My cousin Joe was a very kind, compassionate and fun loving person. Although I am 9 years younger, we still had a lot in common being a Nicolosi. Our father's were very close brothers who immigrated from Tunisia to Brooklyn back in the late 30's. We were very close to our parents and as large as the Nicolosi famiy is, most are in New York. We have some in Florida and couple of us here in CA. Even though my cousin and I lived less than 90 mnutes from each other, we did not see each other often due to his traveling all over the world and I with my work. However, when we did we immediately regressed to growing up in the Bronx and Long Island. We both love to cook and both loved telling stories. The few hours we had together consisted of him cooking and us laughing. The ironic thing is that we were supposed to be together the Sunday after he died. We had been planning to visit our aunt in Rancho Cucamonga along with another cousin named Joe Nicolosi. I had planned it out and we were all looking forward to it because we knew once we were altogether the Nicolosi humor would come out. We had actually planned to make the trip the week prior to his death but canceled because he had a cold. Never in a million years would I imagine my cousin would be dead in three days. This guy worked out everyday, ate the right foods, skinny as a rail and me the complete opposite. I cannot believe he is gone and I am still here. Although we did not see each other much, his loss has affected me greatly and I will miss him. I know he cared and loved me and I the same for him. My priority now is to make sure his wife, Linda and son, Dr Joe Jr, my cousins, remain close with us that are still here. I will still laugh when I think of him and family stories we used to tell each other only now my smile will not be as big. God Bless you my cousin, rest in peace. I love you.  Cousin Jackie

Dr Joe was always so kind to me...once I was having a really hard time and needed to talk to a counselor.  Knowing Dr Nocolosi for a very long time I called him as he used to counsel with some of our guys by phone.  I told him what was going on and I asked him if he would do the same for me as I was very sad over my son's situation.  He explained that he was so busy..and then all at once he said, "you know what, Gloria, since it is you, I will do it,  not to worry."  Through my tears I told him that I would try to find someone in San Antonio.  He then proceeded to talk with me for at least an hour.  I will always remember his concern and his generosity towards me, knowing how busy he was.  He was truly a good man I will remember him always.
May God comfort Joey and Linda.   

At the news of Joe passing I immediately thought "no, please, not now, we need you more now than ever". I am forever grateful for this man standing up to 2 of the biggest "bully pulpits" in our culture today 1) APA 2) intolrarant political gay lobby. As as a same sex attracted man, Joe helped me stand in my power that my voice and beliefs for a different life were VALID. His writings mentored, fathered and empowered a vision for something more. I am so grateful for him. I will admit my fear that a VERY big gap has been left open. Who could possibly replace his voice of authority? This is a call to every therapist, religious and non-religious organization to WAKE UP. The time is now to forward Joe's writing and research. He has given us all a great gift with his calling on his life.

Thank you God, for the faithfulness of your son Joe. I celebrate your words to him "well done good and faithful servant". With grief, tears of sadness and gratitude, well done Joe, well done!

To God be the glory,

Jase B.

"It's Gonna Be Worth It" by Rita Springer ---> https://youtu.be/DzSJ8snhXao

I was a longtime client of Joe's and I was stunned to hear about his passing.  I feel like a part of me died.  He was gentle yet firm, witty and fun, smart and compassionate.  And most of all he was brave and courageous and passionate about his work.  As a scared and lonely grad student back in the 90's, I reached out to Dr. Nicolosi during a dark time in my life.  He gave me support, encouragement, and most of all the hope that I could fulfill one of my life's goals which was to marry and have a family.  That hope kept me going during the ups and downs of life and he kept me centered and helped me deal with things at times where I felt like I had no one to turn to.  Now, as a 50 year old married man with three wonderful kids, I look back and wonder where my life would have led to, had I not met Joe Nicolosi.  Although our regular phone sessions ended a few years ago, I always kept a part of Joe in my head (in the form of what he taught me) and that truly comforted me.  He sustained me more than he ever knew.  I am so sad for Linda and Joey--I never met you two--but I want you to know how grateful I eternally will be for Joe.  He often spoke so warmly about the two of you!  May God bless his memory and both of you.