Ameyo Adadevoh
Let the memory of Aunty Ameyo be with us forever

This memorial website is published by The Cardoso nieces and nephews in memory of our beloved Aunty Ameyo, Mother of Bankole Cardoso her only Son, our first Cousin. She was also like a mother to us all.We will remember her forever.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 29th September 2014

"Irene and Dapo Ayorinde

What a price to pay for dedication to professionalism!! When the Ebola episode broke out in Nigeria and we all learnt that First Foundation Hospital was involved, one’s mind went to Dr. Ameyo Stella Adadevoh, the Medical Director of the hospital who had already made a name for herself with the way children born in the hospital were treated as “royals” each time they made repeat calls for one ailment or the other.

The full page advert published by the hospital to put the public’s mind at rest that the establishment was in control of the situation was jointly signed by Dr. Benjamin Ohieri and Dr. Ameyo Stella Adadevoh.  That advert was very reassuring.  Thereafter one followed the news about this very deadly virus as it unfolded in Nigeria.

As if in self-denial and hoping that no bad news would come about any victim, not just Ameyo, one’s mind wondered to Ameyo every now and again for days but one could not summon enough courage to ring any of her aunties and cousins to find out how all these affected her.  Then the press conference attended by two of Ameyo’s Cousins, along with other family members and  friends who pleaded publicly with the Federal Government to do something to help the unfortunate care-givers who had been exposed to the virus. At that point running away from asking about Ameyo was no longer an option.

A call  to Ameyo’s aunties and cousins was all one could do at that point. Each member of the family was dealing with the situation as best as he or she could. Some switched off their phones and hoping against hope that only good news about Ameyo would come through. Others could only be reached by text messages at best. The situation was the same with the Atlanta end. All seem to have withdrawn into one shell or the other praying for Ameyo and others so affected. Even emails could not smoke her loved ones out of their unwanted comfort zones.

Then the sad news on Tuesday August 19th that Ameyo had passed on. What a sacrifice. Talk of occupational hazard!

I recall ringing Ameyo a few months back after seeing her son, Bankole’s business being featured on CNN.  She knew about the program but had not seen that particular episode by the time of my call.  She however said that there was another one aired earlier on and like any mother, she was very proud of the young man’s achievement.
The last time we met was on her Aunt’s landmark birthday in April.  She was so active at Awusi’s house that day, helping her cousins to serve guests who dropped in. She was all over the place, to the delight of her aunties, Sisi Stella, Awusi and Koshua Adu. The atmosphere at that event reminded one of so many such family gatherings at the Adadevoh family house on Ikorodu Road and Bishop Oluwole Street, Victoria Island residence of her parents, especially when the Ghana delegation was in town. What a legacy of rich heritage made up of good character and values, very rare commodities these days.

I can still see Ameyo in my mind’s eyes when she was just four years or so wandering from her paternal grandparents’ sitting room to the balcony at Denton Street, Oyingbo.  Her grandfather Papa J.G.K. Adadevoh’s houses were the rallying points of the extended Adadevoh family in Nigeria and the link with the family in Ghana was so strong.  One could not help but believe no Ewe man would settle in Lagos, if not in Nigeria, without seizing the first opportunity he had to pay homage to Papa J.G.K. Adadevoh as the Ewe Community leader in Lagos, if not in Nigeria. The man was worth his weight in his stature and in the character and values with which he raised his children and those who came in contact with him; not less that of Ameyo’s grandmother, Mama Sarah Idowu  Adadevoh of the Crowther-Macaulay family.

With such a solid parental background on all sides, Adadevoh, Crowther-Macaulay and McIntosh and the Christian background with which all the upsprings were raised, one could not be surprised by the dedication to duty and the selflessness with which Ameyo paid the ultimate price. All these have been attested to in various tributes paid to Ameyo on the internet.

Our thoughts and prayers are with Folabi and Bankole and members of the Cardoso family for this irreparable loss.  Seeing Ameyo’s mother, Sisi Deborah at the memorial service today was a bit of a relief; that she has been able to accept this unfortunate and irreparable loss.  As Christians, all we can do is to continue to console and pray for each other that God in His infinite mercies will continue to let us accept that which we cannot change.

To Ama, Kojo, Ami, Ameyo’s siblings, her cousins, Afio, Ade, Bunmi, Deji, Doyin, Taiwo, Kehinde, Olumide, Kwame,  Awoyo, Eyi, Etcha, Kwame and not forgetting Prof. Sydney Kobla Adadevoh, Mr. Willy Fugar and other members of the extended Adadevoh family in Ghana, our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

May Ameyo’s beautiful soul continue to rest in perfect peace, Amen."

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 17th September 2014

"Wisdom & Rose Dafinone


If anyone can truly measure, Devotion, Passion, Compassion, and
Commitment; then, DR. AMEYO ADADEVOH , was a colossus, an
indisputable “Class Act” on her own! Her infectious personality and disarming smile, compel and attract, albeit ineluctably, to a SOUL enamoured and imbued with an unquestionable professional excellence and ethos. It was therefore, not surprising that her colleagues and friends drew national attention to her deteriorating condition and plight, which compelled the relevant authorities to raise the BAR of professional performance and expectations; ennobling our hearts with the Latin
aphorism, “Quae nocent, docent- what pains us, teaches/trains us’!

DR. AMEYO STELLA ADADEVOH exemplified in her illustrious
but brief life, that the “very best” is still possible and present in us, in
spite of our collective doubts, and denigration. Therefore, as a consummate professional and true Patriot, she epitomised the rare gift and Spirit of sacrifice and love, granting us an imperceptible glimpse of our humanity and God-endowed greatness as a people, which we must harness, as recompense, for such an irreparable loss!


Rest in Perfect Peace!!!!

Wisdom & Rose Dafinone"

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 15th September 2014

"Dupe Killa

Ameyo, Our Hero

We did not know we were searching for a hero, our own hero. Our situation was so hopeless (yes, hopeless for many reasons) that we did not bother with searching for a hero. And what is this hopeless situation, one may ask? Consider the high standards that a true (and natural) hero must necessarily satisfy. Consider the lowest of lows our current realities have sunken on almost every sphere of human endeavor. Now add to those considerations, the mass (and dare we say, unanimous) appeal a truly national and indeed, global hero must have. And then you begin to understand how hopeless the search for a hero would have been. So, we did not even bother to search for a hero. We have consoled ourselves with the thought that heroes come in different forms and assuaged the vacuum in our hearts and minds with fawning dedication to our cartoon and fictional heroes. Such hopelessness. We comforted ourselves with the thought that heroes do not stroll by every other day; that perhaps entire generations come and go before one (just one) hero is born. The overwhelming recognition and appreciation of Ameyo as a people (renowned for our diversity of opinion) is a testimony to the fact that we needed our own hero. We just did not have any. But we now have Ameyo, our hero.

It is possible at this point to discuss how the direct actions of Ameyo Adadevoh averted a national, and what would undoubtedly have been a global disaster. That would be right. And that would in any case, be necessary as a bookmark in history. It would also take a long time. Perhaps then, we can try to articulate the extent of this fact in one or two considerations: 1, that without the direct actions of Ameyo our hero, Nigeria would have been a pariah nation by now, in lockdown like a caged nation – a very big cage at that. And that would have been the least of our concerns. 2, that the extent of possible fatalities may have achieved levels never before seen by humanity as a result of an epidemic. It is only because of Ameyo, our hero that we will be able to talk about this for years and years...and years to come without a sense of doom and sadness in almost every home in Nigeria and indeed other parts of the world.

Very few people can make a set of critical decisions back to back with clarity of mind knowing more than most, that they may pay the ultimate price for it. Ameyo, our hero did exactly that. By now, we all know the story of her sacrifice. There are many things we must not forget about the heroic acts of Ameyo. It would however be the height of futility to contemplate them all in one go. Is it the quiet and consistent dedication to her calling up to the last moment that one can contemplate and appreciate fully in one go? Is it the clarity of mind and commitment to what is right even in the face of daunting opposition? Or, is it the relentless, yet steely resolve to stay the course of a just action in the face of what was a clear fatal threat personal safety? Or can one contemplate and fully analyse this unusual, yet conscious and ungrudging yield of herself and interests for the safety of others who will forever remain strangers to her and even her family? No! It is not possible to fully appreciate Ameyo’s heroic acts. What is possible is for us to draw from her, the strength and belief and new resolve to aim for greater heights of purposeful living. What is possible is to see that all her life, all her being, all her endevors on earth were simply one huge gift to us as a people.

Here are a few lines from Robert Laurence Binyon’s 1914 poem ‘For the Fallen’. He had written this for the beloved ones who fell in active action, as Ameyo our Hero did.
They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old
Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.
At the going down of the sun and in the morning
We will remember them.

As the stars that shall be bright when we are dust,
Moving in marches upon the heavenly plain,
As the stars that are starry in the time of our darkness,
To the end, to the end, they remain.

We take this moment to appreciate Ameyo’s family, far and wide. We encourage you to draw strength from her burst to glory as she is still here not just with you, but now with every single one of us too. Her story would be written and told in every medical college, every classroom, living room and café for a very, very long time. We, the custodians of the present have a duty to ensure we do not forget her and that generations to come are aware that there is a hero, our hero, Ameyo.
And this is how we shall now recite Binyon’s poem for Ameyo.
Ameyo shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old
Age shall not weary her, nor the years condemn.
At the going down of the sun and in the morning
We will remember her.

As the stars that shall be bright when we are dust,
Moving in marches upon the heavenly plain,
As the stars that are starry in the time of our darkness,
To the end, to the end, she remains.  

Thank you Ameyo, Our Hero,


This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 12th September 2014

"Obafunke Alade-Adeyefa

Indeed, a long life may not be good enough, but a good life is always long enough. Ameyo's was a very good life. May her unique and astounding legacy live on in the life of her son, Bankole.

I cannot say and I will not say
That she is dead, she is just away.
With a cheery smile and a wave of hand
She has wandered into an unknown land;
And left us dreaming how very fair
Its needs must be, since she lingers there.

And you oh you, who the wildest yearn
From the old-time step and the glad returned
Think of her faring on, as dear
In the love of there, as the love of here
Think of her still the same way, I say;
She is not dead, she is just away.

(Poem adapted from James Whitcomb Riley)"

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 11th September 2014

"Habiba Balogun

Dr Ameyo Adadevoh was a very special woman and an excellent doctor. Little did I know when I first met her 25 years ago that she would save our country from calamity, and not from being in a position of power in government, simply by being professional and diligent in the execution of her duties. Her life is a real lesson to us all and to the country.

She was my first physician. I was 25 and a young businessman finding his feet. I went to see her with my girlfriend who I would marry two years later. We both thought she was gorgeous and young at heart like us; I thought she was only 3 years older than me!

I remember like yesterday her asking me to strip for my physical examination and me being terribly shy.. She found it funny and put me at ease...and we became good friends. My wife adopted her as her physician and a cool older sister and we all grew even closer from that point on. We mourned with her when her father died and called on each other for personal favours or simply just checked up on each other as the years passed.

Five years after we met and forged our friendship, Ameyo more or less delivered our twin girls 20 years ago when Habiba had to spend three months on bed rest under her care at First Consultant's. She would pop in regularly both as a physician and to spend time as a friend. It was fun chatting with her, laughing together, and getting to know her better.

We had many ties that bound us. Even though we met independent of any influence, we had many friends in common, relatives in common, places and experiences in common. She was family; and even though we saw each other less and less as the years passed, each time we met was a celebratory and loving reunion.

Ameyo, we are so proud of you. We are bursting with pride to have known you and counted you a personal friend. We are so proud of your selflessness in the face of calamity. You have paid the ultimate price and are doubly blessed. You are blessed firstly as a doctor, doing God's work on this earth and saving lives daily; and secondly by your selfless sacrifice and suffering to save a nation of people unasked, undeserved, and unrewarding.

Your reward is both in heaven and on earth. Your place, in a place of honour in heaven is assured. It is up to us to ensure the reward on earth for your family and your hospital. God bless you Ameyo. We will miss you."

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 10th September 2014

"Sola, Lola, Baba and Reni Cardoso

Dear Aunty Ameyo,

Full of warmth. Always welcoming. Graceful. Energetic. Encouraging.  Capacity to engage on any topic at any time. So caring in many ways. Loved her family and friends.  Very dedicated to her profession and her patients. Never too busy to check on us despite hectic schedule.

Aunty, we will miss you terribly! We will miss the sound of your voice enveloping the room. The kids will miss you swooning over them and we will indeed miss your smile, our passionate discussions, check-in calls, and above all your love and presence.

Our hearts are heavy but we know that you are with The Lord resting in peace.

Rest in perfect peace Aunty."

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 2nd September 2014

"Abimbola Chima Cardoso(Mrs)

Nee T.O.S Benson

Big Bear hug  she gave me, holding my hands very tightly

She welcomed me into warm and open embrace of The Cardoso Family House Hold, to have and to hold on to as her Sister in Law. We nurtured a bond that transcended from sisters in Law to sisters in Love .I Loved her dearly because of the goodness of her heart,her infectious smile,listening ear, constant medical counsel and her deep caring for me.

It was a most perfect relationship,we lived right next to each other,separated by a duplex wall,jointly raising  our children,sharing happy holidays,slumber nights,family celebrations.The annual Christmas Family dinners was one of our favourite moments , we had cooking contests,took turns with the Roast of the Day,snapped Christmas Crackers,teasing,giggling in stitches and looking forward to the many promises of life.She was  the Santa Queen with GOOD BOY and GOOD GIRL sacks of presents....the kids loved her so.Such  was the private Family life we nurtured year in year out.Has  twenty six years of happiness abruptly come to an end?
The haze in the wilderness  seems to mask it all. "I did not touch him" she said, "but pray for me"
Alas!!!! one microscopic droplet poisoned your velvet skin, Oh smiling Soldier of the sick and the weak.... you forged on in positive belief .....what went wrong ....?

Unpreparedness,ill equipped, slow response ,fear ,confusion and panic in high corridors,...  you and your medical team must hold fort less massive graves abound...,so be it that your  white  medical coats ,turned battle gear in the War Front against the dreaded scourge, if  in deed  to protect all....
a fierce battle;a  good fight, joined by your allies,colleagues, anonymous sympathizers the world over,your country men raised their voice to high heavens,  the humming bird tweeted ..Isley brothers  "lean on me,when your not strong"....
.... pharisees went about with clenched fists,surgical masks,sterilizing wipes,in continued ignorance... your profession under watch as the days ticked away....your friends in disbelief ,your family praying ,your maker awaiting with open hands....

Time to Surrender! the sand dunes of the wilderness are too much too bear..."blood of Jesus" is much sweeter ...even though "we walk in the valley of the shadow of death we fear no evil"..Mary mother of Jesus comforts our soul.. our faith steadfast, we carry on your legacy ...Your surviving Mother, Bless her, your aged mother in law,Chief Mrs Ibilola Cardoso, your second  mothers in Law Chief Mrs Stella Odesanya,Chief Dr Opral Benson....we will comfort them,we will surround  Bros Folabi, Kole,your brothers in Law Bros TC , Whycee, and Sola,Sis Y and the entire Cardoso and Adadevoh Family you left behind, It is well with Ama,Kodjo and Ami ,your nieces , nephews,and extended clan of  in-Law Families.

Your professional colleagues who uplifted your name as the anchor of the voiceless patients  at rest  oh soldier of wellness,  on your name,on the  sacrifice of your blood many lives shall be saved, Friends Nigerians, Countrymen lend  me your ears to the whisper of Ameyo's voice at the berth of each mornings Dew.... Prioritize  Public Health... , Human life is priceless,it is the bane and anchor of Governance of a people to which our ...."Heroes past"  dedicated their lives.

365 candles we shall light each day,from year to year  generation to generation and on the anchor of your name Ameyo, speak in the name of health,then and only when we achieve a healthy Nation,fly our Planes with National colours if only to save "ONE LIFE" shall our vocal chords sound like it has never before to sing our nations destiny.."arise o compatriots Nigeria's call Obey..."
Rest in peace Ameyo we shall surely meet again."

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 1st September 2014

"Francesca Sayo Cardoso

Sayo:Aunty Ameyoooo
Aunty: Ameyo: Sayostics hehehe, where are you?
Sayo: Are you at the hospital, can I come?
Aunty Ameyo: You naughty girl, you want to be sick sha
Sayo: No now aunty, I just want to come see you and talk
Aunty Ameyo: Oya, come come come

"A regular phone call I made to one of my favourite people, and from then on I would pour my heart out to her, she would take her time to listen, understand, and advise.

Thank you for helping to raise me. Thank you for providing a listening ear and dishing out advice. Thank you for teaching me to put my faith God. Thank you for being so easygoing, caring and generous. I cannot think of one dull moment with you, not one circumstance of sadness, just jokes and gut-wrenching laughter. I am so happy to have such joyous memories of you.

Ah, this life A true angel returned to Heaven.

You are forever loved and adored."

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 1st September 2014

"Lolade Alakija (nee Cardoso)

Dearest Aunty Ameyo,

Its been so hard to come to terms with your passing, how can this feels so surreal, I feel you must be on holiday somewhere and you will come back to us. Aunty Ameyo I will miss you so much, you were ever so caring, always going out of your way for me and others, giving advice where needed, I always knew I could come to you, Bankole is my brother and you were my second Mum, we would laugh together and gist together and oh you knew how to party, you were one of the cool aunties, always the last to leave the party, we lost you far too young and still with so much life in you.

Aunty Ameyo I seek comfort in knowing that you are with angels, God sent you specially to save others - you saved lives every day with your dedication to your family and patients, always going over and beyond for us. Only a few people can have the sort of selflessness you showed in your personal and professional life.

I will miss you and you will forever be in my heart.

May your soul rest in eternal peace."

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 27th August 2014

"Bankole Cardoso

My darling mother, though there is an irreplaceable void in my life I am comforted by the fact that you are in the perfect place.

I remember you telling a friend just about a month before you passed how when I was younger you told me there is no mother in Heaven and how upset that made me. I came to you a few hours later to ask “are you sure mummy that I will not know you in Heaven” and you laughed at how much I loved you.   True to yourself, your response was silly boy, “he thinks he can give me wahala on this Earth and then still not let me rest in Heaven”  
Well I know you are in Heaven now mum and I have accepted that you are enjoying your well-earned rest. I love you forever and look forward to seeing you again in Heaven.

May your soul rest in perfect peace."

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 27th August 2014

"Seun Cardoso

Aunty Ameyo! It breaks my heart to even think about writing this. Who would have thought that you would be called upon so soon from this life? It is with great pain and sadness that I have to say goodbye to you, and would like to thank you the kindness and compassion you bestowed upon me through out my life; for always caring for me inside and outside the hospital; for always showing me the brighter side of things whenever I felt down; for being a positive influence to me and those who knew you, for your laughter and warm smile that could brighten anyone's day; and for always reminding me that God would always see us through all the suffering, pain, sorrow, fear, anxiety, distress and sadness we encounter.

You will be missed dearly,

May your soul rest in the bosom of the Lord. Amen"

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 27th August 2014

"Sonia Cardoso

I will never forget how welcoming, friendly & loving she was when I came to Nigeria with Tiwa for the first time. I was nervous about meeting so many people, however she took me under her wing and made me feel at home instantly. I did not know her well but I will miss her genuine, warm personality. May she rest in peace.

Thank you,

Love, Sonia Cardoso"

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 27th August 2014

"Tori Cardoso

Thank you Aunty Ameyo, thank you for the fun and laughter that you always brought to any situation, thank you for the kindness and kind words you gave me when needed, thank you for the concern you always showed when you suspected something might be wrong, but above all thank you for the ultimate sacrifice you made when your family and your country needed you the most.

The cost to you and to us is incalculable and just as incalculable is the number of families who you have saved from going through the pain and the loss that we who knew and loved are now experiencing.
You will always be remembered, cherished, spoken about and loved by all, long after we are gone.                                                               Thank you for putting the lives and needs of others before your own.

Ultimately Aunty, thank you for being you.

Love always your nephew Tori Cardoso"

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 24th August 2014

"Taiwo Cardoso

Ameyo - Charismatic, Caring, Cheerful and courageous.

The circumstances of your passing has been extremely difficult to deal with; not just because you are the mother of Bankole Cardoso, but also because you were such a caring and family person. You always looked out for me and gave the utmost advice and I will  forever cherish that, and the time we spent together when you visited England, during the Easter period of this year. As we bid farewell to you tomorrow, I am comforted by the fact that you touched countless people, & helped to curb the Ebola outbreak in Nigeria."

"If Tears Could...

If tears could build a stairway
And memories were a lane,
I would walk right up to heaven
To bring you home again.
No farewell words were spoken.
No time to say good-bye.
You were gone before we knew it,
And only God knows why.
My heart still aches in sadness
And secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you,
No one will ever know"

May Your Soul Rest Peacefully"

This tribute was added by Taiwo Cardoso on 22nd August 2014

"Kehinde Cardoso

My dearest Aunty Ameyo,

I would never have expected that 3 weeks ago would have been the last time I would see you. The last time I would see you smile, laugh, or playfully call me your 'husband'. My heart breaks as I'm writing this and I can't believe you're gone.

You were my second mother. You took care of me when I was sick or needed someone else to talk to. You did your country a service and paid with your life that's how much of a beautiful person you were. I love you so much and will miss you and I could only wish that this is a dream. Never have I lost something so hard to understand. But we can cry with hope and say goodbye with hope. Because we know goodbye is not the end.

RIP our beautiful soldier. RIP our ever present Angel."

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