Audrey Rudman Edelstein
  • 74 years old
  • Date of birth: Oct 26, 1939
  • Place of birth:
    Bangor, Maine, United States
  • Date of passing: Aug 16, 2014
  • Place of passing:
    Palm Desert, California, United States
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It was 1994 just a few days before the devastating Northridge earthquake that Audrey experienced her first seizure and subsequently doctors found a benign meningioma brain tumor. At the time, it was thought that it would be a one time occurrence. Surgeons would remove it and that would be that and for approx. 15 years Audrey was tumor free.

Around 2009 after suffering from another seizure, doctors found another meningioma. By all accounts this not normal or typical of this type of tumor. This was the start of an almost nonstop succession of MRI, brain surgeries, Gama Knife and other radiation treatments for the next 5 years. Through all of this Audrey stayed strong and tough. After her last brain surgery in late 2012, Audrey contracted a very bad staph infection in her skull that required emergency surgery. This left her much weaker and more affected than any previous treatment.

The summer of 2014 dealt Audrey two enormous and eventually fatal blows. The first was the doctor found yet another brain tumor. When asked if she wanted to endure yet one more brain surgery, Audrey simply replied “what choice do I have”? The second blow came when Audrey’s amazing brain surgeon at UCSF asked for a full body PET scan as precaution before surgery. The scan revealed that Audrey had stage 4 pancreatic cancer. At this discovery, the UCSF surgeon said that there was no point in operating on Audrey’s tumor as the pancreatic cancer was fatal. We (Shel, Audrey, Steve and Andrew) met one time with an oncologist. He half heartedly made a few treatment suggestions. Audrey was clear she did not want to suffer through any of the treatments, especially since they were not going to help.

In the early morning of August 16th, 2014, Audrey died quietly at home.

Audrey leaves behind her 4 men (Shel, Steven, Andrew and David), two sisters (Deborah and Rhoda) and countless other family and friends. She will always be remembered for her courage and fighting spirit, amazing cooking and kindness. 

Donations are encouraged to further the research of:

UCSF Foundation - (Brain Tumor Center)
P.O. Box 45339, San Francisco, CA 94145-0339
415-476-2647 •


Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Martha Millan on 22nd October 2016

"Dear Audrey, You may think that by now I am over you, well, I am not! I miss you just the same. You were the Lady that inspired me to be better even if that did not include your own son. YOU knew that we were not the ideal match. Come see me an explain your words when you said "I didn't expect you to marry someone like him" (when you met my husband) I have been married for almost 18 years and your comment still haunts me. Tell me my dear lady, what did you mean? I love you Audrey, I play your video when I need to hear your voice!"

This tribute was added by D Cooper on 16th August 2016


I think of those wonderful hazy, lazy, crazy days of summer when we didn't have a care in the world. Thinking of you and miss you.


This tribute was added by MARTHA MILLAN on 16th August 2016

"I am so saddened by your departure so fast......If you were here Audrey, I would like to say that I appreciate everything you did for me and my children. YOU live in our hearts and my grandchildren KNOW and the way YOU and the way you care about others....Specially ME! Miss you forever an I'm paying it forwards FOREVER!"

This tribute was added by MARTHA MILLAN on 16th August 2016

"Audrey, YOU live in my SOUL. I am so appreciated of your life experience that I went with your advice. YOU the MOTHER I NEVER had and the STIMULATION that I was eager to have.  YOU are in HEAVEN if you believe it that...YOU were my inspiration, my communion, my all! THANK YOU AUDREY ,.....I MISS YOU and just letting you know,,,,,I came out just fine....LOVE  YOU DAVID for so many other things!"

This tribute was added by Martha Millan on 15th January 2016

"Audrey, my life will never be the same without you and your guidance.......Forever grateful..........Martha and the children."

This tribute was added by D Cooper on 19th October 2015

"Dear Shel and family,
I will always remember Aud and those happy days in Bangor and Harvard summer school.
Miss you,

This tribute was added by Martha Millan on 5th August 2015

"Audrey...You, your kindness, and your support made me the woman I am today. I am forever grateful. My children and I loved you for everything you did for us.  I will pay it forward in your honor. I am heart broken. Let's go and some "coffee and candies" soon.

Love always,"

This tribute was added by Joan Balch on 5th February 2015

"I'm so sorry for your loss. She was a very strong and loving woman. She will truly be missed. I pray our Mom's watch over us know they both have found peace and are free from illness. Much love to the family.

- Joan"

This tribute was added by Barbara Bevans on 23rd October 2014

"It is difficult to picture the world without Audrey in it.  We were good friends for such a long time and in my heart we always will be.  I will miss her smile, her laugh, her sense of humor, and her kindness.  I know that when we go to her memorial on Sunday, I will hear her laugh  and say to me ''you are so silly"."

This tribute was added by Chris White on 1st October 2014

"While I never knew Audrey, I am friends with Chef David. We've had several talks about what a great woman she was. She did a fantastic job raising David, and I can only surmise that she must have been a wonderful woman to raise such a good man. Our deepest sympathy & condolences from myself, and the entire Bikers Against BSL crew."

This tribute was added by Kirk Miller on 28th September 2014

"We miss and love you Audrey"

This tribute was added by Iriet Schulman on 15th September 2014

"Audrey, you brought such joy and light to my life and I am so very blessed I was able to receive it and share it right back with you. You will be greatly missed!


This tribute was added by Emily Dornford on 15th September 2014

"My words can not express well enough how beautiful, loving, funny and strong Audrey was. She will forever remain this way, with such wonderful memories."

This tribute was added by Lori Cantley on 12th September 2014

"If ever there was an expression of love through food, this was Aunt Audrey's way - I could envision it as it was similar to my mother's.  This is only one of the reasons they were such great friends.  I have great childhood memories of our families together and will miss those days and will always think of Aunt Audrey with a smile. . . .  Lori Kosakura Cantley"

This tribute was added by Karen Reed on 11th September 2014

"I miss our chats at all hours day or night. I would always get an IM to see how things were. Thank you for always making me feel like one of your kids. I miss you, and the oatmeal cookies.  You always mailed them when I needed them. I cuddle up nightly with my very first fleecy blanket you made me. I am glad you got to see me grow up, get married and meet our kids. Max still remembers our visit to New England last Summer to see you, Uncle Shel and Steven. Miss you my Auntie.. Your laugh especially."

This tribute was added by Fran Edelstein on 10th September 2014

"We were family for 50 years and I've kept up with you through Steven and my girls all these years. You were one tough cookie for these past 20 years.  Talking about cookies, I'll never forget the wonderful stuffed oatmeal cookies you always brought when you visited.  One time you made sure to give me the box when we were alone so I could hide them!  The last time you visited you brought your banana, chocolate chip streusel coffee cake that was amazing. Every time I make it, I get raves and say, it's my SIL Audrey's recipe.  You'll always be in my thoughts.
Love, Fran"

This tribute was added by Steven Edelstein on 10th September 2014

"Mom, I miss you so much.  I can see that last spark of you in your eye as me and Erick put you to bed for the last time.  As you said in some of your final words "This is a fine how do you do".  I think I made you proud, I hope I did and will in the future..."

This tribute was added by Jessica Edelstein on 10th September 2014

"This says "lay a flower" but I think you'd prefer to lay out some "flour" and bake a chocolate chip bundt cake, or some muffins, or a carrot cake, or some fingerprint cookies, or a yellow cake with chocolate icing, or a texas sheet cake, or any of the yummy treats you always had at the ready for a willing participant in your joy of food and laughter. Big hugs to you Audrey as you settle yourself in to nourish our hearts and minds now instead of our tummies. Lots of love always, Jessica"

This tribute was added by Chef Edelstein M on 8th September 2014

"Some days, its like dream and Im waiting to wake up.
Keep coming back to visit Mom... there is still many things we havent finished discussing yet."

This tribute was added by sherri bratton on 4th September 2014

"You will always be "MOM" to me  I will always take care of Steven for you. Words cannot express how much I miss you and there is an empty space in my heart.

I Love You


This tribute was added by Chef Edelstein M on 2nd September 2014

"Sunday will never be the same.


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Andrew Edelstein
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