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It was 1994 just a few days before the devastating Northridge earthquake that Audrey experienced her first seizure and subsequently doctors found a benign meningioma brain tumor. At the time, it was thought that it would be a one time occurrence. Surgeons would remove it and that would be that and for approx. 15 years Audrey was tumor free.


Around 2009 after suffering from another seizure, doctors found another meningioma. By all accounts this was not normal or typical of this type of tumor. This was the start of an almost nonstop succession of MRI, brain surgeries, Gama Knife and other radiation treatments for the next 5 years. Through all of this Audrey stayed strong and tough. After her last brain surgery in late 2012, Audrey contracted a very bad staph infection in her skull that required emergency surgery. This left her much weaker and more affected than any previous treatment.

The summer of 2014 dealt Audrey two enormous and eventually fatal blows. The first was the doctor found yet another brain tumor. When asked if she wanted to endure yet one more brain surgery, Audrey simply replied “what choice do I have”? The second blow came when Audrey’s amazing brain surgeon at UCSF asked for a full body PET scan as precaution before surgery. The scan revealed that Audrey had stage 4 pancreatic cancer. At this discovery, the UCSF surgeon said that there was no point in operating on Audrey’s tumor as the pancreatic cancer was fatal. We (Shel, Audrey, Steve and Andrew) met one time with an oncologist. He half heartedly made a few treatment suggestions. Audrey was clear she did not want to suffer through any of the treatments, especially since they were not going to help.

In the early morning of August 16th, 2014, Audrey died quietly at home.

Audrey leaves behind her 4 men (Shel, Steven, Andrew and David), two sisters (Deborah and Rhoda) and countless other family and friends. She will always be remembered for her courage and fighting spirit, amazing cooking and kindness. 



Donations are encouraged to further the research of:

UCSF Foundation - (Brain Tumor Center)
P.O. Box 45339, San Francisco, CA 94145-0339
415-476-2647 • http://neurosurgery.ucsf.edu


 

January 19
January 19
My bio mom died yesterday. Audrey, you told me for years to get away from the toxic relationship I had with my own mother and- I did. Today, I am confused. - she died
August 16, 2023
August 16, 2023
Miss you yesterday, today, and always my dearest mentor and friend. Love Martha
August 16, 2023
August 16, 2023
Thinking of you and the good times we had.
Coop
April 3, 2023
April 3, 2023
I miss you and you would appreciate that I am going to be a Great Grandmother!! My oldest granddaughter is having a girl!!! I am so exited!! Miss talking to you Audrey so much, every day, since you were so unfairly taking from us all!! Love you and miss you so much!
February 23, 2023
February 23, 2023
Dear Auds,

My grandson, Heather’s kid- Anthony is going to college and moving in with his GF. What would you tell me to understand this life cycle? I remember what you told me when it was about David and I understood. I get where you were coming from then- I miss you so much- please tell me how to handle this. You were the mother I never had- allow me to feel your presence again. Love always, Martha
February 9, 2023
February 9, 2023
Dear Audrey,

I need your knowledge and life experience. I am at a lost with my clients. I keep thinking of what you may say - although HIPPA was perhaps discussed between us- but I still need your help. Pray for me and that Clients i am proving services for - guide me. Trust you always
December 25, 2022
December 25, 2022
Dear Audrey,

Remember meeting my husband when you came over to my home? Your comment still puzzles me “I never expected you to marry someone like him” and I never asked you what you meant. Well, today is his third anniversary since he passed after over 20 years of marriage. I hope you are keeping my husband in good company. He knew all about you, your family, and David. Oh, he used to make comments about David- my husband knew I loved your son but he also knew David was part of my past. I miss my husband Audrey as much as your husband misses you. My prayers always , Love you always
December 22, 2022
December 22, 2022
Dear Audrey,

I am remembering spending Christmas with you and your family in your beautiful home in Orange. The memories and lessons I learned from you have kept me strong through my own life struggles. I am lucky to have seven grandchildren and I know that you would have approved of the grandmother I became because I learned from you. You are my inspiration because you were always kind, honest, supportive, and loving - in addition to always being on time! Precious lessons and I thank you Audrey for the time I got to spend with you. Love you and you are always in my thoughts. Merry Christmas- Martha

Ps- I missed your lemon drops!!!
August 31, 2022
August 31, 2022
Needless to say I am having a moment- Bill my husband of 20+ Years is gone now - please meet him and help him through the journey. You met him when you came to my home and said what you said - He is physically gone now- you and him keep me going. Allow me to be happy once more. 

August 31, 2022
August 31, 2022
Dear Audrey, I have a Client by your name and I was able to help her- her mother lost legal and physical custody and she had no right of being her mother. I got over my own issues after losing my husband and went back to work to do my job and your inspiration is always present. You told me to continue my education and thankfully I followed your advise. You are the mother I never had and hated when you met her. You are physically gone but emotionally and psychologically still and will ever be with me until is my turn to go. Love you Audrey so much!!
August 31, 2022
August 31, 2022
I am sorry for not saying hello on your anniversary- it was not one for me. I still cry thinking about you and your lemon drops. And I hated lemon drops until I tested yours! You needed to be here to celebrate my first grandson turning 18 today. Ohh my God Audrey, I miss you so much!! I saw this lady today at the grocery store and she had a bit of your resemblance - I broke down. You would be such a positive influence on my grandkids! I miss the heck out of you! Love you then and now forever!
June 25, 2022
June 25, 2022
I am being selfish. I need you every day but today the most. You were my rock, the mother I never had, and your son was the cherry on my cake. Love you and miss you so much. My husband passed away. I feel lost. I need your guidance Audrey my beloved mentor!
June 25, 2022
June 25, 2022
Dear Audrey, my beloved mentor,
The children you helped me raised, now I have 7 grand children and because of what and how you helped me- they are now heading out to universities to basketball universities. I miss your guidance and your holding my hand. You believed in me and I am thankful for the next 100 years. David, I will love you until I die. Martha
October 26, 2021
October 26, 2021
Happy Birthday. Miss you.
Coop
October 26, 2021
October 26, 2021
You were always so strong, comforting, and creative. I miss your laugh and spending time with you.
September 27, 2021
September 27, 2021
You know that once I start talking to you- takes me awhile to understand that you are no longer with us. Audrey, no words can describe the relationship I had with you regardless of David- you meant and thought me so much about life. I miss talking to you and I sure miss hearing your advice. Love you, you meant a lot to me and my children.
September 27, 2021
September 27, 2021
I was avoiding this- another year without your laugh!! I miss you so much! You were my inspiration, my guide, the mother I never had. You thought me so Much!! I miss you as much as Him in my life. Love always and forever, Martha
August 18, 2021
August 18, 2021
good things are finally happening.
glad youve been around to watch.
... and many more...
August 17, 2021
August 17, 2021
Aud,
7 long years has been a void without you.
When I go to Bangor, I always drive your house and think of the fun times we all had together.
Miss you.
Coop
July 24, 2020
July 24, 2020
It’s coming up, darn it! I miss you my benefactor, guide, and inspiration. Remember when I went to help you at a job in Santa Ana and your hubby said to me -“hey, Martha, taste the “guacamole” when it was indeed Wasabi! Lol
October 26, 2019
October 26, 2019
Aud,
Wow! 80. Although you may not be with us, your memory always will be.
❤️
Coop
August 17, 2019
August 17, 2019
Dear Audrey,
Let’s get a cup of coffee and talk.
Love Martha
August 16, 2019
August 16, 2019
Aud,
Remembering you today and our great times together.
Coop
November 3, 2018
November 3, 2018
Ok Mom, I finally get it... the whole brain tumor community and why it was your life line so often.
In case you missed it, I almost joined you 5 weeks ago. Im ok and I take meds and go to rehab... but the psychosis that I never asked for, I now know why you needed other brain tumor survivors around.
I'll never be the same, but we'll always have our coffee together.
Me
October 28, 2018
October 28, 2018
I forgot to mention that I am sitting here at past 1AM reading your old emails, making me laugh with your comments about your boys and all those questions about the then "new husband" of mine....My house for the past 19 years is up for sale and it makes me sad. My goodness my lady, you always made me laugh and always made me feel confident about myself. I didn't know then but your were "grooming me" in your own special way about my future. You were always smart like that, I never questioned you when you told me what to do, I just did as you told me, and GOOD GOD thank you so much! I will forever be Thankful to you for your kindness and so much more. I did stopped speaking to mommy dearest and her husband finally died and I think that he is burning in hell as you mentioned so many times. LOL Oh, my lady, I owe you my life at so many levels. You actually made smarter and thought me to ask for what I wanted and not to settle! Even though (as you knew) I loved him so! I am old now, will be joining you soon, and that makes me excite it! Love you Audrey and your lemon drops, just the BEST! And I hate lemon! xoxoxoxoxo
October 28, 2018
October 28, 2018
Hi AUDREY!!! I wished you celebrated your birthday your way as always! My apologies for being late, although I did think about you as every year. There is so much going on right now. I just wanted to tell you out loud that you were so right about what you told me to take care of long time ago and that I am SO glad that I DID listen to you. I am there right now as you said it may happened and it did happen. And once again, I want to say THANK YOU! You always took care of me and the kids and for that I love you forever. My God Audrey, you kind of took care of me in the future. You were always such a smart lady, you foreseen what I could have never imagined 19 years into the future. Because of your guidance I educated myself enough to get a job at anytime at any age as you told me to do. How, how, did you know this then? I love you my lady, then, today, and always. And I know that you loved me even though, you always called me a PISTOL! YOU were SO RIGHT!!!!
October 26, 2018
October 26, 2018
We always think of you and keep in touch with Shel. We miss you and remember all the good times with food and art we all had.
October 26, 2018
October 26, 2018
Happy Birthday Aud. I still think of you.
Miss you.
Coop
August 16, 2017
August 16, 2017
Aud,
Always thinking of you. Miss you.
Coop
May 14, 2017
May 14, 2017
Happy Mothers Day Mom.
Just because youre not here to go Burger Continental doesnt mean youre forgotten.
October 22, 2016
October 22, 2016
Dear Audrey, You may think that by now I am over you, well, I am not! I miss you just the same. You were the Lady that inspired me to be better even if that did not include your own son. YOU knew that we were not the ideal match. Come see me an explain your words when you said "I didn't expect you to marry someone like him" (when you met my husband) I have been married for almost 18 years and your comment still haunts me. Tell me my dear lady, what did you mean? I love you Audrey, I play your video when I need to hear your voice!
August 16, 2016
August 16, 2016
Aud,

I think of those wonderful hazy, lazy, crazy days of summer when we didn't have a care in the world. Thinking of you and miss you.

Coop
August 16, 2016
August 16, 2016
I am so saddened by your departure so fast......If you were here Audrey, I would like to say that I appreciate everything you did for me and my children. YOU live in our hearts and my grandchildren KNOW and the way YOU and the way you care about others....Specially ME! Miss you forever an I'm paying it forwards FOREVER!
August 16, 2016
August 16, 2016
Audrey, YOU live in my SOUL. I am so appreciated of your life experience that I went with your advice. YOU the MOTHER I NEVER had and the STIMULATION that I was eager to have. YOU are in HEAVEN if you believe it that...YOU were my inspiration, my communion, my all! THANK YOU AUDREY ,.....I MISS YOU and just letting you know,,,,,I came out just fine....LOVE YOU DAVID for so many other things!
January 15, 2016
January 15, 2016
Audrey, my life will never be the same without you and your guidance.......Forever grateful..........Martha and the children.
October 19, 2015
October 19, 2015
Dear Shel and family,
I will always remember Aud and those happy days in Bangor and Harvard summer school.
Miss you,
Darrell
August 5, 2015
August 5, 2015
Audrey...You, your kindness, and your support made me the woman I am today. I am forever grateful. My children and I loved you for everything you did for us. I will pay it forward in your honor. I am heart broken. Let's go and some "coffee and candies" soon.

Love always,
February 5, 2015
February 5, 2015
I'm so sorry for your loss. She was a very strong and loving woman. She will truly be missed. I pray our Mom's watch over us know they both have found peace and are free from illness. Much love to the family.

- Joan
October 23, 2014
October 23, 2014
It is difficult to picture the world without Audrey in it. We were good friends for such a long time and in my heart we always will be. I will miss her smile, her laugh, her sense of humor, and her kindness. I know that when we go to her memorial on Sunday, I will hear her laugh and say to me ''you are so silly".
October 1, 2014
October 1, 2014
While I never knew Audrey, I am friends with Chef David. We've had several talks about what a great woman she was. She did a fantastic job raising David, and I can only surmise that she must have been a wonderful woman to raise such a good man. Our deepest sympathy & condolences from myself, and the entire Bikers Against BSL crew.
September 15, 2014
September 15, 2014
Audrey, you brought such joy and light to my life and I am so very blessed I was able to receive it and share it right back with you. You will be greatly missed!

Love,
Iriet
September 15, 2014
September 15, 2014
My words can not express well enough how beautiful, loving, funny and strong Audrey was. She will forever remain this way, with such wonderful memories.
September 12, 2014
September 12, 2014
If ever there was an expression of love through food, this was Aunt Audrey's way - I could envision it as it was similar to my mother's. This is only one of the reasons they were such great friends. I have great childhood memories of our families together and will miss those days and will always think of Aunt Audrey with a smile. . . . Lori Kosakura Cantley
September 11, 2014
September 11, 2014
I miss our chats at all hours day or night. I would always get an IM to see how things were. Thank you for always making me feel like one of your kids. I miss you, and the oatmeal cookies. You always mailed them when I needed them. I cuddle up nightly with my very first fleecy blanket you made me. I am glad you got to see me grow up, get married and meet our kids. Max still remembers our visit to New England last Summer to see you, Uncle Shel and Steven. Miss you my Auntie.. Your laugh especially.
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My bio mom died yesterday. Audrey, you told me for years to get away from the toxic relationship I had with my own mother and- I did. Today, I am confused. - she died
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Miss you yesterday, today, and always my dearest mentor and friend. Love Martha
August 16, 2023
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Thinking of you and the good times we had.
Coop
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Hey Aud,
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August 16, 2020
Aud,

Hard to believe it has been 6 years since we lost you. When I think of you, I smile at all the good times we had together. Remember Harvard summer school and Revere Beach?
RIP

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October 26, 2019
I miss our talks. I miss your kind words of encouragement. I miss having coffee with you. I learned to love lemon squares because of you. I miss you today the most. You were the mother I never had. I will forever be grateful for having you in my life. Love always, Martha

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