Memories of Deanne Marie Oliver, (1967 - 2014)

Someone is missing...

July 11, 2021

Someone is Missing....

Every day since I lost my daughter DeAnne I wake up with the knowledge…someone is missing.

I go through my day and in the back of my mind I hear a whisper…someone is missing.

I sit down to dinner, and in the back of my mind I hear a whisper…someone is missing.

I wake up and think…there should be a birthday to celebrate today and I hear clearly…someone Is missing.

I wake up and think… this is the day my whole world changed and I hear clearly…someone Is missing.

I wake up and the holiday season is here and I hear loudly…someone is missing.

I try to get into the holiday spirit and I hear a whisper…someone is missing.

I gather with family to celebrate the holiday season and I look around the room and inside my head I hear screaming…someone is missing!!

Please understand I enjoy spending time with family but this voice that I hear squeezes my heart…

I love each and every one of you but please understand…Someone Is Missing!

DeAnne, Mom misses you to the moon and back

In Loving Memory of my beautiful daughter DeAnne Marie Oliver.

Thelma and Louise

August 10, 2015

Deanne and I often jokingly referred to each other as "Thelma and Louise" after seeing the movie. She nicknamed herself Thelma and I was Louise. Life got pretty rough sometimes, but I assured her 'we are in this together, Sweetheart'.... "but I ain't driving off any cliffs, Thelma".

I was the only constant in her life and she was the only constant in mine. Thus, we had a very special bond.

The card she never got .....

August 9, 2015

     I had Deanne heavy on my mind one day and stopped and got her this beautiful greeting card. No special occasion, just a card to encourage her and remind her how much I love her. I rarely told her often enough.

      I read each card trying to find just the right words to encourage her. I saw her the next day, and we went to Cracker Barrel to eat a late lunch. I meant to give it to her then, but in my haste, I forgot and left the card at home.   We had plans to see each other the following week, since we were going on a shared vacation, so I thought 'no big deal, I'll give it to her then'.

      I found out later, that the day she and I went out to eat, was also the day she died. It happened several hours after I dropped her off at home.  Losing her was bad enough, but it also breaks my heart that she never got the card.

      Lesson learned - love them and encourage them while you can.   Don't take for granted that you will see them next week. Because you might not.

    Here's what the card said. I hope she will see it from Heaven.

Daughter,

I wish you could see yourself through my eyes.

The world may sometimes hurt you. You may trust people and be let down, leaving empty places in your heart. When that happens I hope these words can help...

When I look at you, Daughter...

I see someone who has the courage to overcome many obstacles. No matter how many times you fall, you get up again. Even when you want to give up, you don't.

In my eyes, I see someone who has been blessed with not only outer beauty but inner beauty. This is the kind of beauty that is everlasting. Time can never take that away from you.

It's true that some of your choices have not been good ones. Yet you always take responsibility and never make excuses. I think those are the times I'm most proud of you.

If I could give you only one thing, it would be something I couldn't find in any store and money could never buy. I would give you my eyes, so you could finally see who you really are.

Love, Mom

You and Me Against the World

August 5, 2015

Helen Reddy's Greatest Hits (And More) - You And Me Against The World

This song by Helen Reddy became sort of a theme song with Deanne and I.
The words fit our situation as though it was written for us. I've included it here. Through thick and thin, my daughter and I were always there for each other no matter what.

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