9/11 Memorial Flag in Eagle Grove Speech
This is a speech that I gave in honor of Aaron when the National 9/11 Flag came to Eagle Grove on it's first trip in 2009. The National 9/11 Flag visited Eagle Grove, Iowa twice in honor of Aaron. Once in 2009 and then on February 24, 2011 in honor of Aaron's 17th birthday.
Follow the Flag speech
Tonight we are here to honor and remember all of the men, women, and children who died during the 9/11/2001 tragedy as well as to remember Ben, Josh, Sam and Aaron who did not survive the tornado at the Little Sioux Scout Ranch on 6/11/2008.
Most people who have talked to us since we have lost Aaron have said “death is a part of life”. Yes, death is a part of life, but when the death is that of a child or a tragedy such as 9/11, it is not a normal part of life.
Ben, Josh and Sam went to the leadership camp at Little Sioux to learn from Aaron and other staff members about being responsible, kind, caring citizens, and how to be a positive role model in the community. As parents, we never thought our boys would step into that camp, and never step back out. We were not prepared to let our boys go.
On June 11, 2008, our boys met God face to face. The place where life as we knew it ended. It was the end of the kisses and hugs and the memories we were making with our sons. It was the end of our son’s futures and our futures with them. We never thought we would have to survive each day without them.
I am sure that the men and women who went to work at the World Trade Center on 9/11 did not expect to never get to see their family members again. The firefighters, first responders, and rescue workers who went into the Twin Towers to rescue and evacuate innocent people did not think twice about possibly never coming back out of the towers.
Our local firefighters, EMT’s, first responders, police and sheriff personell put their lives on the line for our safety every day. They have, I’m sure, witnessed some horrible tragedies during their years of service. Yet, everyday they continue to serve our community knowing that a tragedy can happen at any time.
While at the Little Sioux Scout Ranch re-opening, I had the opportunity to visit with the first responders who were at the camp that night. When I would introduce myself as Aaron’s mom and thank them for responding and helping the boys, most of them would begin to cry and tell me that they wish they could have done more for Aaron, Ben, Josh, and Sam. They carry that with them everyday. You couldn’t have asked for more caring people to respond. I know that they did absolutely everything they could, not only for our 4 boys, but for all the scouts there that night.
In July of 2008 we had the opportunity to visit with President Bush in the oval office while in Washington D.C. The President spoke with us about our grief and he confirmed our belief that we cannot always control what happens around or to us, but we can control how we react. We can help the world heal with us and that is what we choose to do. It is what our sons would want us to do.
In four short years, Aaron touched so many lives in this community with his kindness, caring, compassion, and sharing of his time and talents. We will never understand why God needed to take Aaron so soon. There are so many families in this community who have had to cope with the pain and unanswered questions of losing a child, and unfortunately there will always be tragedies. I want these families to know that when I speak about Aaron, I also remember your child, know your emptiness, and feel your pain.
Every child is a gift.
For all the children and young adults, I ask you to take some time to spend with your parents. Appreciate the time you can share with them. To the parents, take time for your children. Always let them know when you are proud of them. It is important for a child to hear those words. Family should be the most important thing in your day. Everything else can wait.
I would like to thank everyone for their thoughts, prayers, and support over this past 15 months. It is a journey in which we never thought we would have to take.
Please continue to pray for the safety of our firefighters, rescue workers, first responders, and law enforcement for they are also someone’s husband, wife, father, mother, son, or daughter.
I would like to share with you a verse that I say to Aaron everyday:
I thought of you with love today,
But that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday,
And days before that too.
I think of you in silence,
I often speak your name.
All I have are memories,
And your picture in a frame.
Your memory is my keepsake,
With which I’ll never part.
God has you in His keeping,
I have you in my heart.
Finally, while shopping one day I found a plaque that had a quote on it from Henry Ward Beecher which said, ”Every charitable act is a stepping stone toward Heaven” I think Aaron just walked a little too fast for me.