the Brian we knew and loved
Brian Robert Hargraves (Hargy)
  • 78 years old
  • Date of birth: Mar 22, 1935
  • Place of birth:
    Verdun, Quebec, Canada
  • Date of passing: Aug 17, 2013
  • Place of passing:
    Barrie, Ontario, Canada
I'll join you on the road less travelled ... till we meet again ... God Grant Me The Serenity ...

It was Brian's wish that there be no formal service so please feel free to express yourself here.

If you can, please go and see a baseball game or listen to some good music to say goodbye to him. He would like that.  He loved Frank Sinatra, Louis Armstrong, Ella Fitzgerald, Jonny Cash, train songs and good jazz. 

If you wish to make a donation in his name, please donate to the Alzheimer's Society or Prostate Cancer.

Thank you for all your love, support and warm wishes.


Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Sandy Brand on 17th August 2016

"I watched that big moon while sitting out on our deck last night with you Brian, and the wonderful reflections on the water.  I will always love you.  You are always with me."

This tribute was added by Ann M McGowan on 31st August 2014

"Dear Sandy,  

I can not believe a year has passed.  I still remember you and Brian coming to visit Terry and me.  The love that you had for each other was beautiful.  Brian is at rest now and I am sure he is up there having a laugh with Terry.  

Love Ann"

This tribute was added by laurie gardner on 19th August 2014

"I miss you my friend ... always remembered in my heart, the good friend you were to me Brian ..... R.I.P"

This tribute was added by Sandy Brand on 17th August 2014

"Good Morning Sandy,
I hope this finds you smiling and in peace as you remember Brian on this one year anniversary of his passing. It has been quite a year for you as life has gone on while he rests. Yet you have held up and navigated well through the rapids of life and still been able to rock yourself gently in times of respite. Today may be one of reflection upon the sweet memories of your time with Brian but also time to bathe in the many blessings that have brought you comfort and joy in this past year like Benji, rekindled and new friendships, your grandbabies, a new studio and your own creations on canvas to name a few. I pray you never lose your smile in remembrance of Brian and may your tears wash away all your fears.
Love and Hugs,

This tribute was added by diane roberts on 17th August 2014

"It's hard to believe a year has gone by since you laughed with us last.  I am glad that I had the time to know you, Brian.  Whatever you're doing I  am certain you are doing it with as much zest and enthusiasm as you always had.  Your laugh was contagious and as I looked over the pictures I remembered how much so it was.  
Remembered by your friend,

This tribute was added by Anita Devries on 17th August 2014

"It seems like only yesterday that we said see you later. You are often in the thoughts of my family, remembered with fondness,laughter, and love. You blessed us with the gift of laughter, Brian. You are often missed and will never be forgotten and will always be loved. We hold you in our hearts and memories."

This tribute was added by laurie gardner on 22nd March 2014

"Thinking of and missing you my friend on this day your Birthday. You impacted my life in so many ways and for that I am eternally grateful. I am blessed today and always for the memories of the times and laughs we once shared. Missing you and hugging you in my heart <3 R.I.P."

This tribute was added by diane roberts on 22nd March 2014

"Happy Birthday Brian!  Looking over the photos helped me to remember how big your smile was.  I always felt like you were giving me a hug with your biggg smile!  I'm remembering blowing bubbles and sharing birthday cake, songs and of course -LAUGHTER- at your birthday party during your stay at the RVH.  If I had a problem I knew you and Sandy would always  support me and then laugh about  how great it was to be alive, despite how I was feeling.  Hope you are celebrating today, having cake and at peace!
Love, Diane xo xo"

This tribute was added by Suzi Davis on 22nd March 2014

"Dear Sandy and all, I hope you are reliving fond memories of Brian on this day and always. It is a fine tribute to the man that so many miss his smile. I'm thinking of you too.   Take care."

This tribute was added by sherrie aftanas on 17th October 2013

"Dear Sandy and family,  I am so sorry for your loss of Brian.  I know that your heart is very sad, may all your  memories help you through the days and months ahead.    


This tribute was added by Heidi Haupt on 12th September 2013

"I didn't know Brian for very long however after getting to know him I wish I had!  His smile, his kindness and his enthusiasm were inspiring to me.  He made me laugh every time I saw him and I was always laughing WITH him.  Sandy, Brian's love of you was evident and I believe his love for you endures in so many ways.  Thank you both very much for the honour of being a part of your lives!"

This tribute was added by fiona shearer on 10th September 2013

"Dear Sandy and family,
We are so sorry to hear about Brian.  Our thoughts are with you.
All our love
Fiona and John-Paul, Braeden and Corran

This tribute was added by Peter Rich on 2nd September 2013

"Just picked up your voice mail Sandy - so sorry to hear of your loss and the loss of an old friend.  All my memories of Brian bring a smile to my face, I will hold them close to my heart always."

This tribute was added by ronald moore on 2nd September 2013

"Dear Sandy, We first met Brian when he came to Woods Park, he took on the role of watching over my dad Ken reporting any health issues, much appreciated.  
We shared our countryside car trips and going to the Dairy Queen for Brian's favourite bananna split. Brian will be missed, his goodness will not be forgotten.  Sincerely, Ken Barb Ron"

This tribute was added by Raymond Regina on 29th August 2013

"I don't think there was ever a time I didn't see Brian smiling; his positive outlook was contagious. You will be missed Brian, rest in peace."

This tribute was added by Louise Clearwater on 29th August 2013

"Dear Sandy, Bill and I are sad for your loss of Brian. A terrific man with a fabulous wit and sense of humour. We fondly remember our ongoing joke as to how you, Brian and Bill would win a three legged race hands down. Much love, Louise and Bill Clearwater"

This tribute was added by patti bentley on 27th August 2013

"Dear Sandy:
I know that Herb and I have only known you and Brian for a short period of time, and we noticed how both of you had such a zest for life.  We remember Brian having a great sense of humor, laughing a lot and the two of you were so blessed to have met and enjoy your time together here in your lovely Cabin in Innisfil."

This tribute was added by Lesley Parker on 27th August 2013

"Dear Sandy, we are very sorry to hear of your loss. We are thinking of you and sending you our love. Kim and Lesley Parker"

This tribute was added by Maggie McCann on 26th August 2013

"Dear Sandy, so sorry to hear the news about Brian. Our friendship goes back to our childhood and although I have only know Brian in recent years, it was obvious just how happy you were together. You offered each other love, support, friendship and laughter. My thoughts are with you as you adjust to this next stage of your life without him, drawing strength from family and friends."

This tribute was added by june berka on 26th August 2013

"dear Sandy,
Gordon & I  send our sincere condolences and love.  Gordon knew Brian from an early age and were friends for many years.  Only in recent years did they reconnect and it was such a pleasure to have you both for a visit.  Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Love from Gordon, Janet, and June"

This tribute was added by Dan Herrington on 24th August 2013

"God Bless you and yours Sandy as you recover from the changes that are occuring right now.
Brian and yourself are so Blesed to have been given the opportunities to express God's grace towards your fellow man.
Your powerful example has certainly touched the lives of many in very profound and positive ways. Thank you."

This tribute was added by Kathy Edison on 24th August 2013

"Sandy and family,

Please accept my deepest condolence.  Brian's warmth, laughter, and sparkle will be truly missed."

This tribute was added by George A. Anthony on 24th August 2013

"Sandy, I send you my deepest condolences to you and your family.  For the brief time I knew Brian he brought some wonderful laughter into my life.  I remember you, and Brian, and myself enjoying a brunch after an art exhibition.  He told some hilarious stories in such a heartwarming way.  He was a very good man and a blessing to all those who knew him."

This tribute was added by ryan phillips on 23rd August 2013

"Dear Sandy my thoughts and prayers go out to you and Brian's family.  He always took the time for a cup of coffee and he always shared from the heart and made me feel better then when  I first sat down.  He was a good man who will forever be missed."

This tribute was added by Ann Coulter on 23rd August 2013

"Dear Sandy, you know I am thinking of you with sympathy and sending condolences    What memories I have of Brian, his warmth, wisdon, and humour, I will always remember him with such fondness and love."

This tribute was added by Suzi Davis on 22nd August 2013

"I didn't know Brian personally, but Sandy has been a dear friend for many years. I know Brian was a very special man to have Sandy in his life. May he rest in peace. Take care, Sandy. Jerry & I are thinking of you and all the family. Best to everyone. Fondly, Suzi"

This tribute was added by Foster Walt on 22nd August 2013

"Always with a smile, Brian wore this world like a loose garment. He always lightened any weight I was carrying and we would laugh until the tears ran. Often at 5:00 AM his phone would ring to hear just "See you there" His reply "OK" and we were off for a fun day of golf, meetings or a road trip, singing our hearts out. Sandy, sorry for your loss."

This tribute was added by laurie gardner on 21st August 2013

"Saddened by the news of Brian's passing. My friend, mentor, and Father I never had, I will forever cherish the memories of your laughter, storytelling, and fellowship you gave to me and so many others in your travels. I thank you, my family thanks you, for your love and support..a power of example to many. R.I.P.  my friend. Heartfelt condolences to your wonderful wife Sandy and family."

This tribute was added by Brad Haskett on 21st August 2013

"Sandy and family, my condolences for your loss.
Spent many nights seated in a circle listening to Brian's wisdom and experience. Learned about Monk's piano playing , talked and teased about the Jay's. Will be forever grateful I had the opportunity for this beautiful man to gently cross my path, he will be sadly missed.
God's gift."

This tribute was added by clay brand on 21st August 2013

"Brian, thank you for the lessons you taught me, about trust and forgiveness. They will never be forgotten. Thank you for all the times you made my mom smile and laugh, I'm sure her memories of your time together will make her smile and laugh in the future. Rest in peace, our love and thoughts are with you. Clay & Claire"

This tribute was added by Sue Stuckless on 21st August 2013

"My condolences Sandy.  I remember Brian from long ago when he was doing a lot of travelling with Larry.  They were always so much fun and so helpful when I was just starting my journey.  God Bless Him!  He was a kind gentle soul."

This tribute was added by jenn brand on 20th August 2013

Only a few months ago when i had the pleasure to take Merrick for a visit, your jokes and laughter echoed the halls,brightening everyone's day ! May there be an unlimited supply of colourful socks waiting at the gates ! Thinking of you and Sandy both Love Jenn, Austen Merrick and Hogan"

This tribute was added by Karen Cowderoy on 20th August 2013

Many Laughs with Brian one of the  best co-sponsers and Friend I had.
God Bless Sandy in my thoughts and prayers.

This tribute was added by Lois Bickley on 20th August 2013

"From Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet:  "For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun? And what is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered? Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing...when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.""

This tribute was added by Lois Bickley on 20th August 2013

"To Sandy and Family; such a blessing to many was Brian. His sense of humour and story telling helped myself and others to forget their own problems. I loved hearing him talk about the days when he worked on the rails. It was by God's Grace that he held out and waited for you, Sandy, to embrace him as made his final exit. How precious that final moment must be. Peace to you."

This tribute was added by Bev Moreau on 20th August 2013

"Sandy and family He was a great man and will be missed by many....

Those we love don't go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear."

This tribute was added by Rick Sandford on 20th August 2013


This tribute was added by Jim Nancarrow on 20th August 2013

"Brian will remain with me,his humor,wit,commitment to principals I pray, will remain with me foreever.Sandy,please accept my heartfelt sympathy regarding this loss. Brian was a true leader and a powerful example for me in dealing with our common disease. My soul has been enriched by sharing with him. "A blessing,not soon forgotten.""

This tribute was added by Marc Miron on 20th August 2013

"There will be a candle lit in his honor - we will play some jazz music and start watching the blue jays. A few tears to acknowledge the wonderful moments we had the pleasure of sharing with both of you. A celebration to life!!

Marc, Jan and Wulfie"

This tribute was added by Pat O'Brien on 20th August 2013

"Sandy - my love and thoughts go out to you and your family."

This tribute was added by Wendy Lyons on 20th August 2013

"Brian, your sense of humour and kindness will always be remembered.  May you be at peace now, free from difficulties.  To my dear friend Sandy, I offer my sincere love and condolences for the loss of your loving husband and may you find peace in the memories of the love and friendship that you and Brian shared for such a long time."

This tribute was added by linda fowler on 20th August 2013

"Sandy. So sorry to hear your dear Brian passed away so suddenly
I remember him telling how luckily he was to have found you and how much he loved you. When he was sharing those words to me. I can still see the sparkle in his eyes  
He was a special man who shared joy and love wherever he went  I treasure the memories we shared in fellowship"

This tribute was added by April Ground on 20th August 2013

"Sandy, I am sorry to hear of Brian's passing.  May you find comfort in the memories you and Brian shared together and know that you are loved.

I will always remember Brian at Friday night meetings at the "old" hospital and coffee afterwards.  He kept me going on my path with his smiles and sharing."

This tribute was added by Joyce Logie on 19th August 2013

"Our condolences and deepest sympathies on your loss Sandy and may you find comfort in the peace that was found at last.  Brian will be remembered for his laugh, love of those things in life he held dear and of his love for you."

This tribute was added by Harry Gauthier on 19th August 2013

"Sandy and Family,
So sorry to hear this sad news. I will always fondly remember Brian from meetings, sharing his words of wisdom. I also remember the good times we had at the Little Red Book Study in the basement at Tom's house in Ivy. He was an active part of the program and will be missed.
Till we meet again!"

This tribute was added by Patrick B on 19th August 2013

"Dear Sandy,

I am so sorry for your loss. Your life together with Brian was a gift tied with heart strings and love. I am always here for you, as I have been and will be for me.


This tribute was added by Patrick B on 19th August 2013

"Sandy, you and your family are in my prayers.


When true-time takes me over,
after God has held my mind awhile
I’ll think of those I love so dearly
And how much they meant to me

Then, in my time I will go gently
and give the other side a chance
knowing God has blessed my soul
and love has filled my heart......"

This tribute was added by Leslie Parsons on 19th August 2013

"To Sandy & family, it has been a long good-bye for you all and we were very saddened to hear that Brian has passed on, we hope that the memories will ease your loss.
Brian, thank you for all the miles and all the laughs we shared, I could not have asked for a better companion to go trudging with, save me a seat at the big meeting! Love always and forever Larry & Leslie"

This tribute was added by Lynn Stewart on 19th August 2013

"Dear Sandy, Glen and I would like to offer our condolences for your loss. Brian will be remembered for the laughter and humour he brought to recovery, and for his encouragement to attend the 'meeting after the meeting' at coffee shops throughout the years.

Lynn Stewart and Glen Cah"

This tribute was added by Maureen Marsh on 19th August 2013

"Dear Sandy, I am so saddened by your loss,  please accept my deepest sympathies. Brian was such a good friend and no matter how bad things were he always looked on the bright side.  He is going to be missed but his memory will continue."

This tribute was added by Gerri Ferguson on 18th August 2013

"To Sandy & family., my deepest condolences are with you at this sad time. Brian will always be a part of my journey and I am grateful our paths crossed. His wonderful corky sense of humour and great laugh will always stay with me. He is at peace with all the other "Big Guys" in Heaven and always close by. RIP my friend."

This tribute was added by Richard Gaudet on 18th August 2013

"Please accept our sincere Condolences, Brian was a good friend and always had a story to share when we were togeather. He will always be remembered in our hearts.

Richard and Sherry"

This tribute was added by Jeannine Hutty on 18th August 2013

"I was very sad to hear of Brian's passing. I loved his silly sense of humour, his all-around-just-a-good-guy attitude, and his friendliness to everyone. Many blessings of comfort to Sandy and his family. With love, Jeannine"

This tribute was added by rachel hamilton on 18th August 2013

"Hi Sandy:  It's Rachel here.  I just wanted to tell you I'm thinking of you and hoping you are okay.  Much love."

This tribute was added by John Orth on 18th August 2013

"Dear Sandy and family
We were very sad to hear about your loss. Please accept our deepest
Shireen and John Orth"

This tribute was added by CASSANDRA LAWLESS on 17th August 2013

"Hi Sandy, I empathize with you at this time of losing a loved one. You and Brian were very fortunate to have shared your love for one another. It was obvious how much you cared about each other. Thank God you were able to be at his side when he passed and I am sure that he is with his maker. Brian may be gone from this world but he will always remain in Spirit. May God comfort you. xo Cass"

This tribute was added by Jaime Brand on 17th August 2013

"Grandpa Brian,
     Though you are gone, your stories and memory will live on in your honor. Thank you for the memories (and the jokes!). It is your love of all and zest for life that will always be remembered. You are always in our hearts.
All our love - Callum, Jaime, Ella, and Lily"

This tribute was added by Ann McGowan on 17th August 2013

"Dear Sandy and Family,  Please accept my sincerest condolences.  Brian was a wonderful man who was filled with the joy of life. He walked his walk with grace and dignity.  Thank you for sharing your journey with me.  May you rest in peace my friend. Ann"

This tribute was added by Deb Hoult on 17th August 2013

"Dear Sandy and family. I am so saddened by your loss. Brian was such a wonderful person, always ready to tell a joke or a story to brighten the day. His presence really made a difference to me...and I will always remember him fondly. May he be at peace and may you find comfort in the knowledge that he loved you with all his heart."

This tribute was added by Sherrie Fraser on 17th August 2013

"Sandy and family
We are very sorry for your loss. Rest in peace Brian.

Randy, Sherrie and Family"

This tribute was added by Anita Devries on 17th August 2013

"Dear Sandy and Family Please accept our sincerest condolences. Brian was one of my best friends. He saved my life. He taught me to laugh; he helped me to live ; he taught me about the bonds of friendship and he brought me you.My family and I will miss  his impressions of  cartoon characters. Rule # 62 was what it was all about and it has been our extreme honour to know him. We are saddened"

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