In dad’s final days in hospital, he was baptized and become a Christian.  He is blessed to find a home in heaven.

Dad we love you. We regret you leave us so early.
Wish everything is okay with you in heaven!

 

 

悼念我的父親 丁有法

March 15, 2016


爸爸于2016年3月11日上午8時56分走完了這一生。爸爸您走得太匆忙了。從十二月底感到右手臂和髋骨疼痛到走才兩個多月時間,之前沒有什麼症兆。原先訂好四月底回中國辦些事情與親戚走動走動竟也來不及了。若時光能倒流多想抽出多些時間陪您下下棋打打牌。

爸爸生于戰亂年代。剛剛出生40天祖父便病逝了,是祖母獨自辛苦把您養育成人。十二歲就辍学離家去煙廠做學徒,直到十八歲進了杭州鐵路局工作。

兒時的艱辛并沒有難倒您,倒養成了您節儉勤勉謹慎努力的美德。失學並不能掩蓋您的聰明。您的中國象棋的水平在業余棋手中屬於上乘。最近幾年在空閒時與電腦象棋下能达到元帥級別。

不斷的自我學習並在生活工作中總結提高使得您能在工作中脫穎而出,直致作為主任領導三百來人。您的年度工作報告也能洋洋洒洒的几十頁報告紙的長篇大論一番。

爸爸是個孝子。自從杭州調入上海工作後即把祖母接來一同生活照顧,直至祖母87歲終老。

爸爸是個好丈夫,與母親一直相知相愛相敬如賓。晚年媽媽得了類風濕關節炎,爸爸一直是事無具細地照顧著媽媽。

爸爸也是多才多藝的。燒菜,裁縫,種花種草樣樣都行。

爸爸也是個好父親。家里的帳都是他管。盡管薪水微薄,但他能精打細算從沒有讓我與姐姐感到我們缺衣少食,並且總能略有節余。89 年我到美國自費留學時爸爸傾其所有支援我。

爸爸也是有福之人。我與姐姐學業生活從來沒有讓他操心。晚年他們能來美國與我們一起生活也是他一生中最快樂的時光。

14年我們搬進了有湖景山色的大房,還專門為他們加建了樓下的廚房與客廳。後院的樹林時有小鹿火雞兔子浣熊出沒,還有許多小鳥每天來枝頭歌唱。爸爸每每說起這里是天然氧吧。

就在最後一次住院期間爸爸終於決志了,成為了基督徒。這也是他的福份,靈魂有歸屬了。

 

爸爸我們愛您。我們捨不得您走得這麼快。但愿您在天堂裡一切安好!